Lamisha Serf-Walls

As good as it gets…

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Fact: You only grow in your life to the degree you THINK you are capable of growing.

You simply can’t hope, wish, and wonder your way there friends.  You must BELIEVE in yourself.

I’m seeing far too many people following the path of “This is as good as it gets for me.” all the while complaining about it.

They complain about their bank account, their weight, their loved ones, their car, their job and yet they do nothing about it.  It’s not that they don’t think there is something better out there.  Of course they believe that!  They just don’t think it’s available to them. 

You see, some of us have fallen into the trap of “It doesn’t work for me.” without ever trying to actually make a change.  They limit themselves by the labels they identify with and accept as truth.

  • They believe in lack because that’s all they see in front of them.
  • They believe in hopelessness because they haven’t given any creative thought to something better.
  • They believe in “this is as good as it gets” because no one told them otherwise.

Well I am here to tell YOU otherwise.

Take a moment to look around you.  Look at your job, bank account, relationships, self-esteem, home, car, community, and family.

Do you LIKE what you see?  Does it FEEL good to think about?  Are you HAPPY?

Let me ask you another question.

If you aren’t happy- have you ever expected anything more than what is directly in front of you?

Likely not.

Because if you did, the scene you are seeing before you would be different.  A LOT different.

You’d likely see more money and love, more joy and bliss, more confidence and support.  You’d feel happy, blissful, lucky, blessed, and you would know that you could have more of anything you desire because YOU are the creator of your own reality.

But you see the “this is as good as it gets” people don’t see it that way.  Instead they see themselves as victims.  Life just happens to them.  They point the finger, place the blame, and look to others as the reason they aren’t further than they want to be in life.  They feel out of control of their own lives without ever understanding that THEY are actually creating their own reality with each new thought they think.

Do you know how I know this?

It’s because I WAS THAT PERSON.

I blamed everyone for the wrongs in my life.  The shitty job, awful boss, the lack of money, the unsuccessful relationship, the friendships torn apart and the flat on the side of the road.  Life was happening to me and the statement I heard my mom say on more than one occasion range true for me.  “Life’s a bitch and then you die.”

THAT is the truth I expected and accepted for YEARS.

Until one day…I got curious.

I picked up one book after another looking for answers and wanting desperately to FEEL better.

Unfortunately, I was still looking for someone to come in and FIX my life.  Back then we didn’t have Iyanla Vanzant so, I was stuck, fed up, and repeating the same old cycle over and over and over again.

I wish I could tell you the moment that changed everything, but I can’t.  What I can tell you is that the moment I realized I was the cause of all of my pain, suffering, and negativity- I was a bit pissed!

Why didn’t I know this sooner?

Why didn’t someone tell me?

And better yet, how the hell was I supposed to change years of programming????

That is when my journey into mindset work really began.  It began by taking back my power and choosing to see the good around me.  Choosing to shift my thoughts on a daily basis and eventually create a mindset practice that would set me up for success in the long run.

I’ve been doing this work for years and each year I learn and grow more than before.  With each new belief I shift, I lay the foundation for more success, love, joy, adventure, and money to flow my way and it is not by accident.  It is by design.

I guess what I’m trying to say is no matter what you see before you, this isn’t “as good as it gets” unless you want it to be.

You hold the power to create your reality wherever you go and if you don’t know anything about shifting your reality by shifting your beliefs you MUST be a part of my mindset program.  Registration officially closes tonight at midnight EST and I’d hate for you to miss the chance to get in.  I will NOT be opening this program again until 2017 so if you want in, now is the time!

Hit the button below for more information and to check out the newly added payment plan option.

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Do the dirty work…

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When it comes to doing mindset work, it’s a two pronged process.

MOST people know it as “thinking happy thoughts” and “being more positive”, but that only lasts a little while before the mindset gremlins jump in and attack all the positive thinking you’ve been doing.

You see, most people don’t think about doing the dirty work of mindset transformation.

Digging into the old, worn out, sabotaging beliefs that are holding you back.  They forget they are there and think that they can simply cover them with more positive thoughts to balance things out.

That’s simply not true.

In order to transform your life, you have to be willing to do the dirty work.

The digging. The uncovering. The illuminating.

Often times just giving those thoughts and gremlins a voice, you can weaken their power over you and your path.  By simply recognizing them, you open up the awareness to begin the shift.

The true shifts occur as you realize the ONLY reason your old beliefs were true is because you BELIEVED them.

So, what if you believed something else?

What if you could step into a new reality and believe the exact opposite of what you believe now?

What would that look like for you?

It would look like a new life, new reality, and new experiences born seemingly instantly.  It would appear as though your new reality was manifesting before your very eyes and the only way to keep it that way is to reprogram your beliefs to EXPECT this new reality to remain normal for you.

