Lamisha Serf-Walls

My word is FREEDOM…What’s yours? (Plus a free invitation for YOU.)

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photo credit: Sunset Hermosa via photopin (license)
photo credit: Sunset Hermosa via photopin (license)

It feels like forever since my last post and that’s because I’ve been on vacation and piecing together my next steps.  The good news is I am back and I have a lot of GREAT things up my sleeve for you.  But, before I share all of that with you (soon I promise), I want to share some of my most recent realizations.

All this traveling I’ve been able to do this year so far, I realized I have had a theme bubbling up my entire life and it is exactly the kind of life I want to create.

That theme is FREEDOM.

Many (many) moons ago, I wouldn’t have known what it was because I was dealing with so much turmoil and strife, but today I can honestly look at my life as a whole and say what I truly desire is freedom in ALL forms.

I want to experience freedom in love (thank you SCOTUS for making that possible in all 50 states in the US finally).

I want to experience freedom in my finances (thank you Denise Duffield-Thomas for helping me clear my blocks to be open to more abundance.)

I want to experience freedom in my time and how I choose to spend my time on a daily basis (thanks boss-aka me!).

And I am finally embracing the fact that I want to experience freedom in what I create and share with YOU.

You see over the years, I’ve tried to make all of my desires fit nicely into little square boxes even though the contents were hanging out in odd (and fun) shapes and sizes.  I realized this weekend that the only thing clean, tidy, square boxes are good for are moving- you know when you have to pack a moving truck and feel like you are playing Tetris to make everything fit.

I don’t fit into one clean and tidy box and I bet you don’t either. 

I’m a bit messy and oddly-shaped at times, but it’s what makes me unique.  What I desire today may change form in a few months, but that’s the true beauty of evolution and growth isn’t it?

Your desires, wishes, and dreams are as diverse as your experiences in this life and I want you to know it’s OKAY to have all those (sometimes conflicting) desires because in the end it’s all a part of YOU.

You will at times drop the things that are no longer serving you.  You will de-clutter your dreams, desires, and wishes and peel back the layers to reveal what is really important to you right here and right now.  And despite what gets left on the editing room floor, life will feel amazing for you because in the end YOU get to choose what stays and what goes.

My biggest realization over the last 2 weeks is the freedom that I not only desire and am now totally embracing, but also the freedom I help my clients attain.

And let’s be clear, freedom means something different to everyone.  For me it might be about time and money and for someone else it might be entirely about their career.  But, what I want YOU (and every other woman walking this planet) to know is that YOU have the FREEDOM to choose the life you live.  You have the FREEDOM to break free from whatever has you stuck and to choose differently.  But most of all you have the FREEDOM to decide the kind of life you live and experience while you are in this blessed body of yours.

And I want to help you get to that FREEDOM, whatever it means to you because I know that you have an amazing life to live and it’s time to make your dreams come alive starting NOW.

The Facebook Tribe I created a few months ago is under construction and with it comes a new name (TBA) and lots of awesome tools, tips, and challenges to help empower YOU to live that amazing life you want…right now.  And instead of waiting for all the new pieces to be in place, I’m inviting you to join us today, before everything is perfect and the new name is revealed.

In this group you will get access to free information, special offers, free coaching threads, inspiration, and lots of additional life-changing information that will empower you in truly beautiful ways.  This is phase 1 of the amazing new things to come, so hop on over and be one of the first people to know about what else is coming down the pipe.

Joining is simple just click here and request entry into the group.

P.S. I have a super fun and life-changing challenge coming up soon for people in the group only so make sure you join!

What finding your purpose really means.

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photo credit: Hearts of Osaka, Japan (6) via photopin (license)

Everyone wants a life they love with money, abundance, joy, peace, and passion for what they do right?

Sure! Who wouldn’t want that?

BUT-there are far too many women settling for ‘good enough’ because they aren’t sure how to get to that passionate place and while I work with many women on finding what lights them up and sets their soul on fire…my work is really about helping you tap into your purpose.

