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Why are you settling??? It’s time to break FREE.

September 2, 2015 by Lamisha

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***Before I get into today’s post, I want to invite you to check out my latest article that has been a huge hit over at The Huffington Post titled : 6 Ways to Find Your Passion & Live Your Purpose. ***

Now for today’s post.

I’ve noticed something over the last few years and it’s really getting under my skin. In fact, it has become so prevalent and obvious in the last few months I want to set the record straight

Somehow, we have become a culture that believes that while you can have a mostly awesome life, you can’t have everything you want no matter how how hard you try.

There are many people who have come to accept that if you have a fabulous career you love, your relationships have to suck.

OR If you have an amazing relationship, you can’t have all the riches your heart desires.

OR If you have all the money you desire, you might have to enjoy it all alone. (The list goes on. )

It’s as if they believe they are undeserving of having it all and living the life of their dreams is some myth that only happens in fairy tales.

Well I call bullshit.

Who are you not to have it all?

Who are you not to have the love, the riches, the joy, the career, the family, the fame, and anything else your heart desires?

That is what life is all about. Living, loving, sharing, expanding, and experiencing all that life has to offer.

Do you know what happens when you believe that you can’t have it all?

You settle.

You settle for the parts of your life that aren’t working because you believe that if most of your life is going well, who are you to complain?

But I’m here to tell you this; You don’t have to settle and you certainly don’t have to accept that because 80% of your life IS working that the remaining 20% has to remain a struggle.

Now, I’ll be honest and say that I USED to think that way.

I thought that if my business was booming and money was flowing that my relationship had to take a fall. Or if things were really amazing in my love life, then my business and income had to tank.

And you know what happened? I manifested those very things.

When things were running smoothly in my relationship and in life in general, I somehow sabotaged things in my career. And when I had a really amazing month in my business, I’d start an argument with my partner.

It as as if I just couldn’t handle all the good at once and I had to have something to worry about.

It took a few years of learning, growing, and lots of life lessons to get to this point, but now I see it and can make changes in my mindset and in my beliefs when I start feeling myself settling.

The truth is, you CAN work through the BS that is holding you back no matter how long you’ve struggled with it…but it’s difficult to do alone.

Lucky for you, this is my specialty and is the EXACT reason I set up the 30-Day Break Free From Stuck program.

If you feel:

Like you are settling in your career, relationship, or life in general
STUCK in one area of your life that just isn’t working for you
Like you’ve done all you can and still can’t make that last 20% of your life work for you

It’s time we had a chat. I am a firm believer in reaching out and asking for help and I’ve seen amazing miracles happen when I’ve done that myself.

If you are ready to break free and make magic happen in your life once and for all, schedule a free 30-Minute Consultation to chat about what’s going on.

5 Reasons You Aren’t Living the Life You Truly Desire

August 26, 2015 by Lamisha

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Every single day I speak with women all over the world who are feeling just plain stuck in life. They dream of an amazing life with lots of love, abundance, beautiful experiences, and adventure only to find they have no clue how to make it happen.

When we first chat, they list all the things they’ve tried to make their dreams a reality. They’ve pushed, pulled, planned, and done everything they can think of to make their desires real, but find that something is stopping them along the way.

The thing I notice about all of these scenarios is that the reasons these amazing women aren’t living a life they absolutely love has nothing to do with action and has everything to do with things they just can’t see.

If you are in the same boat or have found yourself in a similar situation before it’s likely because of one of these 5 reasons.

