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Recent Lessons & Major Breakthroughs

May 5, 2014 by Lamisha

Being a coach, I am not exempt from life lessons and major breakthroughs that I help my clients through and this past week has been a pretty big week for me. Not only am I stepping more into who I really am as a business owner and coach, but also who I am as a wife, a mother, and all the other shoes I fill. It’s both liberating and sometimes downright scary to look at all the things I am doing in my life and where I want to be. I stand in awe as I look how far I have come and am amazed at the progress while still looking ahead to everything that I want to do.

I wanted to take a moment to share with you my recent life lessons and ‘aha’ moments that have come from my conversations with clients and my dear spiritual soul sisters who have shared their amazing gifts with me. I hope that by reading this you are able to identify with some (if not all) of the lessons and feel your own transformation and healing begin to take place.

Have Fun: This is such a good reminder not just for me but for any of you wonderful business-minded souls who are working, striving, and making moves in the business world. We are too often caught in the building phase of our empire that we forget what it’s like to truly LIVE and have FUN! In fact, I was given the assignment to do something fun every single day and I had a hard time thinking of what I would do! How silly is that?! Fun is a huge piece of the happy life puzzle and it is what opens us to the magic that is in the world. So, I ask you: What have you done for fun lately?

Recognize and Celebrate Your Own Brilliance: As a coach, I am able to immediately see the light and brilliance that my clients have. I see it, connect with it, and reflect it back to them in ways that they can see and feel it. It can be far more difficult for me to stand back and view myself in that same way which at times results in doubt, frustration, and dare I say fear? A wonderfully talented soul sister of mine reminded me that I don’t have to compare my talents and gifts with any one else nor do I have to place anyone on a pedestal while viewing myself as ‘below’ them on the totem pole of power and authority. When we are stepping onto our true path, it can be far too easy to compare ourselves with those around us. We take note of their success and all that they have conquered while tallying up our ‘successes’ that never seem to amount to much. But when we can step back from our ego and view our life, our accomplishments, and our gifts through fresh eyes, we see that comparison is not necessary. We are all brilliant in our own way and simply knowing that is the first step to truly seeing it. I want you to know that you are brilliant as well! Whether you are an artist, coach, healer, yoga instructor, or you are an amazing parent, partner, animal-lover etc. YOU are brilliant and have a light and many amazing gifts that the world needs. See it! Embrace it! Celebrate it!

Take Risks: This one is a HUGE message I have been getting in the last few weeks but I only recognized it last week. Most of my life I have had this internal fight inside of myself. Logic vs Dreams, Stability vs Freedom, Comfort vs Adventure. I haven’t ever really been the risk-taker in life and have spent much of my life taking calculated risks while worrying about the best decision to make to keep things ‘stable’. Since I started my business I have been playing it safe too which translates to playing small. I have put my toe in the water of uncertainty and slowly eased in when what my heart really wants to do (and what my soul is aching to do) is dive in clothes and all! I have been in my own way and while it may not seem like that on the outside, there are many ways it is manifesting in my life. Procrastination, timidness, fear, and more uncertainty. But here is the flip side of all that. I KNOW that in order for me to be wildly successful and do all the work I am truly meant to do, I must stop with the fear, stop with the calculated risks and listen to my heart again. The same heart that told me to leap into my business. The same heart that said, I don’t know how but I will figure it out. The same heart that at one point told me to move over 300 miles away from my home, my friends, and my family for love. THAT is the heart I am listening to. So risks I shall take and I encourage you to do the same. So what if you don’t have all your ducks in a row, some ducks may show up to the party fashionably late, but that doesn’t stop the party. Jump! Leap! Dive in and watch what happens to your life!

Ask For Help: I don’t know if this is because I am the oldest child or if I have developed a sense of ‘I can do it all myself’ syndrome, but somewhere along the way I decided I didn’t need help. Not only that, but even if I did, I wouldn’t ask for it. And I am not exactly talking about asking my fellow neighbors and friends for help, I’m talking asking the Universe and the Divine for assistance. I am a firm believer that part of what makes our amazing lives so great is the amount of support we receive from other realms. Call it Heaven, God, Goddess, Angels, the Universe, or whatever it is you believe in, but I know that we are not meant to travel along our paths alone and yet there are times I don’t ask for help. So, I am getting back to my daily connection with Spirit (both mine and the Universal Spirit of all things) through meditation and prayer to bring that wonderfully supportive energy back into my life and business. We don’t have to do everything on our own, nor do we have to know how, who, what, when, and all the extra details that go with it. We can simply ask and be open to receive the answer. It’s that simple! So, what could you use a little help with that you have been doing all on your own? Ask, and you shall receive!

