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What’s Too Good for YOU?

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So, I’ve been thinking a lot about manifesting and creating a life we love and I keep coming up against this common theme.  It’s something I remember thinking about a few years ago in a positivity training for a job I was working at the time.  We were given an exercise to think of our dream car.

As my fellow co-workers were scribbling away on their note cards, I was stumped. I didn’t have a dream car per se.  If it was reliable, had good gas mileage, and didn’t look too bad on the outside, it was a good option for me.  Up until that moment I’d never thought about what my dream car might be.

The facilitator apparently had come across this before and encouraged us to come up with our dream car regardless of how tough it might be.  Once I had an answer down (I don’t even remember at this point what that was), he asked a question that has stuck with me over the years.

What’s too good for you?

When we think about what we want in life, we often imagine what is ‘realistic’ and ‘logical’ for us based on what we know about our lives, income level etc.  When I was thinking of my dream car, a Rolls Royce didn’t quite match my vision.  In my mind that was something that was just too good for me.  (It also isn’t something I would want to drive now anyways.)

Several years later that question has come up in many conversations with clients.  Thinking of the life they would love to live, they begin using their logic to come up with what they desire.  When I tell them to throw logic to the wind, sometimes it’s still difficult to come up with the ideal life because there are things that just feel too good for them.

Why is that?

What is it about a life that feels amazing inside and out that scares us or causes us to pull back a bit?

Is it the fear of disappointment?

The thought we don’t deserve it?

Or maybe it’s just a matter of wondering if it’s possible to really have it all?

For so long we’ve been taught some messed up lessons about abundance, love, and living a happy life that we grow up thinking it’s only meant for some people, but certainly not us.

Lessons like: If you have love, be happy you have it because very few have love AND money.

We’ve been taught that it’s possible for a select few…the rich and famous, the extremely talented people that we see on television every day, but not little ‘ole us.

That’s a LIE.

We all have the same abilities to create and craft the amazing life of our dreams.  With love, abundance, success, joy, family, community, creativity, and freedom.  ALL OF US.

And as soon as you decide that you can have it all and that there is nothing too good for you, you will begin to see shifts happen almost instantly in your life. I promise.

This isn’t about having all the money in the world or driving the most expensive car.  This is about living a life that resonates with YOU.  That illustrates what is most important to you.  THAT is what the life of your dreams is about.

So, today I ask you…what’s too good for you to be, have, or do?

My answer? Nothing.

And if you are willing to make the decision to stand in your creative power to make your life all you have ever wanted, I have two things that may be of interest to you.

Add subtitle text(3)February 1st begins the Magical Manifesting journey where I will be taking a group of like-minded souls on a practical journey to tap into the creative manifesting power we all have within. To learn together, support one another, and to apply the Law of Attraction to craft and create the life of your dreams. 6-weeks together with amazing, magical results.  You can learn more about the program and get signed up here.

 

0001-23099893For those of you looking for a more 1:1 approach, I have a few spots left for my signature Breakthrough Program.  90-Days to dig into what you want and what’s holding you back while providing support as you take the steps you need to begin living the life of your dreams today.  You can learn more about that program and sign up for a free 30-minute consultation here.

There’s no reason to think that you have to settle for a life that doesn’t feel good.  I want to help more women like you show up and embrace the life you deserve and feel good about it.

Now is your time..are you ready?

A Lesson in Leaning Back

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photo credit: symphony of love via photopin cc
photo credit: symphony of love via photopin cc

I’ll be the first to admit when I want something, I can become hyper-focused on it. (Ok maybe a little obsessed.)

I think about it.  I visualize it. I analyze it. I talk about it.

I often jump into action mode quickly and can sometimes forget to listen to my heart.

When it comes to my business and my goals, I often lunge forward when what I truly need to do is lean back and trust.

Today I was reminded of the importance of leaning back.

I’ve been working a bit on expansion in my life and in my business and part of that means reaching outside my comfort zone.

I’m taking risks and stepping into the spotlight so much more than I have before.  It’s exciting, exhilarating, and honestly it feels so right. 

But, in the midst of taking inspired action and clearing my own BS, I sometimes come to a point when I get too focused on the outcome.

I want results and I want them…last week.

The result?

Lots of resistance, disappointment, feelings of lack, and taking forced action as opposed to inspired. (It’s not pretty.)

But, lucky for me I have an amazing support system including my own business coach who reminds me when it’s time to just lean back.

So, what is leaning back really?

To put it simply, it’s trusting the process and staying the course.  It’s detaching from the results and knowing that everything is working out perfectly.  It also means that you know that whatever it is you are trying to manifest or achieve is already done.

It’s happening now.  The money, relationship, career, and clients you want are on the way.  When you stay the course and know it is all coming to you now, you don’t have to worry. You can just enjoy the ride.

I’ll give you another example of what happens when you lean back.

A friend of mine was having a few slow weeks in her business.  She was doing the work and trying hard to figure things out.  She was in action all the time, until one day when she decided she needed a break.  Both her mind & body needed a reprieve from all the action so she took a few days off. She lounged around in her comfy clothes and allowed herself some time to just rest.  In the middle of her second day of rest, she gets a call from a new client.

Leaning back allows the energy you have put into motion to do the work for you. 

No more pushing, prodding, or forcing things to happen.

So if you find yourself feeling anxious and are being busy for the sake of being busy.  Try a different approach.

Just lean back. Let go. Let it flow, and remember you have the power to create & enjoy the life of your dreams.  Sometimes that means letting go of the reins so the powers of the Universe can work for you.

