Lamisha Serf-Walls

For when you are feeling lost in life…

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If you are feeling lost in life, this message is for you…

 

I’ve been thinking a lot about my journey that has allowed me to do the amazing work I do helping people who are feeling a bit lost in life.

Thinking back, I remembered that it wasn’t always so “great”.  In fact, there were MANY times when I thought I would never get to do any of the things I get to do daily.

There were times when I never imagined I’d have the ability and opportunity to work from home, build a thriving business, be available for my son in whatever way he needs, and still be able to contribute to my family.

Honestly, there were times when I wasn’t able to do all those things and I wondered if those dreams would ever come true.  Eventually, they did.

 

  • I remember times when I wanted to simply throw in the towel because the road was rough and all I could see was what was directly in front of me….a near empty bank account, no clients, no hope, and bills that needed to be paid.

 

  • I remember having really difficult conversations with my wife about how I just KNEW this could/would work if I had a bit more time because I could feel the desire and passion and I knew that couldn’t be wrong.

 

  • I remember wondering what the next steps were because I had literally tried everything that others were doing and none of it was working for me.

 

I was lost, scared, broke, broken, and tired.  

 

But…I had a dream, a desire, and a purpose that was much bigger than all those feelings that simply wouldn’t let me slink away and lick my wounds.  I had to keep getting up and trying again.

Was it easy? Nope.
Was it swift? Not always.
Was it worth it.  Hell YES!

Each time I got up and “tried again” I learned something new.

I learned to empower my mindset more everyday.  I learned to listen to my intuition and act on those ideas immediately.  I learned to take action after action after action and surrender when needed.  I also learned when to slow down and lean back when I was too attached to the outcome.  I learned to find my flow and always honor my truth.  I learned to ask for help and implement the help that was given.

But above and beyond all of that, I learned that everything I desire to be, have, and do is mine for the creating. 

And the same is true for you.

I know that there are many of you who feel lost, confused, and frustrated about where you are in your lives and you just want the blueprint, the map, and the guide to get you moving forward.

Some of you are feeling stuck about what you want, where to go, or how to break free from the limiting beliefs and circumstances that have haunted you for way too long.

And I get it.  I’ve been there.  But, I also know that YOU have the power to change your situation and at times that means taking what feels like a “risk”.

  • Doing something that scares you.
  • Taking action that feels right, but doesn’t necessarily “look” right.
  • Asking for support when you are usually the one giving support.
  • Investing money in yourself that to others seems “frivolous”.

No matter where you are or what you desire, you always have a choice and opportunity to make those desires a reality.

If fact, if you were looking for ONE thing to focus on at this very moment that would transform all areas of your life in amazing ways it would be to do the MINDSET WORK.

Shifting my mindset and learning mindset hacks to deal with worry, doubt, frustration, and feeling stuck has been paramount in my journey and the work I do with my clients.

It is at the core of everything we do and IT WORKS.

So, if you had one choice to make today that would move you forward on your path…get your mindset back on track. 

And if you need support in identifying what exactly is going on in that beautiful mind of yours and you want to explore what working with me is like, I invite you to schedule a free 30-minute consultation. 

 

You might also be interested in the HeadCase Program: 1:1 Coaching for Mindset Mastery that includes:

  • 7-45 minute sessions
  • Unlimited video messaging support
  • Incredible transformations in your life that you didn’t think were possible
  • FREE copy of my 21-Day Expansion Experiment Guidebook for additional support

Investment: $777 (Note: This program will soon become part of my signature offerings and the rate will be going up to $997)

The struggle doesn’t last forever, but you DO have to choose something different and you can start here. This is your chance to choose a different story.

What does your new story include?  You get to decide.

4 Things Holding You Back From Greatness

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If there is one thing I know it’s what it feels like to be held back…mostly by myself.

You see, on this journey of mine, I’ve been a PRO at getting in my own way of success and expansion and at one point I had done it so gloriously that even after knowing what I was meant to do (coaching/writing/teaching etc) I stalled my progress for 3 years!!!

(Just the thought of where I might be now had I started earlier, still haunts me sometimes.)