You can’t shift beliefs you don’t know you have.

  • If you are having money issues (not enough, lots of debt etc.) then you must look at what you think and believe about money.
  • If you are having issues with love and relationships (cheating partners, always feeling lonely etc.) then you must look at what you think and believe about love and relationships.

You can’t change what you are unaware of so doing the dirty work of mindset transformation is KEY.

Have you done it lately?

If you are reading this, you probably haven’t because it’s uncomfortable and scary.  No one willingly goes into the dark cave to excavate the sleeping bears and bats do they?

They do if they want to create a new space filled with light, love, and joy.

Has your mindset work consisted mostly of “thinking happy thoughts” and “being more positive?”

If so, you likely aren’t seeing huge shifts in your life.  Unless you are willing to do the knitty gritty work that comes with mindset transformation, you aren’t going to see lasting changes in your life.

BUT…if you are brave enough to do the dirty work AND the light work then you will see instant shifts in your life.

If you’ve never done mindset work and you are completely fed up with being and feeling stuck in a rut then I invite you to join us for the Miracle Mindset Immersion program.

This program is designed to not only do the dirty work of mindset transformation, but it also allows you to develop a mindset that is life giving, supportive for your new reality.  Through this 4 week program you will uncover, delete, disprove and transform your beliefs in ways you never thought possible, but beyond that you will begin to see instant shifts in your current reality and that is priceless.

The program begins on Monday and I’ve just added an extended payment option that makes it an easy yes. So what do you say?  Are you in?

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MOST people aren’t willing to do this…are you?

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TRUTH TIME—>

MOST people aren’t willing to do what it takes to make their dreams come true.

I’m not talking about blood, sweat, tears, “hard” work and hours of sleep lost either.

I’m talking about breaking out of the safe, secure, and let’s be honest, a bit too predictable-comfort zones we find ourselves in just before we realize we MUST break free.

You see, most people FEAR the unknown.

I know I did…hell I STILL do!

I’m equally terrified by the thought of big changes and completely stifled when I don’t have enough change.

BUT, I’ve learned to DANCE with it. I’ve learned to get comfortable with the discomfort and TRUST that the path forward will always end up with something amazing, mind-blowing, and soul expanding for ME.

It ALWAYS leads to a greater lesson, bigger purpose, longer-lasting joy and alignment…always.

But it wasn’t always that way.

In fact, the more I fought the idea of change and leaping outside my comfort zone, knowing good and well that is exactly what I needed, the harder it got.

The very foundation upon which my identity was built began to crumble, one brick at a time.

I lost myself, my vision, my safety net and was all of a sudden blessed with this incredible desire that scared the shit out of me.

I was going to change the world and hadn’t the slightest idea HOW or WHY I thought I actually could do something so big.

 

Who the hell did I think I was???

I didn’t think I was anything special and yet, I couldn’t let this feeling go.

I tried to ignore it for years, but you see that’s the thing about your purpose…when it’s your purpose…I mean REALLY your purpose, you can’t hide from it, no matter how hard you try.

So, I had nothing else to do but step into the unknown one inch at a time and trust as much as I could.

NOW…well now taking risks and stepping into the unknown is a bit easier.

It’s definitely still uncomfortable, but now I know the reward that comes from what feels like a huge risk and I know it’s worth it.

The life you desire, the career you crave, the pure joy that you know is possible yet still slightly out of reach—> all of that lies just outside your comfort zone and you must be willing to take the risk to step into the unknown in order to experience the amazing expansion your soul craves.

That’s just how it is.

So…tell me what’s more comfortable for you?

Continuing on the path of certainty and settling for the mediocre experience you’ve grown used to?

OR

Stepping out, with maybe wobbly knees and butterflies in your stomach onto a path that is a risk, but the reward is oh so sweet you can almost taste it now?

I chose the risk.

What do YOU choose?

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Are YOU willing to do what it takes to step out of your comfort zone and into your zone of purpose and genius?

Are YOU ready to stop trying to hide from the inevitable and get on with it already?

Are YOU done settling once and for all and committed to making the rest of your life the absolute best?

If so, hit the button below and let’s connect.

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Choices—> You Always Have Them

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photo credit: Deepak Chopra No matter what the situation, remind yourself ‘I have a choice.’ via photopin (license)

 

Every morning, I spend about 45 minutes doing mindset work and as I was doing the journaling portion of my work this morning, I found myself writing statements that started with I CHOOSE.

Things like…

I CHOOSE happiness, abundance, and love.
I CHOOSE to believe in the greater good of all.
I CHOOSE to believe that my life is limitless.
I CHOOSE peace, love, and abundance in all areas of my life.

And it struck me that MOST of us don’t believe we truly have a choice in life.

