Lamisha Serf-Walls

Cookie-cutter, one size fits all coaching. I call bullshit.

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photo credit: 5/52 – B&W Landscape via photopin (license)

 

It’s time for me to share this message with you and while it might not be very popular and you may decide to unsubscribe, but it’s something that has to be said.

Today, I’m owning my essence and sharing it with you today.

No more hiding or being afraid that I might offend someone.

Today I’m calling bullshit on all the cookie-cutter, one-size-fits-all, do it MY way and succeed methods of coaching and teaching (and anything else for that matter).

Yeah, it sounds good and many of us want guarantees that specific methods and modalities are going to be surefire ways to transform our lives and make us rich forever more, but that only holds true if we are all the SAME, which we aren’t.

YOU are a beautiful mixture of cells, soul, and energy combined with your many experiences from this lifetime and beyond.

YOU have amazing gifts, thoughts, skills, and natural talents that make you the incredible being that you are.

YOU are not cookie cutter and neither am I, so why is it that there are so many strategies that speak to ‘the one’ thing that will change your life forever more?

Why aren’t there more people, strategies, teachers, healers, and the like teaching us how to tap into the all-knowing, ever-growing, incredible force that we all have inside of us to make our lives amazing?

Why aren’t more people teaching us to tap into our intuitive gifts so that we may be empowered now and forever more?

In the last 2.5 years as my business and coaching have evolved, I’ve come to realize many of the traditional things didn’t work for me no matter how hard I tried.  I tried to do business the “right” way, even when it didn’t resonate for me on the deepest level.

I tried. I listened. I pushed. I forced, and I tried again.

For an entire year I thought something was wrong with ME because the strategies the “pros” were telling me to use just weren’t resonating and I was losing faith in my inner compass.

I was losing myself.

It wasn’t until I finally stepped away from the formulas, the strategies, and the sure-fire-ways to success that I found myself again and what I was really meant to do in my work.  It was something I had to learn to do for myself first.

Sure my work is helping you to create a life of your dreams and give yourself permission to live an amazing life, but it’s more than that.

My work is more along the lines of empowerment and teaching you to listen to your soul and do what is right for you!  It’s teaching you to blaze a trail for your life that fits YOU…not the life someone else set forth for you.

I am here to teach you what I have learned the hard way and that is to find your way back to yourself so you can live and experience life the way your soul intended.  I’m here to help guide you back to YOU so you can stand in your truth fully, happily, and unapologetically because you don’t fit any cookie cutter approach and that’s ok.

Today, I call bullshit on the one-size-fits-all approach to life and the pursuit of happiness and instead I’m embracing the beautiful, sometimes topsy-turvy, journey of discovery. 

I am accepting and embodying my flow and I’m asking you to do the same.

Listen. Respond. Act. And when you need assistance, reach out, but make sure you are connecting with teachers, healers and the like who are helping you find your way back to YOU.

The truth is, there is no magic pill or path to happiness, money, success, or anything else.  There’s only YOUR way and you have to stand strong in your power and be willing to find your flow.

My purpose is to help you do just that. 

If you want to join me on this self-discovery journey in finding your flow and embracing your essence, I’d love to chat with you (simply hit the button below).

May you always embrace the calling of your soul!

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Something Life Coaches Probably Shouldn’t Say (But I’m saying it!)

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photo credit: Back doors. via photopin (license)

I’m gonna just cut to the chase here.

When shit hits the fan, life begins to feel weird, or you are going through a major life transition and emotions and such come up to be released…you have my permission to WALLOW.

Yes, that’s right.

Today I’m giving you permission to wallow and it’s probably something life coaches shouldn’t say, but you’re human.

I’m human.

We are all human and we all on occasion have situations that call for a bit of a wallow period.

It’s actually a normal and very healthy part of living if you ask me, but it’s something so many people will tell you NOT to do.

“Look at the bright side.” they say.

“Focus on the positive.”

“Think happy thoughts.”

And while normally I would agree with many of those statements, there comes a time when you just need to feel the feels.

