Lamisha Serf-Walls

The Microscope Effect

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Over the last few years, I have gotten to know this thing I call the Microscope Effect very well and the more I work with women like myself, I realize it’s not just something I am dealing with.  We all deal with it.

Let me explain.

Have you ever had those moments when you it feels like the world is opening up and swallowing you whole?  You are stressed out, fed up, and frustrated with how things are going and are unable to see the bigger picture?

You’ve zoomed in your focus to a point where all you see is the very thing that is driving you crazy and for a moment (or many) you think your life is made up of that small area that isn’t working out.

The Microscope Effect is something we all deal with on varying scales.

I’ve dealt with it in my business, my money mindset, and even my marriage.

The thing that’s broken (or seemingly broken) gets all the attention because we are natural fixers.

We aim our attention at the thing that needs to be fixed because we are used to it.  But, the problem is when we do that too much, we flit from one broken moment to the next ‘fixing’ it and if we aren’t careful we assume our entire lives are made up of broken pieces.

That’s not the case at all.

Despite what area of your life might need a bit of oil to run smoothly, it isn’t likely that it is all broken and in need of repair.

Are there moments when it seems one thing after another needs your attention? Absolutely, but the key is not to get caught up in all that and  instead focus on the stuff that IS working.

Today, I challenge you to look around at the beauty and the whole pieces of your life, no matter how small.  Zoom out your microscope so you can see the bigger picture, because if you’ve ever looked at an image really close up, it doesn’t do it justice.

Our lives are made up of many moving parts and one of the keys to living a life you love is starting where you are.  It’s not all bad, so don’t let the fixer in you convince you that it is.  Once you see the beauty around you, the pieces that need fixing don’t look quite as bad and if they are…well, you will be in a much better place to fix them.

Are you dealing with the Microscope Effect?

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If so, I invite you to schedule a FREE-30-Minute Consultation to chat a bit about it and let’s see if we can’t help you zoom out a bit. 

 

Mindset Mastery: Why you need it.

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When I was growing up there was a quote that was very popular and it was this:

“You can do anything you set your mind to.” Benjamin Franklin

At the time it felt like just another after school special that was trying to get kids to do the right thing and never give up.

I was a teenager and didn’t really believe it all that much…until now.

Living the life that I have lived and with all the research and focus I have put on the Law of Attraction and living the life of my dreams, I know that those words are completely true, but something is missing.

It’s not just about putting your mind (and action) into something, it’s also about knowing without a shadow of a doubt that you CAN and WILL accomplish whatever you are striving for.

The action comes secondary to what you believe about what you can and cannot achieve.  If you don’t believe you can do it, the action is worthless because you won’t make it happen if you don’t believe you can.

“Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t–you’re right.” Henry Ford

How you think and feel about your dreams are the MOST important part of the puzzle, in fact it is where it all begins.  If you don’t think you can have the career, the love, the joy, the money, and the family you desire all at once…you’ll never have it.

If you don’t think you can make 6-figures in your creative business…you never will.

If you don’t think it’s possible for you to be happy doing work you love while traveling the world…you won’t even try.

If you don’t think that abundance and joy is for you (but apparently is for everyone else around you) then you will always attract the opposite of those things into your life.

Your mindset can be your biggest enemy if you don’t deal with the beliefs that are holding you back now.

One of the most important things I do with clients is to identify the beliefs and mindset issues they never knew they had.  In fact they rarely even see them! All they see is that they aren’t manifesting the money they want, the job they desire, or the love of their life.  They see the result of a faulty mindset.

That’s where I come in.  I not only help you shift the shit that lies in the dark corners of your mind, but I provide action steps to keep those corners light, bright, and dust-bunny-free.

We all have mindset stuff creep in every now and then, but if left unchecked it can and will sabotage every action you take to make things better.

You cannot achieve what you think is impossible.

So my question is what are you willing to do to shift your mindset so you can have all that you desire?  If you are struggling to make the shift alone and you have tried many times to make it happen to no avail, it’s time for help.

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There’s no reason to let your mindset issues linger and keep you back from everything you desire…it’s time to make a chance.

