Lamisha Serf-Walls

2 Questions You Need to Ask Yourself Today

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photo credit: Remnants via photopin (license)

There are 2 things I ask every single client and they are questions I am going to challenge you to ask yourself today.

But, before you do that, I want you to know that the answers you give to these questions will indeed change your life for the better.

And I would venture to say that these are questions you may not have thought to ask yourself before now.

1. What do I want?

This sounds like a very obvious question to ask especially if your interest is to create a life you love, because how can you create a life you love if you don’t know what you want?  But, most people simply settle for what they have in their current reality.  They may desire a bit more money, more free time, and a few more vacations but other than that, they don’t think much about what it is that they want.

So, what do you want?  What does your dream life look like?  If I had a magic wand and I could give you exactly what you are asking for in full detail right this very moment, would you have the clarity to make the most out of your one wish?  Chances are you wouldn’t.  Today I challenge you to grab a journal or a piece of paper and write down exactly what you want out of life.  Focus in full detail on how you want to feel and how that looks in life for you.  What are your key emotional markers for the life of your dreams?

2. What do I need to do right now that I’ve been avoiding?

Most people think that the answers they are seeking lie outside of them and they must go find them.  That’s actually not an accurate depiction of where your answers are.  The answers you seek lie within you, right here, right now.  And when most of us feel stuck in a rut or like we are on the hamster wheel of life, we overlook the thing we know we need to do get us moving forward again.

So, what is it you need to do right now that you’ve been avoiding?  I asked this question to a client who was feeling pretty stuck in a certain situation.  After a brief pause, she had listed 3 things she needed to do to move forward and they were things she had been avoiding out of fear, anxiety, and just plain worry.  Whatever answer you get to this question, go do it.  Take action and watch the Universe work its magic to help support you in your cause.  I promise that is the secret to creating a life you love.

 

Let’s keep the conversation going.  What answer did you get that surprised you a bit? Share your thoughts in the comments below.  I’d love to hear your answers!

 

What Dead Grass Taught Me About Abundance

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A few years ago we were blessed enough to manifest an amazing house on a corner lot.  My wife was beside herself and just couldn’t wait to create a lush, green, well-manicured lawn that would be the envy of all the neighborhood.

Within a few short months our lawn was hands down the best lawn on our block and easily the best in our neighborhood as a whole.  Every time someone walked by, they wanted to know our secret to keeping the grass so green and abundant.  My wife just smiled and said she had the magic touch.  Which she totally did until…she didn’t.

After about a year or two life happened and 1 missed fertilization quickly turned to 2 and with an extra rainy season followed by a scorching summer and an injury that caused my wife to be bed-ridden for a few months-the grass began to wither away.

What used to be lush green grass was now brown, dying patches that made use cringe at the sight.  It was bad.  We knew people were still seeing our yard, but now it was for a different reason.  The best yard on the block quickly became the worst, but we didn’t give up.

The next spring we tilled up the entire yard and planted new seedlings and within just a few weeks we say some beautiful new grass beginning to sprout up.  It took some work and a lot of positive focus, but we were finally able to get back to the beautiful lush grass that we once had…I know because I just cut it last night.

So, why am I talking about dead grass and abundance and how exactly do they relate?

Well, one thing I have found in my own life and in the lives of my clients is the fact that we ALL have experienced our version of the lush green grass.  Things flow easily and we don’t have a care in the world.  We’ve also ALL experienced a setback.  Whether it’s a large bill, an unexpected job loss or something else that didn’t go as planned-we know what it’s like to experience the dead grass.

BUT…

It’s not the lush green or the dead grass that dictates what comes next…It’s YOU.

You make a choice to give up and lose hope or to keep pushing and plant new seeds.

Now I can tell you I didn’t have much hope for our yard when every bit of grass (and even the weeds) died.  It was hard to see how it would be what it once was, but looking back we just had to keep moving forward.

And when it comes to abundance you have to do the same thing.

Regardless of how little you have in your bank account right now, you have to keep moving forward and know that it can and will change in the matter of minutes with the right mindset.

Nature doesn’t worry about having too little as it always has what it needs and you will too.  Just keep going.

