I get it. There are moments when we feel lost, frustrated, and just plain stuck in life.
Believe me I’ve been there more times than I care to admit, but about 8 months ago I realized something that shifted my mindset entirely and today I’m sharing that with you.
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If you’ve ever asked yourself that question, you’re not alone.
I’ve actually wondered this myself at a time when I felt stuck in a job I hated with no way out.
I wondered if being an ‘adult’ truly meant just getting any old job, paying bills and making my way to retirement.
If that was what being an adult was, I didn’t want any part of it.
I wanted more out of life.
More creativity, joy, connection, passion, and soulful living. I wanted…no needed to feel the freedom my soul was craving.
The problem was, I had no idea how to make it happen or if it was even possible.
That is, until the Universe started leaving little breadcrumbs in the form of insightful thoughts in my mind. Lucky for me I was able to follow them, bit-by-bit.
My journey began when I realized I had to find a way to do what I could, from where I was, with what I had. (A fantastic lesson that Mike Dooley highly recommends in his book Leveraging the Universe.)
In addition to working my full-time job, I was coaching and doing choreography for a high school dance team part-time.
I loved it! The passion, creativity, and connection I got from that position was amazing and when it came time for me to move on, I knew I had to find something else that was equally fulfilling.
Then I got the idea (aka the Universe gave me a nudge) to look into some freelance writing.
I have always been a writer at heart and tried my hand at writing book reviews for spiritual and new age books. In my research I also found an outlet for my creative writing and managed to write inspirational greeting cards having several of them published and sold in stores all over the U.S. (exciting!).
I continued to work my full-time job as I followed the golden nuggets from the Universe. Knowing I was meant for so much more while at the same time not knowing exactly what I wanted or how to get it. This was also during the same time I went back to school to get my Masters in Psychology thinking that was the way I was going to create an impact in the world.
In a round about way I was right, except the path I would eventually be led to wasn’t exactly what I envisioned.
As time wore on the Universe continued to send me messages and ideas to follow including…
It wasn’t until I had read all there was to know about Michelle Ward and devoured all the “how to be a life coach” material I could find, that I realized this is exactly what I was meant to do.
But, like many people I got hung up on the ‘how’.
How was I going to do it?
Where do I begin?
What do I need to do?!
I obsessed over those questions for 2.5 years before I finally heard the most powerful message from the Universe (through one of my coworkers).
And for once I didn’t over analyze or question her to death. I heard the message loud and clear and took the leap.
The rest as they say is history. (To be fair, it hasn’t always been an easy road and there have been many lessons along the way, but I wouldn’t trade it for anything in the world.)
One thing I know for sure though, is that if you are asking yourself “Is this as good as it gets?”, the answer is no.
You were meant for so much more and as soon as you allow yourself to hear (and act on) the messages and nudges from the Universe, you will begin to see that “so much more” take shape.
If I could give you a formula to follow based on what I experienced and what I help my clients achieve it is this:
If you are wondering how you can get some support to move forward along your path a bit faster or you are feeling the nudge to reach out for help, I’d love to chat with you.
Fact: 98% of the women I work with come to me for help because they are feeling STUCK.
Fact: 100% of those women are intelligent, soulful, and more than capable of doing all the ‘logical’ things to get themselves unstuck.
Fact: BUT…the thing that really has them STUCK has nothing to do with logic.
If you’ve ever been stuck in a rut and found yourself wondering how the heck to get out, you know what I’m talking about. You’ve likely tried everything to get unstuck, yet often still find yourself in the same place you were before, only now more frustrated and disheartened.
I know because about 8 years ago I was exactly where you are, feeling the same things. Frustrated, disconnected, and frankly a bit pissed off.
In my heart I knew I was meant for SO much more than the life I was living, yet everywhere I turned to find a ‘logical’ out…I hit a dead end.
Imagine being in school trying to figure out a math problem only you have absolutely no idea what you don’t know, so you don’t even know what kinds of questions to ask.
Yep…when you are feeling stuck in life, it’s kind of like that.
You wiggle and squirm and do what you can…logically, but sometimes what you need to do isn’t logical at all. Sometimes what you need to do has everything to do with stepping out on faith and trusting yourself and the process.
I learned that the hard way.
And you know what? Sometimes you just need to ask for help.
Fact: Being STUCK is not a sign that there is something wrong with you.
Fact: Being STUCK is simply a message that it’s time for you to step-up and grow…that’s it.
And if you are currently feeling a bit disheartened and stuck in the rut of life right now, I have an opportunity for you that you won’t want to miss!
