Lamisha Serf-Walls

The When/Then Manifesting Pitfall

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When you think of your happiness and what it takes for you to live a happy life, do you find that you mostly feel that way in the present?

Or, do you find yourself falling into what I call the When/Then Manifesting Pitfall.

We all know that when we want to create or manifest a specific thing (be it a career, money, a relationship etc.) it is because we think it will make us feel good.  We search for happiness and want certain things in our lives to feel fulfilled, worthy, and blissful.  But when we are in the process of creating or manifesting those things, we often find ourselves feeling antsy, uncomfortable, and impatient.

We might look around asking “Well where is it?”. 

And if you are like me you might be saying…“When I have the money/car/relationship/career/body I want…THEN I’ll be happy/grateful/fulfilled etc.”

Unfortunately, that’s not how it works.

When you are in manifesting mode, you have to first know that it is coming and enjoy the process.

I have one too many times fallen into the habit of taking score of what I want and how long it takes to get here.  All the while I am missing all of the amazing things around me.  At times in my life I have been a conditional happy person, meaning under certain conditions I would be happy.  (Mostly when things were going really well.)

Falling into the When/Then Pitfall is so easy in our world.  We are constantly on the look out for the next thing to bring about joy that we miss the very thing in front of us that could make us happy now.  And the crazy thing is that in order to manifest what you want, you have to be happy first.

What the career of your dreams? Make peace with the job you have.

What more money? Be grateful for the money you have and enjoy where you are.

What a better relationship? Appreciate the positive aspects your partner brings to the table and simply be happy.

The best thing you can do when you are trying to manifest anything, is start by focusing on what brings you joy in all aspects of your life. 

Find your joy with the in-between time.  As the details are coming together and you haven’t yet reached the ultimate manifestation, know that it is coming and choose joy, happiness, and bliss now.  After all life is to be lived and enjoyed in the present as opposed to some arbitrary moment in the future.

Life is meant to be loved, enjoyed, and appreciated in the moment…always.  Don’t wait for the future to live the life of your dreams…start now with the little moments.

Your action step for the day is to be mindful of all the joy, happiness, and blissful moments you have right in front of you.  Notice them, appreciate them, and welcome them with open arms.  When you do that, I guarantee all those things you have been wanting to manifest will come that much quicker. 🙂

Trusting the Process

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Manifesting the life of your dreams can seem like a HUGE venture, especially when you are just starting out.  There are so many things you desire and so many beliefs to conquer that it’s hard to know where to begin and to trust that it’s going to happen.  I mean we do live in the ‘real’ world right? (I say that with tons of sarcasm.)

When you don’t trust the process, it makes things a whole lot more difficult than they have to be.  You doubt yourself, the Universe, and the magic-makers in the world telling you that you can have all that you desire.  But when you doubt yourself or the process, you slow things down.

So how do you trust the process?  I answer that question in the video below.

So, what is your little experiment you are going to try?  I’d love to hear in the comments below!

Shift Your Mindset With a “Love List”

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With Thanksgiving coming tomorrow, I’ve been thinking a lot about gratitude, giving, and sharing.  I’m so very grateful for all of you that have read my posts, followed me on Facebook or Twitter and have taken the time to allow me into the sacred space of your inbox.  Before I go any further, I just want you to know I appreciate you.

Today I bring you a tip that I have been offering to many of my clients lately and thought you might find it useful as you move through the rest of your week and the final days of the year.

You may have heard of the Gratitude List to raise your vibration and to shift your mindset to the good things in your life, but I like to do something a bit different.

I make a “Love List”.

It’s a similar concept really, but sometimes it’s easier for people to write an extensive list when they think of all the things they love.  Simply grab a pen and paper and get writing.  As you make your list, you will begin seeing the images of what you love in your mind and immediately feel the shift in your energy and vibration.  You don’t have to have that thing directly in front of you at the moment to feel the shift.  You can simply imagine having it or experiencing it and it works in the same way.

