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5 Things You Need To Create A Life You LOVE

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Everyone wants a life they love right?

But, how many are actually willing to do the work that is required to make that life a reality?

Far too many people are sitting on the sidelines, wishing, waiting, and wondering when their time will come.

If you are one of those people-today is your day, but you have to be willing to do just a few things to create a life you love.

Below are 5 things you absolutely need to do to create a life you love.

  • Get honest with yourself.  Take an honest inventory of your current life and look at what is working really well and what isn’t.  Don’t just pigeon hole yourself into one area of your life.  Look at everything.  See how well your self-care is doing, your health, relationships, career, family life, hobbies, etc.  How are your finances? How are you feeling most of the time?  Take an honest look at it all and figure out where you want to make improvements that will make you FEEL better.  How you feel is the key to this inventory and make sure you don’t ignore what IS working.  That is incredibly important as we always need to see that there are things that are working in our lives.

 

  • Learn to say ‘no’.  As women this can be a difficult one.  We are naturally service-oriented and want to help, nurture, and care for others, many times leaving whatever is left for ourselves.  We will make sacrifices to no end and happily put others before ourselves even if that means we are doing things we really don’t want to do. Learning to say no is imperative to making sure you are focusing on things that light you up and keep your cup full.  If your cup isn’t full, you have nothing left to give anyone else.

 

  • Start small.  As they say: Rome wasn’t built in a day and neither is your dream life.  Don’t start making big swooping changes in every area of your life as it can be quite jarring and can create a ton of anxiety and overwhelm.  Start small with implementing more of what you truly love and enjoy.  Remember to focus on the things that make you feel good.  The more you do that, the easier the transition and changes will be.  As a side note if you were going to start anywhere first, I’d start with your mindset because your mindset is EVERYTHING.

 

  • Dare to take risks.  Once we reach a certain age, we tend to get comfortable with our lives even if they aren’t exactly how we want them to be.  We allow our comfort zone to become like a cocoon wrapping over us and keeping us safe from harm and disappointment.  But, all those things you desire for your dream life are right outside your cocoon.  You can’t get to them when you are all wrapped up.  You have to be willing to break free from your comfort zone and take risks every now and then.  Start now, write down 3 things that are a bit scary that will take you out of your comfort zone and will help create a life you love.

 

  • Take action.  This one seems a bit obvious, but there are so many women out there who know exactly what they need to do, but they aren’t.  Maybe it’s fear, worry, anxiety, or just plain procrastination that keeps them paralyzed, but they just aren’t moving in the direction they know they want to go.  It isn’t until we work together and they have the accountability and push that they really begin moving forward.  If you are one of these people, stop stalling and get busy!  Take action now.  Your dream life depends on it.

So there you have it.  5 things you need to do in order to create a life you love.  Which will you start with this weekend?

If you are looking for some support during this process to help you stay in action or to take the risks you need to move you forward, I’d love to chat with you more about it.  I have a few spots open in the coming weeks for you to schedule a FREE 30-Minute Consultation. Simply click the button below to get signed up.

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It can all change in an instant…

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photo credit: 很喜欢直接从树干上长出来的花朵， via photopin (license)

Growing up I was keenly aware of the fact that life could change instantly, only then I expected it to change for the worse.  I was leery of moments that felt too good because it seemed like there was always something lurking around the corner ready to knock me off my high horse of happiness.

In fact, I grew so accustomed to seeing the bad things in life that I tried to plan for them before they ever happened.  You know the saying  “Plan for the worst, but hope for the best?”  Well I planned for and expected the worst and generally got it.

Looking back it’s a bit sad because while I had moments where I dreamed of it all working out the way I truly wanted it to, I never trusted that it could.

It took many years of growth, mindset work, and persistence to get to a place where I no longer expect the worst.  I now know that I get what I expect, thanks to my understanding of the Law of Attraction.

I am in a space in my life now where I know that everything can change for the better in an instant, but only if you are truly in the right frame of mind.

Everything we deal with in life is temporary.  The rain, sunshine, and cloudy days are all temporary and the same goes for the tough times.

There have been moments in the last year when my business wasn’t doing so well and I momentarily got stuck into my old way of thinking.  But, the moment I let go of that story and remembered that it could all change in the matter of one second, I lightened up.

I hold onto that thought to this day and I am always delighted to see how things change instantly for the better.

I want you to think about your life right now.  What are you struggling with?  In what ways are you expecting the worst and getting it?

What if you shifted your thoughts and remembered one simple fact that could change your life for the better?

It can all change in an instant, for the better so you better be prepared.

