Lamisha Serf-Walls

Worst-Case Scenarios & Why I Have No Plan ‘B’

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Throughout my life I learned early on that if I could plan for the ‘worst-case scenario’ then I would be fully prepared for anything.  If something better happened, I would be delighted, but if the worst case actually occurred, well then I would have a plan of action.  Or in the least, I wouldn’t be disappointed.

It worked for a while (and by ‘worked’ I mean life went on and I didn’t question my thoughts too much).

Looking back now, I realize by planning for the worst case scenario, I actually created it.

I’ll give you an example.

Several years ago I was planning a big move for love (I’m such a romantic and lucky for me it worked out because we are now happily married).  Being the planner that I was, I didn’t want to move to a new place without a job lined up especially since I was moving 300+ miles away from home and I had no idea what the employment situation was like.

For months I searched from afar and got little to no feedback.  I was discouraged and distraught until I finally decided to move anyway.  I decided that if I couldn’t find a job right away, my worst-case scenario was that I would simply get a job at Starbucks.

I repeated those same words over and over again to my friends and family members.

“Oh it’s fine. Worst-case scenario I’ll just get a job at Starbucks.”

(You know where this is going right?)

While it wasn’t an absolutely terrible worst case situation, I manifested it exactly.

After a month or so of applying with no luck, I got a job at Starbucks.

Depending on how you look at it you can view this as an incredible manifestation.  I fully believed that if all else failed, I would just work at Starbucks…which I did for 6 months.

What’s my point?

Planning for worst-case scenarios have the power to actually create the situation you ‘planned’ for.  But do you really want to create a ‘worst case’?

I have learned from that very clear example of my manifestation abilities and no longer plan for those types of situations.

At this stage in my life and business, it means having no Plan B.

There is no ‘worst case scenario’ or alternate plan if my business doesn’t work.  It’s not even a thought in my mind because I know that by planning for it, I am giving my very specific and creative power to something I don’t want.

My plan is to succeed and have my business continue to flourish and thrive.  That’s my plan…all of it.

So, the thoughts of getting a ‘real job’ are no more because that isn’t an option.  The ONLY option is my business and you know why?  It’s because it is what I am meant to do.

Sure it’s risky.  It’s scary at times. It’s a bit outside the box. Hell, it’s unpredictable more often than not and I am still learning a ton about myself and my business as I go.

BUT

It’s also freeing, fantastic, and the best thing I have ever done…aside from moving for love.  Every day I wake up with a purpose.  I love my work. I love my clients. And I love the freedom that this journey provides for me.

Yep, this is my purpose and my heart-centered gift to share with the world and despite what seemingly difficult roadblocks I encounter, succeeding in my business is the only option. No more Plan B or worst-case scenarios for this girl.

Nope, I’m putting my all into my business and by doing that there is no way I can fail.

Your Actionable Item: Today I want you to take a look back over your life to see where you might have planned for the ‘worst-case’.  Did it happen?  Are you planning for one now?  Is it something you want to create?  If not, what DO you want to create?

Do you have a Plan B for if your dreams don’t come true? I want to know your thoughts so share them in the comments below.

And if you have a heart-centered business that you are ready to bring a bit of brilliance to, I have good news for you.  My 90-Days to Biz Brilliance group coaching program is open for registration!  The program officially begins August 7th and I am so excited to finally bring this to life.  I know that your work is important to you and if it is feeling less than brilliant at the moment, it’s time for a change.  Why not get together with other amazing souls going through a similar experience to grow and transform your biz?  This is your chance! If you register by July 21st, you are also going to receive my Invest in Yourself self-study program (valued at $97) before it is even available for sale.  

I want this program to reach as many amazing biz beauties as possible so will you help me by sharing this with your network and tribe?

Your Heart-Centered-Passionate-Path Needs This To Thrive…

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photo credit: Alexandria LaNier via photopin cc
photo credit: Alexandria LaNier via photopin cc

In the last year or so I have had the honor of meeting some truly amazing women with incredible talent yet I see far too many struggling to make their dreams a reality.