You don’t believe it’s possible. We all have had some bullshit story about why what we desire isn’t possible. It might be so far outside what you’ve actually accomplished in your life that you just don’t see any way that what you desire could come to fruition and even though you dream of it becoming your reality, there is a bit of doubt about whether it can actually happen. The answer is this: Yes it can and will happen, but ONLY when you decide it’s possible.
You’re letting fear lead the way. Fear is a f–king liar and it will try to convince you more often than not that what you are attempting to do is not safe or smart. It will try and convince you of all the reasons it won’t work instead of highlighting all the magical ways it will. Fear feeds off your insecurity (see #1) and the best way to combat that is to take a step forward despite the fear and prove to yourself over and over again that it’s not as scary as you think.
You think you need to know all the steps from where you are to where you are going. As much as you would like to believe that you are 100% in control at all times and have the power to find the best possible route to your dream life, the truth is you don’t. All you need to do is take the next step and trust that the Universe is going to inspire the one after that. You only have the capacity to see 1 possible way your dreams can become reality and it’s likely not even the best way. The Universe on the other hand has so many amazing resources at its disposal and can orchestrate connections, opportunities, and chance meetings you never imagined. Let go of the how and just listen to your intuition.
You are stuck in your current reality. Your current reality is merely an indication of where your thoughts have been in the past. It in no way means that what you desire is impossible or improbable unless you decide to continually reflect on what is right in front of you instead of focusing on where you want to be. When you stop playing the victim to your current ‘reality’ you make a new reality possible and the Universe paves the way for you to make your life amazing.
You think it has to be hard and self-sabotage when things get too good. You likely were taught that everything comes with a price tag and if you want to live the life of your dreams you have to work hard. That’s a lie. Do you have to be persistent? Yes. Do you have to be willing to believe in yourself when others don’t? Yes, but that in no way means it has to be hard. When things get easy and you manifest circumstances that feel amazing with ease, you may also find yourself sabotaging the situation to shake things up a bit. Because honestly, who are we without problems to solve and challenges to overcome? Let the good things be good and the easy things be easy. I guarantee there will be other problems for you to solve, so don’t mess with the good stuff to make yourself feel more comfortable.

The truth is there are lots of reasons we aren’t always creating the life experience we want and if you are finding yourself struggling with one or more of the above, it’s time to get some support.

Reach out and schedule a FREE 30-Minute Consultation below and let’s have a chat about how I can help you clear the junk holding you back and help you step more fully into the amazing life you deserve.

I just turned 2 and Things I Learned Along the Way

August 12, 2015 by Lamisha

August 1, 2013 I did something I never imagined I’d do.

I started a business.

Not only did I surpass the 1 year mark when most business die a quick, painful death, but I have just hit the 2 year mark and I’m pretty freakin’ proud of myself.

Not because of the money I’ve made, but because I’ve stuck with it and have met, coached, and supported so many amazing souls. Thinking back on it , I’ve learned some pretty amazing lessons that I want to pass along to you.

You can do more than you think you can. As if the fact that my business is still alive isn’t enough proof, I’ve done way more than I ever thought I could. I’ve run marketing campaigns, group coaching programs, webinars, and coached countless women as I worked to get my message out into the world. If you would’ve told me 10 years ago that this is what I’d be doing…I’d probably laugh in your face. Wherever you are and whatever you are doing, know that you can do more than you think.

Your intuition is an amazing gift…use it! There have been LOTS of moments when I thought other people knew better than me when it came to what I should do next, except they didn’t. We all have an inner GPS that is more powerful, more aware, and better equipped to support us in figuring out the next step than anyone else, we just have to learn to listen to it. This is a muscle I am still working, but I can tell you I am far more tuned in now than I ever was before I started this journey. Listen to your heart, it will never steer you wrong.

You don’t need to know the ‘how’. As a recovering control freak here, I sometimes forget this detail and I usually regret it. As much as the world tells us we need a plan, an outline or a blueprint for our success, the truth is you really don’t. If you follow your heart and act on the inspiration it provides, that will be enough. The only thing having a blueprint does is make you feel more secure while also cutting you off from the amazing opportunities that are out there for you. The Universe has far more resources available than we do…so why would you cut yourself off from that? Follow the next step and trust that you’ll always figure out what is next because you will.

Just keep swimming. In moments when I’ve wanted to give up (and there have been plenty), I had friends tell me to “just keep swimming” and as much as I didn’t want to hear it, I knew they were right. Had I quit when I wasn’t booking any new clients for 4 months or when I had lost all confidence in my ability to actually run a successful business, I’d never have made it to the point I am now. Now I know that I not only can make it, but I AM…every single day. Whatever your dream is or what your end vision may be…just keep swimming. Trust your vision and purpose and let it guide you, but never give up…unless of course you no longer feel the passion for what you are doing.

I am in awe of how far I’ve come from the time this was only a dream. In fact, this week I recorded this video reflecting on what prompted me to take the leap in the first place.