What finding your purpose really means is finding the thing that you are meant to do right here, right now.

It doesn’t necessarily mean it will be forever, but it will be something that lights you up and something you do that brings you joy.

And guess what…finding your purpose doesn’t necessarily mean making it your career…that part is entirely up to you.

If you are struggling to figure out your purpose here are a few tips to get you thinking in the right direction:

  • What do you feel called to do?  I’m sure you may be feeling the call to do something specific.  Maybe it’s to spend more time traveling, to do more writing, start a blog, or go volunteer at a local shelter.  What is it that is calling to you right now?  (Hint: The first thing that popped into your mind is IT…write it down.)
  • What do you LOVE to do? What kinds of things do you love to do?  What do you do because it simply brings you joy? What would you do for FREE? Think about it, make a list, and write it down.
  • What do you do with ease already? Think about the things people come to you for help with.  What is it that you do without thinking? What are you good at? What comes naturally to you? (Hint: If you aren’t sure, ask the people who know you best.)
  • What experiences of especially molded your life?  Think about your past and the BIG moments that really shifted things for you.  What did you need in those moments?  What were you looking for at the time?  What kinds of things did you need that you didn’t realize you needed until you got it?  Think about it and see what themes appear.

Once you have all that information together I want you to see if there are any common themes.  What pops up over and over again?  You may very well be thinking…”Why didn’t I think of that???”, because finding your purpose isn’t about locating it outside of yourself…it’s about recognizing what is already there.

And I want you to know that your purpose can change and evolve as much as you do, so don’t get stuck in thinking what you do now is what you will always do.  The beauty of life is that we have an amazing gift of choice and free will.  Use that freedom and enjoy the process because that is what it’s all about.

I want to hear from you.  What is your purpose?  Share in the comments below.

P.S.  If you haven’t signed up for the Soul Desire & Reiki Session giveaway, there is still time to get signed up.  Winners will be announced on June 2nd, so make sure you check out this post and get signed up here.

Giving the Gift of Self-Care

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Welcome to The Holiday Sanity Blog Tour, 20 days of tips, tools, techniques, and perspectives from me (and 19 other coaches) with LOVE this holiday season. I’m so excited to be a part of this tour and connect with a group of like-minded coaches that have such a passion for helping others.

When Megan Hale & Jenn Scalia shared their vision for this blog tour with me, I knew I wanted to be a part of it because I know what it’s like to go through the crazy hustle & bustle of the holidays and end up in total overwhelm.  From the gifts you have to buy, to getting the house ready for guests, and doing everything else in between, this time of peace, joy, and happiness can often leave us feeling like a big ball of nerves with nothing but, stress and exhaustion.

In fact, as I type this, I am eyeballing the gifts to be wrapped, the boxes to be mailed, and the holiday cards that need to be sent and am feeling the stress big time.

So what can you do to ensure you remain sane (and dare I say relaxed) this holiday season?

Well, I have found a few simple things that have worked for me in the past and they are things that I am reminding myself of this holiday season.  And it all comes down to one thing…Self-Care.

As women, it can be hard to take time out of our busy schedules to focus on what we want and what we need on a regular day, not to mention during the holiday season, but it is imperative to ensure we are able to enjoy what this time of year brings.

You might be wondering how you can squeeze a little bit of time for yourself in when there is so much to be done?

