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As good as it gets…

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photo credit: .163: Valle de Bravo via photopin (license)

Fact: You only grow in your life to the degree you THINK you are capable of growing.

You simply can’t hope, wish, and wonder your way there friends.  You must BELIEVE in yourself.

I’m seeing far too many people following the path of “This is as good as it gets for me.” all the while complaining about it.

They complain about their bank account, their weight, their loved ones, their car, their job and yet they do nothing about it.  It’s not that they don’t think there is something better out there.  Of course they believe that!  They just don’t think it’s available to them. 

You see, some of us have fallen into the trap of “It doesn’t work for me.” without ever trying to actually make a change.  They limit themselves by the labels they identify with and accept as truth.

  • They believe in lack because that’s all they see in front of them.
  • They believe in hopelessness because they haven’t given any creative thought to something better.
  • They believe in “this is as good as it gets” because no one told them otherwise.

Well I am here to tell YOU otherwise.

Take a moment to look around you.  Look at your job, bank account, relationships, self-esteem, home, car, community, and family.

Do you LIKE what you see?  Does it FEEL good to think about?  Are you HAPPY?

Let me ask you another question.

If you aren’t happy- have you ever expected anything more than what is directly in front of you?

Likely not.

Because if you did, the scene you are seeing before you would be different.  A LOT different.

You’d likely see more money and love, more joy and bliss, more confidence and support.  You’d feel happy, blissful, lucky, blessed, and you would know that you could have more of anything you desire because YOU are the creator of your own reality.

But you see the “this is as good as it gets” people don’t see it that way.  Instead they see themselves as victims.  Life just happens to them.  They point the finger, place the blame, and look to others as the reason they aren’t further than they want to be in life.  They feel out of control of their own lives without ever understanding that THEY are actually creating their own reality with each new thought they think.

Do you know how I know this?

It’s because I WAS THAT PERSON.

I blamed everyone for the wrongs in my life.  The shitty job, awful boss, the lack of money, the unsuccessful relationship, the friendships torn apart and the flat on the side of the road.  Life was happening to me and the statement I heard my mom say on more than one occasion range true for me.  “Life’s a bitch and then you die.”

THAT is the truth I expected and accepted for YEARS.

Until one day…I got curious.

I picked up one book after another looking for answers and wanting desperately to FEEL better.

Unfortunately, I was still looking for someone to come in and FIX my life.  Back then we didn’t have Iyanla Vanzant so, I was stuck, fed up, and repeating the same old cycle over and over and over again.

I wish I could tell you the moment that changed everything, but I can’t.  What I can tell you is that the moment I realized I was the cause of all of my pain, suffering, and negativity- I was a bit pissed!

Why didn’t I know this sooner?

Why didn’t someone tell me?

And better yet, how the hell was I supposed to change years of programming????

That is when my journey into mindset work really began.  It began by taking back my power and choosing to see the good around me.  Choosing to shift my thoughts on a daily basis and eventually create a mindset practice that would set me up for success in the long run.

I’ve been doing this work for years and each year I learn and grow more than before.  With each new belief I shift, I lay the foundation for more success, love, joy, adventure, and money to flow my way and it is not by accident.  It is by design.

I guess what I’m trying to say is no matter what you see before you, this isn’t “as good as it gets” unless you want it to be.

You hold the power to create your reality wherever you go and if you don’t know anything about shifting your reality by shifting your beliefs you MUST be a part of my mindset program.  Registration officially closes tonight at midnight EST and I’d hate for you to miss the chance to get in.  I will NOT be opening this program again until 2017 so if you want in, now is the time!

Hit the button below for more information and to check out the newly added payment plan option.

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Do the dirty work…

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photo credit: via photopin (license)

 

When it comes to doing mindset work, it’s a two pronged process.

MOST people know it as “thinking happy thoughts” and “being more positive”, but that only lasts a little while before the mindset gremlins jump in and attack all the positive thinking you’ve been doing.

You see, most people don’t think about doing the dirty work of mindset transformation.

Digging into the old, worn out, sabotaging beliefs that are holding you back.  They forget they are there and think that they can simply cover them with more positive thoughts to balance things out.

That’s simply not true.

In order to transform your life, you have to be willing to do the dirty work.

The digging. The uncovering. The illuminating.

Often times just giving those thoughts and gremlins a voice, you can weaken their power over you and your path.  By simply recognizing them, you open up the awareness to begin the shift.

The true shifts occur as you realize the ONLY reason your old beliefs were true is because you BELIEVED them.

So, what if you believed something else?

What if you could step into a new reality and believe the exact opposite of what you believe now?

