Lamisha Serf-Walls

Chronic Self-Sabotage: What’s “too good” for you?

by

5823666737_4601038a6f
photo credit: I Will Make It Through the Night via photopin (license)

What happens when life gets “too good”?

You know the moments when everything feels so easy and effortless.

You lose those 10 lbs with ease and blow your income goal out of the water without even breaking a sweat.  And it just so happens to be the same day you hit all green lights going to work, stop by your favorite coffee shop to find that you are the 1000th customer and win free coffee for life! (My dream!)  With a perma-grin on your face you float into work and find that you just got a huge bonus and you can’t help but ask…”How does it get any better than this?!”

Then…

Reality sets in and you start thinking about how perfect everything has been lately and you wonder why it’s all changed.  What’s up?  What’s new?

You get nervous.  Anxiety strikes and your vibration immediately shifts and you almost don’t know how to handle this new found luck.

It feels foreign, unnatural for you, and while it’s been the best week of your life, you can’t quite shake this uneasy feeling.

Then…

You drive home worried, only to hit every single red light, get caught in traffic for hours and pull into the driveway to find not one, but two nails in your tires.  You walk in the door, stub your toe, trip over the rug and do a giant face plant on the floor just before you hobble into the kitchen to find your pipes have burst and water is running all over your beautiful wood floors.

Your magical wonderland of a day has turned to shit in the matter of hours and you can’t quite figure out what has happened.

This is a wildly over exaggerated example of classic self-sabotage.

These are exactly the kinds of things you might see happen when life gets too good.

You might also experience things like, excessive bills after making quite a bit of money or quickly gaining back all the weight you recently lost.  You might even find yourself manifesting fights with friends or loved ones or losing things you recently purchased.

And the list goes on.

What is self-sabotage & why do we do it?

As creatures of habit, human beings thrive on routines and knowing what to expect for the most part.  When we start doing or experiencing things that are outside of what we have come to expect and what has been comfortable for us (even if it’s uncomfortable and we want to change it.), we tend to create situations (subconsciously) to bring our experiences back to ‘reality’.

Have you ever noticed how you tend to hit a limit when it comes to your income, weight loss, or another similar goal?  You hit that magic number and can’t seem to break through the ceiling?

You may have hit what Gay Hendricks in his book The Big Leap calls an upper limit problem.

When things get too good, too fast, we tend to unconsciously (and energetically) pump the breaks and sabotage our success.

Logically it doesn’t make sense, but it’s something we all do from time-to-time.  It’s also what tends to happen when we expand our experience without also expanding our mindset.

Your mindset is the key to overcoming (and limiting) the self-sabotaging behavior that might come up as you continue to grow and evolve.  By clearing the blocks and limiting beliefs we have about what is normal for us, we open our minds and lives to endless possibilities, therefore limiting any future self-sabotage.

The moral of the story is this: When you do your mindset work, you will not only create amazing experiences in your life, but you’ll also continue expanding beyond your current limits.

Want to learn more about how to create a mindset practice that works for you?  Get on the VIP list here if you aren’t already on it, as I’ll be sharing more info on how to do just that…absolutely free. <3

Can’t wait? No problem!

Schedule Free 30-Minute Consultation

If you are feeling stuck, lost, or frustrated about life…this is for you!

by

I get it.  There are moments when we feel lost, frustrated, and just plain stuck in life.

Believe me I’ve been there more times than I care to admit, but about 8 months ago I realized something that shifted my mindset entirely and today I’m sharing that with you.

 

For more information about how to shift your mindset and move forward on your path instantly, schedule your free 30-minute consultation below.

Schedule Free 30-Minute Consultation

 

The other side of stuck…

by

photo credit: Always greener on the other side. via photopin (license)
photo credit: Always greener on the other side. via photopin (license)

Fact:  98% of the women I work with come to me for help because they are feeling STUCK.

Fact: 100% of those women are intelligent, soulful, and more than capable of doing all the ‘logical’ things to get themselves unstuck.

Fact: BUT…the thing that really has them STUCK has nothing to do with logic.

If you’ve ever been stuck in a rut and found yourself wondering how the heck to get out, you know what I’m talking about.  You’ve likely tried everything to get unstuck, yet often still find yourself in the same place you were before, only now more frustrated and disheartened.

I know because about 8 years ago I was exactly where you are, feeling the same things.  Frustrated, disconnected, and frankly a bit pissed off.

In my heart I knew I was meant for SO much more than the life I was living, yet everywhere I turned to find a ‘logical’ out…I hit a dead end.

The truth is, I was looking in all the wrong places and I didn’t know…what I didn’t know.

Imagine being in school trying to figure out a math problem only you have absolutely no idea what you don’t know, so you don’t even know what kinds of questions to ask.