When I look back on those moments I can see so clearly the exact things that were holding me back and stopping me from taking even the tiniest step forward.

Funny enough, they are also the things I see within my clients and it may be something you’re struggling with too.

If you’ve been feeling a bit stifled in your journey and you’re not quite sure what’s got you stuck, keep reading. I think you will find the info below really helpful.

4 Things that may be holding you back from greatness.

1. Your past.  I can’t tell you how many times I hear people share with me how they can’t move forward on their path because their mom/sister/brother/spouse doesn’t support them ( or insert some other limiting story of the past). We all have a past and many of us have really painful, awful, sometimes tragic situations that have happened in our past that have been hard to overcome. I get it because I have one of my own and for a long time, I allowed it to hold me back. (Of course I didn’t know it at the time.)

When you are constantly revisiting your past in order to in some way validate where you are today, you are limiting yourself in a huge way. I am in no way trying to minimize what you have been through or the healing and care necessary to move through that, but what I am saying is that there is another way.

Your past can become the foundation that you build your future upon or it can become your resting place. You choose.

The more you give those past experiences your attention, the less power you have over your NOW. To be honest, this is a big reason I decided to go into coaching as opposed to therapy work. Don’t get me wrong therapy was a God-send for me many times, but at some point you have to shift your focus to what you are working toward and stop giving your power away to the things that have happened.

2. Analysis paralysis. Many people who are holding themselves back don’t have an issue with what to do, they have an issue with what to choose.

They spend hours, days, months, and even YEARS pondering what they should do next. Every thought seems to be followed with doubt, lack of confidence, and a general lack of clarity and momentum. They think, doubt, wonder, worry, and go through the cycle again without ever taking action.

They wonder things like…Which is the “right” way to go? How do I know if it will “work”? What should I do? What if I make the wrong move?

Again, I get it. I’ve been there and for 2+ years I delayed starting my soul’s work because I was overwhelmed with all the things. I didn’t know which way to turn or what to do. I doubted myself and even when I thought I had “decided” to do something, I couldn’t quite make it click because the doubt was within ME. I was afraid of moving forward more than I was afraid of staying where I was. So, round and round I went and it’s the same cycle I see many people in.

The answer? DO something. Make a list of all the things you can do to move you forward and pick one. The next day…do the same thing. Eventually you will get so used to taking (imperfect) action that it won’t be scary anymore.

3. Mind gremlins. I don’t have to tell you much about these because you probably already know them pretty well. The thing about mind gremlins (as I call them) is we ALL have them. I don’t care who you are or how far you’ve come. From time-to-time we all have that little voice in our head that causes us to question our abilities.

If your mind gremlins are like mine, you may see images of past failures populating your mind reminding you of just how tough it’s been and how you’ve “never” done anything like this before. Or maybe you hear your mom or dad’s voice saying something about how creative people are never successful or that, art isn’t a real job or some other incredibly frustrating thing that applies to your path.

The truth is YOU have power of your mindset and only when you understand that (and actually do something to change it) will things start moving for you. And let me tell you, it can move pretty quickly once you begin.

If you feel like you’ve been held back for a long time, your mindset may be on autopilot but the moment you start questioning (and maybe even responding to) the thoughts in your head, everything will change. I promise. So, take some time to take stock of the things you are thinking and then start being intention with your thoughts. If you dedicate at least 15 minutes a day to thinking thoughts that support and uplift you, I promise you will begin to feel the difference sooner rather than later.

4. You don’t know what you want. Sounds a bit nuts when you think about it, but it’s true. You might be surprised to know that there are far more people in the world who have no idea what it is that they want in life simply because they don’t think they can have whatever “it” may be. I talk to people all the time who when asked “What is it that you really want?” they reply with “I don’t know.”

Unfortunately, while some people are focused on living their dream life, there are far more people struggling to even dream. They’ve been knocked down so many times that they can’t quite get back to that “anything is possible” feeling we all had as children because they are so focused on being realistic.

Screw REALISTIC!

If you know anything about me you know realistic isn’t in my vocabulary. I despise the thought of anyone simply being “realistic” and settling for less than they desire and deserve. In fact, I’ve made it my mission in life to help people NOT be realistic and to actually give themselves permission to want what they want.