What would that look like for you?

It would look like a new life, new reality, and new experiences born seemingly instantly.  It would appear as though your new reality was manifesting before your very eyes and the only way to keep it that way is to reprogram your beliefs to EXPECT this new reality to remain normal for you.

You can’t shift beliefs you don’t know you have.

  • If you are having money issues (not enough, lots of debt etc.) then you must look at what you think and believe about money.
  • If you are having issues with love and relationships (cheating partners, always feeling lonely etc.) then you must look at what you think and believe about love and relationships.

You can’t change what you are unaware of so doing the dirty work of mindset transformation is KEY.

Have you done it lately?

If you are reading this, you probably haven’t because it’s uncomfortable and scary.  No one willingly goes into the dark cave to excavate the sleeping bears and bats do they?

They do if they want to create a new space filled with light, love, and joy.

Has your mindset work consisted mostly of “thinking happy thoughts” and “being more positive?”

If so, you likely aren’t seeing huge shifts in your life.  Unless you are willing to do the knitty gritty work that comes with mindset transformation, you aren’t going to see lasting changes in your life.

BUT…if you are brave enough to do the dirty work AND the light work then you will see instant shifts in your life.

If you’ve never done mindset work and you are completely fed up with being and feeling stuck in a rut then I invite you to join us for the Miracle Mindset Immersion program.

This program is designed to not only do the dirty work of mindset transformation, but it also allows you to develop a mindset that is life giving, supportive for your new reality.  Through this 4 week program you will uncover, delete, disprove and transform your beliefs in ways you never thought possible, but beyond that you will begin to see instant shifts in your current reality and that is priceless.

The program begins on Monday and I’ve just added an extended payment option that makes it an easy yes. So what do you say?  Are you in?

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Mindset 101: Create your new normal.

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photo credit: Napoleon Hill Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve via photopin (license)

 

Yesterday I did a quick talk on Facebook Live regarding this idea of what we deem as ‘normal’ in our lives.

Everyday we experience life around us and we have expectations of what is coming based on past experiences.

The way we deal with money, love, our loved ones, our bosses, our jobs, and other people are all based out of the past.

We expect, react, respond, and play a part based on what we are used to experiencing.

So, it stands to reason that IF we don’t exactly like our external circumstances, then all we need to do is shift what we expect.  I know it seems easier said than done.

But today, I want you to think a bit about what it is you have come to accept as your ‘norm’?  What is a common occurrence that you simply expect because it’s happened so often?

Maybe it’s that you always barely make it to your next paycheck.

Maybe it’s that you always have date the liars and the cheaters.

Maybe it’s that you always lose 10lbs and then gain it right back.

Whatever it is for YOU is simply a reflection of your mindset.

As human beings we tend to stay where it is comfortable, even if it the circumstances seem a bit uncomfortable.  If we are used to barely making it financially and we’ve allowed that to be our comfort zone then we will likely repeat those circumstances.

In order to shift that, we must first shift our mindset and what we expect.

I explain a bit more about how to do just that and how to create and live from your new reality in my live stream from yesterday.  Hop on over and check it out.

If you know you are ready to leave your old expectations and nonsense behind so you can embrace a new expanded life for yourself, I encourage you to check out the Miracle Mindset Immersion Program that starts on July 25th.  Early Bird registration is open now and rates jump by $100 on Monday July 18th.

The cost of giving up…

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photo credit: It’s all in the mind via photopin (license)

There have been many times when I’ve thought about giving up, particularly when I couldn’t really see my way forward. 

You see, when I began this path, nothing was certain.

I made a decision to follow my heart and LIVE my purpose and 2 weeks later, I got laid off from my full-time job.

I had no clients, no money, and a dream.

A dream to help empower women to see their true brilliance so they could finally step into their power and LIVE the life they were meant to.

A dream to teach women to listen to their intuition, see and honor their truth so they could go out into the world and make a difference.

I had NO idea how this was going to take shape and while over time it began to get more clear, there were moments I thought of giving up.

But, you see the cost of giving up is much greater than just a hit to my ego.  The cost of giving up effects not just myself and my family, but the world.

The women I could be helping and the people they would then help as an extension from the support I gave them.

You see, it’s all about the ripple effect.

Giving up on my dream means I’m also giving up on yours and every single time I thought about throwing in the towel, I remembered the great cost of giving up.

But…recently I am seeing more and more women settling for ‘what is’ instead of digging deep and doing the work that is needed to move beyond where they are.

I SEE the dreams in their eyes, the inspiration in their soul, and the tired, worn out beliefs they carry with them that are holding them back.