Cry. Take a day off.  Cry some more.  Take a walk.  Journal about your feelings or simply sit with them and let them be there for a bit.

Crying is cathartic.  It’s part of the healing process for many and it’s a form of release both energetically and emotionally.  It allows you to let the energy of the past and frustrations of the present to pass on by so you can make room for the higher vibration emotions.

As a coach who empowers others and speaks so highly of mindset work, it might be a bit weird to hear this coming from me, but believe me when I say I am speaking from experience!

Life isn’t always sunshine and rainbows and as the old saying goes, you can’t have rainbows without a little rain. 

So embrace it.  Allow it. And if you feel the need to wallow…wallow baby.

BUT…

And this is a big but, (I cannot lie).

Don’t get stuck there.  Don’t allow your emotions to be so overwhelming that they consume you, holding you hostage.

Resisting emotions and “thinking happy thoughts” to avoid the release isn’t healthy, and neither is swimming in hurricane of emotions for weeks or months.

It’s about balance.

Allow the emotions to come up to be released and then begin moving forward again.

Trust YOUR process.

My process is generally 1-2 days of wallowing (usually closer to 1) and then I’m back in action.  Your process might be a bit different.

It might include a few days of social media detox, hot showers, and settling in with a really good book, but whatever your process is…do it!

Emotions aren’t bad things, in fact they are the very things that make us human.  They are important.

And while yes, they are also what create our reality, the more you resist the seemingly ‘negative’ emotions, the bigger they become and the bigger the shit storm is in your life.  (True story.)

So…if life’s been a bit rocky lately or you are going through a transition and are feeling out of sorts…this is your permission to wallow baby.

But…promise me you won’t get stuck there too long ok?

Tissues anyone?

Shift your life instantly with this!

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Over the past 3 years, I’ve seen some truly magical shifts happen in the lives of my clients many of which occurred, within days of working together.

One woman in particular was struggling immensely in finding a new job.  She’d been applying for job after job for months and couldn’t land a single interview!  After just 1 call with me and a bit of work on her mindset, she emailed me within a few days to tell me that not only had she put in an application and received an interview the same day, but she landed the job too!

Another amazing client of mine had been working on her music career only to find she had been hit with roadblock after roadblock for 3 full years.  Within the first few days of working together, she received an invitation for a musical project, connected with an old friend who sent her information to a producer, and found a partner for a project she’d been looking for, for months.

And the list goes on.

I’ve come to expect and rather enjoy the calls that begin with “Lamisha you aren’t going to believe this!” followed by the magic and wonder that has come from just one or two sessions together.

It’s no surprise to me of course, because I know how powerful this work is and today I’m sharing with you a very simple, yet powerful secret to shifting your life instantly.

In fact it’s so simple, many people overlook it entirely.

 

The secret:  When you believe and know that everything in your life can change instantly…it does.

It’s that simple.

Think about it.  The amount of time it takes for you to go from completely broke to having cash deposited in your account is moments.  Seconds even.

The time it takes for you to go from having no job opportunities to an incredible job offer…instantly.

The time it takes to go from no clients in your business to having multiple people reaching out to you to work together…it can happen in moments.

The key is your belief that it can.

The truth is, most of us are so busy telling the story of how stuck we are, how long we’ve been that way and how we don’t thinks will ever change, that we don’t even begin to think about things shifting instantly.

Regardless of how long it’s been that way or how much time you’ve put in trying, pushing, or forcing change, your situation can change instantly…if you believe it can.

That, my friends is the simple yet powerful truth of change.

It’s happening all the time and the only reason we think we are ‘stuck’ is because we are simply creating the same circumstances over and over again.

And if life isn’t what you want it to be right now, then it’s time to tap into the power of your mind and shift your beliefs about how long it will take your circumstances to change.

It’s the magic of mindset.

Believe it and it is so.

Trust it and it is reflected in your reality.

That is the truth.

So, today I ask you: What would you like to shift instantly in your life?

Do you want more money? A loving relationship? New career opportunities?

