Lamisha Serf-Walls

3-Simple Steps to Identify Your B.S. (aka Blind Spot)

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So, now that you know what a Blind Spot (B.S.) is, I thought it would be helpful for me to share with you a few tips on how you can identify your own.

While it isn’t always obvious when you are looking at your own life and experience, these three steps will help you get a handle on where your B.S. might be hiding.

Try it out and let me know what you come up with.  I promise while these steps are simple, the outcome paves the way for major clarity and growth so you can clear the blocks and move forward with ease and grace.

 

Have You Identified Your B.S. (It’s not what you think.)

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Hey Lovely!

I know you.

You’re the kind of woman who knows what she wants and has no problem making shit happen.  Your vision is clear and you are no stranger to putting in the effort to make your dreams come true.  That’s how you got to be where you are.

People look at you and are in awe.  Your power, energy, magic, and positive vibes make people come out of the woodwork to connect with you.

It’s no surprise really, I mean you exude success at every turn and people are taking notice.  You are a force to be reckoned with for sure and there are tons of people who admire you.  Truth be told, they want what you have so they can make that magic happen in their own lives.

Passion pours from your soul and whether you are writing, designing, coaching, crafting, singing, dancing, performing, selling, speaking, consulting, organizing, healing, teaching, or anything else that happens to be your gift, you are simply fantastic….

At least that’s how they see it right?

But you and I know the truth, we know the WHOLE story.

Beyond the magic, miracles, success, drive, passion, and purpose there is something that you just don’t want to think about (let alone discuss with your admirers).

It’s the challenge that keeps rearing its ugly head no matter what you do.

That area of your life that can at times cause you to forget about all of the other amazing things that you bring to the table because that one thing is off.  And try as you might, you have not been able to tick that box.

You’ve read the books, repeated the affirmations, and maybe even tried to wrestle that damn thing to the ground, but to no avail.

You know what I call that?

That my dear, is your BLIND SPOT (or rather a symptom of your blind spot) and before you worry your pretty little head about it, I want you to know that we all have one (or two or three).

Your Blind Spot is the thing you can’t quite see that is holding you back.

Have you ever wondered why life coaches have their own coaches?  It’s because of that dreaded Blind Spot.

When you are immersed in your own life or business, you are simply too close to see what you are unconsciously saying, doing, believing, etc. and you likely aren’t aware of what is holding you back.  And knowing what isn’t working in your life or business (i.e. the symptom) is the first step in identifying and clearing your Blind Spot.

The truth is this: Our Blind Spots bull shit us. 

They make us believe we aren’t good enough in some capacity and can leave us feeling frustrated, sad, angry, and at times worthless which causes us to ignore our greatness.

Tell me this: What is your Blind Spot costing you?

Happiness? Money? Clients? Bliss? Your dreams? Love? Romance? Adventure? Time?

Is it worth it?

I can tell you from experience it’s not.  Life is too short to go on with a block that can be illuminated and cleared with a bit of assistance.

Lucky for you, I am the Blind Spot Expert and have recently been through my own clearing that has taught me some amazing lessons that I will be sharing with you along with information on how I can help you identify and clear your own Blind Spot.

But for today I want to know this:

What is that thing that isn’t working in your life or business and what is it costing you right now? (I’ll give you a hint.  It’s the first thing that you thought of when you read that line.)

Share your answer in the comments below.  We are in this together because I guarantee we all have one! Let’s get it out in the open so we can clear it and take your life, your business, and your dreams to amazing new heights!

Epic Birthday Winners!!!

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Balloons and star shaped confetti

Before I announce the winners I want to thank everyone that signed up for the first (soon to be annual) Epic Birthday Giveaway!  This was a ton of fun for me to give away some amazing gifts as a way to celebrate not only my birthday, but also the birthday of my business.

(The winners were selected using a random number generator so everything was fair and square.)