Listen, I know that whatever your BIG LEAP is, it feels scary right now. That business, new career, or stepping into your true purpose feels bigger than life right now. The steps to get there feel overwhelming and you aren’t quite sure how to make it all come together. You might even feel a little stuck…

You are not alone and you don’t have to figure it all out by yourself. The truth is you have the power to create ANY life you desire. I want to help you make your dream life a reality. Not tomorrow, next week, or next year when you feel more prepared.

I want to help you NOW.

If you are feeling the call of your soul to take the leap now…let’s chat. I’ve got something special for you and I only have room for 4 people so if you are ready to dive in and make your dreams come true finally…hit the button below and let’s schedule a free chat.

There are lots of reasons you shouldn’t give up, but only 1 reason you should.

July 31, 2015 by Lamisha

In the last two years of my business there have been moments when I seriously thought about throwing in the towel. Moments when I thought I’d be better off dropping my dream all together and jumping back into the work force.

It wasn’t because I didn’t love what I was doing. Not at all.

It was because things got hard, I got frustrated, and I felt lost.

I felt stuck and instead of listening to my intuition, I ignored it entirely.

Instead of asking for help or allowing it in, I thought I had to do it all by my little lonesome.

In short, it sucked!

And as I write this I am getting ready to celebrate my 2 year anniversary in my business in just a few days and I couldn’t be happier! I can’t believe I made it this far and what was once only a dream is now my current reality.

I had a TON of reasons I could’ve quit before. I could’ve quit because:

Money wasn’t flowing
Potential clients were saying ‘No thanks’
Things got really hard
I didn’t know how to move forward
I was afraid I’d put all of my passion and it wouldn’t ‘work’

But despite it all, ultimately, I loved what I was doing.

When I get calls from clients telling me they took their big leap into something they never thought possible, I remember my why.

When I cry with clients as they have amazing breakthroughs and aha’s because I can relate to them so much, I remember my why.

And when I have that first call with a potential client who is sharing with me their hopes and desires for what they hope their life will become with my help, I remember my why.

The truth is this work that I do is far more than just a business. It’s my passion and purpose and despite the fact that things have at times looked as though they weren’t ‘working’, that passion has never ceased.

When you are moving in the direction of your dreams with passion in your heart and purpose in your soul, there will be lots of moments of learning, growing, and evolving.

There will be times when you want to quit. Times when everything on the outside looks broken and you wonder if it will ultimately work.

There will be many, many, many reasons to throw in the towel as you wonder if you are strong enough, smart enough, or if you are doing enough to make your dreams come true.

And the ONLY time you should quit, is if that passion and purpose have gone.

When your heart isn’t in it and the love for your vision transforms into something else as it may, that is the only time you should ‘quit’.

But honestly, that isn’t even quitting in my book. That is simply a transformation of a dream into another vision that lights you up and sets your soul on fire and that can never be deemed a failure nor are you a quitter.

Dreams unfold and transform as much as we do and while you may have many reasons to ‘quit’, don’t do it unless your heart truly isn’t in it.

Keep going. Keep reaching. Keep dreaming and trust in the passion in your heart. When you do…magic happens.

In other news, August is a HUGE month for me and my business. Not only is August 1st the second anniversary of my business, but my birthday is on the 13th and with that comes BIG celebrations & gifts for YOU.

Introducing the 13 Days & 13 Ways of Giving!!!

For 13 days I am giving gifts, services, paying it forward, and creating very special offers for my tribe and allowing that to filter over into the community. I’d love for you to be a part of this amazing vision and you can do that in a few ways.

Join my Love Your Life Tribe for exclusive gifts for my tribe members only
Sign up for my VIP List to get access to special giveaways for VIP’s only
Follow me on Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram to stay up to date on how, when, and where I am gifting for all 13 days.
Share in the giving by posting your own 13 Ways of Giving using the #13WaysOfGiving on social media

Paying it forward, sharing the love, and really creating a community of love, joy, and good will has always been near and dear to my heart and I’m so excited to share what I am cooking up for you!

3 Things I No Longer Believe About Money Thanks to Denise Duffield-Thomas

July 7, 2015 by Lamisha

Money is always a funny topic to talk about and for so many people it’s wiggle in their seat uncomfortable.