With such awesome gifts and healing work that can change the world forever, they are struggling to create thriving businesses.

How can that be?

I have experienced first hand some of these awesome gifts and am blown away at what EFT Tapping, Chakra Healing, Muscle Testing, Reiki, Yoga, and many other healing modalities can do to shift our energy and vibration so we can live happier and healthier lives.  It’s like magic…literally.

So, why the struggle?

The magical abilities and ideas that these women have can literally heal the world.  They can get rid of diseases, help others manifest amazing abundance, and heal a ton of emotional junk that we all experience (and need to heal) and yet actually taking those ideas and putting them into action often feels restrictive and against their very nature.

As a fellow airy-fairy, woo-woo-centric, hippy-dippy, out of the box-thinker, I know how incredible it is to have a dream that is so vivid and colorful that you could stay in your head forever, but I am also blessed with an uncanny ability to put those dreams into action.  Inspired action that is.

The magic happens when we can effectively bring our glorious ideas down from the heavens and implement them in inspired-actionable-steps.  And if you are like many of my clients, I know what you are thinking. “Ugh, actionable steps sounds pretty in the box to me.” or “I just like to go with the flow and see where the tide takes me.”

I get it.  The idea of structure and schedules and dare I say accountability can make us enlightened folks cringe because it goes against all the free-flowing, belief-bustin’, let-me-do-it-my-own-way, nature, but I can promise you two things:

Without action & accountability, your dreams may stay fully alive in your imagination, but that is as far as they go.

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You CAN have structure and freedom while creating a thriving life & biz of your dreams.

The key is in following inspired action and creating structure that works for you.

There really isn’t a one size fits all plan on how to make your work come alive and if you have been fighting the good fight against a ‘schedule’ or ‘to do list’ because you want to keep your freedom status, then I invite you to look at freedom a bit differently.

Freedom implies you have a choice or an option to do as you please and when you can create a schedule or structure that works for YOU, you still have the freedom you crave.  And when your business is thriving and soaring to new heights, you are capable of hiring out a ton of work that you don’t enjoy doing, but the choice is still yours.

So get out there and don’t be afraid of creating a bit of free-flowing-structure (that’s totally a thing) and begin following your heart to take inspired action.

The world needs your gifts & it’s up to you to share them.

What’s the #1 thing you have been resisting in your heart-centered biz because it feels too restrictive? Leave it in the comments below and share this post with your friends who could use a nudge to send their gifts out to the world!

If you need a bit of extra help in the structure & accountability department, this is for you.  I have opened up a few spots for my 1-Month Jump Start program for July 2014 that will get you moving in 30 days or less. 4 sessions in 4 weeks = major progress.  This offer expires June 30th so if you want in on this incredibly affordable and powerful opportunity, you can sign up here.

 

Mercury Retrograde and Waiting…Again

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It’s been a few days since my last post and honestly it is because I have been having a heck of a time with some Mercury Retrograde stuff.  Not so much technological stuff (though there have been some missed emails and miscommunications along the way), as much as it has been a ton of reconfiguring and reworking some of my projects.  If you are a fan of my Facebook page you already have heard the news that I am delaying opening registration for my group program…again.

Now, hear me out on this.  It really is for the best of all involved.ontime

If you know anything about Mercury Retrograde, you may know that it’s not a great time to make big purchases on computers, phones, cars etc. and you certainly don’t want to get married, sign a contract, get a new job etc.  As a biz owner you also don’t want to launch a new project either because you open the door to missed connections, technological problems, delays, and many other frustrating things that could put a huge halt in your plans.

SO…

I am waiting on the launch.  And there are some changes happening within the program behind the scenes.  This is a great opportunity to make the best of Mercury Retrograde.  RE-working, RE-vamping, RE-considering, RE-vitalizing, RE-viewing, etc. what I had planned so it is a great program for you.  While there is a part of me that says “Yeah but, I already delayed it once and what if I lose potential participants because of it????”. There is a bigger part of me that realizes this is for the best.

