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The Microscope Effect

March 6, 2015 by Lamisha

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Over the last few years, I have gotten to know this thing I call the Microscope Effect very well and the more I work with women like myself, I realize it’s not just something I am dealing with. We all deal with it.

Let me explain.

Have you ever had those moments when you it feels like the world is opening up and swallowing you whole? You are stressed out, fed up, and frustrated with how things are going and are unable to see the bigger picture?

You’ve zoomed in your focus to a point where all you see is the very thing that is driving you crazy and for a moment (or many) you think your life is made up of that small area that isn’t working out.

The Microscope Effect is something we all deal with on varying scales.

I’ve dealt with it in my business, my money mindset, and even my marriage.

The thing that’s broken (or seemingly broken) gets all the attention because we are natural fixers.

We aim our attention at the thing that needs to be fixed because we are used to it. But, the problem is when we do that too much, we flit from one broken moment to the next ‘fixing’ it and if we aren’t careful we assume our entire lives are made up of broken pieces.

That’s not the case at all.

Despite what area of your life might need a bit of oil to run smoothly, it isn’t likely that it is all broken and in need of repair.

Are there moments when it seems one thing after another needs your attention? Absolutely, but the key is not to get caught up in all that and instead focus on the stuff that IS working.

Today, I challenge you to look around at the beauty and the whole pieces of your life, no matter how small. Zoom out your microscope so you can see the bigger picture, because if you’ve ever looked at an image really close up, it doesn’t do it justice.

Our lives are made up of many moving parts and one of the keys to living a life you love is starting where you are. It’s not all bad, so don’t let the fixer in you convince you that it is. Once you see the beauty around you, the pieces that need fixing don’t look quite as bad and if they are…well, you will be in a much better place to fix them.

Are you dealing with the Microscope Effect?

If so, I invite you to schedule a FREE-30-Minute Consultation to chat a bit about it and let’s see if we can’t help you zoom out a bit.

It can all change in an instant…

March 3, 2015 by Lamisha

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Growing up I was keenly aware of the fact that life could change instantly, only then I expected it to change for the worse. I was leery of moments that felt too good because it seemed like there was always something lurking around the corner ready to knock me off my high horse of happiness.

In fact, I grew so accustomed to seeing the bad things in life that I tried to plan for them before they ever happened. You know the saying “Plan for the worst, but hope for the best?” Well I planned for and expected the worst and generally got it.

Looking back it’s a bit sad because while I had moments where I dreamed of it all working out the way I truly wanted it to, I never trusted that it could.

It took many years of growth, mindset work, and persistence to get to a place where I no longer expect the worst. I now know that I get what I expect, thanks to my understanding of the Law of Attraction.

I am in a space in my life now where I know that everything can change for the better in an instant, but only if you are truly in the right frame of mind.

Everything we deal with in life is temporary. The rain, sunshine, and cloudy days are all temporary and the same goes for the tough times.

There have been moments in the last year when my business wasn’t doing so well and I momentarily got stuck into my old way of thinking. But, the moment I let go of that story and remembered that it could all change in the matter of one second, I lightened up.

I hold onto that thought to this day and I am always delighted to see how things change instantly for the better.

I want you to think about your life right now. What are you struggling with? In what ways are you expecting the worst and getting it?

What if you shifted your thoughts and remembered one simple fact that could change your life for the better?

It can all change in an instant, for the better so you better be prepared.

Having financial trouble that you just can’t quite see a way out of?

Hate your job, but don’t see any way out of it?

Living a life that is less than you desire, yet you don’t know what to do to move forward?

All of that can change in an instant and the good news is you don’t have to know how it will right now. Simply know this to be true and follow your heart when the how appears. That’s it!

Trust me when I say I have lived on both sides of this coin and knowing that everything can shift in a matter of seconds is an amazing feeling that provides hope for your future.

If you are looking for an opportunity to shift your mindset and begin taking steps to truly create the life you’ve always wanted, then hiring a coach may be your ‘how’. I’m inviting you to schedule a free 30-minute consultation to chat about your situation and see if we are a good fit. I have some exciting new ways to work with me coming up and I’d love to give you the inside scoop on our call.

