Lamisha Serf-Walls

7 Things I’m Afraid to Tell You…

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photo credit: Elf-8 Non no nej via photopin (license)

 

A few years ago, I came across a blog post by another coach titled “Things I’m Afraid to Tell You”. 

At this point, I can’t remember who that was, but I was intrigued by the concept and shared a few things with my tribe that I too was afraid to share and today I’m doing it again.

It’s always incredibly important to me that I be 100% honest and real with you because after all, I am only human.  You may read some of these and find that I am no longer a coach you want to follow or find that I am exactly the kind of coach you want to be a part of your life.  Either way, I know it’s all for the best.

So, without further ado (and more procrastinating) here we go!

  • I just pulled the plug on the 60-Day Momentum Mastermind.  – You know that new blended program I put together and announced last week that was supposed to begin on Monday?  Yep, I pulled the plug.  The truth is, it was something I have been wanting to do for a long time (create a blended program), but something didn’t feel quite right about it.  So, instead of trying to revive it in some way, I’m pulling the plug.  There is a part of me that is slightly embarrassed, yet also incredibly relieved about it because it frees up a bit more time for me to do something else. (More on that soon.)
  • I’m afraid of what you think of me.  There are times when I really overthink what I want to say to you because my intention is never to offend you or rock the boat.  There are times when I wonder if I’m “selling” too much and creating too many offers and I wonder what you might think of me because of it.  (On a deep level, I guess I just want to be liked.)  But, then I remember why I am in business to begin with.  I love what I do (most of the time) and if I am creating offers (or pulling the plug) there is a very good reason for it and who am I to keep that from YOU, especially if it’s something that could help you?  This is also the reason I was hesitant to share an article I wrote on race that was recently published on ElephantJournal.
  • Sometimes I get bored with my business.  Now let me be clear, I am NEVER bored with the people I work with…ever.  But, there have been times (ahem-recently) when I have felt a bit bored with myself and my business.  I am the type of person that likes to shake things up and get really excited about new things I am offering in general and if it’s feeling a bit stagnant, my inspiration goes down the tubes and I have to regroup and reset myself.  The truth is, I’ve been feeling that way for a bit now and I’m just itching to bring in some fresh new energy to shake things up.  (Again, more on that later.) To be clear, I LOVE what I do, I love who I work with, but sometimes I don’t love the way I do things, so I have a need to switch it up.
  • Sometimes I don’t feel like “enough”.  When my mind-gremlins start kicking up, I get so stuck in my head about things that I start believing the crappy thoughts that come up and I feel like I’m not enough.  Not smart enough, strong enough, clear enough, good enough, blah, blah, blah.  Most recently, I felt like I wasn’t a good enough mother.  I’m human.  Sometimes these are quiet thoughts in the back of my mind and other times they can take me to my knees and make me cry uncle, but I always come out the other side stronger, because I know that this is just another part of the up-leveling process for me.
  • I am a lesbian.  I realize that many of you know this about me already and it shouldn’t even be a “thing”.  I get that, but I’d be lying to you if I told you that even after being ‘out’ for close to 15 years now (plus being married to the woman of my dreams and having a family too) that there isn’t a part of me that worries what other people might think of me because of this fact.  I also realize that for some people, this is an utter and total deal-breaker.  (There is an unsubscribe button at the bottom of this email, should this be a deal-breaker for you.  No hard feelings at all and I wish you all the love in the world.) Moving on…
  • I am a card-carrying (not really) woo-woo coach & intuitive.  All this means is that I am deeply in touch with my intuition (something we all have) and I am able to feel into the circumstances, energy, and “stuff” that clients have going on pretty easily.  It’s my super-power an while it’s not something I try to explain (and to be honest, most of my clients don’t really ask) it’s 100% how I work.  I also often use oracle cards with clients and occasionally will offer to do readings for people if that’s something they are into.  (If that’s something you’re interested in let me know because I LOVE doing them.). The truth is, all of this spiritual and “woo-woo” stuff makes me the coach I am and it helps me, help you.
  • Sometimes, life gets the best of me.  Basically what that means is that there are times when I need to retreat, regroup, rehash, revive, and refresh my mind so I can show up and be the best for you.  It is often accompanied by general shit going on in my personal world (like this past month my wife had surgery, Mercury Retro gave me a run for my money, and I was totally off of my mindset practice.) that takes me off track.  For the most part, I don’t like to share too much of that with you because, well-who likes to talk about that stuff?  I mean, it’s the stuff that makes me relate-able, and human I suppose, but it’s just not fun to share.  That, and part of me doesn’t want you to think less of me because of it.  (I’m also a recovering, perfectionist.)