I hope that my recent breakthroughs and life lessons resonate with you and open your eyes to your very own blissful breakthroughs. The more I grow, learn, and evolve, the more I realize life is a series of lessons that further uncover our greatness, beauty, and purpose.

May you have a bit of fun, recognize your own brilliance and light, take a few risks, dream big, and ask for help from the amazing and always loving Universe today and always. Things are changing and life is too good to stay in one place and play small. Reach beyond your comfort zone daily and expand into every corner of your greatness and watch as your life transforms into the most amazing ride you never thought possible.

Sending you lots of love,

Lamisha

Dream Changer-Featuring Isis Arjeta

April 17, 2014 by Lamisha

***I am a little behind with posting the latest Dream Changer feature this week, however this one is worth the wait. I am so excited to present to you the amazing transformative journey of a dear friend, co-teacher of the Unleash Your Personal Power course, overall amazing healer and soul sister, Isis Arjeta. I know you will leave this post feeling anything is possible and I encourage you to check Isis out online and on her Facebook page to learn more about what she can do to help you grow, heal, and evolve into the abundant and amazing soul you are meant to be.***

“You may say that I’m a DREAMER….”

Since I can remember I’ve known that I am destined for an amazing life… to change the world for the better, and really make a difference in people’s lives. The how has never been clear, but a dream is all you need, right? In following my dreams,I’ve flung myself wholeheartedly on so many life paths I can no longer count them. I attended college for 6 years, and achieved the glorious Associate of Arts they give to people who don’t know what they want to DO with their lives. I’ve changed directions and dreams so many times that it has become a magical, colorful tapestry of experience and growth.

In the process of weaving this tapestry, I worked in a busy ER and collected some wild stories about the crazy things humans do. I’ve processed paperwork, I hung out with alter-able adults, and became a massage therapist. I sold books on amazon, I moved cross country in a home-made caravan, and I learned what it means to be a New Age Hippy. I’ve had a mohawk, long shiny blonde hair, and several sets of dreadlocks. I’ve worn high end pumps, and been barefoot and broke. I’ve crossdressed, been a nudist, and I’ve sold my dirty laundry online to fetish lovers. I stepped out of societies labels and boxes and altered my consciousness in ways most people can’t even imagine. But it still didn’t satisfy my dreams of radical success and happiness.

The real shift in my life happened when I decided it was time to actually manifest what I’ve been dreaming. No matter what I do, I want it to be EASY. Yes, you heard it, easy. I was always told that life is hard, nothing is easy, and certainly you never get anything for free. Inside I always laughed, because something in me KNEW that it was a lie. It doesn’t make any sense to me that with all the resources and incredible talent present in a world filled with 7 billion creative souls, anyone would be destined to suffer and work hard.

Yet every time I tried to build a business, make a name in the world, or just be happy, something went wrong. It wasn’t easy, and I had to work very very hard. It left me with a rage and hatred that the world could be so cruel… and deep self-loathing that I couldn’t figure out how to make my dreams real. How does one small human being change the world?

One day I gave up. I screamed a desperate prayer at God (which I hadn’t done since I was a teenager) that said something like “F*ck you, I give up. What am I supposed to do? I believe in an easy, blissful, and abundant life for all beings, but everytime I try to make it real, something is in my way. What gives?”

For the first time since I was little, I actually received a full-on answer from Spirit. A Voice spoke to me and said “You are the only one standing in your way. Get your sabotaging beliefs and all those angry emotions out of your mind and heart, and the world you see will change before your eyes.” So I thought, “I need some help with that, I don’t even know where I’m stuck.” The Universe kept answering me, and the perfect teacher showed up – I could literally see her bright angel wings outlined behind her head. So yet again, I took a wild leap of faith, and signed up for an EFT and Hypnotherapy training class at The Miracle Center of California. “My dream is so big, I need a Miracle to make it happen,” I thought.

“…But I’m not the only one…”

My first day of class, everything changed. Robin Duncan, my angel teacher, used EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) and Hypnotherapy to help me release trauma and angst from my childhood as well as lifetimes of experiences, and she encouraged my dreams. For the first time EVER, I met others who also believed that life can be easy and beautiful in every single moment. It requires a complete shift in how you perceive the world, but with access and tools to clear to the subconscious, it is EASY!

According to A Course in Miracles (my FAVORITE life guide), a Miracle is defined as a shift in perception from fear to love. Who doesn’t want to do that, right? Sometimes our subconscious and emotional beliefs make that difficult though, and learning EFT and Hypnotherapy gave me the ability to shift my perceptions on all levels. It became so simple to shift my experiences on a daily basis that I am now living in a whole new way – with ease and grace, no matter what challenges I seem to face. I had never realized how much of my time and energy was wasted on fear, complaining, and trying to figure out the details.

