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My Biggest Fear…

January 13, 2015 by Lamisha

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photo credit: the_exploratorium via photopin cc

If you are on my VIP list you know I’ve been thinking about fear and how it’s a f–king liar.

It’s true.  And even though I know this to be true, I have still struggled with fear myself in many ways.

The fear of being seen in my business was a big one for a long time that kept me playing small.

But, my biggest fear of them all has been…lack of control.

You see, for as long as I can remember, I’ve always tried to be 2-4 steps ahead of my current circumstances.  Trying to make sure all things go as planned and that I don’t end up blindsided by some crazy disappointment in life, I would work out all the outcomes in my mind and figure out how to avoid the bad ones.

Simply put I worried…a lot!

I developed general anxiety because I was always trying to stay ahead of the moment.  If I was making a decision about what to do, I would try to predict the outcome so I could strategize how to cope with it in advance.  Needless to say I wasn’t mindful or present in any moment.  I was always worrying about the future.

When it came to goal setting and setting intentions, I would torture myself!  I needed to know how it was going to work out and while I had some positive focus that it would, if I didn’t see the way, then I wasn’t convinced.

I had zero faith.

It’s taken a long time for me to get over that general anxiety and to stop worrying so much, but there are times when I can feel myself slipping back into needing to know how things are going to work out as opposed to just trusting they will.

The truth is, if we expect a specific outcome and we are open to how the outcome is manifested, there is nothing to worry about.  The perceived control I have over seemingly everything in my life is a bit misunderstood.

The only things we control are our thoughts & actions which in turn create our reality.

So, if being a control freak in how your dreams come true is something you struggle with, take a step back.  Take a deep breath and grab a pen and notebook.

I want you to write down all the ways your dream (or another situation) could manifest perfectly.  I’m not saying these are all things you might believe at the moment, but write down all the ways it could happen.  Get creative and remember that the Universe has every resource available to use and we only know a very small portion of that.  To expect that our way is the only way is a bit misguided and is the best way to lead to frustration and it may even cause a delay in manifesting what we want in our lives.

Be open to more than just the way you think is ‘realistic’ or ‘probable’.  The Universe doesn’t work with reality…it works with magic & miracles and I assure you as soon as you open your mind to ‘how’ it can happen and let go of the outcome a bit, more magic and miracles will find you.  It’s just how it works.

If you are still struggling with manifesting your deepest desires and want to learn about how to make that happen with ease, grace, and more flow, I encourage you to check out my 7 Secrets to Manifest the Life of Your Dreams.  In this free video series, I share with you my biggest secrets to manifesting.  Secrets I’ve learned after many years of trying to be realistic and logical.

Add subtitle text(3)Magical Manifesting is a wonderful way to create the life you have always wanted…not just in cash and things that you can buy, but in experiences, time, and freedom.  Manifesting the beautiful experiences and feelings you’ve always desired and inspiring others to do the same is why I do this work.

I would love for you to join us on February 1st for a journey of Magical Manifesting. This 6-week group program will give you the steps, tools, and secrets you need to create the life you have always wanted and provide you the practical experience that will infuse you with the faith you need to keep going.  Space is limited, so if you are interested I highly encourage you to reserve your place now!

 

Filed Under: abundance, Authenticity, Coaching, Decisions, fear, Intention, Planning, Practices Tagged With: control, fear, Free video series, Law of attraction, magic, manifest, manifesting, secrets to manifesting

You may not want to hear this…

October 31, 2014 by Lamisha

Over the last few days I’ve been getting tons of emails and comments asking a similar question.

How do you get started with the life of your dreams, when life feels really difficult in the moment?

Maybe your bank account balance is in the negative or your relationship is on the rocks or you can’t see your way out of the job that you hate.

There is a way out and it may not be what you want to hear.

Check out the video below to find out what to do and how to begin.

 

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Give these tips a try and let me know how it goes for you.  And if you are still feeling stuck, feel free to schedule a FREE 30-Minute Consultation to find out more about how I can help you take the necessary steps to get you to the life you deserve.

 

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Filed Under: Authenticity, Being, Coaching, fear, Frustration, Goals, Life, Practices, Tips Tagged With: Abraham Hicks, getting started, life, life coach, LOA, practices, start where you are, tips, visualization

How Words Can Become Blocks…

October 28, 2014 by Lamisha

photo credit: Chris JL via photopin cc
photo credit: Chris JL via photopin cc

I first want to say thank you to everyone who read, commented, shared, and responded to my latest article in the Huffington Post titled: 12 Universal Laws That Will Change Your Life for the Better.  I am deeply grateful to everyone for your kindness and am looking forward to connecting with each of you either through my blog, on Facebook, Twitter, or by working with you one-on-one.

