Lamisha Serf-Walls

What to do when no one believes in you…

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I am currently about half way through our Miracle Mindset Immersion program and I have to tell you how amazing it is to watch these participants rocking their mindset work like the rock stars that they are!

Today I had a participant as me an incredibly powerful question that I think we all could learn from and it got me so fired up Facebook actually kicked me off of my live stream!

The question was: What do you do when no one believes in you?

The truth is what people believe or don’t believe to be true about you has nothing to do with YOU.

It has everything to do with THEM and the fear, anger, frustration, disappointment, and any other emotion that lies within them.  What they think and feel about YOU is a direct reflection of what the belief they are capable of doing.

HOWEVER…

It is also a direct reflection of what shifts need to occur within you to get back into alignment.  The truth is if you were 100% on your mindset game and you never once were fearful or worried or wondered if XYZ would work, you wouldn’t be in the same vibration to hear that someone doesn’t believe in what you are doing.  In fact, you’d be vibrating so high that even if they did feel that way, they’d never say anything to you AND they may actually shift their vibration because yours is so strong.

So, what do you do when someone doesn’t believe in you and who should you get help from instead????

Watch my latest LIVE stream on Facebook HERE to find out.

Check it out and let me know what you think!

Do you want to be truly happy? Do this!

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For far too many people ‘happiness’ is an ever-elusive future possibility.

With more money, love, success, adventure, ____(fill in the blank) we think we will have more joy and happiness in our lives, but I don’t believe that to be true.

What I now know, from many years of going against the grain of my own soul is that happiness is not only an inside job, but it requires a few key components…none of which you have to wait for.

You want to be truly happy?  Follow these simple steps.

  • Speak your truth.  Stop allowing others to stifle your essence as they tell you who to be and how to act.  Lean into your natural flow of living, breathing, and being and give yourself permission to speak your truth.  Know what you want out of life and go get it, unapologetically.  Stop following the herd and doing all the things everyone else is doing because you think you’re supposed to.  Find your truth and then live it, every.single.day.
  • Find your flow. I talk about this all the time with my clients and it’s SO important when it comes to being happy.  Finding your flow is all about leaning into what works for you.  Stepping into the path that while it might be a challenge is exciting, invigorating, and inspires you.  It’s about finding what you do naturally instead of following all the ‘traditional’ how-to guides.  Oh and one more thing…stop judging yourself for NOT ‘fitting in’ with the status quo.  You weren’t meant to fit in my dear…you were meant to find what works for you and do it beautifully.
  • Know what you want…then go get it.  Sounds simple enough right?  Unfortunately there are far too many people not willing to be honest with themselves about what it is they truly want out of life.  Speak it into reality.  Know it. Own it. Live it. Love it. And while you are at it…love YOURSELF.  

Without these 3 things, happiness will always feel just outside your reach.  The reality is that only YOU have the power to make yourself happy.  Don’t play victim to your circumstance any longer and allow yourself to be FREE knowing that you deserve to think, feel, and experience happiness every day.

And one more thing….

If the steps above feel a bit too difficult or you are rolling your eyes say ‘yeah right, that’s all you have to do!?’, hit the button below and let’s chat.

Your happiness is priceless and you shouldn’t be spending another minute living in uncertainty wondering when and if you will ever be happy.  Helping clients find it within themselves is my specialty, so let’s talk.

 

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Passion & Purpose: How to find and live both

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For as long as I can remember, I have known that traditional ‘life’ didn’t make much sense and in my heart I knew that the way we had been taught to live…was just one big misunderstanding about how life is supposed to be.

You see, it didn’t make sense to me that I had to just pick a course of study and commit my life to it so I could be an adult and be responsible.  Despite it not making any sense, I picked something I thought I’d like to do (exercise science) and went on my merry way.

When I graduated, I did what many people did when they graduated.  I got a job that had nothing to do with my degree.  In fact it was likely the furthest thing away from what I was ‘trained’ to do that it didn’t make any sense.  I was an office assistant.

It was in that job that I learned a lot about myself, my path, and how so many other people live in what they thought was the ‘normal’ way.

Does this sound familiar?

You study, get a degree, and then hop on the first job out of college.  You commit yourself to working your way up, provided the gig is something worthwhile and it’s not too terrible.  You may not be happy, but you find yourself on a path to abundance and better job titles if you can just hang in there.  You build a life and a career based on the discomfort that everyone else feels right? 

Work is supposed to be work and only a lucky few actually enjoy the jobs they do.  If you don’t hate your job (even if you don’t love it) you consider yourself lucky.  Yet…all the while something feels like it’s missing.  Some cosmic piece of your personality, your psyche, your joy is fundamentally missing from the very foundation that you have built your life on.  Who are you to complain though right?  I mean SO many people don’t even have jobs and you do.  So, you ignore the discomfort and vow to take fun vacations and save for the future when you can finally do the things that you love.

That is exactly what I was taught and for a brief moment in time, I believed that was going to be my life.  Until, I decided that I wasn’t cut out for that kind of living or just merely surviving.

I knew I was a creative soul with big dreams, interests, and a desire to make a difference.  I didn’t know how I would do it.  I didn’t even know where to look, but one thing I knew for sure was that I was meant for more than what I was currently doing.

That was also the moment I vowed to follow my heart and find my passion and truly live my purpose.  It is also the experience that taught me how to help other people in similar shoes do exactly the same thing.

What I now know is that we aren’t put here to just struggle through life doing things we hate.  We are actually meant to be happy, to overcome struggles, and to do the things we love.  It is what drives many of us everyday in the search.