As part of the reworking of the program, the guest teachers that were going to be a part of the program are no longer going to be teaching guest spots.  Again, the little voice inside me said…”Yeah but, I already made the commitment and I should really just launch it now.” But the bigger voice said, it’s ok, it’s divine timing, it’s ALL GOOD.

To be honest as I was working and reworking the program (the first time), I felt some resistance to it.  I couldn’t quite put my finger on it, but I was procrastinating in the planning and everything felt forced.  Even some of the meetings I had with the guest teachers.  I couldn’t figure it out, but now I get it.  Now I know what it was all about.

Sometimes you are just meant to stand in your power even if it results in a (perceived) delay.

This is a lesson for me and for you.  If something feels forced or you are feeling resistance in a project, a collaboration, or a service you are offering in your biz, it’s time to reconsider it.  Dig a little deeper to see what is really going on and let it go.  Maybe you need to trash it and start from scratch or maybe you just need to rework it, reconsider it, and bring some refreshing energy to it.  There is no harm in that.  I’m living proof.

Divine timing and all that jazz and with that comes another decision (I’m full of them aren’t I?).

I am taking only 8- new Jump Start clients for the month of July and I am not taking any clients for this program from Aug-Oct during my group coaching program.  Since the Jump Start program includes 4 sessions in 4 weeks, I want to make sure I have time for my 90 day clients and my group clients, so if you are interested this is the time to get signed up.  The offer expires June 30th.

With that said, make the best of this time (until July 1st) and don’t worry if things are delayed.  Use this time to clear out the old and come back with fresh eyes.  It really is for the best!

Big love to you all!

Lamisha

Laying Down the Mask and Other News

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There are so many faces we can choose to show the world and often our online face is the most positive, brilliant, and empowering face of all.  But I am realizing more and more that showing your true colors through all the ups and downs of life is what really allows us to connect, commune, and truly support one another.  Just a few days ago I shared this on Facebook.

“Authenticity and vulnerability win out every.single.time. On days like today I remember that I don’t have to have it all together, slap on a smile, and pretend like I don’t have bad days, lazy days, or days when I’m not quite sure what the next step is. I don’t have to know it all, do it all, or learn it all right now to keep going. I don’t have to be the supreme, holier than thou coach to be of service to others. Nor do I have to get my hands all in the clay to end up with a masterpiece. On days like today, I can rest, relax, and give myself a day to just ‘BE’ and you can too. “

What I was going through in the moment was simply a day of  ‘Meh’ and feeling a little guilty about it.  The Dream Crushers were beginning to swarm and just as they were coming in for the kill, I realized I had a choice.  I could simply be with the feelings, share them with my tribe, and try again tomorrow or I could try and power through, fighting the feelings I was having only to create more resistance and frustration.  I chose the first of the two.  More specifically, I took a nap and gave myself a break.

The truth is, I have these moments far more than I usually share with you and while I am not trying to ‘hide’ them, I prefer to share the inspirational posts and

photo credit: Simon & His Camera via photopin cc
photo credit: Simon & His Camera via photopin cc

high moments with you. (Don’t we all?)  But, in doing that I am leaving out a HUGE piece of the story…my story, not to mention my expertise.

You see, I’m not just a life coach.  I’m a mother and now a wife and with that comes a whole barrel of extra challenges, insights, and opportunities to share with you what I know, experience, and learn so you can learn from it too.  It also gives me an opportunity to be real with you.  To show you that life happens no matter what you do, but when you are doing what you love, you CAN support a family, have time together, and experience the FREEDOM that comes with creating the life of your dreams. 

It is possible!

So, I want you to know that you aren’t alone and you certainly don’t have to travel this road without support.  You can reach out to other business owners, mothers, wives, parents, friends, colleagues, and you can be REAL.  You don’t have to wear the mask of ‘happy’ all the damn time because that is what people expect.

We are all human with good days and bad and I assure you that the only way it will hold you back, is if you fail to keep on keepin’ on.  Show the ups and downs.  Share them with your tribe.  Let people get to know YOU…all of you.  That is how we connect with one another in the truest, deepest way.  That is how we learn from one another and truly support each other and know without a shadow of a doubt that we are all connected.

