Lamisha Serf-Walls

2 Questions You Need to Ask Yourself Today

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There are 2 things I ask every single client and they are questions I am going to challenge you to ask yourself today.

But, before you do that, I want you to know that the answers you give to these questions will indeed change your life for the better.

And I would venture to say that these are questions you may not have thought to ask yourself before now.

1. What do I want?

This sounds like a very obvious question to ask especially if your interest is to create a life you love, because how can you create a life you love if you don’t know what you want?  But, most people simply settle for what they have in their current reality.  They may desire a bit more money, more free time, and a few more vacations but other than that, they don’t think much about what it is that they want.

So, what do you want?  What does your dream life look like?  If I had a magic wand and I could give you exactly what you are asking for in full detail right this very moment, would you have the clarity to make the most out of your one wish?  Chances are you wouldn’t.  Today I challenge you to grab a journal or a piece of paper and write down exactly what you want out of life.  Focus in full detail on how you want to feel and how that looks in life for you.  What are your key emotional markers for the life of your dreams?

2. What do I need to do right now that I’ve been avoiding?

Most people think that the answers they are seeking lie outside of them and they must go find them.  That’s actually not an accurate depiction of where your answers are.  The answers you seek lie within you, right here, right now.  And when most of us feel stuck in a rut or like we are on the hamster wheel of life, we overlook the thing we know we need to do get us moving forward again.

So, what is it you need to do right now that you’ve been avoiding?  I asked this question to a client who was feeling pretty stuck in a certain situation.  After a brief pause, she had listed 3 things she needed to do to move forward and they were things she had been avoiding out of fear, anxiety, and just plain worry.  Whatever answer you get to this question, go do it.  Take action and watch the Universe work its magic to help support you in your cause.  I promise that is the secret to creating a life you love.

 

Let’s keep the conversation going.  What answer did you get that surprised you a bit? Share your thoughts in the comments below.  I’d love to hear your answers!

 

What’s in your toolbox?

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Before I get to today’s post, have you completed my brief survey?  If not, I’d love it if you would take a few minutes to share your thoughts with me for a chance to win one of 5 free coaching sessions I will be giving away on Thursday.

I remember many years ago in college I was seeing a mentor/counselor to chat a bit about a relationship I was in and on more than one occasion she asked me what was in my toolbox?

When I was met with a problem or a challenge in my relationship or in my life in general, she wanted to know what tools I was using to cope and help solve those problems.

It was a funny idea as I wasn’t quite sure what type of tools I had at that time, but it was also the beginning of me filling my toolbox with practices, rituals, activities, mindset strategies etc. to help me not just cope and survive life, but to THRIVE.

As it turns out, I’ve done so much research in the last 10 years that I’ve collected a TON of tools and practices that I share with my clients to help them continue to grow and evolve and create a life they ultimately love.

One of the misconceptions about coaching (or at least my style of coaching) is that by hiring a coach you are entering into a long-term relationship where the coach will give you the answers you have been seeking.  That’s actually the exact opposite of what I do.

My mission is to help women like you fill your toolbox with the practices, strategies, knowledge, and other tools that are available to us all to help empower you to be more of who you really are and do more of what you really love.

In a sense, I suppose I’m more of a teacher than a coach, though it doesn’t really matter what you call me. What matters is that you know you don’t have to get the answers from anyone else.  All the answers you are seeking lie within you and it is my job to teach you how to access them.

Is that a business-killer?  I don’t think so.

I like to think of it as me being in the business of empowerment.  I want you to learn the tricks of the trade so you can ride off into the sunset and live that crazy amazing life you’ve been dreaming of.  You don’t need me holding your hand for years to come.  All you need is a toolbox stocked full of tools you can use to tap into the wealth of knowledge that you have lying within you.

I guarantee that in this very moment you have a few things that work for you.  Maybe communication, journaling, art, or writing are some of the tools you use.  That’s perfect!  But, I want to teach you more…a lot more.

