Lamisha Serf-Walls

Losing Millions….

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I have a confession to make and it’s probably something you might not be able to guess about me, though after I share the whole story, it will make total sense.

My secret guilty pleasure is that I LOVE watching documentaries about where Lottery winners are now.

—> It’s not because I play the lottery, though I do on occasion.
—> It’s not because I want to be up to date with the latest high ticket items to purchase.
—> And it’s not even because I want to use it as a way to envision myself as a millionaire.

Honestly, I watch it because I am incredibly fascinated by the MINDSET behind each winner and how it ties into where they are now.  (I’m a mindset nerd, I know!)

I’ve watched a ton of these shows and what’s amazing is I can see a common thread in all of them as it relates to who still has their money (or even more) and who has squandered it away and is now broke. Can you guess what it is?

It’s all about their growth mindset and upper limit set point.

You see, every one of us has an upper limit set point based on our current mindset.  Based on our past experiences and the mindset work we have done (or not done) we have a certain amount of love, joy, peace, abundance, health, excitement etc. that we can comfortably allow in our lives.

Once we approach that upper limit, our ego gets a bit frightened and feels unsafe.  It immediately wants to bring us back down to our “normal” range, even if what’s been normal for us is incredibly uncomfortable.

Imagine for a moment you want to lose 50 lbs but in reality you only imagine that you can really lose about 25.  As you approach that 25lb marker or a bit beyond that, your ego gets a bit snarky and scared and you find some reason (usually subconsciously) to sabotage your progress to bring you back down to what is “normal” for you.

The same thing happens with money (or anything else for that matter).  The reason many lottery winners go bankrupt after winning millions of dollars is because their mindset didn’t change when they won that money.

Their reality shifted dramatically, but their mindset didn’t and so they had to go back to what was “normal” for them.

It seems a bit crazy, I know, but think back to your life for a moment.

Have you ever noticed that there are times when things are going really good for you, it feels a bit uncomfortable?  Or maybe when things get too good you find yourself sabotaging it in some way, shape, or form and before you know it you are back to where you started?

Maybe it’s with money, weight, relationships, your career, or something else entirely, but no matter what the topic is…the issue is the same.  You’ve hit your upper limit.

So what do you do to make sure you don’t lose your proverbial millions?

It boils down to these three things…

  • Become aware of your upper limit set point
  • Understand your sabotaging behavior when things get too good
  • Actively grow your mindset so as you approach that upper limit, it actually transforms to a new level

Believe me when I say that the upper limit problem that Gay Hendricks discusses in his book The Big Leap is a very real thing.  I’ve experienced it over and over again with each new level I’ve reached in my life and business and understanding how it works and actively working on your mindset is the key to limiting the effects of the ULP in your life.

And you know what?  It’ ALL leads back to MINDSET.

Yes, I know.  I talk about mindset until I’m blue in the face, but I promise it is more important than you know and it is where all your power lies.  It’s also why I decided to put together this FREE 5-Day Mindset Challenge for my tribe starting Monday.

Starting Monday, we are going to help you understand what is going on in that beautiful mind of yours and give you some tools to transform those thoughts so you can continue to grow and expand your life in truly magical ways with or without your upper limit.

If you sign up, everyday next week you are going to be receiving the challenge step of the day in your inbox with an exercise for you to complete that day.

If you choose, you can also join us in the MindPower Collective group on Facebook to share your experiences and enter yourself to win some 1:1 coaching and free entry into the next round of the Miracle Mindset Immersion group program coming soon!

The challenge kicks off on Monday!  Are you ready?

Join us over in the MindPower Collective group and remember to post your exercises in the challenge threads to enter yourself to win some awesome goodies!

Stuck is a choice…but so is freedom.

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photo credit: free your mind via photopin (license)

 

I know what you’re thinking.  No one chooses to be stuck.  It just happens.

Wrong.

Sure, life happens and there may be certain circumstances that lead you to feeling stuck, but YOU are always in control of how long you stay there.  It’s a choice.

That may sound a bit harsh, but it’s true.

No matter where you are or what your life circumstances are right now, you always have options. 

  • There is no such thing as being “stuck” between a rock and a hard place.
  • There is no such thing as having NO options.
  • There is no such thing as STUCK.

Now, there are some people reading this who would beg to differ.

But Lamisha…

“I’m stuck in a dead-end job that I hate and there are no other options for me.”
“I’m stuck in a loveless marriage, but I don’t see any way out.”
“I’m stuck in debt and I’m so far in, there’s no way I can make enough money to get out.”
“I’m stuck in feeling worthless and hopeless and I’ve tried it all!”
“I’m stuck!!!”
 