Together, we are entering new territory.  Moving forward what I share with you will be more authentic, more balanced (with lessons, ups and downs, etc.) and my hope is that it will touch your heart in a way to inspire action for you to do that thing you have always wanted.  Start the business, write your book, and share your expertise with the world.

Now is the time!

In that same vein of authenticity, I want to tell you about a change I am making.  Last week I shared with you a vlog about my upcoming group coaching program.  As I moved further into this week, I had some feelings come up about the program and have decided to postpone the start of the program by about a month.  While I still wholeheartedly believe in the program and know that it is going to be magnificent, I wanted to take a bit of extra time to dig a little deeper and create even more goodness for you.  I wanted to take some of the lessons I have learned in the last few weeks and infuse them into the program so they are ready to go for you.  I also think the timing of it all was a bit off, so I am waiting.

And with that I am not judging myself for waiting.  I am consciously making a choice to produce better content, better information, and a more rounded program for you because you deserve that.  I want you to know without a shadow of a doubt starting today that this is the program for you.  That you are not alone on your path and there are other women in the world (myself included) who have fears, doubt, confusion, and frustration about business and while others may only show you the power, joy, free-flowing happiness, I want to show it all.

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Like these flowers we are all connect in our journey even while having slightly different experiences to share.

My words for this year were Show Up and that is what I am doing, with ALL of me.  The good days, the bad days, and everything in between.  So, I hope you will continue to follow along in this authentic journey and as we get closer to the start of the Group Coaching for Business-Minded Women in July, I hope you will be ready to join us in an amazing and uplifting journey.  A journey that includes ups, downs, and in betweens that we are all experiencing whether we choose to show it all or not.

I have also made some changes to the 1 month Jump Start coaching program.  It is still a 1 month program, however instead of 2 coaching calls, I am now offering 4 coaching calls for the same $347 investment.  This program is a great way to get a taste of what working with me is really like while still making progress toward your dream.  This is not an accelerated program as much as it is a great first step for anyone who is interested in coaching but isn’t sure they want to commit to a 3-month program just yet.  What is better than that is that by doubling the number of sessions you get in the 1 month program, you are getting 4 sessions for a really great deal.  If you are interested in getting started, hop on over and sign up for your 30 minute consultation and grab your spot to begin in June.  Since this program includes 4 weekly sessions, I am limiting how many I can take for June to 10 clients so if you are interested let me know asap.

With that said, I hope you have a magnificent long weekend and do something fun and as always thanks for reading!

<3 Lamisha

Recent Lessons & Major Breakthroughs

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Let your light shine!
Let your light shine!

Being a coach, I am not exempt from life lessons and major breakthroughs that I help my clients through and this past week has been a pretty big week for me.  Not only am I stepping more into who I really am as a business owner and coach, but also who I am as a wife, a mother, and all the other shoes I fill.  It’s both liberating and sometimes downright scary to look at all the things I am doing in my life and where I want to be.  I stand in awe as I look how far I have come and am amazed at the progress while still looking ahead to everything that I want to do.

I wanted to take a moment to share with you my recent life lessons and ‘aha’ moments that have come from my conversations with clients and my dear spiritual soul sisters who have shared their amazing gifts with me.  I hope that by reading this you are able to identify with some (if not all) of the lessons and feel your own transformation and healing begin to take place.

  • Have Fun: This is such a good reminder not just for me but for any of you wonderful business-minded souls who are working, striving, and making moves in the business world.  We are too often caught in the building phase of our empire that we forget what it’s like to truly LIVE and have FUN!  In fact, I was given the assignment to do something fun every single day and I had a hard time thinking of what I would do!  How silly is that?!  Fun is a huge piece of the happy life puzzle and it is what opens us to the magic that is in the world.  So, I ask you: What have you done for fun lately?