“…I hope someday you’ll join us…”

I couldn’t believe how fast that initial shift happened. I literally looked like I had a facelift after that first session – and I felt 20 years younger. Within months I had quit my spa job and was running my own home-based massage and healing business. Nearly two years later I am now living the life I always dreamed of, filled with ease and daily Miracles. My lifelong dream of living in the tropics came true this year when I moved to Maui, Hawaii where I play and dance and swim in the ocean every day. I am able to share the gift of EFT and Hypnotherapy with clients from all over the world, in person and through the internet. I have created e-courses to help others make the same kind of shift into an easy and fulfilling life, and I teach in-person certification courses in EFT and other energy healing modalities. I am truly blessed that my dreaming world is now my waking life. I wake up every morning in Paradise, with the awareness that my DREAM is my REALITY.

I am still in awe of the transformation that occurs when we access the subconscious patterns we’ve accepted as our identities and shift them into what we truly desire. I believe that every person on earth has a very special purpose and mission – to make an impact, to change the world, and to be filled with love and gratitude in every moment. What is holding YOU back from living a life of ease, while changing the world for the better?

If you are ready to make a radical shift in your life and allow your dreams to become your everyday reality – to live on easy street and be filled with radical joy and excitement – I want to hear from you! Please comment on this blog post, and head over to my website and Facebook page to stay in touch! I want to hear what YOU are dreaming into reality!

“…and the world will live as One!” ~ John Lennon, Imagine

Isis Arjeta is a radical mystic who loves to laugh, play, and surf the waves of life – or the gorgeous Maui coastline that serves as her backyard. She uses her wide variety of skills and experience to help you uncover the brilliant being you already ARE. A session with Isis feels like a conversation with your best friend, and always includes laughter and spot-on insight. She blends an irreverent sense of Spirituality with deep love, and creates a safe space for transformation wherever she goes. You can find Isis at www.facebook.com/OneSoulution or www.isisarjeta.com to stay updated on her latest Miracle adventures!

The Ever-Evolving Dream=No Wrong Choices

April 7, 2014 by Lamisha

It seems the world we live in today involves a ton of black/white issues.

Right vs Wrong

Good vs Bad

Yes vs No

This vs That

There is judgement in every seemingly wrong choice we make and the more we analyze our choices so we won’t make the ‘wrong’ choice, we paralyze ourselves from choosing at all.

Is it just me?

I have lived for far too long trying to make the best choices in all areas of my life that often times result in a ton of stress, strife, and guilt wondering if whatever choice I finally decided on was the right one.

It’s exhausting, draining, and just down right a waste of time.

Lucky for me, I am learning this lesson as I put it more into practice.

The truth of life is there are no wrong choices, in anything. There are simply choices that will lead you down one path or another. Forks in the road that may lead to amazing experiences, lessons, and gifts you wouldn’t have experienced otherwise. Winding roads that may not make for a direct route to your dreams, but will deliver you to other dreams you hadn’t even thought of.

That is life.

And what a beautiful life it is.

You see, as far as your dreams are concerned, there are no wrong choices, bad times, poor actions, or failure. There are simply choices that will help you and your dreams evolve. There are paths that may send you into a forest of lessons, magic, miracles, and connections you never thought possible. Each step you take will move you further along your path and each step will be perfect in its own right. There are no wrong turns or choices. There are just turns and choices that will move you along your path.

I say all of this to remind you that your dreams will grow, evolve, and change shape at times and everything that happens is perfect for YOU. So sit back, relax, and make choices based on what feels right for you and know that even if it doesn’t bring you the outcome you first desired, that doesn’t mean it’s wrong or bad. It’ just is what it is…another step, another lesson, another choice point for you in life.

When you take the emotional charge and judgement of right/wrong and good/bad and this/that, things not only feel easier, but your path will unfold in a more beautiful, flowing, and perfect way.

Remember everything is working out for you right here, right now.

Do you find yourself hanging onto right/wrong choices? If so, what do you feel if you accept every step as perfect in all ways? I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments below.

What do YOU want?

March 31, 2014 by Lamisha

With the release of the Unleash Your Personal Power e-course that starts tomorrow, I have had this consistent question come up for myself and my clients over and over again. And if you know me, you know that when I see a theme appear, I take notice.

The theme this time boils down to one question: “What do YOU want?”

It seems like a simple enough question, but when was the last time you asked yourself that? It seems we are far more tapped into what we think we need as opposed to what we want in life. Add to that questions like: What do you want…to feel, to see, to experience, to be, etc., and the question can get a bit convoluted.