Here’s how:

  • Put yourself first. This is by far one of the hardest things for us to do as women (and if you are a wife and mother too, this might be even more difficult for you to do), because we are so used to putting ourselves last.  We take care of work, the kids, the spouse, the house, etc. and leave our needs on the back burner until we have…more time.  We all know that more time never comes, so learning to put yourself first is key.  You can’t take care of anyone or anything if you don’t first care for yourself.  This can be as simple as getting in a bit of yoga before anyone wakes up or reading a good book in the tub at the end of the day.  Whatever it is, make your self-care your top priority and I assure you everything else will get done.
  • Create a ritual.  The thing about self-care is that it’s not a one-time or one-season deal.  We always have to be aware of creating the time and space to take care of ourselves and the best way to do that is to create a ritual or a habit that is easy for you to stick to.  This can take some experimenting to get totally clear, but it is 100% worth it.  To start, think of the things you love doing.  If you love to meditate or do yoga, how can you work that into your days/weeks with ease? What can you do add a bit more fun and flow into your day starting say…today? A self-care ritual doesn’t have to be complex, but it does need to resonate and feel good for you.  So figure out what you would love more of in your days and weeks and start doing that now!
  • Remember the magic of the season…and let go of the perfection. Part of the stress that comes during this time of year is based out of our distraction from what the season is really about.  As we struggle to make things ‘perfect’ by getting the home and gifts just right and we race to beat the clock for various deadlines, we miss the joy in the season.  The twinkling lights, the fun Christmas music, the holiday movies, and the laughter and fun that comes with spending time with family and friends.  Trying to make everything perfect is often the #1 way to get to exhaustion, overwhelm, and disappointment.  Let go a bit and let the holiday season be perfectly imperfect.  Your family would much rather spend time with YOU than see you run by in a flash trying to get everything done.  It’s time to enjoy yourself this season!
  • Mandatory F.U.N. I get it, you don’t have time for fun because you have approximately 1,342,343 things to do on your list! But, having a bit of fun is the best way I know how to ease up a little and take care of you.  When was the last time you had a good old fashioned game night or spent time with the kids playing the snow?  Remember that feeling you had as a kid when the holidays rolled around?  Get back to that feeling and enjoy yourself.  The years fly by enough on their own, there is no need to rush them along because you are stressing to get things done.  Kick up your heels and have a good laugh.  It’s good for the mind and the soul.
  • Create some space.  My last suggestion for giving yourself the gift of self-care is creating some extra space in your calendar and your days.  Spend some time alone, reflecting on the day and the year that is coming to an end.  You might choose to go for a walk on your own, meditate for a bit, or write in your gratitude journal, but whatever you choose to do, make sure you create some sacred time & space to do it…for you.  This time will allow you to create some space for you to take a few deep breaths and be fully present in the moment.  In fact, try that now as you read this.  Just close your eyes and breathe for a moment.  Now, doesn’t that feel better?

Taking care of yourself during the holiday season and beyond is the key to a happy life.  If you aren’t caring for yourself, you can’t possibly be of service to anyone else.  Enjoy the holidays for what they are, a time of sharing, caring, and love for one another and remember that love starts with you.

I’ve had so much fun connecting to so many amazing coaches who are passionate about helping others.  I’d love for you to have access to the rest of the tour so you don’t miss out on this valuable resource.

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Make sure to sign up here for The Holiday Sanity Blog Tour updates and check out Shelley Davidescu’s post from yesterday and Jenev Caddell’s post tomorrow.

As always, I wish you love, joy, and lots of happiness especially through the Holidays!

P.S. Speaking of holidays! If you haven’t already, please check out my Post-Holiday Giveaway that I am hosting now until December 30th.  Check out what is available here and sign up to win.

I’ll be your Coach on Call for November (Exclusive Offer!)

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photo credit: symphony of love via photopin cc
photo credit: symphony of love via photopin cc

I have traveled the sometimes lonely road that you often travel while chasing your dream.  A dream that you aren’t even 100% sure is possible….

Your heart tells you it is, but the reality you see in front of you scoffs at the idea of getting up every day and doing what you love.

Because really? Who gets to do that besides the posh superstars of the world making millions of dollars?

But something keeps you going.  Maybe it’s the dream or the whisper of your soul that pushes you forward and reminds you that you must keep going.

When I started down this road, I had NO idea what I was in for.  I didn’t know anyone that was kicking reality to the curb in order to dive head first into a life they truly wanted.  Hell, I didn’t know many people that even questioned what they wanted let alone were willing to go after it.