If you are struggling with your abundance right now here are a few action steps to get things moving again:

  • Take stock of what you DO have and be grateful.  The Universe rewards gratitude with more to be grateful for. Get on it!
  • Make a list of ALL the ways you can think of to bring in money right now.  Don’t give me lip about whether you want to do it, just make the list and see what comes up.
  • Close your eyes and IMAGINE all the ways money can FLOW to you without you doing much of anything.  It’s possible I promise. (Just yesterday I opened what I thought was junk mail and found a $5 bill as an incentive to do an online survey.)
  • Write out your affirmations and shift your mindset. “I am a money magnet.” “Money flows to me with ease and grace.” If you get stuck, download this list I put together just for you.
  • Last but not least-Plant some seeds!! Reach out to friends and family members for ideas, contact past clients, do a quick search for odd jobs or better yet plan a yard sale.  Money is waiting to find you, so welcome it with open arms. 

If you want more ideas or help with clearing your mindset around creating more abundance in your life feel free to schedule a free 30 minute consultation where I will help you come up with a personalized plan for you.

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Life Upheaval = An Opportunity to Up-level

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photo credit: Photograph of a place via photopin (license)

So, life’s been pretty…interesting lately.

There have been moments when everything feels in alignment, on purpose, and totally flowing and other times where it feels like the ground I am standing on is shifting under my feet.

It’s an interesting place to be since each feeling is totally different than the other, but it’s also a feeling I know well, though often forget.

I’m seeing this happen in many of my friend’s and client’s lives too.  Life feels so overwhelming and things feel like they are coming apart at the seams.  Perfectly laid plans are crumbling and it feels like we are being forced to purge so many beliefs, fears, and even physical stuff.

I’m no astrologer, but I totally believe in the power of the planets and their alignment and it feels like this life upheaval is a Universal affair.

Lucky us.

From some of my favorite spiritual teachers and intuitives, I am hearing that this is an opportunity for us to release what no longer serves us and welcome in new opportunities and new energies.  Makes sense right?  We are getting so close to Spring and this is similar to a life Spring cleaning.

I’ve felt this type of thing before.  As I said, it’s not new to me at all as I have had several big life upheavals that have opened the door to more living, learning, growing, and ultimately new opportunities.

The life upheaval can show up in a variety of ways-losing a job, moving cross country, or even just little disagreements and blow outs with friends and family.  I’ve done all of these in various times in my life and they all have lead to new opportunities.

Here’s how I see it.

We have moments in our lives when we are moving right along with no worries.  There are changes we need to make, but we don’t make them because things are running fairly smoothly and it often isn’t until life forces us to make that change or take action that we finally oblige.

This is something similar.  As we continually move through life there are life experiences we want to make and in order to manifest them, we have to level up our energy.  Doing so often means we have to release and let go of the baggage that is holding us back.  This can come in the form of physical things like clothes, shoes, old books, papers etc. or in the form of beliefs, thoughts, feelings, and memories that are ready to be processed.

If you are feeling a similar life upheaval I want you to know this…

You are NOT crazy and this process IS leading you to bigger, better things.  Things that you WANT in your life. I promise.

My last big life upheaval came in the form of me losing my full-time employment which was scary and frustrating, but it led me to be able to do what I love full-time.

Before that, my wife got assigned to a new military base and we had to find a home and move 9 hours away from where we previously lived, but that led us to amazing new friends, new opportunities, and our beautiful home.

The best thing you can do during moments like these is go with the flow and feel the feelings (or as I like to call them the feels) that come along with the changes.  Be open to the changes and move through them with a curious mind and open heart. 

I’ve also found journaling, meditation, EFT, and connecting with friends and coaches can be very helpful.

You are getting ready to experience some amazing growth unlike any other!  Shine baby shine!

If you are looking for some support around the upheaval that is happening for you right now, reach out and schedule a free 30-Minute consultation and let’s have a chat.  I’d love to help support you and help you shine baby shine!

The Microscope Effect

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Over the last few years, I have gotten to know this thing I call the Microscope Effect very well and the more I work with women like myself, I realize it’s not just something I am dealing with.  We all deal with it.