Having financial trouble that you just can’t quite see a way out of?

Hate your job, but don’t see any way out of it?

Living a life that is less than you desire, yet you don’t know what to do to move forward?

All of that can change in an instant and the good news is you don’t have to know how it will right now.  Simply know this to be true and follow your heart when the how appears.  That’s it!

Trust me when I say I have lived on both sides of this coin and knowing that everything can shift in a matter of seconds is an amazing feeling that provides hope for your future.

If you are looking for an opportunity to shift your mindset and begin taking steps to truly create the life you’ve always wanted, then hiring a coach may be your ‘how’.  I’m inviting you to schedule a free 30-minute consultation to chat about your situation and see if we are a good fit.  I have some exciting new ways to work with me coming up and I’d love to give you the inside scoop on our call.

Are you ready to change your life for the better?

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What message are you sending?

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You all know I am a BIG believer and teacher of the Law of Attraction and along with that comes the understanding that every thing we think and feel gets communicated as vibration.

We attract back to us what we send out and that is why our mindset, thoughts, feelings, self-talk etc. are SO important when we are manifesting the life of our dreams.

Garbage in=garbage out.

What you think about yourself and your life, you experience in your reality.

The concept is easy, but what happens when we start sending mixed signals to the Universe/God/Source (whatever you want to call it)?

You get mixed results.

You have to be super clear about what you want and make sure that your beliefs, thoughts, and experiences reflect those things.

I’ll give you an example.

Say you run a business and you have just raised your rates because you know you are worth more than what you currently charge.  You set your monthly goal higher and tell the Universe in very clear language…I am ready to charge what I am worth.

The Universe responds and sends you clients who are used to you charging your older rates.

You feel stuck and uncomfortable sharing the new rates so you give them your ‘old rate’ because…you need the money.

You’ve just sent a mixed message that could result in you getting only clients that are willing to pay your older rates or people that complain about your raised rates.

BUT…

What if you charged your new rates and that client couldn’t afford you?  I’ll tell you what happens.  You clearly define what you are worth and the Universe responds by sending you another client that is happy to pay your current (raised) rates.

Another example…

What if you want to manifest some additional money and are open to how it might flow to you.

But, when you are presented with some opportunities to make some extra cash doing what you love…you turn it down or decide to do it for free?

You might have a belief that it’s hard to make money or that when you do what you love you should only do it for free.

If so, you are sending mixed signals and pushing money away.

It’s not our job to determine HOW things will manifest…it is only our job to be clear about what we want and to take inspired action when the time is right.

If your manifestations are a bit mixed and aren’t exactly what you are looking for, it might be time for a check in.  What messages are you sending the Universe right now? Are they clear?

Action step: Take a look at all of your goals for the last month and the actions you have taken to get you to those goals.  Are your intentions and actions in alignment with each other?  If not, make some changes and ensure that you are sending crystal clear messages about what you desire.  When you do, your manifestations are not only faster, but are more of what you DO want and less of what you don’t.

We have 2 weeks left of February before my Breakthrough program pricing goes up.  If you have been thinking about coaching and are interested in what it can do for you, schedule your 30-Minute Consultation today.  March 1st things are changing for the better and I am announcing a new and exclusive VIP program that is limited to a select few people per year! (Can you tell I’m excited???)

The Truth About Living the Life of Your Dreams

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photo credit: DayDreaming via photopin (license)

When I talk about living the life of your dreams, it comes with a certain spark and twinkle about what may be.  Having a beautiful life full of amazing people, love, abundance, joy, and for me a career that I adore doing what I love.  But, something I don’t often talk about is the not so sparkly stuff…you know the ‘life’ stuff.

I may have set up a pre-conceived notion that when you finally attain the life of your dreams then life is nothing but rainbows and sunshine.  That money flows, your health is amazing, and your love life-well it’s better than ever before.  And while yes that may be part of your story, it’s not all made up of rainbows and sunshine.

The truth is…shit happens.

I was reminded of this fact just last week.

My internet was down, my modem died, my dryer wasn’t working properly, and I ended up late to a client appointment because I mis-read my schedule…all on the same day.

The old me would have pitched a fit, complained, and made an annoying situation even worse by turning it into a bad day.

The new-growing-living-and-learning-me responded differently.

I handled all of the glitches with as much ease as I could and then I took the rest of the day off.

I like to think that I am living the life of my dreams.  I am doing work I love, from home, and I have a beautiful family that I love with all my heart.  Sure I have new goals and big things I want to accomplish this year and I know I will, but for now, I’m happy.

The difference between my pre-dream life living and now is that I used to allow my outer circumstances dictate how I think and feel about everything. 