In fact, I want to teach you a new tool every week for the rest of the year and the ONLY people that are getting access to this amazing wealth of information right now are my 90-day Breakthrough & 6-Month VIP clients.  For the next month, anyone who registers to work with me in either of those programs will automatically gain access to this Special Bonus that includes a wealth of knowledge that I am calling the Universal Toolbox.

In it you will learn all sorts of tools to help you focus on what you want, shed the layers that are no longer serving you, and tap into the amazing power you have within.

You are going to learn tools and concepts like vibration, energy healing, tapping into your intuition, visualization, forgiveness, gratitude, mantras, affirmations, law of attraction skills, and so much more!

Not only will you learn how to use these tools each week, but you will be able to connect with others learning the same things and you will be invited to an exclusive weekly call to help you implement those tools.  This is a HUGE bonus that will catapult your vibration and manifesting abilities to another stratosphere.

So, are you interested in learning more about this bonus and possibly working together?  If so, let’s schedule a FREE 30-Minute Consultation to chat a bit about how I can help you.

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Your Limitless Life

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photo credit: clouds via photopin (license)

It took me many years to come to the realization that I am capable of creating my life experience.

I wasn’t always like this.  It took me many years of believing I was bound by my circumstances and experiencing that in my everyday life before I started looking for another way.

You see, on the inside I knew that I had the power, but there was a part of me that doubted it.  I thought I was destined for the mediocrity that is adulthood.

Work, bills, responsibility and that’s it.

The creativity I craved and the joy I knew was waiting for me was at one time just a pipe dream.  A figment of my imagination that I created to get through each day.

What I know now is that we are each given a limitless life.

One that allows us to create, craft, form, build, and enjoy anything we desire.  We have the power to manifest amazing experiences and that is what life is all about.  It’s about growing, evolving, becoming more of who we are.

We peel back the layers to uncover more false beliefs that are holding us back and more authenticity in how we live, connect, and share with one another.

YOU have this same limitless life.

YOU have the power to change.

YOU are tapped into a universal grid of power that with a bit of intention and focus, will change your life and the world.

YOU have all you need, right here and right now.

The fear, anxiety, worry, frustrations, and doubts that tell you, you don’t…well they are lying to you.

I speak from experience when I say…anything is possible.

I never dreamed of creating a business empowering women to create a life of passion, purpose, and joy.  I couldn’t fathom ever working on my own, being my own boss, AND loving what I do.  I didn’t think I had the energy, focus, or  knowledge to make it happen.  I just didn’t know what was possible…until I did.

Until one day my heart and soul screamed so loudly I couldn’t ignore it another moment.  For years I settled.  For years I succumbed to what I was ‘supposed’ to do and ignored what I was meant to do.

Until one day when everything clicked and I knew, I had to leap.

Everyday I am blessed to work with women with their own vision.  They are led to me because they have listened to the call of their soul and they respond.  They are ready.  They are inspired and awake enough to receive the support that I am able to provide and everyday I get to do this work I am forever grateful.  Because with every limitless life I help to change, I am changing my own.

Today I ask you this…what are you doing with your limitless life?  Are you answering the call of your soul or are you trying to cancel it out by listening to what you think you ‘should’ do instead of what you are meant to do?

It’s time to answer the call and make a change.  You have a limitless life with so many gifts to share with the world and it’s time you shared them.

If you are feeling the call of your soul and you are ready to respond, let’s schedule a 30-minute consultation to chat a bit more about your vision and how I may be able to support you.  This is my life’s work and I am honored to be able to do it. I want you to feel the same about your limitless life.

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Life Upheaval = An Opportunity to Up-level

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So, life’s been pretty…interesting lately.

There have been moments when everything feels in alignment, on purpose, and totally flowing and other times where it feels like the ground I am standing on is shifting under my feet.

It’s an interesting place to be since each feeling is totally different than the other, but it’s also a feeling I know well, though often forget.

I’m seeing this happen in many of my friend’s and client’s lives too.  Life feels so overwhelming and things feel like they are coming apart at the seams.  Perfectly laid plans are crumbling and it feels like we are being forced to purge so many beliefs, fears, and even physical stuff.

I’m no astrologer, but I totally believe in the power of the planets and their alignment and it feels like this life upheaval is a Universal affair.