So, I guess that’s it for this round and honestly it wasn’t as bad as I thought it might be.  I expect there may be some people who leave my tribe because of one or more of what I listed above and to you I wish you all the best.

For those of you who are sticking around-I’m so happy for you to be here!  Stay tuned because the next email you receive from me is SO exciting and you don’t want to miss it!!!

P.P.S. If you LOVE being a part of my tribe and you’ve been wanting to work with me 1:1 (and you aren’t currently), hit reply to this email OR sign up for a free 30-minute consultation and I’ll give you the inside scoop on this very-super-secret-squirrel-crazy thing I’m cooking up that I’ll be announcing to the public in a few days.

The day FEAR almost won…

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photo credit: “Fear” in stone via photopin (license)

The day FEAR almost won, happened just last week.

The scenario is one I see my clients struggle with every single day and yet, I had been so far removed from it myself I almost forgot what it felt like…until last week.

Recently I’ve been feeling the call to get back to writing on a regular basis.  To write from the heart and share my message authentically and with purpose.  Over the past few months it hasn’t felt like the right time or the right moment to write and to be honest, I didn’t have a ton of inspiration to do so, yet I made the commitment in my mind and I knew the time would come for me to write again…and it did.

Last week, our world was hit with more violence and protests that brought up a TON of emotion for so many people, myself included.  I had a visceral response to it all and I felt called to write about it, only I was afraid.

You see, this work that I do…it’s more than just a career for me.  It’s my mission.  It’s my calling.  It’s my gift to the world and when I see that the world is crumbling in turmoil and I feel inspired and called to speak, write, or share on the topics, I can’t ignore it.

My business is my platform in a way and from day one I’ve committed to using that platform to promote peace, understanding, compassion, non-judgement, love, and joy in all areas.  But, it also means sometimes I have to do things that are uncomfortable for me to do.  Say things I’m uncomfortable to say, and share a message that may not be popular and last week I did just that.

I wrote an article that came directly from my heart and soul.  The words poured out of my fingers and onto the computer with ease.  There was no question of what needed to come through, but a part of me was afraid to write it.

To be honest, an even bigger part of me was afraid NOT to write it.  So, I continued writing and when I was finished I submitted it for publication.

When I first wrote it, I wasn’t exactly clear on where it would end up.  All I knew was that I needed to write it.  Once it was complete, the next step seemed obvious and after I hit “submit”, the fear set in.

 

“What will people think?”

“It’s so different from what I write! What if people hate it?”

“What if people hate me?”

“What if…”

The FEAR just wouldn’t go away and yet there was a part of me that knew it was all going to be ok.

I followed my inspiration and I knew that it would be ok.  I just knew it.

After a few hours or so, I forgot about the fear of ‘what if’ and honestly forgot I had submitted the article completely.  A few hours later, I received an email letting me know my piece was accepted for publishing and that I would be notified once it had been published.

I was shocked. Afraid. Worried. And funny enough I was proud.

I was proud that I had once again followed my intuition and inspiration and I had not let fear win.

I was proud that I was walking my talk and doing the things that scare me, even when I’m unsure of how it will all work out, but even more so, because I listened, I took action, and I let go.

The actual article has yet to be published, but as soon as it is, I’ll update this post for you so you can read it in all it’s glory.

The moral of this story is this:

 

Fear may try to stop you from doing the very thing that will move you closer to your vision.  Don’t let it. Follow your intuition, take that big action and trust that it’s all working out in your favor, even when you can’t see the entire path.

My question for you today: What is it that you are MOST afraid to do, but you know you NEED to do?

My advice…go do that!

 

#MassiveActionAugust: Are YOU in?

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If you caught my live stream on Friday you know I’m 100% utterly and completely DONE with the excuses.

Over the last few weeks I’ve been basically stuck in the rut of playing, thinking, and LIVING small.

In the name of being ‘busy’, just moving, not really feeling settled, traveling a lot and goodness knows what other excuses I’ve had, I’ve been SO LAZY about my vision.

I’ve been staying up late, sleeping in late, missing my work outs and just generally sabotaging my efforts left, right, and center.  I’ll be honest though, there was a part of me that felt like I was entitled to this indulging behavior because it’s summer and there are a lot of other personal things going on.