The Winners Are:

Follow Your Heart Bracelet– Kasey Karstetter

Warrior Love Journal– Viviana Medel 

Accounting for the Solopreneur eCourse– Ana Goncalves

Copywriting Mastermind Session- Katy Henry

Dreamwork Healing Session- Kaiti Penrod

30-Minute Rock Star Reading- Jo Crisp

1-Hour Coffee Break Creativity Coaching– Petra Monaco

How to Find Friends That Rock Your Socks eCourse- Kenetha Stanton

Personalized Aluminum Bracelet- Lucinda Button

New Moon Ceremony eCourse- Polly Oliver 

Full Moon Ceremony eCourse- Sonja Duncan

 Love Up Your Wallet & Purse and Increase Your Money Mojo Mini eCourse- Masha Korostil

1- Hour Blissful Breakthrough Coaching Session- Kim Kohler

 

Congratulations to all the winners!! Each winner will be contacted directly to claim their gift.

It’s Time To Come Clean…

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Vortex-ClarityI seem to be in the remedial school of life these days, learning and re-learning lessons that I thought I had mastered long ago (ok well some of them might be a few months old, but who’s counting?).  Last week I was going through a particularly emotional lesson and now I have reached the sunrise or clarity portion of that lesson.

Here’s what I have learned.

  • I have the POWER to create the life and reality of my dreams.  I believe in that so much that I built a business around this exact idea.  In fact it’s not an idea, but instead a truth.  A truth that applies to you too.  YOU have the power to create whatever it is you want.  You just have to decide what you want, hold the intention, and take inspired action.
  • I may not have the skills and connection that others have, but that does not discount my abilities to do the work I love.  I have unique abilities that allow me to connect to and with the exact people I should be connecting with.  Our differences are beautiful and our gifts are unique.  It’s what makes this world amazing.  And being my true authentic self is the best (and truly the only) way to serve my clients.  This article shares my lesson on being the authentic expert.
  • The intuitive guidance that led me to my business was not wrong and it is the same intuitive guidance that I have been discounting for the past few months.  Sure, there are many things I still need to learn, but if something doesn’t sit right with me intuitively, it’s not for me.  I’m ok with that and you should be too.
  • I am surrounded by amazingly talented women who are doing incredible things in the world.  I support them, uplift them, and celebrate their magnificence and I know that their brilliance has no effect on what I am doing or not doing.  Their success doesn’t cause my demise and vice versa.  We are connected. Period.  And the success of one creates a vortex of power for others.
  • When I am in my power, standing in my truth, and sharing who I really am, I have more of an impact on those around me.  This post is a perfect example of how passion, purpose, and authenticity can come together to create an amazing inspirational energy that can’t be denied.
  • I also know that this very moment with all of its lessons is completely perfect.  I am living the life of my dreams and everyday I am closer to more expansion, creation, and success.  The key to all of that is inspired action.  And the inspiration behind the action comes from intuition.  You have it too, so stand in that power and trust your gut to tell you who to hire, what to do, and where to go.
  • Last but not least, I am uncovering more and more of who I really am which is allowing me to reach more women, inspire change, and support the dreams of others.  This life of mine is amazing! Not because of money, numbers, or crazy success.  Not at all.  It’s amazing because I am doing what I love, making a difference, and learning lessons along the way.

Should you find yourself going through lessons you thought you learned, never fear.  A perfect life is not without lessons.   A ‘perfect’ life is the life you are living right now with lessons, love, connection, dreams, and a lot of growth. 

If you are ready to step into your power to create the amazing life or business of your dreams, now is the time to follow your calling.  I have opened up a few spots for my 1-Month Jump Start program for July 2014 that will get you moving in 30 days or less. 4 sessions in 4 weeks = major progress.  This offer expires June 30th so if you want in on this incredibly affordable and powerful opportunity, you can sign up here.

Laying Down the Mask and Other News

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There are so many faces we can choose to show the world and often our online face is the most positive, brilliant, and empowering face of all.  But I am realizing more and more that showing your true colors through all the ups and downs of life is what really allows us to connect, commune, and truly support one another.  Just a few days ago I shared this on Facebook.

“Authenticity and vulnerability win out every.single.time. On days like today I remember that I don’t have to have it all together, slap on a smile, and pretend like I don’t have bad days, lazy days, or days when I’m not quite sure what the next step is. I don’t have to know it all, do it all, or learn it all right now to keep going. I don’t have to be the supreme, holier than thou coach to be of service to others. Nor do I have to get my hands all in the clay to end up with a masterpiece. On days like today, I can rest, relax, and give myself a day to just ‘BE’ and you can too. “

What I was going through in the moment was simply a day of  ‘Meh’ and feeling a little guilty about it.  The Dream Crushers were beginning to swarm and just as they were coming in for the kill, I realized I had a choice.  I could simply be with the feelings, share them with my tribe, and try again tomorrow or I could try and power through, fighting the feelings I was having only to create more resistance and frustration.  I chose the first of the two.  More specifically, I took a nap and gave myself a break.