Lucky us.

From some of my favorite spiritual teachers and intuitives, I am hearing that this is an opportunity for us to release what no longer serves us and welcome in new opportunities and new energies.  Makes sense right?  We are getting so close to Spring and this is similar to a life Spring cleaning.

I’ve felt this type of thing before.  As I said, it’s not new to me at all as I have had several big life upheavals that have opened the door to more living, learning, growing, and ultimately new opportunities.

The life upheaval can show up in a variety of ways-losing a job, moving cross country, or even just little disagreements and blow outs with friends and family.  I’ve done all of these in various times in my life and they all have lead to new opportunities.

Here’s how I see it.

We have moments in our lives when we are moving right along with no worries.  There are changes we need to make, but we don’t make them because things are running fairly smoothly and it often isn’t until life forces us to make that change or take action that we finally oblige.

This is something similar.  As we continually move through life there are life experiences we want to make and in order to manifest them, we have to level up our energy.  Doing so often means we have to release and let go of the baggage that is holding us back.  This can come in the form of physical things like clothes, shoes, old books, papers etc. or in the form of beliefs, thoughts, feelings, and memories that are ready to be processed.

If you are feeling a similar life upheaval I want you to know this…

You are NOT crazy and this process IS leading you to bigger, better things.  Things that you WANT in your life. I promise.

My last big life upheaval came in the form of me losing my full-time employment which was scary and frustrating, but it led me to be able to do what I love full-time.

Before that, my wife got assigned to a new military base and we had to find a home and move 9 hours away from where we previously lived, but that led us to amazing new friends, new opportunities, and our beautiful home.

The best thing you can do during moments like these is go with the flow and feel the feelings (or as I like to call them the feels) that come along with the changes.  Be open to the changes and move through them with a curious mind and open heart. 

I’ve also found journaling, meditation, EFT, and connecting with friends and coaches can be very helpful.

You are getting ready to experience some amazing growth unlike any other!  Shine baby shine!

If you are looking for some support around the upheaval that is happening for you right now, reach out and schedule a free 30-Minute consultation and let’s have a chat.  I’d love to help support you and help you shine baby shine!

The Microscope Effect

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Over the last few years, I have gotten to know this thing I call the Microscope Effect very well and the more I work with women like myself, I realize it’s not just something I am dealing with.  We all deal with it.

Let me explain.

Have you ever had those moments when you it feels like the world is opening up and swallowing you whole?  You are stressed out, fed up, and frustrated with how things are going and are unable to see the bigger picture?

You’ve zoomed in your focus to a point where all you see is the very thing that is driving you crazy and for a moment (or many) you think your life is made up of that small area that isn’t working out.

The Microscope Effect is something we all deal with on varying scales.

I’ve dealt with it in my business, my money mindset, and even my marriage.

The thing that’s broken (or seemingly broken) gets all the attention because we are natural fixers.

We aim our attention at the thing that needs to be fixed because we are used to it.  But, the problem is when we do that too much, we flit from one broken moment to the next ‘fixing’ it and if we aren’t careful we assume our entire lives are made up of broken pieces.

That’s not the case at all.

Despite what area of your life might need a bit of oil to run smoothly, it isn’t likely that it is all broken and in need of repair.

Are there moments when it seems one thing after another needs your attention? Absolutely, but the key is not to get caught up in all that and  instead focus on the stuff that IS working.

Today, I challenge you to look around at the beauty and the whole pieces of your life, no matter how small.  Zoom out your microscope so you can see the bigger picture, because if you’ve ever looked at an image really close up, it doesn’t do it justice.

Our lives are made up of many moving parts and one of the keys to living a life you love is starting where you are.  It’s not all bad, so don’t let the fixer in you convince you that it is.  Once you see the beauty around you, the pieces that need fixing don’t look quite as bad and if they are…well, you will be in a much better place to fix them.

Are you dealing with the Microscope Effect?

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If so, I invite you to schedule a FREE-30-Minute Consultation to chat a bit about it and let’s see if we can’t help you zoom out a bit.