So, if YOU are one of those people living in “reality” and settling for whatever life throws your way, I beg you to reconsider and take a moment to ignite that inner child within you and go PLAY in your imagination a bit. If this is the thing holding you back, I want you to practice thinking outside the box for the next week. Daydream, journal, search exotic jobs and places on the internet, or follow that thread of creativity within you that has been whispering for sometime. Lean into it and see what bubbles to the surface. You may just find a whole treasure trove of goodness that will set your soul on fire and send you moving forward faster than you thought possible.

I want to leave you with one final thought in all of this.

STUCK isn’t forever and if you’ve been feeling like you have been chasing your tail for too long and you’re not sure when or how to make it stop…ask for help.

That is one of the things I waited too long to do. In fact, I waited a full 2 years (in my business) before I ever hired someone to support me. Now, it’s second nature to me.

You don’t have to do this alone and it doesn’t have to be hard.

Reach out. Ask for help. Believe in yourself. Get curious. Lean into the process.

When you do that, magic happens.

I know because I’ve been in your shoes.

So here’s the deal, if you’ve been struggling with 1 (or more) of the things above then my 6-week 1:1 program is what you need to shake the cobwebs loose and get you a plan of action forward again. It includes 3-45 minute coaching sessions and 6 weeks of unlimited guidance and support through video messaging and email for $597.

If you want to find out if we are a good fit to work together, hit the link below and let’s get you scheduled for a chat.

Your future is waiting for you.

YES! Help me break FREE!

Aligned Action + Your BIG Vision

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Happy Thursday friends!

It’s been awhile since I last posted and I’m happy to be back!

Today I want to talk to you about Aligned Action + Your BIG Vision and why that is so important.

If you’re like me, you probably already know what you want in life.  You can see it pretty clearly in your mind, but when it comes to actually doing it…well that may be a different story.

You see MOST people are pretty clear on what they want, but are less clear on the action piece.

It’s time to get crystal clear on what your aligned action is and how to do it consistently!

Are your actions in alignment with your desires?

If after watching the video above you realized your actions are not in fact in alignment with your desires and you need a bit of support and accountability to help you, I want to chat with you!

For a very limited time, I am offering a 6-Week Shot Coaching Program that will give you a quick shot of coaching, mindset work, accountability, clarity, and a plan of action to continue to use beyond our work together.

What you get…

  • 3- 45 Minute Coaching Sessions to do the deep work
  • 6 Weeks of email and video messaging for support between calls
  • Unlimited daily support for accountability, questions, challenges that pop up, and anything else you need support around
  • A plan of action for moving forward beyond our work together

Your investment: $597

So, if this is something you’re interested in exploring, I encourage you to hit the link below to schedule a FREE-30 Minute Consultation so we can see if we are a good fit.  I can’t wait to chat with you!

Book a free consultation here.

Your view is limited, your potential is not!

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If I asked you to think about your desires (be it money, fame, writing a book, building a business, creating a product, or just living happily ever after) and asked you to come up with a list of ways you *think* your desires would manifest…how many ways could you list?

Could you come up with 3?  How about 7? If you really stretched yourself, could you come up with 15???

If you’re like most people you probably would only be able to come up with a couple of logical ways your dreams could come true based on your current reality.

You’d probably look at your current bank account, financial status, background, personal history, and peruse your memory bank of past experiences to identify all the ways that your dreams would likely manifest.

And you’d be wrong.

One of the things I see holding people back more than anything else is their limited view of what is possible for them.

You see one of the things most of us have forgotten is just how powerful we really are.  We have somehow forgotten that we are indeed limitless.

It’s no wonder though with all the “lessons” we’ve been taught over the years right?

We’ve been taught from a very young age that if we want something to happen we must be realistic, logical, and we must first create a plan that we can use to make our dreams a reality.

We’ve been taught that “reality” rules everything and those of us who think outside the box and believe in the magical, miraculous, and seemingly impossible are mere fools.

But that’s now who we really are.