It’s long been said that words have power and when you think of that phrase you probably think of ‘positive’ or ‘negative’ thoughts.  You might think of words that empower us and uplift versus those that tear us down.  And while there are words that generally create a positive or negative feel to them, I want to talk about something a bit different.

I want to talk about words like ’email’ or ‘sales’ or ‘newsletter’ or ‘career’ or ‘money’ or ‘abundance’ or other seemingly simple words that might be thought of as neutral.

Even neutral words can be charged with a positive or negative vibe depending on how we feel about them.  One word might resonate positively for me, but for you it might feel a bit negative or heavy.

So, why am I talking about words and vibes?

Because many times the words we use (and the vibes attached to those words) hold us back in some way.

I’ll give you an example:

0001-28713102A few months back I was working with a lovely client who is also an entrepreneur.  She is incredible at what she does and is very good about making a list and doing what needs to be done except for when it came to her newsletter.  (Those of you in the business world know how much emphasis is put on your list and the newsletters you send to your list.)

My dear client was stuck.  No matter how many times that newsletter ended up on her to-do list, it never got done.  She procrastinated, avoided it, and would do 100 other things before she would think of taking care of the newsletter.

Why?

Because the idea of it was overwhelming.  The importance and power that was placed on the dreaded newsletter made her cringe.  She wanted it to be perfect and couldn’t bring herself to sit for the amount of time it would take her to get it to perfect. 

After some digging we realized it wasn’t the actual newsletter that was sending her running for the hills.  It was the vibration and feeling that was attached to it that was.

I suggested that instead of thinking of it as a newsletter she think of it as just an email.  She sends emails every day to her clients so what is one more?  Changing the word also changed the vibration that was attached to the activity.  She no longer needed to fret about sending perfect emails because she emails were easy for her.

Words can become like brick walls, blocking you from being, having, or doing exactly what you need to get to where you are going.

If negatively charged words are your issue (and I assure you we all have something like that), then it can be as simple as shifting the word a bit which also shifts the vibe.

I’ll give you another example.

Just yesterday I had a conversation with another client who was struggling with doing ‘sales pitches’.  Every time she got to the sales part of her call, she would freeze up and stumble a bit.  She didn’t want to be pushy or sales-y or sleazy about it and desperately needed to find a comfortable way of dealing with sales.

I noticed the negative charge she gave to the word ‘sales’ and we chatted about changing the idea of a ‘sales pitch’ to simply an invitation, because really that’s all it is.  The word invitation instantly feels lighter, brighter, and open.  She immediately felt the difference and felt better about inviting clients to make life changes.

Sometimes the blocks you are feeling have very simple fixes.  Change the word, you change the vibration.  Words like ‘money’, ‘abundance’, ‘prosperity’, ‘rich’, etc. also have the potential to have a ton of vibrational baggage that comes along with them.

Are there any words that feel heavy, dark, or do you feel resistance to?  Share in the comments below and let’s see if we can do a simple flip to change the vibes.  It can make all the difference in how you feel.

 

P.S.  Friday is the last day to sign up for my Coach on Call offer and I only have a few openings left.  If you are interested in signing up, but want to chat a bit first to make sure we are a good fit, schedule your 30-Minute Consultation HERE.  I look forward to chatting with you! 

Filed Under: abundance, Authenticity, Awareness, Coaching, fear, Inspiration, Life Tagged With: Blocks, change, coach, Huffington Post, newsletter, shifts, transformation, vibrations, words

Risks & Results

October 10, 2014 by Lamisha

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I have a confession to make.

Over the last few months I realized I have had an underlying fear that I couldn’t quite put my finger on until now…

Being seen in a big way. 

Sure, I write, coach, and am pretty active on social media, but I realized I’ve been afraid of putting myself out there in a big way.

And it’s not so much about the being seen as much as it is me being potentially rejected or disappointed by being seen.

You’ve been there right?

Well, it’s time to change all of that.

I’ve decided that October is going to be my best month ever.

This is the month I stop being afraid of stepping out and being seen and as a result, I’m taking risks.

I’m sharing my business with people more and more.  Reaching out to women that are stuck and struggling that I know I can be of service to.  Leaving my card in local businesses so more people find me.  Guest posting like crazy and sharing my thoughts with a wider audience.  I also just signed up to attend a women’s empowerment luncheon where I won’t know anyone, but is a great opportunity for me to network and connect with other like-minded women.

I’ll be honest.  Doing all of these things is a bit uncomfortable.  It stretches me to my max in some cases and brings up a ton of blocks for me to work through…which is great.  I’m learning detachment in the face of fear and learning to let go of the worry of disappointment.

