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“Stuck” is just an illusion

January 27, 2016 by Lamisha

If you would have told me that about 8 years ago, I would have very adamantly explained how wrong you were.

You see, before I knew what I know now, I played victim to my circumstances more often than not.

I thought for sure that being ‘stuck’ in a dead end job that made my mind numb was unfair and I couldn’t see a way out.

The truth is, I had a way out all along, but I was too afraid to do anything about it. I was afraid to quit, to try something different and to go after what I really wanted in life.

I made excuses and argued for my limitations which only kept me in the comfort of complaining about just how ‘stuck’ I really was. It took awhile, but finally I managed to see what was possible beyond the mental restrictions I had playing at any given moment.

That was the day I began to dream of something better and now I’m living it.

I know that when you are feeling ‘stuck’ it feels as real as a cut on your hand. You FEEL it, talk about it, maybe even cry about how stuck you really are, but I’m here to tell you that you have the power!

In fact, that’s what the Break Free From Stuck: Group Edition program is all about. Helping you see that you have choices and the power to break free once and for all.

I’ve been getting lots of questions about the program itself and decided to put together a little video to explain a bit more.

It all begins February 1st and I currently only have 2 spots open for participants to sign up and receive a FREE 1:1 coaching session in addition to the additional support you receive for the program. If you are interested in learning more about the program and want to claim one of those spots, you can do so here.

If ‘stuck’ is how you feel, it’s time to break free and this program is just the thing you need!

Why me? – Why NOT you?

September 24, 2015 by Lamisha

I shared this message with my newsletter folks this week and it was such a powerful message that I was inspired to share it (and the special offer) with you.

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There is a huge problem I am seeing lately and it’s stealing joy, spark, and the potential for dreams to come true from so many amazing women it makes me ill.

It’s an epidemic and I’m here to set the record straight.

The problem: Feeling unworthy of creating and living the life of your dreams.

Everyday I chat with women who somehow feel like they don’t measure up to the amazing visions they have in their minds about what they want their lives to be.

They make excuses about how they can’t have this or that because ‘Who am I to have the love, riches, community, joy, compassion, adventure etc. that I desire?‘

Who are you NOT to?

If there is one thing I have learned in the years I have been on this planet it is that we are here to experience life and enjoy it.

We are here to connect, serve, help, learn, love, and share our lives with others.

We are human beings for goodness sake! We have incredible senses that allow us to enjoy a multitude of experiences including food, sex, entertainment, and everything else life has to offer and yet there are far too many women denying themselves of the very dreams that keep them going because they feel unworthy.

I’ll give you that we often live in a warped reality where people think you must do something to earn your joy, but that’s a reality I’m not buying into.

I don’t believe in the idea that you have to work for 50 years in a job you hate to be able to spend a few years doing what you love.

I don’t believe that you must sacrifice your happiness now for more happiness later or that you have to work ‘hard’ for money to make a living.

I don’t believe you have to DO something in order to be worthy of the very desires that set your soul on fire.

Despite what you may have been taught by parents, teachers, society and the like, you are enough.

Let me say that again… YOU. ARE. ENOUGH.

You are worthy of your dreams simply by the air that you breathe and no I don’t particularly care about the past mistakes, mishaps, or misfortunes you’ve had because they don’t matter. What matters is your determination to move forward.

YOU get to decide what this life experience will be for you.

YOU get to decide when you take the leap and when you don’t.

And YOU get to decide if and when you are worthy to move forward and truly make a change in your life.

The truth is the only way you wouldn’t be worthy of being, having, and doing all the things you want to do in this life is simply by thinking that you are unworthy. That’s it.

Clearly this is a topic I am deeply passionate about and I know there are so many women dealing with this very issue that I want…better yet, I NEED to help.

So from now until the end of September, I am offering one-time single 60-minute sessions for $97.

These sessions are best used for one particular issue/struggle you have right now. If you need help around this idea of being ‘worthy’, a pep talk, uplifting, mindset work, need help making a decision, or you’ve been thinking of working with a coach and just want to give it a try, this is for you.

Now I don’t do this often and I’m not sure if/when I’ll do it again, so if this speaks to you then get on this before the offer goes away.

Want in? Hit the button below and grab your spot and I look forward to chatting with you soon!

Life Upheaval = An Opportunity to Up-level

March 10, 2015 by Lamisha

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So, life’s been pretty…interesting lately.

There have been moments when everything feels in alignment, on purpose, and totally flowing and other times where it feels like the ground I am standing on is shifting under my feet.

It’s an interesting place to be since each feeling is totally different than the other, but it’s also a feeling I know well, though often forget.

I’m seeing this happen in many of my friend’s and client’s lives too. Life feels so overwhelming and things feel like they are coming apart at the seams. Perfectly laid plans are crumbling and it feels like we are being forced to purge so many beliefs, fears, and even physical stuff.

I’m no astrologer, but I totally believe in the power of the planets and their alignment and it feels like this life upheaval is a Universal affair.

Lucky us.

From some of my favorite spiritual teachers and intuitives, I am hearing that this is an opportunity for us to release what no longer serves us and welcome in new opportunities and new energies. Makes sense right? We are getting so close to Spring and this is similar to a life Spring cleaning.

I’ve felt this type of thing before. As I said, it’s not new to me at all as I have had several big life upheavals that have opened the door to more living, learning, growing, and ultimately new opportunities.

The life upheaval can show up in a variety of ways-losing a job, moving cross country, or even just little disagreements and blow outs with friends and family. I’ve done all of these in various times in my life and they all have lead to new opportunities.

