Lamisha Serf-Walls

Living the Dream…What You Really Want

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One of the first things I ask people about when I am working with them is what they want in life.

Usually I get a list of items, dollar amounts, places they want to travel to, and a whole slew of other ‘stuff’ that comes with their dream life.  Whether it’s the career of their dreams, the relationship they have always desired, or their health, there is always ‘stuff’ that they want.

And when I ask them why they want what they want, I am often met with a pause in the conversation.

It’s not about proving that you are worth having the life of your dreams, because you are already worthy enough to have it.  Remember you can be, do, or have anything that your heart desires.

The reason I ask why, is because like the blocks that are holding us back, there is something that lies beneath the desire to be, have, or do anything

Take me for example.  When I took the leap to live the life of my dreams, I did so with the intention of creating my own business that I loved.  I wanted to help people know they too could craft a life they have always wanted and I absolutely adored the work.  But, after some insightful questions and a bit of digging from a coach I was working with at the time, I realized it’s something far deeper for me.

Underneath the sparkly dream of owning my own business and helping people are three values that are extremely important to me.

Freedom, family, and service. 

I want to feel free in the work I do.

I want to have the flexibility and freedom to support my family from anywhere in the world and since I am a military spouse that is even more important to me.

And I want to be of service to my clients.

I want to help people do the things they never thought possible and live the life they have always wanted.

So, I have set out on a path to design a life that does just that.  That is what I am after.  Those are things that are important to me.  The extra “stuff” is just icing on the cake.

One of my clients has been working with me for several months and in that time we have worked on identifying what it is she truly wants out of life, giving herself permission to live that life, and helping her achieve it.  One of her core values is freedom.  She wants to have the freedom to choose to live the life of her dreams.  To travel, to learn, to grow, and to be who she wants to be, not who others perceive her to be.

In fact, most of my clients have freedom as one of their underlying values in the work we do together.  Whether it is freedom to spend their time & money how they want or the freedom to choose to live life on their own terms.

They want freedom.

So, why is knowing your underlying values important when you are creating the life of your dreams?

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It’s simple, because when you let go of the specific outcomes and focus on the values that are important to you, you loosen your grip on how it must happen and allow the energy of the Universe to work on your behalf to deliver all those values with beautiful circumstances wrapped up with a pretty bow.  And you realize you just created a life you never thought was possible.

You see, it’s when we get our hands too far into the mix that we can often make things harder for us to achieve.  But when you focus on values like freedom, flexibility, support, service, family, etc. you find that it’s much easier to welcome in the unexpected surprises that make life interesting & exciting.  You tend to go with the flow a lot easier and trust that everything you want in life can and will be yours.

So, when you think about the investments you are making into self-growth & expansion, don’t ask yourself if the ‘stuff’ is worth it.  Ask yourself if the freedom, flexibility, comfort, peace, etc. is worth it because that is what you are truly after.  It’s not about how you get to those feelings that is as important as the feeling itself.  Just like it’s not money you are after, it’s the amazing experiences that money allows you to buy that is what you are after.

Today, I invite you to take a look at your values.  What lies beneath the external ‘stuff’ you want in life?  Are you building the life of your dreams on a foundation of physical things or are you building it on a foundation of experiences and values like family, support, stability, flexibility, and freedom?

Know how you want to feel and what is truly important to you and you open the doors for those feelings to flow to you instantly.

And to take it a step further, what is one thing you can do today that will help you tap into those values.  Do it now, not sometime in the future.

I’d love to know what your #1 value is and what you can do today to cultivate that feeling.  Share in the comments below to get the energy moving.

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Your Dream Life In 3 Simple Steps

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Your dream life is a mere 3 steps away…

Sound too good to be true?

It’s not.

Take a moment and evaluate your life right now.  Would you say you are living the life of your dreams or do you feel stuck?

Maybe you are like a lot of people and have the dream floating around in your head as an ‘if only’ thought.

But I’m here to tell you it doesn’t have to be that way.  It can be your reality right now.

Here’s how.

Step 1:  Know what you want.  Do you know what your dream life looks like for you?  Have you taken the time to get clear on what you truly want out of life? I’m not talking about what seems realistic or logical.  I’m talking about what you really want.  What gets you excited about life? What lights your fire? What is it that you want out of life?  Is it freedom? A career you are passionate about? Family time? Travel? Writing? What is your dream? Identify that and the rest is easy.