It all begins with the power of your mind friends.

And because I know how powerful mindset work is, from now until February 29th I’m offering Mindset Magic sessions to help you shift your beliefs instantly so you can experience a bit of the magic my clients have.

Mindset Magic Session:

-60 Minute Coaching Session

-1 Week of email support

-Magical shifts in your life seemingly instantly

Investment: $97

Want in?  Hit the button below and grab your spot and lets make magic happen in your life shall we?

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Chronic Self-Sabotage: What’s “too good” for you?

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What happens when life gets “too good”?

You know the moments when everything feels so easy and effortless.

You lose those 10 lbs with ease and blow your income goal out of the water without even breaking a sweat.  And it just so happens to be the same day you hit all green lights going to work, stop by your favorite coffee shop to find that you are the 1000th customer and win free coffee for life! (My dream!)  With a perma-grin on your face you float into work and find that you just got a huge bonus and you can’t help but ask…”How does it get any better than this?!”

Then…

Reality sets in and you start thinking about how perfect everything has been lately and you wonder why it’s all changed.  What’s up?  What’s new?

You get nervous.  Anxiety strikes and your vibration immediately shifts and you almost don’t know how to handle this new found luck.

It feels foreign, unnatural for you, and while it’s been the best week of your life, you can’t quite shake this uneasy feeling.

Then…

You drive home worried, only to hit every single red light, get caught in traffic for hours and pull into the driveway to find not one, but two nails in your tires.  You walk in the door, stub your toe, trip over the rug and do a giant face plant on the floor just before you hobble into the kitchen to find your pipes have burst and water is running all over your beautiful wood floors.

Your magical wonderland of a day has turned to shit in the matter of hours and you can’t quite figure out what has happened.

This is a wildly over exaggerated example of classic self-sabotage.

These are exactly the kinds of things you might see happen when life gets too good.

You might also experience things like, excessive bills after making quite a bit of money or quickly gaining back all the weight you recently lost.  You might even find yourself manifesting fights with friends or loved ones or losing things you recently purchased.

And the list goes on.

What is self-sabotage & why do we do it?

As creatures of habit, human beings thrive on routines and knowing what to expect for the most part.  When we start doing or experiencing things that are outside of what we have come to expect and what has been comfortable for us (even if it’s uncomfortable and we want to change it.), we tend to create situations (subconsciously) to bring our experiences back to ‘reality’.

Have you ever noticed how you tend to hit a limit when it comes to your income, weight loss, or another similar goal?  You hit that magic number and can’t seem to break through the ceiling?

You may have hit what Gay Hendricks in his book The Big Leap calls an upper limit problem.

When things get too good, too fast, we tend to unconsciously (and energetically) pump the breaks and sabotage our success.

Logically it doesn’t make sense, but it’s something we all do from time-to-time.  It’s also what tends to happen when we expand our experience without also expanding our mindset.

Your mindset is the key to overcoming (and limiting) the self-sabotaging behavior that might come up as you continue to grow and evolve.  By clearing the blocks and limiting beliefs we have about what is normal for us, we open our minds and lives to endless possibilities, therefore limiting any future self-sabotage.

The moral of the story is this: When you do your mindset work, you will not only create amazing experiences in your life, but you’ll also continue expanding beyond your current limits.

Want to learn more about how to create a mindset practice that works for you?  Get on the VIP list here if you aren’t already on it, as I’ll be sharing more info on how to do just that…absolutely free. <3

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Beliefs become your reality. What do you believe?

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One of the core pieces of breaking free from being stuck in any situation is identifying the beliefs that are creating your current reality and shifting them immediately.

Too often we use our outer reality to be the proof that we base our beliefs and inner truths on, when in actuality it should be the opposite.

What you believe CREATES your reality, not the other way around.  So, when you find yourself struggling financially, in relationships, in your career, or in any other area of your life, it’s key to understand what beliefs you have that might be holding you back.

Are you arguing for your limitations?  Ready to shift the shit and move on with your amazing life already?  Check out the video below.

 

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