But let’s be clear…that too is just an excuse.

Everyday I share my message about the importance of tapping into your power and sticking to your vision and playing BIG and here I am playing small.  Teeny-tiny even!

I’ve not done anything to push my comfort zone limits and have been playing it way too safe.  And you know what?  I could FEEL it!

I had gotten a bit bored with myself.  Aside from my amazing client calls and my work in the Miracle Mindset Immersion program, I found myself feeling a bit blase about life and my business.

With no real energy behind my vision OR inspiration to fuel me forward, I was just kinda boppin’ along in my own world until I got a HUGE message from the Universe on Friday in the form of a podcast interview just ‘randomly’ popping up on my phone. (You know how I feel about coincidences right?)

Well this interview with Lisa Nichols was JUST the message I needed to wake me up from this weird fuzzy in-between space I’ve been living in for the past few weeks.

It helped me realize I’ve not only been playing way too small in terms of my message, my passion, and my purpose, but also that I’ve been making a shit-ton of excuses like:

  • I’m too busy. (Bullshit)
  • I’m too tired. (Go to bed earlier.)
  • I’m not sure what to do (Bullshit)
  • I’m not ready (So what?)
  • I’m confused (Bullshit)
  • I might fail! (You also might succeed!)
  • Oh but this is way more important…(Also bullshit)

Blah, blah, blah.

Now I am definitely not a hustler by any stretch of the imagination and I truly prefer to create from a space of flow as opposed to working 20 hour days, but the past few weeks have been just plain ridiculous.

I’m been playing it safe because…it’s comfortable? It’s easier? It meant I could binge on Netflix for more hours a day? (My guilty pleasure for sure!)

I’m not entirely sure the root cause, but what I can tell you is that I’m DONE.

You see, when I give up on myself and play (as Lisa Nichols put it) hopscotch with my comfort zone- in and back out, in and back out, I’m not only letting myself down, but I’m also letting YOU down.

I’m hiding my gift, my message, my vision, and I’m not helping nearly as many people as I know I am meant to help.  So for that I apologize.

So…as we enter this new month (also my birth month-woohoo!) I am making a new commitment to YOU and to myself.

I’ve decided that this month is all about the massive action!  #MassiveActionAugust if you will.

Starting TODAY I am setting the intention to show up and consciously, consistently, and continuously stretch myself outside of my comfort zone on a DAILY basis and I’m inviting you to join me.

It’s time to shake things up and get the energy and flow going again before we enter into the last quarter of 2016!  So, if you’re not willing to give up on the idea of making 2016 the best year yet for you and you are ready to SHOW UP for yourself…let’s do this!

I want you to take MASSIVE ACTION beginning today.  Actions that kick you out of your comfort zone, shake you up, and set you up for amazing success.  You don’t have to know what you will do each day, just go with your intuition and share it on Facebook with the hashtag #MassiveActionAugust so I can see what you all are up to.

I’m not allowing the bullshit excuses to stop me anymore.  My purpose, vision, and desires are too important and so are YOURS!

So what do you say?  Let’s make #MassiveActionAugust blow up!!

If you’re in hit ‘reply’ and give me a HELL YEAH and share with me your first massive action!

And of course, if you’ve been thinking, tinkering, and toying with the idea of working with me let this be the day you take MASSIVE ACTION and schedule your consultation to see if we are a good fit.

P.S. To follow along with me and my own massive actions, hop on over to Facebook and make sure you are part of my tribe there!

The cost of giving up…

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photo credit: It's all in the mind via photopin (license)
photo credit: It’s all in the mind via photopin (license)

There have been many times when I’ve thought about giving up, particularly when I couldn’t really see my way forward. 

You see, when I began this path, nothing was certain.

I made a decision to follow my heart and LIVE my purpose and 2 weeks later, I got laid off from my full-time job.

I had no clients, no money, and a dream.

A dream to help empower women to see their true brilliance so they could finally step into their power and LIVE the life they were meant to.

A dream to teach women to listen to their intuition, see and honor their truth so they could go out into the world and make a difference.

I had NO idea how this was going to take shape and while over time it began to get more clear, there were moments I thought of giving up.

But, you see the cost of giving up is much greater than just a hit to my ego.  The cost of giving up effects not just myself and my family, but the world.