 

  • Recognize and Celebrate Your Own Brilliance: As a coach, I am able to immediately see the light and brilliance that my clients have.  I see it, connect with it, and reflect it back to them in ways that they can see and feel it.  It can be far more difficult for me to stand back and view myself in that same way which at times results in doubt, frustration, and dare I say fear? A wonderfully talented soul sister of mine reminded me that I don’t have to compare my talents and gifts with any one else nor do I have to place anyone on a pedestal while viewing myself as ‘below’ them on the totem pole of power and authority.  When we are stepping onto our true path, it can be far too easy to compare ourselves with those around us.  We take note of their success and all that they have conquered while tallying up our ‘successes’ that never seem to amount to much. But when we can step back from our ego and view our life, our accomplishments, and our gifts through fresh eyes, we see that comparison is not necessary.  We are all brilliant in our own way and simply knowing that is the first step to truly seeing it.  I want you to know that you are brilliant as well!  Whether you are an artist, coach, healer, yoga instructor, or you are an amazing parent, partner, animal-lover etc.  YOU are brilliant and have a light and many amazing gifts that the world needs.  See it! Embrace it! Celebrate it! 🙂

 

  • Take Risks: This one is a HUGE message I have been getting in the last few weeks but I only recognized it last week.  Most of my life I have had this internal fight inside of myself.  Logic vs Dreams, Stability vs Freedom, Comfort vs Adventure.  I haven’t ever really been the risk-taker in life and have spent much of my life taking calculated risks while worrying about the best decision to make to keep things ‘stable’.  Since I started my business I have been playing it safe too which translates to playing small.  I have put my toe in the water of uncertainty and slowly eased in when what my heart really wants to do (and what my soul is aching to do) is dive in clothes and all!  I have been in my own way and while it may not seem like that on the outside, there are many ways it is manifesting in my life.  Procrastination, timidness, fear, and more uncertainty.  But here is the flip side of all that.  I KNOW that in order for me to be wildly successful and do all the work I am truly meant to do, I must stop with the fear, stop with the calculated risks and listen to my heart again.  The same heart that told me to leap into my business.  The same heart that said, I don’t know how but I will figure it out.  The same heart that at one point told me to move over 300 miles away from my home, my friends, and my family for love.  THAT is the heart I am listening to.  So risks I shall take and I encourage you to do the same.  So what if you don’t have all your ducks in a row, some ducks may show up to the party fashionably late, but that doesn’t stop the party.  Jump! Leap! Dive in and watch what happens to your life!

 

  • Ask For Help: I don’t know if this is because I am the oldest child or if I have developed a sense of ‘I can do it all myself’ syndrome, but somewhere along the way I decided I didn’t need help.  Not only that, but even if I did, I wouldn’t ask for it. And I am not exactly talking about asking my fellow neighbors and friends for help, I’m talking asking the Universe and the Divine for assistance.  I am a firm believer that part of what makes our amazing lives so great is the amount of support we receive from other realms.  Call it Heaven, God, Goddess, Angels, the Universe, or whatever it is you believe in, but I know that we are not meant to travel along our paths alone and yet there are times I don’t ask for help. So, I am getting back to my daily connection with Spirit (both mine and the Universal Spirit of all things) through meditation and prayer to bring that wonderfully supportive energy back into my life and business.  We don’t have to do everything on our own, nor do we have to know how, who, what, when, and all the extra details that go with it.  We can simply ask and be open to receive the answer.  It’s that simple! So, what could you use a little help with that you have been doing all on your own?  Ask, and you shall receive!

I hope that my recent breakthroughs and life lessons resonate with you and open your eyes to your very own blissful breakthroughs.  The more I grow, learn, and evolve, the more I realize life is a series of lessons that further uncover our greatness, beauty, and purpose.

May you have a bit of fun, recognize your own brilliance and light, take a few risks, dream big, and ask for help from the amazing and always loving Universe today and always.  Things are changing and life is too good to stay in one place and play small.  Reach beyond your comfort zone daily and expand into every corner of your greatness and watch as your life transforms into the most amazing ride you never thought possible.

Sending you lots of love,

Lamisha