With the recent political circumstances, decisions, and governing bodies around the world, there are SO many people feeling powerless and lost in the shuffle.

They are letting FEAR lead the way as they wonder what will come of their future.

HOW will they live?
WHAT’s going to happen next?
WHAT’s the purpose of all of this?

And yet, they forget, overlook, or simply tune out of the idea that they have a CHOICE in this moment and every moment forward.

WE ALL DO.

Listen, I know that the world looks like it’s going to hell in a hand basket and we are losing hope with every violent act, shitty political candidate, and governmental decision, but even in all the chaos, perceived instability, and the shit-storm that is happening around us…WE HAVE A CHOICE.

 

Every time you THINK a thought, watch the news, engage in a conversation or turn your focus to FEAR—> you’ve made a choice.

BUT you also have a choice to turn your thoughts to love, to focus on what is going right and in the least focus on what it is you WANT to experience in the world around you and believe it or not THAT is where your ‪power‬ lies.

YOU decide what you want to believe and therefore attract into your experience.

YOU decide where you focus your attention and therefore what you experience in your day-to-day life.

YOU get to DECIDE…today and everyday and that is so much more powerful than anything the government can do for you.

 

It’s time to take back your power and DECIDE what YOU will experience and there for attract into your life.

I guarantee it’s worth a bit of a mindset shift.

Turn your thoughts to love, forgiveness, abundance, joy, peace, support, compassion, community, happiness, prosperity, and all the things you actually WANT to attract into your life.

For THAT is where you have the power even in the grimmest of circumstances.

CHOOSE where you will focus your energy and love.

CHOOSE what you will do to shape the world and make a difference.

But most of all CHOOSE what you want for YOUR life for it will create ripples across the world for years to come.

There is no more time to waste…we all must do our part to focus our minds in the right place to create change and if you aren’t sure how to shift your mindset or how to more fully step into your power, I invite you to schedule a free 30-Minute Consultation below. 

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I REFUSE to accept this violence as ‘normal’

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My heart hurts.

My soul is saddened and my mind can’t make sense of the world in which we live where violence and hatred are all over the news at any given moment.

Tears fall as I try desperately to hold onto the little light that I can see as souls from all over the world come together to mourn, love, support, and share their alliance with the LGBT community following the tragic event in Orlando this weekend.

You see, not even 12 hours prior to the deadly massacre, I was walking with my family in the Pride Parade for the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention to raise awareness for the souls who feel suicide is their only choice.

The amount of love, support, appreciation, joy, and community I felt as a lesbian woman walking during that parade is unparalleled.  It’s the same kind of support, joy, and love you feel when you are in a room full of people who honor you for YOU…ALL of you.  And likely the SAME feeling the men and women felt as they entered their safe haven for the evening at Pulse in Orlando.

I have cried puddles of tears in confusion and sadness because I could have been one of the victims of such a heinous act, but beyond that- it could be anyone of us for any reason, difference, or distinction.

I’m ANGRY.

I’m angry that those lives were taken.

I’m angry that I could have been one.

I’m angry that there is so much darkness in the world and that so many amazing souls feel the need to hide their light for fear of persecution and judgement.

I’ve LIVED in the darkness, hiding my truth because I was afraid of what others might think.

I’ve LIED my way through life, going through the motions of what other people wanted me to do and who they wanted me to be until one day I couldn’t do it anymore.

I’ve been FEARFUL of what might happen to me if anyone ever found out the truth and to be honest, there is a part of me that wants to creep slowly back into the closet where it’s “safe” because I don’t want to be a victim.

But there’s a bigger part of me that says FUCK that.

Hiding isn’t what we need right now.  Fear isn’t want we need right now.  Retaliation isn’t what we need right now.

What we need is the courage to stand up in our TRUTH and to HONOR who we are AS we are.

We need LOVE, LIGHT, PEACE, COMMUNITY, and CONNECTION.

We need EACH OTHER.

Despite the darkness,  I DO believe LOVE will always win, but I want it to win NOW, not later.

This incident is but one example of how hatred, separation, and fear are keeping us apart and yet there are SO many other issues that are born from the same hatred and fear.

This isn’t about hate against one community or another, it’s merely an example of a bigger problem we are facing and one that we will NEVER solve with the same thoughts, energy, and focus that created it.

This is about YOU and I.
This is about HUMANITY.
This is about getting back to the spark of the DIVINE that we were ALL born with and that connects us all.

This is about creating a world of LOVE…period.

I REFUSE to allow accept this way of life as “normal”.
I REFUSE to live in FEAR.
I REFUSE to return to the DARKNESS.

Love will win and I will continue to do my part to empower, uplift, and inspire my tribe to speak, honor and LIVE their truth in LOVE.

That’s what this life is all about.

My hope is that you will stand with me.