The women I could be helping and the people they would then help as an extension from the support I gave them.

You see, it’s all about the ripple effect.

Giving up on my dream means I’m also giving up on yours and every single time I thought about throwing in the towel, I remembered the great cost of giving up.

But…recently I am seeing more and more women settling for ‘what is’ instead of digging deep and doing the work that is needed to move beyond where they are.

I SEE the dreams in their eyes, the inspiration in their soul, and the tired, worn out beliefs they carry with them that are holding them back.

Like heavy baggage, they slowly move forward, if they move at all while most simply settle for this moment, allowing their dream to be just that…a dream.

Let me ask you something…

When did you decide you’d never make it?

When did you decide the life you desire wasn’t meant for you?

When did you decide it would just never happen?

When did you decide that this is as good as it gets for you?

Do you know?

Was it when you got knocked down for a moment or when you thought that one little trial was the sign that THIS wasn’t meant to be?

I’m seeing a whole heap of incredibly talented, intelligent, powerful women throwing in the towel because of their current circumstance.  They’re allowing their current “reality” be the reason they lose hope and give up completely.

But, here’s what they don’t know (or in the least they have forgotten):

What you SEE in front of you is merely a reflection of the beliefs you hold in your mind and in your heart. 

What you SEE in front of you is NOT an indication of what you are able to do unless you give up.

We’ve already talked about the cost of giving up, so why on earth would you allow yourself to give up on your dream, your vision, your desires, AND the very people that need you most???

I think it’s pretty clear that right now we need all the positive change-makers we can get rallying together with their gifts uplifting, inspiring, and supporting others and you are no different.

We NEED your light.

We NEED your power.

We NEED YOU to step up and see what you bring to this amazing world and you can’t do that by thinking that this is as good as it gets!

If you don’t believe better days are ahead, then what’s the point of all of this?

It’s time.

It’s YOUR time.

It’s way PAST time for you to get your mindset together and make a difference not only in YOUR life, but in the lives of the very souls you were put here to change.

So, are you still willing to give up on yourself knowing what it costs?

If not, consider this your invitation to something that will transform your life in ways you never thought possible and set you on a path to BE the woman you know you were meant to be.

It’s the Miracle Mindset Immersion program and it is life-changing, reality-shifting, belief-busting goodness that will change your life for the better and it’s open for Early Bird Registration until 11:59pm on 7/17/2016.  Get all the details about the program and the limited VIP option by clicking the button below.

It’s time!

 

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How bad do you want it???

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photo credit: sensitive noise / obvious 2 via photopin (license)

 

I’m going to shoot straight today and ask you flat out.

How bad do you want it?

It being…change, transformation, abundance, joy, peace, flow, love, compassion, adventure, etc.?

How bad do you want it?

 

Do you want it enough to get a little uncomfortable while you stretch outside your comfort zone?

Do you want it enough to look a the dark parts of your soul that feel a bit icky?

Do you want it enough to take BIG ACTION even when it scares the crap out of you?

Do you want it enough to NOT GIVE UP, no matter what your external circumstances tell you?

 

Well..do you?

If you said yes, then I have good news for you…you will get it.  It will happen for you and you will experience the sweet nectar that comes from standing out and taking ownership of what you desire.

If you said, “ummm, maybe”, I’ve got news for you.

It’s time to OWN it.

It’s time for you to step out and stand in your power for all that you desire and to stop pussy-footing around about what you may or may not be able to achieve.  There is no sugar-coating it friends.  When you want something and I mean REALLY want it…you keep going.

You get knocked down and you get up.  You keep writing, singing, acting, reaching, growing, evolving, living, sharing, and moving forward because you can’t not do it.

Your purpose is a part of you.  It IS you.  It’s who you are and what you were put here to do and if you aren’t owning it…I mean really owning it…what are you doing?

You have a God-given, Divinely inspired, Universally-assigned gift to be truly, magnificently, and unapologetically YOU.

Live it.  Love it.  Share it. Be it. And for the love of all things holy…OWN IT.

There is no one else like YOU and if you know anything about the state of our worldly affairs right now, you know we could use some kickass visionaries following their heart to make this world a better place.

If that is YOU…it’s time.

Your time to shine.

Your time to drop the excuses and step your game up.

And if you HAVEN’T been because you’ve been thinking all the crappy mind-mumbo-jumbo that has you playing small, it’s time for change.

Now.

Today.

Are you ready?

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