Lamisha Serf-Walls

Risks & Results

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I have a confession to make.

Over the last few months I realized I have had an underlying fear that I couldn’t quite put my finger on until now…

Being seen in a big way. 

Sure, I write, coach, and am pretty active on social media, but I realized I’ve been afraid of putting myself out there in a big way.

And it’s not so much about the being seen as much as it is me being potentially rejected or disappointed by being seen.

You’ve been there right?

Well, it’s time to change all of that.

I’ve decided that October is going to be my best month ever.

This is the month I stop being afraid of stepping out and being seen and as a result, I’m taking risks.

I’m sharing my business with people more and more.  Reaching out to women that are stuck and struggling that I know I can be of service to.  Leaving my card in local businesses so more people find me.  Guest posting like crazy and sharing my thoughts with a wider audience.  I also just signed up to attend a women’s empowerment luncheon where I won’t know anyone, but is a great opportunity for me to network and connect with other like-minded women.

I’ll be honest.  Doing all of these things is a bit uncomfortable.  It stretches me to my max in some cases and brings up a ton of blocks for me to work through…which is great.  I’m learning detachment in the face of fear and learning to let go of the worry of disappointment.

As they say, if you don’t ask the answer is always no.

We are about a 1/3 of the way through the month and I’ve already taken more risks with amazing results than I have in the last 6 months.

The results have been amazing!

I’ve been published again in Kind Over Matter with an article on Keeping Your Eyes On Your Own Path, and in The Magic Happens with a letter to the Dreamers of the World . I also wrote a post for Clear Calm Space on The Clutter You Can’t See  and just found out my post Stuck? Don’t ‘Try Harder’…Do This Instead  was just published on The Huffington Post!

I also have an article in an incredible book that is a #1 best seller called Empowered Women of Social Media: 44 Women found their “Voices” using the Power of Social Networking (Volume 1) that was just released last weekend!

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photo credit: symphony of love via photopin cc

And I’m not stopping there.  I’m looking for new ways to take risks, to be seen, to expand, grow, and reach beyond where I am so I can be of service to more women.  To help you amazing ladies make life the absolute best and help you live a life of freedom as you turn your dreams into reality.  I’m ready to finish the year off with a bang and I’m inviting you to do the same.

What have you been too scared to do so far this year?  Maybe it’s pitching some articles, sharing your business, or starting a new venture.  Maybe you have been afraid of taking the leap to ask for help, to hire a coach, or to take that next scary step.  Whatever it is, I invite you to make the commitment to take risks and embrace the results.

I’d love to be of support to you as you do this in any way I can and invite you take the leap with hiring a coach.  Schedule your 30-Minute Consultation to chat about how I can help you take big action to make your dreams a reality.  You deserve to live a life of freedom. So what are you waiting for? 

I also want to invite you to join my VIP list.  I’m creating a community of life-lovers and a freedom tribe that I would love for you to be a part of, but you must be on the list to join.  Stay tuned for the invitation to come your way. 

Have a fabulous weekend of risk taking and amazing results!!

<3

Lamisha

My BS: Who Am I To Help?

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Earlier this week I shared this post with my VIP tribe and while it’s a bit of a vulnerable post, I realized how important it is for me to share it with you as well.  May you find comfort in knowing that you are not alone and join me in facing your BS head on, because honestly it’s hard to change anything with that junk holding you back.

Ok, it’s time for me to get something off my chest.  It’s something I’ve been thinking about a lot recently as I have been facing the BS (aka Blind Spot) that has been holding me back and I’m done with it!

The past two months have been pretty tough.  The positive side of me wants to tell you all about the growth, the lessons, and the beautiful blessings in disguise and while there was a lot of that going on that’s not always how it felt. There is another part of me that remembers the worry, the fear, the frustration, and at times the overwhelming tears.In the midst of chaos at home, schedules being thrown out the window, and lots of change going on both personally & professionally, I was forced to face my BS…head on.

The BS I’m talking about is both bull shit & something you may know as my Blind Spot.Yep, in the middle of sharing with you how your BS can hold you back, mine was there waiting for me, trying desperately to get me to not only play small, but quit playing all together. (Funny how that happens right?)  And once I realized what it really was that was holding me back in my business (with the help of another coach), I knew I had to share it with you.

So, here is my most recent experience coming face-to-face with my BS.  My hope is that when you hear my story, you leave with a deeper understanding of how imperative it is to identify and clear your own Blind Spot and you have a bit more compassion for yourself.  Regardless of who you are, what you do, or what area of your life is affected, we all have thoughts & beliefs that are holding us back in our careers, love, relationships, and life in general.  And the best part of all: there is a way to identify and clear it!

Coming face-to-face with your BS isn’t fun or all that comfortable, but I assure you it is the first step to living that amazing, free-flowing, ever expanding life of your dreams.  It is almost as if we believe we can’t or shouldn’t have it all, but as one of my favorite quotes says:

“We ask ourselves: Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?  Actually, who are you not to be?” 