Let me explain.

Have you ever had those moments when you it feels like the world is opening up and swallowing you whole?  You are stressed out, fed up, and frustrated with how things are going and are unable to see the bigger picture?

You’ve zoomed in your focus to a point where all you see is the very thing that is driving you crazy and for a moment (or many) you think your life is made up of that small area that isn’t working out.

The Microscope Effect is something we all deal with on varying scales.

I’ve dealt with it in my business, my money mindset, and even my marriage.

The thing that’s broken (or seemingly broken) gets all the attention because we are natural fixers.

We aim our attention at the thing that needs to be fixed because we are used to it.  But, the problem is when we do that too much, we flit from one broken moment to the next ‘fixing’ it and if we aren’t careful we assume our entire lives are made up of broken pieces.

That’s not the case at all.

Despite what area of your life might need a bit of oil to run smoothly, it isn’t likely that it is all broken and in need of repair.

Are there moments when it seems one thing after another needs your attention? Absolutely, but the key is not to get caught up in all that and  instead focus on the stuff that IS working.

Today, I challenge you to look around at the beauty and the whole pieces of your life, no matter how small.  Zoom out your microscope so you can see the bigger picture, because if you’ve ever looked at an image really close up, it doesn’t do it justice.

Our lives are made up of many moving parts and one of the keys to living a life you love is starting where you are.  It’s not all bad, so don’t let the fixer in you convince you that it is.  Once you see the beauty around you, the pieces that need fixing don’t look quite as bad and if they are…well, you will be in a much better place to fix them.

Are you dealing with the Microscope Effect?

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If so, I invite you to schedule a FREE-30-Minute Consultation to chat a bit about it and let’s see if we can’t help you zoom out a bit. 

 

It can all change in an instant…

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photo credit: 很喜欢直接从树干上长出来的花朵， via photopin (license)

Growing up I was keenly aware of the fact that life could change instantly, only then I expected it to change for the worse.  I was leery of moments that felt too good because it seemed like there was always something lurking around the corner ready to knock me off my high horse of happiness.

In fact, I grew so accustomed to seeing the bad things in life that I tried to plan for them before they ever happened.  You know the saying  “Plan for the worst, but hope for the best?”  Well I planned for and expected the worst and generally got it.

Looking back it’s a bit sad because while I had moments where I dreamed of it all working out the way I truly wanted it to, I never trusted that it could.

It took many years of growth, mindset work, and persistence to get to a place where I no longer expect the worst.  I now know that I get what I expect, thanks to my understanding of the Law of Attraction.

I am in a space in my life now where I know that everything can change for the better in an instant, but only if you are truly in the right frame of mind.

Everything we deal with in life is temporary.  The rain, sunshine, and cloudy days are all temporary and the same goes for the tough times.

There have been moments in the last year when my business wasn’t doing so well and I momentarily got stuck into my old way of thinking.  But, the moment I let go of that story and remembered that it could all change in the matter of one second, I lightened up.

I hold onto that thought to this day and I am always delighted to see how things change instantly for the better.

I want you to think about your life right now.  What are you struggling with?  In what ways are you expecting the worst and getting it?

What if you shifted your thoughts and remembered one simple fact that could change your life for the better?

It can all change in an instant, for the better so you better be prepared.

Having financial trouble that you just can’t quite see a way out of?

Hate your job, but don’t see any way out of it?

Living a life that is less than you desire, yet you don’t know what to do to move forward?

All of that can change in an instant and the good news is you don’t have to know how it will right now.  Simply know this to be true and follow your heart when the how appears.  That’s it!

Trust me when I say I have lived on both sides of this coin and knowing that everything can shift in a matter of seconds is an amazing feeling that provides hope for your future.

If you are looking for an opportunity to shift your mindset and begin taking steps to truly create the life you’ve always wanted, then hiring a coach may be your ‘how’.  I’m inviting you to schedule a free 30-minute consultation to chat about your situation and see if we are a good fit.  I have some exciting new ways to work with me coming up and I’d love to give you the inside scoop on our call.

Are you ready to change your life for the better?

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