Here’s how I see it.

We have moments in our lives when we are moving right along with no worries. There are changes we need to make, but we don’t make them because things are running fairly smoothly and it often isn’t until life forces us to make that change or take action that we finally oblige.

This is something similar. As we continually move through life there are life experiences we want to make and in order to manifest them, we have to level up our energy. Doing so often means we have to release and let go of the baggage that is holding us back. This can come in the form of physical things like clothes, shoes, old books, papers etc. or in the form of beliefs, thoughts, feelings, and memories that are ready to be processed.

If you are feeling a similar life upheaval I want you to know this…

You are NOT crazy and this process IS leading you to bigger, better things. Things that you WANT in your life. I promise.

My last big life upheaval came in the form of me losing my full-time employment which was scary and frustrating, but it led me to be able to do what I love full-time.

Before that, my wife got assigned to a new military base and we had to find a home and move 9 hours away from where we previously lived, but that led us to amazing new friends, new opportunities, and our beautiful home.

The best thing you can do during moments like these is go with the flow and feel the feelings (or as I like to call them the feels) that come along with the changes. Be open to the changes and move through them with a curious mind and open heart.

I’ve also found journaling, meditation, EFT, and connecting with friends and coaches can be very helpful.

You are getting ready to experience some amazing growth unlike any other! Shine baby shine!

If you are looking for some support around the upheaval that is happening for you right now, reach out and schedule a free 30-Minute consultation and let’s have a chat. I’d love to help support you and help you shine baby shine!

I’m Afraid to Tell You This…

February 20, 2015 by Lamisha

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There have been many moments in the last 2 years when I’ve wanted to share something with you but have been afraid of what you might think. I’ve held back and decided it might not be the right time or a good idea for fear of how it might change what you think of me.

But, I know I’m not doing you or myself any favors by not sharing the not so happy parts of my journey and as I was thinking over the last few months, I realized it’s time to share this with you.

I’ve been afraid to tell you about the 5-month period in 2014 when I thought I was going to have to close my business and give up on my dream. It was something I never thought I would do, but there were moments when I didn’t think I had a choice.

Lucky for me, I did.

From May – September last year, I struggled to make my business work. I had a handful of clients and the number was slowly dwindling down to almost nothing. But it wasn’t just that, I was struggling with something far worse…my identity.

I knew I wanted to coach. I knew I was meant for this work and I knew without a shadow of a doubt that this was my path. The problem came when I couldn’t quite figure out what I wasn’t doing ‘right’ in order to make my business thrive.

Looking back it became completely clear: I was allowing others to be my guru instead of listening to my intuition.

In fact, it got so bad at one point, I was questioning my skills, my coaching, and my dream of helping other women make their dream a reality.

On more than one night I cried out of fear, worry, and pure disappointment that somehow my entire path was being thrown off and I had somehow missed the mark. What was true was I had missed the mark, but it wasn’t in my path, it was by allowing someone else to throw me off it.

My heart and soul knew exactly what I needed to do, but I didn’t trust it. I allowed certain mentors and coaches lead the way because I was so new to it all, I thought they knew everything. And the truth is, they did…for their own path, but not for mine.

It took 5 months of desperation, fear, and distracted worry to lead me back to what I set out to do in the beginning…change lives.

It took many tearful nights and a whole lot of doubt for me to get to a space of clarity to see that yes I did know how to make things happen and I could listen to that inner voice inside that was telling me all along it would all work out.

Turns out she’s pretty smart.

Looking back on those moments, I am so glad I didn’t give up. I’m glad that I reached out to the right mentors that didn’t tell me what to do or try to convince me to do it their way.

I found people that would support me in my vision, who believed in me, and helped me tap into that power deep inside that helped me stay the course and not give up.

Did they question me when I became too fearful to fly?

Yes, but out of love and the desire to see me soar. But what they did for me more than anything else is remind me that above all else, I have to follow my heart-the very thing I teach all of my clients.

You see coaching isn’t about leading you in one direction or another or telling you how to do something. It’s a co-creative journey that when done well, will lead you back to the power you have had all along to create the amazing life of your dreams. Coaching is about clarifying your desires, uncovering your fears and other blocks, and empowering you in a way that reminds you, anything is possible.

I learned early on with the right support, you can make anything happen and it’s exactly why I do what I do.

After those scary 5 months of uncertainty, I now stand taller and more proud of my decisions because I know I am making them from the heart and honestly, there is nothing better.

If you have a dream that you aren’t ready to let go of and you need someone to support you along the way, I have 2 spots left in my Breakthrough program for February before my rates increase March 1st. Now is the time to make the commitment to yourself and the dream that has been following you for years. Are you ready to take that next step? If so, I invite you to sign up for a free 30-Minute Consultation to chat about how I might be able to help you. If I am not the right coach for you, I promise to help you find one that is.

You may not want to hear this…

October 31, 2014 by Lamisha

Over the last few days I’ve been getting tons of emails and comments asking a similar question.

How do you get started with the life of your dreams, when life feels really difficult in the moment?

Maybe your bank account balance is in the negative or your relationship is on the rocks or you can’t see your way out of the job that you hate.

There is a way out and it may not be what you want to hear.

Check out the video below to find out what to do and how to begin.

Give these tips a try and let me know how it goes for you. And if you are still feeling stuck, feel free to schedule a FREE 30-Minute Consultation to find out more about how I can help you take the necessary steps to get you to the life you deserve.