Yep…when you are feeling stuck in life, it’s kind of like that.

You wiggle and squirm and do what you can…logically, but sometimes what you need to do isn’t logical at all.  Sometimes what you need to do has everything to do with stepping out on faith and trusting yourself and the process.

I learned that the hard way.

And you know what?  Sometimes you just need to ask for help.

Fact: Being STUCK is not a sign that there is something wrong with you.

Fact: Being STUCK is simply a message that it’s time for you to step-up and grow…that’s it.

Feeling stuck is a symptom that is meant to make you stop, ask for help and make some changes that will transform your life for the better…guaranteed.

And if you are currently feeling a bit disheartened and stuck in the rut of life right now, I have an opportunity for you that you won’t want to miss!

Introducing: Break Free From Stuck: Group Edition

LOST

For the last 8 months or so, I’ve been working with women 1:1 in this 4-week program to help them shift the mindset stuff that has them spinning their wheels.  I’ve helped them see exactly what has them stuck (it’s usually not what they think it is) and armed them with the tools they need to clear the junk and move forward with more passion, inspiration, and freedom than ever before.  Simply put, I’ve helped these women get out of STUCK and into FREEDOM in just 30 days!

In that time I felt a calling to offer this in a group forum to help even more women and it’s all starting February 1st!!!

This 6-week journey includes weekly support, bi-weekly group calls, loads of tips, tools, and strategies, as well as an opportunity to energetically clear what has you stuck the most right now and so much more!

Honestly, is there any better way to begin the year than to take massive action that will set the stage for more freedom and flow in your life for 2016?

If you’re interested in what the program entails and you are dying to know how to register (PSST! There’s an early bird offer WITH a bonus that expires soon, so hop on over and check it out!), you can find out more by hitting the button below. I can’t wait to see you there!

TELL ME MORE!

2016: Your Year to Get Actionable!

by

Like many people, you probably said that 2016 was going to be YOUR year and that it would be the year that everything changes, right?

I believe you.  I know that to be true for you and so many other people, but only if you do this one very important thing.

You must get actionable.  In the video below I share what that means and how you can ensure your year not only starts off strong, but finishes strong too!

 

So, what are you waiting for friends?  Get started!

Passion & Purpose: How to find and live both

by

MY VACATION(2)

For as long as I can remember, I have known that traditional ‘life’ didn’t make much sense and in my heart I knew that the way we had been taught to live…was just one big misunderstanding about how life is supposed to be.

You see, it didn’t make sense to me that I had to just pick a course of study and commit my life to it so I could be an adult and be responsible.  Despite it not making any sense, I picked something I thought I’d like to do (exercise science) and went on my merry way.

When I graduated, I did what many people did when they graduated.  I got a job that had nothing to do with my degree.  In fact it was likely the furthest thing away from what I was ‘trained’ to do that it didn’t make any sense.  I was an office assistant.

It was in that job that I learned a lot about myself, my path, and how so many other people live in what they thought was the ‘normal’ way.

Does this sound familiar?

You study, get a degree, and then hop on the first job out of college.  You commit yourself to working your way up, provided the gig is something worthwhile and it’s not too terrible.  You may not be happy, but you find yourself on a path to abundance and better job titles if you can just hang in there.  You build a life and a career based on the discomfort that everyone else feels right? 

Work is supposed to be work and only a lucky few actually enjoy the jobs they do.  If you don’t hate your job (even if you don’t love it) you consider yourself lucky.  Yet…all the while something feels like it’s missing.  Some cosmic piece of your personality, your psyche, your joy is fundamentally missing from the very foundation that you have built your life on.  Who are you to complain though right?  I mean SO many people don’t even have jobs and you do.  So, you ignore the discomfort and vow to take fun vacations and save for the future when you can finally do the things that you love.

That is exactly what I was taught and for a brief moment in time, I believed that was going to be my life.  Until, I decided that I wasn’t cut out for that kind of living or just merely surviving.

I knew I was a creative soul with big dreams, interests, and a desire to make a difference.  I didn’t know how I would do it.  I didn’t even know where to look, but one thing I knew for sure was that I was meant for more than what I was currently doing.

That was also the moment I vowed to follow my heart and find my passion and truly live my purpose.  It is also the experience that taught me how to help other people in similar shoes do exactly the same thing.

What I now know is that we aren’t put here to just struggle through life doing things we hate.  We are actually meant to be happy, to overcome struggles, and to do the things we love.  It is what drives many of us everyday in the search.

If the above illustration speaks to your soul and you find yourself searching for the missing link in your life, I have a gift for you.  A brief 30-minute audio that will give you actionable steps to find and finally live your passion and purpose in this life.  I guarantee, your purpose is closer to you than you think.

Click the button below to access the audio and feel free to come back to share your thoughts!

Download your FREE audio HERE