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For the last 8 months or so, I’ve been working with women 1:1 in this 4-week program to help them shift the mindset stuff that has them spinning their wheels. I’ve helped them see exactly what has them stuck (it’s usually not what they think it is) and armed them with the tools they need to clear the junk and move forward with more passion, inspiration, and freedom than ever before. Simply put, I’ve helped these women get out of STUCK and into FREEDOM in just 30 days!
In that time I felt a calling to offer this in a group forum to help even more women and it’s all starting February 1st!!!
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For as long as I can remember, I have known that traditional ‘life’ didn’t make much sense and in my heart I knew that the way we had been taught to live…was just one big misunderstanding about how life is supposed to be.
You see, it didn’t make sense to me that I had to just pick a course of study and commit my life to it so I could be an adult and be responsible. Despite it not making any sense, I picked something I thought I’d like to do (exercise science) and went on my merry way.
When I graduated, I did what many people did when they graduated. I got a job that had nothing to do with my degree. In fact it was likely the furthest thing away from what I was ‘trained’ to do that it didn’t make any sense. I was an office assistant.
It was in that job that I learned a lot about myself, my path, and how so many other people live in what they thought was the ‘normal’ way.
Does this sound familiar?
You study, get a degree, and then hop on the first job out of college. You commit yourself to working your way up, provided the gig is something worthwhile and it’s not too terrible. You may not be happy, but you find yourself on a path to abundance and better job titles if you can just hang in there. You build a life and a career based on the discomfort that everyone else feels right?
Work is supposed to be work and only a lucky few actually enjoy the jobs they do. If you don’t hate your job (even if you don’t love it) you consider yourself lucky. Yet…all the while something feels like it’s missing. Some cosmic piece of your personality, your psyche, your joy is fundamentally missing from the very foundation that you have built your life on. Who are you to complain though right? I mean SO many people don’t even have jobs and you do. So, you ignore the discomfort and vow to take fun vacations and save for the future when you can finally do the things that you love.
That is exactly what I was taught and for a brief moment in time, I believed that was going to be my life. Until, I decided that I wasn’t cut out for that kind of living or just merely surviving.
I knew I was a creative soul with big dreams, interests, and a desire to make a difference. I didn’t know how I would do it. I didn’t even know where to look, but one thing I knew for sure was that I was meant for more than what I was currently doing.
That was also the moment I vowed to follow my heart and find my passion and truly live my purpose. It is also the experience that taught me how to help other people in similar shoes do exactly the same thing.
What I now know is that we aren’t put here to just struggle through life doing things we hate. We are actually meant to be happy, to overcome struggles, and to do the things we love. It is what drives many of us everyday in the search.
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The simple answer is that if you are doing something you love and you are following your heart then you are indeed living your life purpose. One misconception many people have about their life purpose is that it has to be one ‘thing’ and the only thing. Or that when they realize it that the clouds part and angels sing and everything feels right with the world. While that might make things much more interesting as far as life goes, it’s not exactly how it happens.
You know you are on the right path and doing what you are meant to do if it brings you joy and you are following your heart. The truth is your life purpose can evolve in the same way we do as individuals. Don’t worry about choosing one thing or feeling like there is something wrong with you if you don’t choose one thing. Listen to your heart and do what you love. That’s all we really need to do anyway.
This is a great question!! If you think about the question above you might think that if you have lost your motivation for something or you feel a bit sluggish in one area that somehow your purpose has shifted. That certainly could be the case if it happens over and over again, however motivation comes as a general ebb and flow. The truth is there is a difference between motivation and inspiration.
Motivation is generally caused by an external force while inspiration comes from within. It’s similar to someone jumping up to go to the gym and you being motivated to join them, but when you have to go alone, you don’t generally have the inspiration to do it yourself. When you begin to lose the motivation to do something and you truly want to continue doing that thing (whatever it is), then you must tap into first the ‘why’. Why is it important for you to continue doing it? What are you getting out of it? What is it fulfilling for you? Answer those questions and see if you don’t become inspired to begin again.
You can also lose motivation by way of burn out. Sometimes pushing, forcing, or otherwise trying to make something happen can create burn out and you simply need a break. Take time out to do something else entirely. Go have fun! Many times I find this to be exactly what I need to do in order to be inspired again to move forward. In fact, I found myself spending the holiday season taking time off to just relax, regroup, and re-energize myself. Once they were over I was able to jump back in with both feet to what is inspiring and motivating for me.
When you’ve lost motivation or inspiration try a few of the things listed below.
I hope this installment of Ask the Coach has been helpful for you. If you have questions that you would like to submit, simply contact me here with your question and I’ll be happy to include in in a future post.