~Marianne Williamson

Go be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous and clear the BS that is in your way!  You have an amazing life of freedom and flow to live so hop to it!

I believe in you,

Are You In Danger of This? (And how not to sacrifice your happiness.)

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What if someone could tell you without a shadow of a doubt the way your future will likely unfold if you continue on the exact course you are on this very minute?

Would you be interested?

No, I’m not switching businesses and becoming a psychic 🙂

I ask you that because I know something that you might not be aware of and again I’m no psychic, but I have seen this enough to know that you might be in danger.

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Meet Joni* (Names have been changed for privacy sake.)

Joni is an incredibly talented entrepreneur.  She’s sweet, charismatic, caring, compassionate and people adore her!  She’s married to her soul mate, has a gorgeous home, and is blessed with creativity that flows like an open faucet.  Her business is booming and her calendar is booked out 9 months!

BUT…

She’s got a problem and it’s a BIG one.

She is having a hard time finding balance amongst all the awesomeness that is her life.

When she is in work mode, she’s hard-core.  She works long hours, stays up late, and often burns the candle at both ends.

When she manages to find time to focus on her ‘home’ life with her hubby, she is constantly trying to make up for lost time.

She’s lost on the teeter-totter of two extremes and no matter what she does she can’t quite find the happy medium.

The result:

She’s frustrated and cranky most days.  When she’s focused on her business, she worries about her relationship and the many things at home that feel half-assed or un-done.  When she’s at home, she worries about being at work. She thinks: “What if my clients need me?  What about the next deadline?  The next launch? Did I return all important emails?”

She’s stuck, overwhelmed, and feels guilty about not being where she needs to be and often feels like a failure.

She frequently discounts her successes or over looks them completely because she becomes hyper-focused on the things that aren’t working (aka not being able to find balance).

What on the outside looks like an awesome life, on the inside feels unbalanced and incomplete.  She frequently thinks that “if only” she could find the balance between her two very important worlds, she could finally ease into relaxation mode and actually enjoy the magnificent life she has created.

But without being able to see the core issue (which is not the lack of balance in her life), she is destined for a life of exhaustion, fear, frustration, and stuck-ness. She is blind to the belief that is holding her back because she is simply too close to see it.  What she thinks is a simple fix that centers around time management and taking a break every now and then is really just a symptom of a deeper issue.

She has a choice.  She can continue to try to treat the symptom (i.e. the lack of balance in her life) and experience the brief reprieve that it provides for her or she can choose to seek help.  And to be honest, she must first understand and be aware of the consequences of not clearing this issue.

Examples:

  • A stressed work life can result in physical illness
  • A stressed home life can result in relationship trouble
  • A stressed inner life can result in incredible fear, lack of confidence, self-sabotage, and even worse…an unhappy, unfulfilled life.

Getting to the end of her rope and being truly ready to move through this challenge once and for all, Joni reaches out for help.  She knows the magnificence that lies on the other side of this struggle and she’s ready to identify and clear the belief that is holding her hostage in exhaustion, fear, and frustration.

The question is are YOU?

happinessMany of you may be able to directly relate to the specific challenge or symptom that Joni has struggled with or you have your own issue that manifests itself in your life or business in your relationships, self-care, time management, procrastination, marketing (or lack thereof), or maybe it is something different.

The point is we all have that one thing that keeps showing up for us over and over again that leaves us feeling drained, frustrated, and just plain stuck.  There are some of you who are ready to throw in the towel and accept that ‘this is just the way life is’ and you may even believe ‘you just can’t have it all’.

But I am here to tell you, there IS a solution to your problem and it starts with this first step: You must first know the consequences of continuing on the path you are on and refuse to sacrifice the joy and fulfilling life you are destined for any longer.

That’s it.

Life is supposed to be amazing and you are meant to work through the lessons, beliefs, and challenges that hold us back from that incredible joy.  It is part of your journey, but you get to choose if you are ready to move forward and clear it and some of the biggest challenges are those we can’t see directly because we are simply too close.

With that I ask you:

What amazing-ness are you sacrificing by staying stuck? AND Are you ready to take the first step to free yourself from the struggle and frustration?

If so, I invite you to schedule a 30-Minute Consultation to chat with me about your challenges and to see if (like Joni) you are ready to clear them once and for all.  No strings attached.  So what do you say? Are you ready?

P.S. Don’t forget that the 7-Day Resolution Refresh challenge begins on Monday so if you are in need of some inspiration to get some of those amazing goals knocked off your to-do list, get signed up so you don’t miss a beat!

 

Announcing: Resolution Refresh, A 7-Day Challenge

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Oh my, time flies when you’re having fun huh?  It’s September already and I’m curious how many of you have actually looked at your New Years Resolutions/Intentions since say February or March?

If you are like many people, you probably haven’t taken a proper look to see where you stand as far as your goals are concerned.  Today I am inviting you to take a look and see how far you have come.