Do you feel like you are forcing a particular area of your life right now?  If so, what is it? Share in the comments below and commit to leaning back for a few days.

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My BS: Who Am I To Help?

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Earlier this week I shared this post with my VIP tribe and while it’s a bit of a vulnerable post, I realized how important it is for me to share it with you as well.  May you find comfort in knowing that you are not alone and join me in facing your BS head on, because honestly it’s hard to change anything with that junk holding you back.

Ok, it’s time for me to get something off my chest.  It’s something I’ve been thinking about a lot recently as I have been facing the BS (aka Blind Spot) that has been holding me back and I’m done with it!

The past two months have been pretty tough.  The positive side of me wants to tell you all about the growth, the lessons, and the beautiful blessings in disguise and while there was a lot of that going on that’s not always how it felt. There is another part of me that remembers the worry, the fear, the frustration, and at times the overwhelming tears.In the midst of chaos at home, schedules being thrown out the window, and lots of change going on both personally & professionally, I was forced to face my BS…head on.

The BS I’m talking about is both bull shit & something you may know as my Blind Spot.Yep, in the middle of sharing with you how your BS can hold you back, mine was there waiting for me, trying desperately to get me to not only play small, but quit playing all together. (Funny how that happens right?)  And once I realized what it really was that was holding me back in my business (with the help of another coach), I knew I had to share it with you.

So, here is my most recent experience coming face-to-face with my BS.  My hope is that when you hear my story, you leave with a deeper understanding of how imperative it is to identify and clear your own Blind Spot and you have a bit more compassion for yourself.  Regardless of who you are, what you do, or what area of your life is affected, we all have thoughts & beliefs that are holding us back in our careers, love, relationships, and life in general.  And the best part of all: there is a way to identify and clear it!

Coming face-to-face with your BS isn’t fun or all that comfortable, but I assure you it is the first step to living that amazing, free-flowing, ever expanding life of your dreams.  It is almost as if we believe we can’t or shouldn’t have it all, but as one of my favorite quotes says:

“We ask ourselves: Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?  Actually, who are you not to be?” 

~Marianne Williamson

Go be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous and clear the BS that is in your way!  You have an amazing life of freedom and flow to live so hop to it!

I believe in you,

Confession Time: I Didn’t Listen To My Heart…and I Failed (sort of)

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To be honest with you, I have been dreading writing this post.  Part of me knew I had to do some processing mentally and emotionally before I could put anything in writing and the other part of me was just plain embarrassed.

Embarrassed of looking like a fraud, a scam, a loser and my worst fear…a FAILURE.

So what did I fail at exactly?

I failed at listening to my intuition when it told me something wasn’t a good fit.

I failed at recognizing the signs that reinforced something wasn’t a good fit.

I failed at standing in my power to declare to myself and YOU that it’s ok to pull the plug on something that isn’t a good fit.

So what is this elusive ‘thing’ that isn’t a good fit?

The 90-Days To Biz Brilliance program.

Yep, the program I was so excited about (initially before the signs) and the same program I put off releasing twice for various reasons (because I clearly ignored the signs.)

The short story is this.  I fell into the trap of thinking that other people know me better than myself and while some of my clients are female entrepreneurs, I am not a ‘business coach’.  Here’s where it gets a little confusing even for me.  The biz brilliance program is actually full of amazing content, support, information, and practices to handle the stuff that comes up when you are creating a business, but it is also good for people NOT in business.

I was excited about the program.  I shared it with you and in various other networks happily.  I loved the feeling of the program, but something I couldn’t quite put my finger on felt off.  The more I shared, the more off it felt.  And when the feeling got to be too much, I knew that it wasn’t going to fly, but I was too afraid to pull the plug for fear of looking unprofessional.  I didn’t want anyone to think any less of me and to see me the way I was seeing me in that moment…a failure.

But despite all of that this is what I have learned:

  • I now know what the off feeling feels like in my body and I can use that in the future
  • I took a HUGE step to create a program that has good bones and can be used in another way…later
  • I am not a failure
  • I now have more clarity about what isn’t a good fit for me, which is equally as important as knowing what is
  • Life (and my business) goes on despite this bump in the road
  • Listening to my intuition and inner wisdom is always the best way

It is imperative to trust that tiny whisper within that tells you something isn’t right and the nudge you get to go in a particular direction.  Learn to listen to yourself and let go of the other stuff that doesn’t feel right for you.  Tap into your intuition on a daily basis and allow it to guide you forward.  It takes practice, I know especially when you are in business and there are so formulas for ‘success’.  Your success will come to you in a way that feels right and fits your path.

Another big thing this experience taught me is that trying is succeeding in its own right, so keep trying.  Keep experimenting and keep going.  Do you know how many times Albert Einstein ‘failed’ in his experiments before he got one ‘right’?  If one of the most amazing scientific geniuses in history can ‘fail’ a few times to get to something incredible, then don’t you think we can too?

Life is about experience, so remember that as you try and try (and try) again.  Don’t forget to trust too.  Trust is a big part of the process.  Knowing that you will get to where you are going as long as you keep going.

 

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Getting Back to Basics

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I recently realized how I have been distracted by all the shiny new programs, coaches, gurus, and the like lately.  It was a nice reminder to get back to basics in my business.  Today I share with you what that means and invite you to look at your own life to see where you might be able to get back to basics.

 

 

What does getting back to basics mean to you? Post in the comments below!