As they say, if you don’t ask the answer is always no.

We are about a 1/3 of the way through the month and I’ve already taken more risks with amazing results than I have in the last 6 months.

The results have been amazing!

I’ve been published again in Kind Over Matter with an article on Keeping Your Eyes On Your Own Path, and in The Magic Happens with a letter to the Dreamers of the World . I also wrote a post for Clear Calm Space on The Clutter You Can’t See  and just found out my post Stuck? Don’t ‘Try Harder’…Do This Instead  was just published on The Huffington Post!

I also have an article in an incredible book that is a #1 best seller called Empowered Women of Social Media: 44 Women found their “Voices” using the Power of Social Networking (Volume 1) that was just released last weekend!

photo credit: symphony of love via photopin cc
photo credit: symphony of love via photopin cc

And I’m not stopping there.  I’m looking for new ways to take risks, to be seen, to expand, grow, and reach beyond where I am so I can be of service to more women.  To help you amazing ladies make life the absolute best and help you live a life of freedom as you turn your dreams into reality.  I’m ready to finish the year off with a bang and I’m inviting you to do the same.

What have you been too scared to do so far this year?  Maybe it’s pitching some articles, sharing your business, or starting a new venture.  Maybe you have been afraid of taking the leap to ask for help, to hire a coach, or to take that next scary step.  Whatever it is, I invite you to make the commitment to take risks and embrace the results.

I’d love to be of support to you as you do this in any way I can and invite you take the leap with hiring a coach.  Schedule your 30-Minute Consultation to chat about how I can help you take big action to make your dreams a reality.  You deserve to live a life of freedom. So what are you waiting for? 

I also want to invite you to join my VIP list.  I’m creating a community of life-lovers and a freedom tribe that I would love for you to be a part of, but you must be on the list to join.  Stay tuned for the invitation to come your way. 

Have a fabulous weekend of risk taking and amazing results!!

<3

Lamisha

Filed Under: Authenticity, Awareness, Challenges, Coaching, fear, Inspiration, Life, Practices, Tips Tagged With: Being seen, big goals, practices, results, risks, start now, taking risks

My BS: Who Am I To Help?

September 17, 2014 by Lamisha

Earlier this week I shared this post with my VIP tribe and while it’s a bit of a vulnerable post, I realized how important it is for me to share it with you as well.  May you find comfort in knowing that you are not alone and join me in facing your BS head on, because honestly it’s hard to change anything with that junk holding you back.

Ok, it’s time for me to get something off my chest.  It’s something I’ve been thinking about a lot recently as I have been facing the BS (aka Blind Spot) that has been holding me back and I’m done with it!

The past two months have been pretty tough.  The positive side of me wants to tell you all about the growth, the lessons, and the beautiful blessings in disguise and while there was a lot of that going on that’s not always how it felt. There is another part of me that remembers the worry, the fear, the frustration, and at times the overwhelming tears.In the midst of chaos at home, schedules being thrown out the window, and lots of change going on both personally & professionally, I was forced to face my BS…head on.

The BS I’m talking about is both bull shit & something you may know as my Blind Spot.Yep, in the middle of sharing with you how your BS can hold you back, mine was there waiting for me, trying desperately to get me to not only play small, but quit playing all together. (Funny how that happens right?)  And once I realized what it really was that was holding me back in my business (with the help of another coach), I knew I had to share it with you.

So, here is my most recent experience coming face-to-face with my BS.  My hope is that when you hear my story, you leave with a deeper understanding of how imperative it is to identify and clear your own Blind Spot and you have a bit more compassion for yourself.  Regardless of who you are, what you do, or what area of your life is affected, we all have thoughts & beliefs that are holding us back in our careers, love, relationships, and life in general.  And the best part of all: there is a way to identify and clear it!

Coming face-to-face with your BS isn’t fun or all that comfortable, but I assure you it is the first step to living that amazing, free-flowing, ever expanding life of your dreams.  It is almost as if we believe we can’t or shouldn’t have it all, but as one of my favorite quotes says:

“We ask ourselves: Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?  Actually, who are you not to be?” 

~Marianne Williamson

Go be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous and clear the BS that is in your way!  You have an amazing life of freedom and flow to live so hop to it!

I believe in you,

Filed Under: Authenticity, Awareness, Challenges, Coaching, fear, Inspiration, Intention, Life, Perfection, Reflection Tagged With: authentic, authenticity, Blind Spot, Blocks, Brilliant, BS, dreams, facing fears, fear, lessons, life coaching, Marianne Williamson, My BS, my story, playing small, quitting, sharing, success, Video, Vlog, you got this

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