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The When/Then Manifesting Pitfall

December 12, 2014 by Lamisha

When you think of your happiness and what it takes for you to live a happy life, do you find that you mostly feel that way in the present?

Or, do you find yourself falling into what I call the When/Then Manifesting Pitfall.

We all know that when we want to create or manifest a specific thing (be it a career, money, a relationship etc.) it is because we think it will make us feel good. We search for happiness and want certain things in our lives to feel fulfilled, worthy, and blissful. But when we are in the process of creating or manifesting those things, we often find ourselves feeling antsy, uncomfortable, and impatient.

We might look around asking “Well where is it?”.

And if you are like me you might be saying…“When I have the money/car/relationship/career/body I want…THEN I’ll be happy/grateful/fulfilled etc.”

Unfortunately, that’s not how it works.

When you are in manifesting mode, you have to first know that it is coming and enjoy the process.

I have one too many times fallen into the habit of taking score of what I want and how long it takes to get here. All the while I am missing all of the amazing things around me. At times in my life I have been a conditional happy person, meaning under certain conditions I would be happy. (Mostly when things were going really well.)

Falling into the When/Then Pitfall is so easy in our world. We are constantly on the look out for the next thing to bring about joy that we miss the very thing in front of us that could make us happy now. And the crazy thing is that in order to manifest what you want, you have to be happy first.

What the career of your dreams? Make peace with the job you have.

What more money? Be grateful for the money you have and enjoy where you are.

What a better relationship? Appreciate the positive aspects your partner brings to the table and simply be happy.

The best thing you can do when you are trying to manifest anything, is start by focusing on what brings you joy in all aspects of your life.

Find your joy with the in-between time. As the details are coming together and you haven’t yet reached the ultimate manifestation, know that it is coming and choose joy, happiness, and bliss now. After all life is to be lived and enjoyed in the present as opposed to some arbitrary moment in the future.

Life is meant to be loved, enjoyed, and appreciated in the moment…always. Don’t wait for the future to live the life of your dreams…start now with the little moments.

Your action step for the day is to be mindful of all the joy, happiness, and blissful moments you have right in front of you. Notice them, appreciate them, and welcome them with open arms. When you do that, I guarantee all those things you have been wanting to manifest will come that much quicker. 🙂

Trusting the Process

December 5, 2014 by Lamisha

Manifesting the life of your dreams can seem like a HUGE venture, especially when you are just starting out. There are so many things you desire and so many beliefs to conquer that it’s hard to know where to begin and to trust that it’s going to happen. I mean we do live in the ‘real’ world right? (I say that with tons of sarcasm.)

When you don’t trust the process, it makes things a whole lot more difficult than they have to be. You doubt yourself, the Universe, and the magic-makers in the world telling you that you can have all that you desire. But when you doubt yourself or the process, you slow things down.

So how do you trust the process? I answer that question in the video below.

So, what is your little experiment you are going to try? I’d love to hear in the comments below!

Walking My Talk & Investing in Me

November 11, 2014 by Lamisha

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A few weeks back I wrote this post about the importance of investing in yourself. I felt a fire in my belly as I wrote it because I do believe we each deserve to invest the time, effort, and money into who we want to be. Whether we are treating ourselves to a nice hair cut or coffee or hiring a personal coach to help us get to our goals, we deserve it. And what I was getting at in that post was that far too many people don’t see the value in doing those things.

Looking back at it now I found, I was one of them.

Even as I wrote the post, I could feel the resistance building within about a particular investment that I knew I needed to make, but was deeply afraid of. I could feel myself splitting hairs because while I am more likely to treat myself to nice things and invest time into myself, investing large sums of money into my own personal growth hadn’t happened.

So what wasn’t I doing that I knew I needed to do?

I wasn’t hiring the coach I knew I needed.

Here I was a life coach who was asking the amazing women that needed me most to invest in themselves by working with me and I wasn’t willing to do the same thing.

Sure, I had a ton of excuses as to why I couldn’t do it.

I don’t have the money.
I don’t have the time.
Is that what I really need right now?

But what I was really afraid of was this:

I wasn’t 100% sure the coaching would work for me.

Yep, even as a coach that works with clients daily on mindset stuff, I was dealing with my own gremlins.

I was afraid that it wouldn’t work for me. That my business was somehow different from all the success stories I had heard from other women who had worked with this particular coach. I let fear win.

But then…

A few weeks after I wrote that post about investing in yourself, I felt this intuitive pull to hire an EFT practitioner to help me through some of the gremlins I was working through. I didn’t think twice, I just signed up and took the leap. And I have to tell you it was one of the best things I have done for myself AND my business in a long time.