I used to feel the same way before I had done any mindset work around the topic.

In fact, for a long time my relationship with money was…well tumultuous.

I had a love/hate relationship with it.

Never really knowing what it felt like to always have more than enough, I was anxious at the thought of money for anything. Spending it, making it, asking for raises, and dealing with debt made me cringe. I thought having just enough to get by was a good thing and never dreamed that one day I would be an entrepreneur who’s only income was based on my gifts and talents.

(GASP)

Parts of me believed money was always hard to get and keep. Growing up in a single parent household, money was tight most of the time and I learned never to ask for much more than what I actually needed because I didn’t want to add to the stress and anxiety of making ends meet.

As soon as I was old enough to work, I got multiple jobs because I thought that is what I had to do to survive and contribute in the world.

What I didn’t realize is that it was all in my head and that my thoughts were creating my reality.

Since then, I’ve made some big shifts to my mindset to really dig in and change my relationship with money and one of the BIGGEST things I have done is make an investment in myself by way of Denise Duffield-Thomas and her Lucky Bitch Money Bootcamp.

In the last year I have learned SO much about my money mindset and how to shift it and it’s changed everything for me.

Thanks to Denise the top 3 things I no longer believe about money are:

1. Money is a limited supply and if I have more, you get less. I used to live with the atrocious belief that if I have more it means you get less or vice versa. I thought that somewhere there was a big vat of money that was in circulation and if I had more than my ‘fair’ share, then someone else had to have less because….math. But what I have learned is that not only is there MORE than enough to go around, I have the ability and control to manifest as much or as little as I want…when my mindset is in the right place.

2. Money is hard. From the time I started working, I thought I had to work long hours and several jobs to make enough money to live. I pushed hard and at one point was working 3 jobs just to have a bit of extra spending money. It wasn’t fun and no matter how many hours I worked or how much overtime I volunteered for, it seemed like I could never get ahead. After working through the bootcamp (and soon moving through it a second time), I found that money didn’t have to be hard. That with the right mindset and focus, money could flow to me with ease and grace and it does on a regular basis.

3. You can’t do what you love AND make a boatload of cash. When I graduated college I didn’t know anyone who was doing what they loved and making money doing it. Honestly everyone I knew (adults included) was working in a job they didn’t necessarily hate (though some totally did) to make ends meet. They chose the path of least resistance so they could work, live, and save for retirement when they were finally ready to live a life they loved. I followed suit until my passion became louder than my logic and I decided to follow my heart. Starting my business I still had no idea how I would make enough money to replace a full-time income, but what Denise showed me is that it is not only possible, but 100% probable when your mindset is in the right place. (Do you see a theme here?)

Now, I’ve taken what I have learned over the years about money and mindset and I use it to help other women do the things they once thought were impossible. And I openly and honestly share my journey because I want you to know that this didn’t happen overnight. I made an investment in changing my relationship with money by investing in Denise’s Lucky Bitch Money Bootcamp.

It’s been a game changer for me as a woman, a mother, a wife, and an entrepreneur. But the truth is you don’t have to be all of those things for this to help you. The insight and support Denise provides in her program is unlike anything I’ve ever done and this month she is closing out the old program and will be releasing the new program at a new, higher rate.

If shifting your mindset around money is something you feel called to do, I encourage you to check her out. (Full-disclosure: I am an affiliate for Denise’s program only because I 100% believe in what she is doing and I am a part of her amazing community. So, any purchases you make through the links I share with you will result in me being compensated. )

And if this is the first time you have ever heard about Denise, she is hosting a FREE webinar tonight at 7pm EST to discuss Mindset Shifts You Need to Create Passive Income. It’s free and if you can’t make it live, sign-up using the link so you will get the recording.

You can also check out more info about the bootcamp here or check out her amazing free resources that I share with all of my clients because they are awesome!

If you are looking for even more mindset help in general, I am hosting a FREE Mindset Makeover Challenge in my Love Your Life Tribe on Facebook starting Monday July 13th and I’d love for you to join us. This group is full of amazing women like YOU who are looking to create an open, airy, love-filled life of their dreams. You will be in amazing company. 😉