 

Stuck is a feeling, but it’s not your reality unless you choose for it to be.  (Go back and read that sentence again…it’s important.)

I know this because I’ve been there.

–> I’ve been in the dead-end job with no options, no hope, and no viable way to escape.
–> I’ve been in the loveless relationship, but didn’t feel like I could leave because I had no self-worth.
–> I’ve felt the dark night of the soul with no vision or hope for the future as far as I could see and you know what…it ALL felt so REAL.

Back then, you couldn’t tell me STUCK wasn’t real.  (In fact, I’d be pretty pissed if you told me that back then, because that’s who I WAS and to me it was as real as it gets.)

I get it.

But, what I now know is that in all of those situations I had choices that I wasn’t willing to make and a mindset that caused me to shrink my thinking to only what I could see in front of me.

Back then, I lived a very small life and it took me YEARS to get out from under my limited view of the world and to do the mindset work to believe in unlimited possibilities and KNOW that no matter where I am or what I am going through, I always have a choice.

I can choose STUCK or FREEDOM.
I can choose to feel HOPELESS or HOPEFUL.
I can choose to be UNWORTHY or  WORTHY.
I can choose DOUBT or FAITH.

And you know what?  NONE of that has anything to do with what is going on outside of me.

Not my relationship, business, bank account, or the man who runs this country, because I always have a choice.

Do I choose to feel stuck, hopeless, unworthy, and doubtful from time-to-time…you bet I do.  I’m human.

But I don’t stay there long because I know it doesn’t yield the life I choose to live.

When I finally figured out what mindset work was all about and what people actually meant by “think happy thoughts” (it’s so much more than that), my life transformed!

  • I had a dream job that literally fell out of the sky and into my lap.
  • I ditched the bad relationship(s) (there were many) and found my soulmate.
  • I climbed out of the dark night and into the light, knowing that while at times I may have feelings of unworthiness creep in, my truth is that I AM worthy of everything I desire.

And that was just the beginning….

There is always an action you can take to move you forward and shake you free from whatever thought habits have you feeling stuck.

That’s what your mindset is ya know…thought HABITS.

You’ve grown so accustomed to telling the same story over and over again that it is now your default setting.  But like any amazing piece of technology, you can always override the default and your mind is no different.

Today do you choose STUCK or do you choose FREEDOM?

Make the choice and follow it up with action because you’ve been “stuck” for far too long.  Am I right?

Wondering what action to take?  How about committing to get your mindset habits on track and break Free From Stuck??

If you’re ready to choose differently and would like some 1:1 support to make that happen, check out my Free From Stuck 30 day program. 

If you’re ready to choose freedom, sign up for your free 30-minute consultation now to see if we are a good fit.  I currently have 2 openings for this program for the month of April, so if you’re interested, let’s chat.

 

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When you fall off your mindset practice…how to get back on.

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I have a confession to make tribe…

I’m not always as consistent with my mindset practice as I need to be.

I know, I know.  I talk about how consistent mindset work is KEY in order to make massive shifts in our lives and here I am falling off the wagon.

 

To be honest, I allowed LIFE to get in the way.

So, what do you do when you find yourself off track? Hit the link below and find out!

 

Want more tips on how to manage your mindset and stay on track?

Join us in the MindPower Collective group on Facebook.  I go live several times a week in that group sharing tips, tricks, and amazing strategies to stay on track and best of all….it’s FREE!

5 Mindset Habits to Transform Your Life

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Mindset habits…

Developing positive habits has been on my mind recently and I’m realizing more and more how mindset is really just a habit.

The thoughts you think, the beliefs you have, and the truths you are living every single day are all related to your mindset habits.

Are you ready to shift and change your mind habits in order to cultivate and create a life you truly desire? Then hit the link below to read more about how you can do just that…

Keep reading 5 Mindset Habits

The myth about self-doubt + An Exciting Announcement!

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I’ve been waiting to share this with you for a few weeks now and I’m so excited that today is the day!!!

Before I get to the announcement, I want to share a quote that I came across in a book I am reading by the amazing Barbara Stanny.

“Belief in yourself doesn’t mean the absence of self-doubt.”

Barbara Stanny

This quote struck a chord with me because it speaks directly to the heart of mindset work doesn’t it?

So much of creating a positive mindset is about believing in yourself and dealing with life’s struggles constructively, in the presence of self-doubt.  It’s so much more than just thinking happy thoughts.

Creating a mindset that allows you to grow, evolve, and become more of who you are meant to become is a lifestyle. 

Find out more about what I mean and the exciting announcement in the video below!

 

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