Like heavy baggage, they slowly move forward, if they move at all while most simply settle for this moment, allowing their dream to be just that…a dream.

Let me ask you something…

When did you decide you’d never make it?

When did you decide the life you desire wasn’t meant for you?

When did you decide it would just never happen?

When did you decide that this is as good as it gets for you?

Do you know?

Was it when you got knocked down for a moment or when you thought that one little trial was the sign that THIS wasn’t meant to be?

I’m seeing a whole heap of incredibly talented, intelligent, powerful women throwing in the towel because of their current circumstance.  They’re allowing their current “reality” be the reason they lose hope and give up completely.

But, here’s what they don’t know (or in the least they have forgotten):

What you SEE in front of you is merely a reflection of the beliefs you hold in your mind and in your heart. 

What you SEE in front of you is NOT an indication of what you are able to do unless you give up.

We’ve already talked about the cost of giving up, so why on earth would you allow yourself to give up on your dream, your vision, your desires, AND the very people that need you most???

I think it’s pretty clear that right now we need all the positive change-makers we can get rallying together with their gifts uplifting, inspiring, and supporting others and you are no different.

We NEED your light.

We NEED your power.

We NEED YOU to step up and see what you bring to this amazing world and you can’t do that by thinking that this is as good as it gets!

If you don’t believe better days are ahead, then what’s the point of all of this?

It’s time.

It’s YOUR time.

It’s way PAST time for you to get your mindset together and make a difference not only in YOUR life, but in the lives of the very souls you were put here to change.

So, are you still willing to give up on yourself knowing what it costs?

If not, consider this your invitation to something that will transform your life in ways you never thought possible and set you on a path to BE the woman you know you were meant to be.

It’s the Miracle Mindset Immersion program and it is life-changing, reality-shifting, belief-busting goodness that will change your life for the better and it’s open for Early Bird Registration until 11:59pm on 7/17/2016.  Get all the details about the program and the limited VIP option by clicking the button below.

It’s time!

 

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MOST people aren’t willing to do this…are you?

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photo credit: Sunset Jump via photopin (license)

TRUTH TIME—>

MOST people aren’t willing to do what it takes to make their dreams come true.

I’m not talking about blood, sweat, tears, “hard” work and hours of sleep lost either.

I’m talking about breaking out of the safe, secure, and let’s be honest, a bit too predictable-comfort zones we find ourselves in just before we realize we MUST break free.

You see, most people FEAR the unknown.

I know I did…hell I STILL do!

I’m equally terrified by the thought of big changes and completely stifled when I don’t have enough change.

BUT, I’ve learned to DANCE with it. I’ve learned to get comfortable with the discomfort and TRUST that the path forward will always end up with something amazing, mind-blowing, and soul expanding for ME.

It ALWAYS leads to a greater lesson, bigger purpose, longer-lasting joy and alignment…always.

But it wasn’t always that way.

In fact, the more I fought the idea of change and leaping outside my comfort zone, knowing good and well that is exactly what I needed, the harder it got.

The very foundation upon which my identity was built began to crumble, one brick at a time.

I lost myself, my vision, my safety net and was all of a sudden blessed with this incredible desire that scared the shit out of me.

I was going to change the world and hadn’t the slightest idea HOW or WHY I thought I actually could do something so big.

 

Who the hell did I think I was???

I didn’t think I was anything special and yet, I couldn’t let this feeling go.

I tried to ignore it for years, but you see that’s the thing about your purpose…when it’s your purpose…I mean REALLY your purpose, you can’t hide from it, no matter how hard you try.

So, I had nothing else to do but step into the unknown one inch at a time and trust as much as I could.

NOW…well now taking risks and stepping into the unknown is a bit easier.

It’s definitely still uncomfortable, but now I know the reward that comes from what feels like a huge risk and I know it’s worth it.

The life you desire, the career you crave, the pure joy that you know is possible yet still slightly out of reach—> all of that lies just outside your comfort zone and you must be willing to take the risk to step into the unknown in order to experience the amazing expansion your soul craves.

That’s just how it is.

So…tell me what’s more comfortable for you?

Continuing on the path of certainty and settling for the mediocre experience you’ve grown used to?

OR

Stepping out, with maybe wobbly knees and butterflies in your stomach onto a path that is a risk, but the reward is oh so sweet you can almost taste it now?

I chose the risk.

What do YOU choose?

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Are YOU willing to do what it takes to step out of your comfort zone and into your zone of purpose and genius?

Are YOU ready to stop trying to hide from the inevitable and get on with it already?

Are YOU done settling once and for all and committed to making the rest of your life the absolute best?

If so, hit the button below and let’s connect.

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