Are you ready to change your life for the better?

This is your sign…

February 26, 2015 by Lamisha

This week I shared something with my VIP list (which you can sign up for to receive my free video series: 7 Secrets to Manifest the Life of Your Dreams) that I am also sharing with you because I have a feeling there are a few of you that really need to read it.

If you are looking for a sign, this is it.

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18 months ago, I took the biggest leap of my entire life…into the life of my dreams.

For about 5 years prior to that moment, I knew in my heart what I was meant to do, yet I ignored the calling of my soul because…well I was afraid.

Afraid to fail.

Afraid to succeed.

Afraid that the life I was living by society’s standards was what life was about and that I would forever be sucked into the vortex of paper-pushing-soul-sucking-mediocre-work.

What I craved?

Passion. Purpose. Creativity. Joy. Bliss. Abundance. Adventure.
And the ZING that comes with doing what you love.

It took 5 long years for me to stop making the excuses that I didn’t have the money, the time, or the background to make my dream a reality and from the moment I took the leap, I knew I had made the right decision.

Looking back over the last 18 months, I’ve changed in a variety of ways.

I feel the fear and do it anyway.

I’m a risk-taker, a heart-follower, and now a life-changer, doing what I was put on this earth to do…work that lights my soul on fire!

Now, I am reaching out to women like you who may be struggling to find that passion and ZING that your soul craves.

Are you ready for a change? Ready to manifest and create the life your soul is aching for?

Before you answer that…answer this.

How will your life feel in 10, 15, 20 years if nothing changes right now?

If you cringe at the thought or feel that sick feeling in your stomach, it’s time for a change and this is your chance.

I currently have 2 spots left in my 90-day Breakthrough Program for February before my rates increase March 2nd. If you’ve been waiting for the right moment to move forward and make your dream life a reality, this is your chance.

I have opened my calendar to accommodate as many Free 30-Minute Consultations as possible before this offer expires and I invite you to schedule yours today.

This is your chance to make your dreams come true in spite of the fear that is trying desperately to hold you back.

Are you ready?

I’m Afraid to Tell You This…

February 20, 2015 by Lamisha

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There have been many moments in the last 2 years when I’ve wanted to share something with you but have been afraid of what you might think. I’ve held back and decided it might not be the right time or a good idea for fear of how it might change what you think of me.

But, I know I’m not doing you or myself any favors by not sharing the not so happy parts of my journey and as I was thinking over the last few months, I realized it’s time to share this with you.

I’ve been afraid to tell you about the 5-month period in 2014 when I thought I was going to have to close my business and give up on my dream. It was something I never thought I would do, but there were moments when I didn’t think I had a choice.

Lucky for me, I did.

From May – September last year, I struggled to make my business work. I had a handful of clients and the number was slowly dwindling down to almost nothing. But it wasn’t just that, I was struggling with something far worse…my identity.

I knew I wanted to coach. I knew I was meant for this work and I knew without a shadow of a doubt that this was my path. The problem came when I couldn’t quite figure out what I wasn’t doing ‘right’ in order to make my business thrive.

Looking back it became completely clear: I was allowing others to be my guru instead of listening to my intuition.

In fact, it got so bad at one point, I was questioning my skills, my coaching, and my dream of helping other women make their dream a reality.

On more than one night I cried out of fear, worry, and pure disappointment that somehow my entire path was being thrown off and I had somehow missed the mark. What was true was I had missed the mark, but it wasn’t in my path, it was by allowing someone else to throw me off it.

My heart and soul knew exactly what I needed to do, but I didn’t trust it. I allowed certain mentors and coaches lead the way because I was so new to it all, I thought they knew everything. And the truth is, they did…for their own path, but not for mine.

It took 5 months of desperation, fear, and distracted worry to lead me back to what I set out to do in the beginning…change lives.