We are…

  • Limitless dreamers with the ability to manifest anything we desire
  • Powerful beyond belief and when we LIVE through that power, nothing is impossible
  • Only limited by our imagination and belief system

So, when you look at what is “possible” for you based on your current reality or vision, you are really just limiting yourself to what you can SEE.

But what about everything else?

What about the magic and wonder?  The synchronicities and serendipitous moments?  What about the chance meetings, powerful signs, and the opportunities and answers that we can’t quite explain other than they were just meant to be?

What about the things you can’t plan for?

Those who cling to their sacred schedules and are bound by their logic and control will very rarely taste the magic of FLOW. 

So, let me ask you this.  Are you willing to believe that there’s another, better, faster, more satisfying way for your dreams and desires to manifest?

Better yet, are you willing to believe there are thousands and that you needn’t worry about what they are.  All you need to do is be open, listen, and follow your intuition.

Can you do that?

I have to tell you, this has been one of my biggest life lessons as a recovering control freak because, historically, I haven’t really enjoyed the process of just “being” and “trusting”.  At first it made me feel crazy because I didn’t trust.

But now, I can tell you that even though there are times when I struggle to let go, when I do…life is amazing.

Miracles unfold beautifully and in ways I couldn’t have planned for.  Ways that are bigger, better, more exciting, and more enjoyable than I’d ever come up with!

So, if you’re finding yourself struggling as you bump up against your “reality” time and again, it might be time to look at why you’re limiting yourself.

Is it your view? Your beliefs? Something deeper?

Maybe it’s time to find out and work out a plan to fix it?

If it feels like a good fit for you, hit the link below and let’s have a chat about how I can support you with that because believe me, I know exactly how it feels.

Schedule free 30-minute consultation

Mindset Monday: Before you react…Consider this

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Happy Monday!

Picture this…It’s January 1st and you’ve done all the planning, creating, envisioning, and intention-setting for your year ahead and you KNOW that this is going to be YOUR year to up-level and take over the world (insert evil laugh).

You’ve done the dreaming and scheming, the visualizing and meditating and you know like you know like you know that THIS YEAR is just going to ROCK…starting on day 1 of the year.  NOTHING is going to get you down…until…something does.

Your well laid plans go awry and you get hit with what feels like a boulder right in the gut of your big dreams and see all the cards come tumbling down before your eyes.  Communications get mixed up, plans you set forth fall apart, and you crumble…at least that’s what it feels like.

You have 2 choices.  You can either REACT in a fit of fury, depression and very dramatic “WHY ME!” (and go down the rabbit hole that it brings) OR you can choose to respond to the situation and adjust your mindset according to what you want to create.

Which do you choose?

Hit the video below to find out which to choose and why. (I know it seems a bit obvious, but do me a solid and hit the link anyway.)

Does the story above sound a bit too dramatic for your liking?  Well, it is and it’s 100% TRUE.

In January that’s exactly what I went through only I didn’t make the best choice in the end.  Instead of responding to the situation, I totally (over) reacted and in turn created a 6-week cycle of doubt, fear, frustration, and found myself thinking the very dramatic thought that my business was going to end in 2017. (Insert eye roll- I’m a Leo, drama is what we do.)

Since then, I’ve been practicing the art of managing my mindset and emotions and sharing my best tips and tricks with my clients.  Let me tell you…it is LIFE-CHANGING.

When you know that YOU are in charge of creating the very experiences that unfold next based on your response, why NOT decide that regardless of how things appear, things are always working out for you?

I guarantee that is one of the most empowering and uplifting things you can do for yourself.  Give it a try and let me know how it goes!

Big love to you!

P.S. Are you interested in transforming your mindset to one that supports you in creating the very powerful vision you have for yourself?  If so, let’s chat.  I am opening 3 spots for my HeadCase Program for June at the original beta-rate of $777.  After those spots are officially filled, I won’t be taking anymore at that rate.

If you missed out on that program before, this is a 1:1 Mindset Transformation program that includes 7-45 minute coaching sessions over 7 weeks for $777 (which is roughly 1/2 off what it would normally be to work with me for that long.)

If you’re interested, simply hit the link below to get scheduled for a free consultation and include a note about the HeadCase Program in the notes section.

Book FREE 30-Minute Consultation HERE