But I didn’t stop there, I also invested in some additional training for social media work I desperately needed. (cha-ching)

And that wasn’t it either. A week after investing in that, I invested in the coach I needed to hire to begin with. She had an offer I couldn’t refuse and to be honest, my intuition was telling me this was something I needed. Not just for my business and personal growth, but also because it was way past time for me to walk my talk.

In the last month or so of investing in myself and my business, I learned that my fears were unfounded. After my first investment in the EFT session, I saw immediate results in my business. I had new clients coming out of the woodwork and was amazed at it all. After the second investment, more amazing things were happening. More inspiration, clients, and opportunities were flowing and after investing in my coach…well the same thing happened.

It boils down to this. When you decide to invest time, money, and energy into yourself, the Universe begins to take you more seriously and miraculous things start happening.

So, my dear dreamer…when was the last time you took the leap and invested the $$ into yourself, your dreams, and your goals?

I know it’s scary. I know you wonder if it will work for you. You wonder if it’s the ‘right’ step for you and I assure you, if you are thinking of hiring a coach, it IS the right step for you. Listen to your intuition and follow the tug of your heart. Now is your time to shine an I want to help you in any way that I can.

I am only taking 4 more clients for my 90-Day Breakthrough program for 2014, so if you have been thinking about taking the leap, now is your chance. I’m scheduling 30-Minute Consultations for the rest of the month to fill these spots so if you are interested, schedule yours fast.

P.S. I also have a free call coming up on November 18th at 8pm EST titled: Ho-Hum to Hell-Yeah: Helping you do more of what you love NOW. Who says you have to wait until all your dreams come true to live a life you love? I am going to help you turn your ho-hum life into one that makes you scream ‘Hell Yeah!’ with just a few simple tweaks. Sign up to receive all the call details here! Can’t wait to chat with you. 🙂

3 Secrets to the Life of Your Dreams

November 5, 2014 by Lamisha

Living the life of your dreams is one of those things we all want to do, but how many believe it’s actually possible? It might even seem a bit far-fetched to believe you can live a life you love right now. I’m here to tell you it’s totally possible when you decide you will no longer settle.

It seems there is this BS notion running rampant in the world that says we have to merely survive the life we have been given and do the best with the hand we’ve been dealt. And if you are one of many who have bought into that, you are likely settling for a life that feels a bit ho-hum, when what you really deserve is a life you simply adore. We’ve all been taught in some form or fashion that being logical, realistic, and responsible is how you are supposed to live life.

But being an airy-fairy, head in the clouds kind of gal, it sounds a bit boring to me.

I want you to know that you can have it all. The money, the relationships, the joy, the career, the family, and enjoy every bit of it starting right now. It all starts with these 3 secrets.

Get clear on what you want. Get dreamy and begin painting a picture of what the life of your dreams looks and feels like. Remember to use your imagination and have fun. You can even create a vision board with pictures and words that remind illustrate your dream. Remember this is the life of your dreams so nothing is off-limits.
Believe you can have it. If you don’t believe you deserve it or that it is possible, the next step will be futile. Believe you can have it. Use affirmations or affirmations if you have to but truly believe it is possible. And if you get stuck with feeling worthy and believing, start getting rid of those self-limiting beliefs with EFT Tapping or journaling. Your mind is powerful, let it work for you not against you.
Take inspired action. Instead of taking ‘logical’ action, do what feels most inspiring for you. Get quiet and clear your mind and feel your way forward by listening to your heart. What action lights you up most? Go do that and let it lead yo to the next step. All the steps combined will lead you to the life of your dreams.

Lamisha Serf-Walls is a life coach for women who are ready to live an amazing life on their own terms, but feel held-back and frustrated in how to make that happen. Her mission is to create a community of empowered, free-flowing, lovers of life who live a life of freedom with ease and inspire others to do the same. Her signature Breakthrough program is set up to empower women as they gain clarity about their dream life and break free from the beliefs that leave them feeling stuck.

You may not want to hear this…

October 31, 2014 by Lamisha

Over the last few days I’ve been getting tons of emails and comments asking a similar question.

How do you get started with the life of your dreams, when life feels really difficult in the moment?

Maybe your bank account balance is in the negative or your relationship is on the rocks or you can’t see your way out of the job that you hate.

There is a way out and it may not be what you want to hear.

Check out the video below to find out what to do and how to begin.

Give these tips a try and let me know how it goes for you. And if you are still feeling stuck, feel free to schedule a FREE 30-Minute Consultation to find out more about how I can help you take the necessary steps to get you to the life you deserve.