When Things Don’t Work Out…

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Let’s be honest.

We all have expectations, goals, intentions, opportunities, insights, and a vision for how we want things to work out.

We set our hearts on a specific outcome with the painted picture in our minds of how things will all come together. Not only do we know what we want, we know exactly how we want it to happen.

Seems simple enough right?  Maybe even wise, but what happens when our exact vision doesn’t work out the way we wanted it to?

If you are like me (the old me), you might fall into a pit of despair wondering how in the world it could’ve happened and what you did wrong.

You might feel deep disappointment for what didn’t work out, all the while discounting everything that did.

You might even lose sight of the bigger picture and allow one tiny mis-step or perceived failure become the way you view your path and the world.

But here’s something to consider…

When it seems things aren’t working out, it often means something better is coming down the pike.

We can’t possibly know all the ways our dreams can come true.  Each and every day we have a very limited view of ‘how’ things can happen for us.  We look at our reality, the stuff right in front of us and find a logical path to take because we often believe we are in control.

The fact of the matter is we aren’t entirely in control.  We don’t know all the ways money can flow to us.  We don’t know all the contacts & opportunities that are in the world in any given moment so to believe we can find the BEST option on our own is a bit mis-guided.

Our job is not to figure out HOW all the time.  It’s to simply follow our intuitive guidance and to be open to all possibilities.

I’ll give you an example.

When I was working in the corporate world (in a job I hated I might add), I had this deep desire to work from home.  I had a co-worker at the time that was teaching online classes and I so desperately wanted to be able to work from home, I started applying.  I had zero interest in teaching, but the idea of working from home was so amazing, I couldn’t help but give it a try.

I applied & failed.

So, I kept looking.  I found it difficult to find a job that was happy to allow me to work from home without it being all spammy and used car salesman-like.  I got to a point where I just gave up my search altogether thinking I would never find a job I desired with the freedom I craved.

Turns out I was right.  I wasn’t going to FIND one…one was about to land in my lap with ease and grace.

About a month or two after I quit looking for the right work from home opportunity, I got a call from a previous coworker.  He had moved to another organization and they had an opening he thought I might be interested in.

I applied for it even though it was for a company located in another state…a state I had no plan on moving to.  Turns out the company was more focused on finding the right fit for the job and were willing to allow me to work from home.

THAT is what happens when you sit back and allow better things to come.  Had I been open to that option earlier on, it might have come sooner, but I am deeply grateful that it happened when it did.

You see, this manifestation stuff is amazing.  Things are ALWAYS working out for you as long as you believe it is and this isn’t just what I teach my clients, this is how I live on a daily basis.

I want to share that experience with you.  If you’re ready for a big change and want to learn how to manifest the life of your dreams, let’s chat.

Schedule a FREE 30-Minute Consultation with me below and let’s see if we are a good fit!

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Get Your Mind Set for a Positive Mindset in 3 Easy Steps

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One of my super powers is helping women get really clear on the BS that is holding them back.  Let’s be honest, we all have some thought or belief that keeps us hiding in the shadows afraid to share our light with the world.

I’m not good enough…

I’m not smart enough…

I won’t do it as well as them….

I don’t have the money to….

Whatever lies you are hearing in your head every time you think about taking the BIG LEAP into the life of your dreams…they are wrong.

100% Bullshit.

So, how do you reverse them and get our mind ready for success?

You do it with these 3 steps.

  • Tell a different story. It’s time to let the old story go and rewrite it.  Instead of harping on the woes that you keep believing are true, tell the story as you wish it to be.  Affirmations work wonders so start there.  For instance, I’m AMAZING at what I do.  People love connecting with me! I have a set of unique skills that connect with the right people.  I have more than enough money to take care of all of my wants and needs.

 

  • Focus on the good…daily. You have control over your mindset every single day.  You decide what you focus on and that determines how you feel and what you create in your life.  Don’t like how things are going? Shift your focus to something better.  Develop a practice that feels good to you and do it on a daily basis.  Whether that is keeping a gratitude journal or writing a list of all the things you love about life, focus on the good and more good will flow to you.