The truth is, I have these moments far more than I usually share with you and while I am not trying to ‘hide’ them, I prefer to share the inspirational posts and

photo credit: Simon & His Camera via photopin cc
photo credit: Simon & His Camera via photopin cc

high moments with you. (Don’t we all?)  But, in doing that I am leaving out a HUGE piece of the story…my story, not to mention my expertise.

You see, I’m not just a life coach.  I’m a mother and now a wife and with that comes a whole barrel of extra challenges, insights, and opportunities to share with you what I know, experience, and learn so you can learn from it too.  It also gives me an opportunity to be real with you.  To show you that life happens no matter what you do, but when you are doing what you love, you CAN support a family, have time together, and experience the FREEDOM that comes with creating the life of your dreams. 

It is possible!

So, I want you to know that you aren’t alone and you certainly don’t have to travel this road without support.  You can reach out to other business owners, mothers, wives, parents, friends, colleagues, and you can be REAL.  You don’t have to wear the mask of ‘happy’ all the damn time because that is what people expect.

We are all human with good days and bad and I assure you that the only way it will hold you back, is if you fail to keep on keepin’ on.  Show the ups and downs.  Share them with your tribe.  Let people get to know YOU…all of you.  That is how we connect with one another in the truest, deepest way.  That is how we learn from one another and truly support each other and know without a shadow of a doubt that we are all connected.

Together, we are entering new territory.  Moving forward what I share with you will be more authentic, more balanced (with lessons, ups and downs, etc.) and my hope is that it will touch your heart in a way to inspire action for you to do that thing you have always wanted.  Start the business, write your book, and share your expertise with the world.

Now is the time!

In that same vein of authenticity, I want to tell you about a change I am making.  Last week I shared with you a vlog about my upcoming group coaching program.  As I moved further into this week, I had some feelings come up about the program and have decided to postpone the start of the program by about a month.  While I still wholeheartedly believe in the program and know that it is going to be magnificent, I wanted to take a bit of extra time to dig a little deeper and create even more goodness for you.  I wanted to take some of the lessons I have learned in the last few weeks and infuse them into the program so they are ready to go for you.  I also think the timing of it all was a bit off, so I am waiting.

And with that I am not judging myself for waiting.  I am consciously making a choice to produce better content, better information, and a more rounded program for you because you deserve that.  I want you to know without a shadow of a doubt starting today that this is the program for you.  That you are not alone on your path and there are other women in the world (myself included) who have fears, doubt, confusion, and frustration about business and while others may only show you the power, joy, free-flowing happiness, I want to show it all.

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Like these flowers we are all connect in our journey even while having slightly different experiences to share.

My words for this year were Show Up and that is what I am doing, with ALL of me.  The good days, the bad days, and everything in between.  So, I hope you will continue to follow along in this authentic journey and as we get closer to the start of the Group Coaching for Business-Minded Women in July, I hope you will be ready to join us in an amazing and uplifting journey.  A journey that includes ups, downs, and in betweens that we are all experiencing whether we choose to show it all or not.

I have also made some changes to the 1 month Jump Start coaching program.  It is still a 1 month program, however instead of 2 coaching calls, I am now offering 4 coaching calls for the same $347 investment.  This program is a great way to get a taste of what working with me is really like while still making progress toward your dream.  This is not an accelerated program as much as it is a great first step for anyone who is interested in coaching but isn’t sure they want to commit to a 3-month program just yet.  What is better than that is that by doubling the number of sessions you get in the 1 month program, you are getting 4 sessions for a really great deal.  If you are interested in getting started, hop on over and sign up for your 30 minute consultation and grab your spot to begin in June.  Since this program includes 4 weekly sessions, I am limiting how many I can take for June to 10 clients so if you are interested let me know asap.

With that said, I hope you have a magnificent long weekend and do something fun and as always thanks for reading!

<3 Lamisha