I’ll wait….

You’re back? Awesome! So, how did it go?

Were you surprised to find a few of your items ticked of your list?  (Congrats!)

How about the items you haven’t gotten to yet?  If you are like most people the things that are still unfinished are likely outweighing the things that you have accomplished from your list.  That’s totally normal.

Don’t panic, I know we only have 4 months left in the year, but that is a TON of time to make some major progress on the things that are truly aligned with what you want and who you are.

And lucky for you aside from being the Blind Spot Expert, I am also really action-oriented and pretty kick-ass with accountability (if I do say so myself.)

So, here’s the deal.  I have created a 7-Day Challenge to help get your rear in gear.  And I know you have seen a million ‘challenges’ where you get emails everyday with action items and at about day 3 you begin deleting the emails.  (I have done the same thing.) But, this challenge is a bit different.

While I will be sending you emails everyday with action items, each email is meant to help you really determine what is most important to you and to guide you to the next step using the very powerful and amazing wisdom within…your intuition.

So, in reality this is more than just a ‘get shit done’ kind of challenge.  It’s all about alignment, listening, releasing, and taking the next step to make magical things happen in your life…by the end of the year.

Sound good?

The challenge officially begins September 8th, however registration will remain open until September 15th for those of you who decide to hop on the Resolution Refresh train a bit later.

And since you will be so graciously allowing me into your very sacred mailbox, I promise to keep the emails short, sweet, and to the point so you can get to the very powerful action items easily. Deal?

Sign-up for the Resolution Refresh Challenge and watch the rest of your year transform in some truly amazing ways.

I want you to know that I am doing this challenge along with you and will be sharing my insights on Facebook and Twitter and I encourage you to join me using #ResolutionRefresh so we can keep up with your amazing progress.  I am super excited to dig into my 2014 goals to see how far I have come and to realign my inentions for the rest of the year.

Let’s end the year with a bang shall we?

Big love to you all!

Have You Identified Your B.S. (It’s not what you think.)

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Hey Lovely!

I know you.

You’re the kind of woman who knows what she wants and has no problem making shit happen.  Your vision is clear and you are no stranger to putting in the effort to make your dreams come true.  That’s how you got to be where you are.

People look at you and are in awe.  Your power, energy, magic, and positive vibes make people come out of the woodwork to connect with you.

It’s no surprise really, I mean you exude success at every turn and people are taking notice.  You are a force to be reckoned with for sure and there are tons of people who admire you.  Truth be told, they want what you have so they can make that magic happen in their own lives.

Passion pours from your soul and whether you are writing, designing, coaching, crafting, singing, dancing, performing, selling, speaking, consulting, organizing, healing, teaching, or anything else that happens to be your gift, you are simply fantastic….

At least that’s how they see it right?

But you and I know the truth, we know the WHOLE story.

Beyond the magic, miracles, success, drive, passion, and purpose there is something that you just don’t want to think about (let alone discuss with your admirers).

It’s the challenge that keeps rearing its ugly head no matter what you do.

That area of your life that can at times cause you to forget about all of the other amazing things that you bring to the table because that one thing is off.  And try as you might, you have not been able to tick that box.

You’ve read the books, repeated the affirmations, and maybe even tried to wrestle that damn thing to the ground, but to no avail.

You know what I call that?

That my dear, is your BLIND SPOT (or rather a symptom of your blind spot) and before you worry your pretty little head about it, I want you to know that we all have one (or two or three).

Your Blind Spot is the thing you can’t quite see that is holding you back.

Have you ever wondered why life coaches have their own coaches?  It’s because of that dreaded Blind Spot.

When you are immersed in your own life or business, you are simply too close to see what you are unconsciously saying, doing, believing, etc. and you likely aren’t aware of what is holding you back.  And knowing what isn’t working in your life or business (i.e. the symptom) is the first step in identifying and clearing your Blind Spot.

The truth is this: Our Blind Spots bull shit us. 

They make us believe we aren’t good enough in some capacity and can leave us feeling frustrated, sad, angry, and at times worthless which causes us to ignore our greatness.

Tell me this: What is your Blind Spot costing you?

Happiness? Money? Clients? Bliss? Your dreams? Love? Romance? Adventure? Time?

Is it worth it?

I can tell you from experience it’s not.  Life is too short to go on with a block that can be illuminated and cleared with a bit of assistance.

Lucky for you, I am the Blind Spot Expert and have recently been through my own clearing that has taught me some amazing lessons that I will be sharing with you along with information on how I can help you identify and clear your own Blind Spot.

But for today I want to know this:

What is that thing that isn’t working in your life or business and what is it costing you right now? (I’ll give you a hint.  It’s the first thing that you thought of when you read that line.)

Share your answer in the comments below.  We are in this together because I guarantee we all have one! Let’s get it out in the open so we can clear it and take your life, your business, and your dreams to amazing new heights!