My list often goes like this: I love…naps, rainbows, the smell of rain, fresh cut grass, hot baths, good wine, snuggling with my son, the ocean, coffee… Just doing that now has put me into a state of bliss and boy does it feel good!

Try it out for yourself and see how you feel.

I recommend this exercise to anyone that is having trouble imagining the good or shifting their energy to a more positive state of mind.  Manifestations and creating the life of your dreams require you to be open to all the amazing ideas and next steps that are coming your way.

You have to be in a state of flow in order to allow and receive the things you are wanting to manifest.  Many times that is the only block holding people back. 

Give it a try and let me know how you feel afterwards.  Do you find it easier to make a love list or a gratitude list?

P.S.  If you are in the U.S. and celebrating the holiday tomorrow, Happy Thanksgiving.  If you are one of my lovely followers overseas, Happy Hump day. 🙂

P. P. S. Are you on my VIP List?  If so, have you seen the Super Secret Offer that I sent out earlier this week? If not, check your email (and spam folder) as the offer expires on Sunday.  I want to make sure you get in early if this opportunity resonates with you. And if you aren’t on my list join it today and you too can get the info. ‘Tis the season, ya know.

De-Clutter Your Tribe & A Super Secret Offer!!

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Wow, what a week!

Is it just me or have you too been having some really weird things happen this week?

I guess it’s all about how you spin it right?

Today I bring you one of my biggest lessons I have learned in the last 2-3 months and I can’t tell you what it has done for my productivity and my manifesting and it is also the reason I created the Love Your Life Tribe (feel free to join us)!

Check out how you too can de-clutter your tribe and how you can get in on the Super Secret Offer that is only going out to my VIP List next week.  Are you on the list?

 

3 Secrets to the Life of Your Dreams

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Living the life of your dreams is one of those things we all want to do, but how many believe it’s actually possible?  It might even seem a bit far-fetched to believe you can live a life you love right now.  I’m here to tell you it’s totally possible when you decide you will no longer settle.

It seems there is this BS notion running rampant in the world that says we have to merely survive the life we have been given and do the best with the hand we’ve been dealt.  And if you are one of many who have bought into that, you are likely settling for a life that feels a bit ho-hum, when what you really deserve is a life you simply adore.  We’ve all been taught in some form or fashion that being logical, realistic, and responsible is how you are supposed to live life.

But being an airy-fairy, head in the clouds kind of gal, it sounds a bit boring to me.

I want you to know that you can have it all.  The money, the relationships, the joy, the career, the family, and enjoy every bit of it starting right now.  It all starts with these 3 secrets.

  1. Get clear on what you want. Get dreamy and begin painting a picture of what the life of your dreams looks and feels like. Remember to use your imagination and have fun. You can even create a vision board with pictures and words that remind illustrate your dream.  Remember this is the life of your dreams so nothing is off-limits.
  2. Believe you can have it.  If you don’t believe you deserve it or that it is possible, the next step will be futile. Believe you can have it. Use affirmations or affirmations if you have to but truly believe it is possible.  And if you get stuck with feeling worthy and believing, start getting rid of those self-limiting beliefs with EFT Tapping or journaling. Your mind is powerful, let it work for you not against you.
  3. Take inspired action.  Instead of taking ‘logical’ action, do what feels most inspiring for you.  Get quiet and clear your mind and feel your way forward by listening to your heart.  What action lights you up most? Go do that and let it lead yo to the next step. All the steps combined will lead you to the life of your dreams.

 

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 Lamisha Serf-Walls is a life coach for women who are ready to live an amazing life on their own terms, but feel held-back and frustrated in how to make that happen. Her mission is to create a community of empowered, free-flowing, lovers of life who live a life of freedom with ease and inspire others to do the same.  Her signature Breakthrough program is set up to empower women as they gain clarity about their dream life and break free from the beliefs that leave them feeling stuck.