Step 2: Clear the junk.  To live the life of your dreams you have to know without a shadow of a doubt it is possible.  Any thought or belief that contradicts that fact must be cleared.  Any block or barrier in your thoughts about your worthiness or value to live the life you deserve, must be released and getting help identifying your blind spot is more valuable than you know.

Step 3: Listen with your heart and take inspired action. There is no doubt you have to take action to move along your path, but the key is allowing your intuition and inspiration to guide you.  This isn’t about setting the most logical plan of action.  This is about getting out of your head and into your heart and allowing that to be your guide which isn’t always easy.  Following the logical steps or trying to outline your entire journey will result in the blood, sweat, and tears kind of hard work we have been taught.  But the heart path feels effortless and almost too easy.  It’s fun, inspiring, and will lead to more expansion and growth than you have ever known.

Here’s my challenge to you today.  Look at the steps and see where you are, but better yet, what you are going to do about it.

If you aren’t living the life of your dreams it is likely because you are stuck in one of the 3 steps and it really doesn’t matter where you are stuck as much as much as it matters what you are going to do about it.

Don’t know what you want? I can help.

Got some junk to clear? I can help.

Need to learn the inspired way? I can help with that too.

If you are ready to drop the excuses so you can live the amazing life you were made for, do yourself a favor and invest in yourself.

So? What are you going to do?

I have a few spots left in my 3-Month Program and in my Blind Spot Discovery Sessions so if you want in, now is the time!

Not sure you are ready to take the leap? Schedule a 30-Minute Consultation to find out.

Investing in YOU

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Do you know the difference between the people living the dream and those stuck just dreaming?

It boils down to one word: Investment

The people living the life of their dreams made a choice to invest in themselves.

The people that are stuck in dreamland didn’t.

It’s that simple.

Whether it is time, money, or energy, investing in yourself is a MUST if you are going to get from where you are to where you want to be.

So, when was the last time you invested in yourself?

Hmm…that long huh?

How’s that worked out for you?  Are you living the dream or stuck in dreamland?

There are probably 100 excuses you can give me this very second as to why you haven’t invested in yourself.  Maybe you think you don’t have the money, the time, or the energy to invest.  Maybe you have children, a family, commitments, a day job etc. that you think restrict your resources and you just aren’t sure how you can fit something else in.

I know better.  Those are just the excuses.

The truth is when you want something bad enough and you are ready to take the leap, you will find a way to make it happen.

You will carve out the time, hustle up the money, and you will be so inspired by the life you are living, energy won’t be a problem.

But it also comes down to value.

How much do you value YOU and what life can be for you?

Living the life of your dreams is possible as long as you don’t settle.

Close your eyes and imagine what you truly want out of life.  Not what you think you can get or what you think is possible. What do you want?

What’s the first step you can take to invest in YOU?

Not sure?

Start by investing your time in a 30-minute consultation to chat about your vision and how I can help you make it a reality because you ARE worth it.

Don’t Settle…

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SERENDIPITY

Have you bought the myth that you can’t have everything you want?

That if you have a fabulous career you love, your relationships have to suck?

OR if you have an amazing relationship, you can’t have all the riches your heart desires?

OR even if you have all the money you desire, you might have to enjoy it all alone?

I’m calling bullshit.

I want to know… Who are you not to have it all?

Who are you not to have the love, the riches, the joy, the career, the family, the fame and anything else your heart desires?

Believing anything less feels like lack. It feels like maybe we think we don’t deserve it.

Because the truth is happiness is not just the stuff in fairytales.

Life is about living, loving, sharing, expanding and experiencing everything.

That’s why I created the Blind Spot Discovery Sessions, laser-focused one-on-one calls where we identify and clear the blocks holding you back – for good.

So you can go on to experience, expand and enjoy the life you’ve always wanted.

We’ll identify and clear the blind spot that’s been in the way for too long.

The Blind Spot Discovery Session includes:

  • 30-minute consult to help me understand where you are and where you want to be.
  • 90-minute call (phone or Skype) so we can dig in. We’ll identify the blind spot, uproot it and arm you with the tools you need to clear it once and for all.
  • 30-minute follow-up to keep you on track.
  • Unlimited email support between calls and for two weeks after our follow-up.

Do you know what happens when you believe you can’t have it all?

You settle.

You settle for the parts of your life that aren’t working because you believe if most of your life is going well, you shouldn’t complain.

Let’s not do that. Let’s knock this blind spot out so you can get on with your amazing life.

Investment: $549 or two payments of $300

Because you don’t have to settle, and you certainly don’t have to accept anything in your life isn’t working the way you want it to.