I am growing in that way because now I don’t do that nearly as often.  Sure, there are times when I forget and have a moment or two where my vision is blurred and I react as opposed to respond to life, but I am still learning.

So, why am I telling you all this?

I’m telling you because there are SO many wonderful changes that come with living the life of your dreams aside from the ‘stuff’.  Your mental shifts are worth more than the money, the house, the car, the job etc.  Your mental shifts are incidentally what help you create the life of your dreams and help you when shit happens afterward.

In addition to ‘having it all’, you will:

  • Learn to respond to life in a loving way
  • Enjoy life so much more even with the ups and downs
  • Know that when shit happens, it doesn’t last forever
  • Be the example for others to do the same

And when I think back to those very important details about living this life, I find them to be far more valuable than the ‘stuff’.

There is so much to be gained in living the life of your dreams and if you aren’t currently living a life you love, what are you willing to change?

0001-23099893I currently have 2 spots left in my Breakthrough Program for February!  This is my signature program that will not only shift your mindset, but help you create the life you’ve always wanted.  If you’ve been thinking about how to take the next step toward your dream life, this is it!

Schedule your 30-Minute Consultation today to see if we are a good fit.  I look forward to connecting with you!

 

What’s Too Good for YOU?

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So, I’ve been thinking a lot about manifesting and creating a life we love and I keep coming up against this common theme.  It’s something I remember thinking about a few years ago in a positivity training for a job I was working at the time.  We were given an exercise to think of our dream car.

As my fellow co-workers were scribbling away on their note cards, I was stumped. I didn’t have a dream car per se.  If it was reliable, had good gas mileage, and didn’t look too bad on the outside, it was a good option for me.  Up until that moment I’d never thought about what my dream car might be.

The facilitator apparently had come across this before and encouraged us to come up with our dream car regardless of how tough it might be.  Once I had an answer down (I don’t even remember at this point what that was), he asked a question that has stuck with me over the years.

What’s too good for you?

When we think about what we want in life, we often imagine what is ‘realistic’ and ‘logical’ for us based on what we know about our lives, income level etc.  When I was thinking of my dream car, a Rolls Royce didn’t quite match my vision.  In my mind that was something that was just too good for me.  (It also isn’t something I would want to drive now anyways.)

Several years later that question has come up in many conversations with clients.  Thinking of the life they would love to live, they begin using their logic to come up with what they desire.  When I tell them to throw logic to the wind, sometimes it’s still difficult to come up with the ideal life because there are things that just feel too good for them.

Why is that?

What is it about a life that feels amazing inside and out that scares us or causes us to pull back a bit?

Is it the fear of disappointment?

The thought we don’t deserve it?

Or maybe it’s just a matter of wondering if it’s possible to really have it all?

For so long we’ve been taught some messed up lessons about abundance, love, and living a happy life that we grow up thinking it’s only meant for some people, but certainly not us.

Lessons like: If you have love, be happy you have it because very few have love AND money.

We’ve been taught that it’s possible for a select few…the rich and famous, the extremely talented people that we see on television every day, but not little ‘ole us.

That’s a LIE.

We all have the same abilities to create and craft the amazing life of our dreams.  With love, abundance, success, joy, family, community, creativity, and freedom.  ALL OF US.

And as soon as you decide that you can have it all and that there is nothing too good for you, you will begin to see shifts happen almost instantly in your life. I promise.

This isn’t about having all the money in the world or driving the most expensive car.  This is about living a life that resonates with YOU.  That illustrates what is most important to you.  THAT is what the life of your dreams is about.

So, today I ask you…what’s too good for you to be, have, or do?

My answer? Nothing.

And if you are willing to make the decision to stand in your creative power to make your life all you have ever wanted, I have two things that may be of interest to you.

Add subtitle text(3)February 1st begins the Magical Manifesting journey where I will be taking a group of like-minded souls on a practical journey to tap into the creative manifesting power we all have within. To learn together, support one another, and to apply the Law of Attraction to craft and create the life of your dreams. 6-weeks together with amazing, magical results.  You can learn more about the program and get signed up here.

 

0001-23099893For those of you looking for a more 1:1 approach, I have a few spots left for my signature Breakthrough Program.  90-Days to dig into what you want and what’s holding you back while providing support as you take the steps you need to begin living the life of your dreams today.  You can learn more about that program and sign up for a free 30-minute consultation here.

There’s no reason to think that you have to settle for a life that doesn’t feel good.  I want to help more women like you show up and embrace the life you deserve and feel good about it.

Now is your time..are you ready?