If the above illustration speaks to your soul and you find yourself searching for the missing link in your life, I have a gift for you.  A brief 30-minute audio that will give you actionable steps to find and finally live your passion and purpose in this life.  I guarantee, your purpose is closer to you than you think.

Click the button below to access the audio and feel free to come back to share your thoughts!

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Why are you settling??? It’s time to break FREE.

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photo credit: Butterfly Abstract via photopin (license)
photo credit: Butterfly Abstract via photopin (license)

***Before I get into today’s post, I want to invite you to check out my latest article that has been a huge hit over at The Huffington Post titled : 6 Ways to Find Your Passion & Live Your Purpose. ***

Now for today’s post.

I’ve noticed something over the last few years and it’s really getting under my skin. In fact,  it has become so prevalent and obvious in the last few months I want to set the record straight

Somehow, we have become a culture that believes that while you can have a mostly awesome life, you can’t have everything you want no matter how how hard you try.

There are many people who have come to accept that if you have a fabulous career you love, your relationships have to suck.

OR If you have an amazing relationship, you can’t have all the riches your heart desires.

OR If you have all the money you desire, you might have to enjoy it all alone. (The list goes on. )

It’s as if they believe they are undeserving of having it all and living the life of their dreams is some myth that only happens in fairy tales.

Well I call bullshit.

Who are you not to have it all?

Who are you not to have the love, the riches, the joy, the career, the family, the fame, and anything else your heart desires?

That is what life is all about.  Living, loving, sharing, expanding, and experiencing all that life has to offer.

Do you know what happens when you believe that you can’t have it all?

You settle.

You settle for the parts of your life that aren’t working because you believe that if most of your life is going well, who are you to complain?

But I’m here to tell you this; You don’t have to settle and you certainly don’t have to accept that because 80% of your life IS working that the remaining 20%  has to remain a struggle.

Now, I’ll be honest and say that I USED to think that way.

I thought that if my business was booming and money was flowing that my relationship had to take a fall.  Or if things were really amazing in my love life, then my business and income had to tank.

And you know what happened?  I manifested those very things.

When things were running smoothly in my relationship and in life in general, I somehow sabotaged things in my career.  And when I had a really amazing month in my business, I’d start an argument with my partner.

It as as if I just couldn’t handle all the good at once and I had to have something to worry about.

It took a few years of learning, growing, and lots of life lessons to get to this point, but now I see it and can make changes in my mindset and in my beliefs when I start feeling myself settling.

The truth is, you CAN work through the BS that is holding you back no matter how long you’ve struggled with it…but it’s difficult to do alone.

Lucky for you, this is my specialty and is the EXACT reason I set up the 30-Day Break Free From Stuck program.

If you feel:

  • Like you are settling in your career, relationship, or life in general
  • STUCK in one area of your life that just isn’t working for you
  • Like you’ve done all you can and still can’t make that last 20% of your life work for you

It’s time we had a chat.  I am a firm believer in reaching out and asking for help and I’ve seen amazing miracles happen when I’ve done that myself.

If you are ready to break free and make magic happen in your life once and for all, schedule a free 30-Minute Consultation to chat about what’s going on.

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What finding your purpose really means.

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photo credit: Hearts of Osaka, Japan (6) via photopin (license)
photo credit: Hearts of Osaka, Japan (6) via photopin (license)

Everyone wants a life they love with money, abundance, joy, peace, and passion for what they do right?

Sure! Who wouldn’t want that?

BUT-there are far too many women settling for ‘good enough’ because they aren’t sure how to get to that passionate place and while I work with many women on finding what lights them up and sets their soul on fire…my work is really about helping you tap into your purpose.

What finding your purpose really means is finding the thing that you are meant to do right here, right now.

It doesn’t necessarily mean it will be forever, but it will be something that lights you up and something you do that brings you joy.

And guess what…finding your purpose doesn’t necessarily mean making it your career…that part is entirely up to you.

If you are struggling to figure out your purpose here are a few tips to get you thinking in the right direction:

  • What do you feel called to do?  I’m sure you may be feeling the call to do something specific.  Maybe it’s to spend more time traveling, to do more writing, start a blog, or go volunteer at a local shelter.  What is it that is calling to you right now?  (Hint: The first thing that popped into your mind is IT…write it down.)
  • What do you LOVE to do? What kinds of things do you love to do?  What do you do because it simply brings you joy? What would you do for FREE? Think about it, make a list, and write it down.
  • What do you do with ease already? Think about the things people come to you for help with.  What is it that you do without thinking? What are you good at? What comes naturally to you? (Hint: If you aren’t sure, ask the people who know you best.)
  • What experiences of especially molded your life?  Think about your past and the BIG moments that really shifted things for you.  What did you need in those moments?  What were you looking for at the time?  What kinds of things did you need that you didn’t realize you needed until you got it?  Think about it and see what themes appear.

Once you have all that information together I want you to see if there are any common themes.  What pops up over and over again?  You may very well be thinking…”Why didn’t I think of that???”, because finding your purpose isn’t about locating it outside of yourself…it’s about recognizing what is already there.

And I want you to know that your purpose can change and evolve as much as you do, so don’t get stuck in thinking what you do now is what you will always do.  The beauty of life is that we have an amazing gift of choice and free will.  Use that freedom and enjoy the process because that is what it’s all about.

I want to hear from you.  What is your purpose?  Share in the comments below.

P.S.  If you haven’t signed up for the Soul Desire & Reiki Session giveaway, there is still time to get signed up.  Winners will be announced on June 2nd, so make sure you check out this post and get signed up here.