I have a few slots left this year for Blind Spot Sessions. Contact me at lamisha@lifeoncedreamt.com and we’ll get you back to fabulous NOW.

Are You In Danger of This? (And how not to sacrifice your happiness.)

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Danger

 

What if someone could tell you without a shadow of a doubt the way your future will likely unfold if you continue on the exact course you are on this very minute?

Would you be interested?

No, I’m not switching businesses and becoming a psychic 🙂

I ask you that because I know something that you might not be aware of and again I’m no psychic, but I have seen this enough to know that you might be in danger.

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Meet Joni* (Names have been changed for privacy sake.)

Joni is an incredibly talented entrepreneur.  She’s sweet, charismatic, caring, compassionate and people adore her!  She’s married to her soul mate, has a gorgeous home, and is blessed with creativity that flows like an open faucet.  Her business is booming and her calendar is booked out 9 months!

BUT…

She’s got a problem and it’s a BIG one.

She is having a hard time finding balance amongst all the awesomeness that is her life.

When she is in work mode, she’s hard-core.  She works long hours, stays up late, and often burns the candle at both ends.

When she manages to find time to focus on her ‘home’ life with her hubby, she is constantly trying to make up for lost time.

She’s lost on the teeter-totter of two extremes and no matter what she does she can’t quite find the happy medium.

The result:

She’s frustrated and cranky most days.  When she’s focused on her business, she worries about her relationship and the many things at home that feel half-assed or un-done.  When she’s at home, she worries about being at work. She thinks: “What if my clients need me?  What about the next deadline?  The next launch? Did I return all important emails?”

She’s stuck, overwhelmed, and feels guilty about not being where she needs to be and often feels like a failure.

She frequently discounts her successes or over looks them completely because she becomes hyper-focused on the things that aren’t working (aka not being able to find balance).

What on the outside looks like an awesome life, on the inside feels unbalanced and incomplete.  She frequently thinks that “if only” she could find the balance between her two very important worlds, she could finally ease into relaxation mode and actually enjoy the magnificent life she has created.

But without being able to see the core issue (which is not the lack of balance in her life), she is destined for a life of exhaustion, fear, frustration, and stuck-ness. She is blind to the belief that is holding her back because she is simply too close to see it.  What she thinks is a simple fix that centers around time management and taking a break every now and then is really just a symptom of a deeper issue.

She has a choice.  She can continue to try to treat the symptom (i.e. the lack of balance in her life) and experience the brief reprieve that it provides for her or she can choose to seek help.  And to be honest, she must first understand and be aware of the consequences of not clearing this issue.

Examples:

  • A stressed work life can result in physical illness
  • A stressed home life can result in relationship trouble
  • A stressed inner life can result in incredible fear, lack of confidence, self-sabotage, and even worse…an unhappy, unfulfilled life.

Getting to the end of her rope and being truly ready to move through this challenge once and for all, Joni reaches out for help.  She knows the magnificence that lies on the other side of this struggle and she’s ready to identify and clear the belief that is holding her hostage in exhaustion, fear, and frustration.

The question is are YOU?

happinessMany of you may be able to directly relate to the specific challenge or symptom that Joni has struggled with or you have your own issue that manifests itself in your life or business in your relationships, self-care, time management, procrastination, marketing (or lack thereof), or maybe it is something different.

The point is we all have that one thing that keeps showing up for us over and over again that leaves us feeling drained, frustrated, and just plain stuck.  There are some of you who are ready to throw in the towel and accept that ‘this is just the way life is’ and you may even believe ‘you just can’t have it all’.

But I am here to tell you, there IS a solution to your problem and it starts with this first step: You must first know the consequences of continuing on the path you are on and refuse to sacrifice the joy and fulfilling life you are destined for any longer.

That’s it.

Life is supposed to be amazing and you are meant to work through the lessons, beliefs, and challenges that hold us back from that incredible joy.  It is part of your journey, but you get to choose if you are ready to move forward and clear it and some of the biggest challenges are those we can’t see directly because we are simply too close.

With that I ask you:

What amazing-ness are you sacrificing by staying stuck? AND Are you ready to take the first step to free yourself from the struggle and frustration?

If so, I invite you to schedule a 30-Minute Consultation to chat with me about your challenges and to see if (like Joni) you are ready to clear them once and for all.  No strings attached.  So what do you say? Are you ready?

P.S. Don’t forget that the 7-Day Resolution Refresh challenge begins on Monday so if you are in need of some inspiration to get some of those amazing goals knocked off your to-do list, get signed up so you don’t miss a beat!