Looking back, if I knew then what I know now, I would have jumped at the opportunity to have a coach by my side to help me start and to remind me to keep going when my mind got overwhelmed with reality.

It took me 7 years to figure out what I wanted and another 4 to actually go after it.  And now that I am in it, I am surrounded by some of the most amazing, supportive women and coaches that help me stay focused to just keep going when it feels rough.

Action. Accountability. Mindset Magic.

Those are the things I needed & still need on this path & I would venture to guess you need them too.

Whether you are just starting out or are taking your dream life to the next level I’ve got a very special one-time offer for you.

For the month of November, I will be your Coach On Call.

What you get:

  • 2- 45-Minute Minute Coaching sessions via phone or Skype
  • Unlimited e-mail coaching/support for the month of November
  • An outline of action steps to keep you focused
  • Mindset adjustment where you need it most

You get exactly what I needed most when I started. A foundation of support that will pave the way for progress and success as you move forward.

Your investment: $350

This is a one-time offer good until next Friday (October 31st) and because it involves such intensive support (email coaching & 2 sessions) I am limiting it to a select few.  I have released it to my VIP list already so if you are interested, snag your spot now (by clicking the image below).  I guarantee these spots will go fast.

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So what do you say? Are you going to wait another week, month, or year to get started on the amazing life you have always wanted?

A Lesson in Leaning Back

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photo credit: symphony of love via photopin cc

I’ll be the first to admit when I want something, I can become hyper-focused on it. (Ok maybe a little obsessed.)

I think about it.  I visualize it. I analyze it. I talk about it.

I often jump into action mode quickly and can sometimes forget to listen to my heart.

When it comes to my business and my goals, I often lunge forward when what I truly need to do is lean back and trust.

Today I was reminded of the importance of leaning back.

I’ve been working a bit on expansion in my life and in my business and part of that means reaching outside my comfort zone.

I’m taking risks and stepping into the spotlight so much more than I have before.  It’s exciting, exhilarating, and honestly it feels so right. 

But, in the midst of taking inspired action and clearing my own BS, I sometimes come to a point when I get too focused on the outcome.

I want results and I want them…last week.

The result?

Lots of resistance, disappointment, feelings of lack, and taking forced action as opposed to inspired. (It’s not pretty.)

But, lucky for me I have an amazing support system including my own business coach who reminds me when it’s time to just lean back.

So, what is leaning back really?

To put it simply, it’s trusting the process and staying the course.  It’s detaching from the results and knowing that everything is working out perfectly.  It also means that you know that whatever it is you are trying to manifest or achieve is already done.

It’s happening now.  The money, relationship, career, and clients you want are on the way.  When you stay the course and know it is all coming to you now, you don’t have to worry. You can just enjoy the ride.

I’ll give you another example of what happens when you lean back.

A friend of mine was having a few slow weeks in her business.  She was doing the work and trying hard to figure things out.  She was in action all the time, until one day when she decided she needed a break.  Both her mind & body needed a reprieve from all the action so she took a few days off. She lounged around in her comfy clothes and allowed herself some time to just rest.  In the middle of her second day of rest, she gets a call from a new client.

Leaning back allows the energy you have put into motion to do the work for you. 

No more pushing, prodding, or forcing things to happen.

So if you find yourself feeling anxious and are being busy for the sake of being busy.  Try a different approach.

Just lean back. Let go. Let it flow, and remember you have the power to create & enjoy the life of your dreams.  Sometimes that means letting go of the reins so the powers of the Universe can work for you.

Do you feel like you are forcing a particular area of your life right now?  If so, what is it? Share in the comments below and commit to leaning back for a few days.

P.S.  Have you signed up for my VIP list?  If not you can do so here.  I have some fun giveaways & exclusive offers that I am working on for the next few months that are only accessible to my VIP List so get signed up so you don’t miss out.