 

  • Immerse yourself in inspiration. There is nothing more powerful than feeling inspired and allowing that feeling to take you away into the world of doing he impossible.  Surround yourself with people, books, quotes, movies, media, music, and anything else that inspires and uplifts your soul.  It will not only raise your vibration, but it will also keep your head in the clouds where anything you desire is possible.  Build on that every day and before you know it those gremlin thoughts will be packing up their stuff and moving out because they can’t live in the world of magic and miracles.

Your mindset is everything. It’s the breath of your dreams and the thing that will hold you back or catapult your dreams into another stratosphere and the best part of all is you get to control it.

Let your mindset be your greatest manifesting ally and enjoy every moment of your dream life because with a positive mind, you can do anything.

P.S. If your mindset junk is giving you trouble and you need help busting the BS so you can finally manifest the magical life you’ve always wanted schedule a FREE 30-Minute Consultation here.

My Biggest Fear…

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If you are on my VIP list you know I’ve been thinking about fear and how it’s a f–king liar.

It’s true.  And even though I know this to be true, I have still struggled with fear myself in many ways.

The fear of being seen in my business was a big one for a long time that kept me playing small.

But, my biggest fear of them all has been…lack of control.

You see, for as long as I can remember, I’ve always tried to be 2-4 steps ahead of my current circumstances.  Trying to make sure all things go as planned and that I don’t end up blindsided by some crazy disappointment in life, I would work out all the outcomes in my mind and figure out how to avoid the bad ones.

Simply put I worried…a lot!

I developed general anxiety because I was always trying to stay ahead of the moment.  If I was making a decision about what to do, I would try to predict the outcome so I could strategize how to cope with it in advance.  Needless to say I wasn’t mindful or present in any moment.  I was always worrying about the future.

When it came to goal setting and setting intentions, I would torture myself!  I needed to know how it was going to work out and while I had some positive focus that it would, if I didn’t see the way, then I wasn’t convinced.

I had zero faith.

It’s taken a long time for me to get over that general anxiety and to stop worrying so much, but there are times when I can feel myself slipping back into needing to know how things are going to work out as opposed to just trusting they will.

The truth is, if we expect a specific outcome and we are open to how the outcome is manifested, there is nothing to worry about.  The perceived control I have over seemingly everything in my life is a bit misunderstood.

The only things we control are our thoughts & actions which in turn create our reality.

So, if being a control freak in how your dreams come true is something you struggle with, take a step back.  Take a deep breath and grab a pen and notebook.

I want you to write down all the ways your dream (or another situation) could manifest perfectly.  I’m not saying these are all things you might believe at the moment, but write down all the ways it could happen.  Get creative and remember that the Universe has every resource available to use and we only know a very small portion of that.  To expect that our way is the only way is a bit misguided and is the best way to lead to frustration and it may even cause a delay in manifesting what we want in our lives.

Be open to more than just the way you think is ‘realistic’ or ‘probable’.  The Universe doesn’t work with reality…it works with magic & miracles and I assure you as soon as you open your mind to ‘how’ it can happen and let go of the outcome a bit, more magic and miracles will find you.  It’s just how it works.

If you are still struggling with manifesting your deepest desires and want to learn about how to make that happen with ease, grace, and more flow, I encourage you to check out my 7 Secrets to Manifest the Life of Your Dreams.  In this free video series, I share with you my biggest secrets to manifesting.  Secrets I’ve learned after many years of trying to be realistic and logical.

Add subtitle text(3)Magical Manifesting is a wonderful way to create the life you have always wanted…not just in cash and things that you can buy, but in experiences, time, and freedom.  Manifesting the beautiful experiences and feelings you’ve always desired and inspiring others to do the same is why I do this work.

I would love for you to join us on February 1st for a journey of Magical Manifesting. This 6-week group program will give you the steps, tools, and secrets you need to create the life you have always wanted and provide you the practical experience that will infuse you with the faith you need to keep going.  Space is limited, so if you are interested I highly encourage you to reserve your place now!