I know on any given day, I am more likely to share with someone what I ‘need’ to get done rather than what I actually need or want for that matter. Ask me what I want and I might be stumped for a moment if I am so far entrenched in my ‘have to’ list.

Why is that?

There seems to be a general perception that giving and doing are far more important than allowing and being. So when we take the time to see what we

really want, it feels foreign and often uncomfortable. It is of course necessary to feel the discomfort in order to move through it and identify what it is we truly want.

The truth is this: You have the ability and power to make your life happy, just as you have the ability and power to make your life less than happy. You can choose to thrive or simply survive. The choice is yours to make. However, if you are merely surviving what life throws your way then you are not really harnessing the unlimited power you have within to make this life amazing and magical. It may be that you don’t have the tools, practices, confidence, or knowledge you need to use that power. And if you fall into that boat then I assure you the Unleash Your Personal Power is the course for you.

This course isn’t just about getting what you want in life, it’s so much more than that. This course will teach you effective and life-changing tools and practices to live the best life possible all the way around. It is being offered by myself and three other talented women who have collectively coached and taught hundreds of people to harness and utilize their own power. If ever you have thought about how to live the best life possible starting now, this course is for you.

This self-paced e-course begins tomorrow and to make it even easier for you to join us, we are offering a payment plan option so it is affordable for everyone. This course is transformational, inspirational, and full of power.

You already have the power within to make your life amazing, we simply want to introduce you to it. Are you ready to join us? If so you can sign-up, learn more about the teachers of the program and try out a free meditation here. Life is far too short to merely survive what life throws at you. This is your chance to thrive!

Why “Trying Harder” isn’t the Answer

February 10, 2014 by Lamisha

I cringe every time I hear the words “try harder”. For some reason it sends the message that you just aren’t doing enough to make it (whatever it seems to be at the moment) happen. It also suggests that if you are giving your all, it just isn’t enough.

Ick! Just writing that makes me cringe.

I am not the kind of coach that is going to tell you to push through the pain and “try harder”. I won’t tell you to power through or work harder at whatever you are doing.

Why?

Because honestly, I care more than that and I don’t believe our dreams come true with blood, sweat, and tears (at least it doesn’t have to be that way).

I believe in a better way.

When clients come to me and say they are feeling stuck or in a standstill with the progression of their dreams, I try to tap into what they mean by “stuck”. Are they stuck on ideas, actions, motivation, clients, or forward movement? Do they need logistical assistance or is it an internal block we need to address?

Understanding where the glitch lies is paramount in helping them work through it. Unlike how some sports coaches might tell players to work through the pain and “power through”, I just don’t believe in telling someone to “try harder”.

I like to actually suggest the opposite.

Instead of pushing and fighting for the next step, what if you were able to take a step back and simple allow it to come to you? What if you could relax, regroup, and trust that you don’t have to fight, claw, and force the answers to come. What if right here, right now, you didn’t have to do anything? What if they could simply flow….

In our society that is a big what if because we aren’t taught that growing up. In school we are taught that if our grades aren’t high enough or if we aren’t doing well enough in a particular area, then we must try harder. But what happens when we are giving our all and we still feel blocked? What then?

Sometimes trying too hard pushes the thing we want to achieve, further away. By forcing it and trying desperately to make it work, we cut off the flow of inspiration and energy. We allow the frustration to settle in and when that happens, the fight gets harder.

Take writer’s block for instance. For those of you who have ever experienced the Achilles heal of writing, you know the harder you try to force your words to flow, the harder it gets. But, when you are able to step away, change your focus, get some fresh air, and then come back to it, it seems as if the clouds part and the heavenly writing angels sing. Your thoughts turn into beautiful words that when weaved together create a tapestry of creative-awesomeness.

I believe the sweet spot for your dreams to become reality is in your inspiration. When it feels hard, sticky, frustrating, or like your progress has reached a plateau, the answer is not to try harder.

The answer lies in letting go of the reins and creating the space for your next step to appear.

How do you do that? Here are a few things that I find helpful.

Change your focus to something else.
Sing, dance, or listen to music.
Read a good book, go for a run, or do some yoga.
Meditate, have coffee with your friends, or write in your journal.
Laugh, smile, or do something nice for someone else.
Take a hot shower, get a massage, or go for a walk.
Enjoy some time in nature, breathe deeply, and remember that all is working out for you.
Remember you don’t have to have it all done right this moment, but trust that you will have it done.
Enjoy the journey. It’s so easy to get caught up in the decisions, steps, and plans we have in life, but in the grand scheme of things, the juice is in the journey. Enjoy it!

You may find that your sticking points are scattered along your path as things grow and evolve, but if you can remember to flow instead of forcing the next step to come, you will not only soon be celebrating your dreams becoming reality, but will also find that you had fun along the way!