It took many tearful nights and a whole lot of doubt for me to get to a space of clarity to see that yes I did know how to make things happen and I could listen to that inner voice inside that was telling me all along it would all work out.

Turns out she’s pretty smart.

Looking back on those moments, I am so glad I didn’t give up. I’m glad that I reached out to the right mentors that didn’t tell me what to do or try to convince me to do it their way.

I found people that would support me in my vision, who believed in me, and helped me tap into that power deep inside that helped me stay the course and not give up.

Did they question me when I became too fearful to fly?

Yes, but out of love and the desire to see me soar. But what they did for me more than anything else is remind me that above all else, I have to follow my heart-the very thing I teach all of my clients.

You see coaching isn’t about leading you in one direction or another or telling you how to do something. It’s a co-creative journey that when done well, will lead you back to the power you have had all along to create the amazing life of your dreams. Coaching is about clarifying your desires, uncovering your fears and other blocks, and empowering you in a way that reminds you, anything is possible.

I learned early on with the right support, you can make anything happen and it’s exactly why I do what I do.

After those scary 5 months of uncertainty, I now stand taller and more proud of my decisions because I know I am making them from the heart and honestly, there is nothing better.

If you have a dream that you aren’t ready to let go of and you need someone to support you along the way, I have 2 spots left in my Breakthrough program for February before my rates increase March 1st. Now is the time to make the commitment to yourself and the dream that has been following you for years. Are you ready to take that next step? If so, I invite you to sign up for a free 30-Minute Consultation to chat about how I might be able to help you. If I am not the right coach for you, I promise to help you find one that is.

What message are you sending?

February 17, 2015 by Lamisha

You all know I am a BIG believer and teacher of the Law of Attraction and along with that comes the understanding that every thing we think and feel gets communicated as vibration.

We attract back to us what we send out and that is why our mindset, thoughts, feelings, self-talk etc. are SO important when we are manifesting the life of our dreams.

Garbage in=garbage out.

What you think about yourself and your life, you experience in your reality.

The concept is easy, but what happens when we start sending mixed signals to the Universe/God/Source (whatever you want to call it)?

You get mixed results.

You have to be super clear about what you want and make sure that your beliefs, thoughts, and experiences reflect those things.

I’ll give you an example.

Say you run a business and you have just raised your rates because you know you are worth more than what you currently charge. You set your monthly goal higher and tell the Universe in very clear language…I am ready to charge what I am worth.

The Universe responds and sends you clients who are used to you charging your older rates.

You feel stuck and uncomfortable sharing the new rates so you give them your ‘old rate’ because…you need the money.

You’ve just sent a mixed message that could result in you getting only clients that are willing to pay your older rates or people that complain about your raised rates.

BUT…

What if you charged your new rates and that client couldn’t afford you? I’ll tell you what happens. You clearly define what you are worth and the Universe responds by sending you another client that is happy to pay your current (raised) rates.

Another example…

What if you want to manifest some additional money and are open to how it might flow to you.

But, when you are presented with some opportunities to make some extra cash doing what you love…you turn it down or decide to do it for free?

You might have a belief that it’s hard to make money or that when you do what you love you should only do it for free.

If so, you are sending mixed signals and pushing money away.

It’s not our job to determine HOW things will manifest…it is only our job to be clear about what we want and to take inspired action when the time is right.

If your manifestations are a bit mixed and aren’t exactly what you are looking for, it might be time for a check in. What messages are you sending the Universe right now? Are they clear?

Action step: Take a look at all of your goals for the last month and the actions you have taken to get you to those goals. Are your intentions and actions in alignment with each other? If not, make some changes and ensure that you are sending crystal clear messages about what you desire. When you do, your manifestations are not only faster, but are more of what you DO want and less of what you don’t.

We have 2 weeks left of February before my Breakthrough program pricing goes up. If you have been thinking about coaching and are interested in what it can do for you, schedule your 30-Minute Consultation today. March 1st things are changing for the better and I am announcing a new and exclusive VIP program that is limited to a select few people per year! (Can you tell I’m excited???)