Lamisha Serf-Walls

Shift Your Mindset With a “Love List”

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With Thanksgiving coming tomorrow, I’ve been thinking a lot about gratitude, giving, and sharing.  I’m so very grateful for all of you that have read my posts, followed me on Facebook or Twitter and have taken the time to allow me into the sacred space of your inbox.  Before I go any further, I just want you to know I appreciate you.

Today I bring you a tip that I have been offering to many of my clients lately and thought you might find it useful as you move through the rest of your week and the final days of the year.

You may have heard of the Gratitude List to raise your vibration and to shift your mindset to the good things in your life, but I like to do something a bit different.

I make a “Love List”.

It’s a similar concept really, but sometimes it’s easier for people to write an extensive list when they think of all the things they love.  Simply grab a pen and paper and get writing.  As you make your list, you will begin seeing the images of what you love in your mind and immediately feel the shift in your energy and vibration.  You don’t have to have that thing directly in front of you at the moment to feel the shift.  You can simply imagine having it or experiencing it and it works in the same way.

My list often goes like this: I love…naps, rainbows, the smell of rain, fresh cut grass, hot baths, good wine, snuggling with my son, the ocean, coffee… Just doing that now has put me into a state of bliss and boy does it feel good!

Try it out for yourself and see how you feel.

I recommend this exercise to anyone that is having trouble imagining the good or shifting their energy to a more positive state of mind.  Manifestations and creating the life of your dreams require you to be open to all the amazing ideas and next steps that are coming your way.

You have to be in a state of flow in order to allow and receive the things you are wanting to manifest.  Many times that is the only block holding people back. 

Give it a try and let me know how you feel afterwards.  Do you find it easier to make a love list or a gratitude list?

P.S.  If you are in the U.S. and celebrating the holiday tomorrow, Happy Thanksgiving.  If you are one of my lovely followers overseas, Happy Hump day. 🙂

P. P. S. Are you on my VIP List?  If so, have you seen the Super Secret Offer that I sent out earlier this week? If not, check your email (and spam folder) as the offer expires on Sunday.  I want to make sure you get in early if this opportunity resonates with you. And if you aren’t on my list join it today and you too can get the info. ‘Tis the season, ya know.

Walking My Talk & Investing in Me

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photo credit: thinkpanama via photopin cc

A few weeks back I wrote this post about the importance of investing in yourself.  I felt a fire in my belly as I wrote it because I do believe we each deserve to invest the time, effort, and money into who we want to be.  Whether we are treating ourselves to a nice hair cut or coffee or hiring a personal coach to help us get to our goals, we deserve it.  And what I was getting at in that post was that far too many people don’t see the value in doing those things.

Looking back at it now I found, I was one of them.

Even as I wrote the post, I could feel the resistance building within about a particular investment that I knew I needed to make, but was deeply afraid of.  I could feel myself splitting hairs because while I am more likely to treat myself to nice things and invest time into myself, investing large sums of money into my own personal growth hadn’t happened.

So what wasn’t I doing that I knew I needed to do?

I wasn’t hiring the coach I knew I needed.

Here I was a life coach who was asking the amazing women that needed me most to invest in themselves by working with me and I wasn’t willing to do the same thing.

Sure, I had a ton of excuses as to why I couldn’t do it.

  • I don’t have the money.
  • I don’t have the time.
  • Is that what I really need right now?

But what I was really afraid of was this:

I wasn’t 100% sure the coaching would work for me.

Yep, even as a coach that works with clients daily on mindset stuff, I was dealing with my own gremlins.

I was afraid that it wouldn’t work for me. That my business was somehow different from all the success stories I had heard from other women who had worked with this particular coach.  I let fear win.

But then…

A few weeks after I wrote that post about investing in yourself, I felt this intuitive pull to hire an EFT practitioner to help me through some of the gremlins I was working through.  I didn’t think twice, I just signed up and took the leap.  And I have to tell you it was one of the best things I have done for myself AND my business in a long time.

But I didn’t stop there, I also invested in some additional training for social media work I desperately needed.  (cha-ching)

And that wasn’t it either.  A week after investing in that, I invested in the coach I needed to hire to begin with.  She had an offer I couldn’t refuse and to be honest, my intuition was telling me this was something I needed.  Not just for my business and personal growth, but also because it was way past time for me to walk my talk.

In the last month or so of investing in myself and my business, I learned that my fears were unfounded.  After my first investment in the EFT session, I saw immediate results in my business.  I had new clients coming out of the woodwork and was amazed at it all.  After the second investment, more amazing things were happening. More inspiration, clients, and opportunities were flowing and after investing in my coach…well the same thing happened.

It boils down to this.  When you decide to invest time, money, and energy into yourself, the Universe begins to take you more seriously and miraculous things start happening.

So, my dear dreamer…when was the last time you took the leap and invested the $$ into yourself, your dreams, and your goals?

I know it’s scary. I know you wonder if it will work for you.  You wonder if it’s the ‘right’ step for you and I assure you, if you are thinking of hiring a coach, it IS the right step for you.  Listen to your intuition and follow the tug of your heart. Now is your time to shine an I want to help you in any way that I can.

I am only taking 4 more clients for my 90-Day Breakthrough program for 2014, so if you have been thinking about taking the leap, now is your chance.  I’m scheduling 30-Minute Consultations for the rest of the month to fill these spots so if you are interested, schedule yours fast.  

P.S. I also have a free call coming up on November 18th at 8pm EST titled: Ho-Hum to Hell-Yeah: Helping you do more of what you love NOW.  Who says you have to wait until all your dreams come true to live a life you love?  I am going to help you turn your ho-hum life into one that makes you scream ‘Hell Yeah!’ with just a few simple tweaks. Sign up to receive all the call details here! Can’t wait to chat with you. 🙂 

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The World of Infinite Possibilities…

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I live in a world of infinite possibilities and you do too.

You may not think you do, but I assure you for everything you want to create, be, have, or do, there are an infinite number of ways to get there.  The only thing holding you back from the many paths is you.

Now, this isn’t a blame game where I tell you it’s all your fault, because honestly it’s not.  We have been taught a lot of things that aren’t true and the idea that there are only a handful of ways to get from point A to point B is but one.

It’s time to learn something new.

It’s time to see the bigger picture and all the amazing ways your dreams can come true and to allow the forces of the Universe to work for you, not against you.

It’s time to break free from your monkey brain that is running 100 miles a minute in order to make things happen for you.

It’s time to accept the truth that there are an infinite number of ways your dreams can come true.

I’ll use myself as an example.

When I set out on this path to becoming a life coach, I did what any responsible and logical person would do.  I googled how.

I found a ton of information on various programs, certificates, coaches, professionals, organizations, books, etc. that were sure to help me get from where I was (in a job I hated) to where I wanted to be (and incidentally where I am now).  I decided that the fastest way from point A to point B would be to find a program, get certified, and start my practice.

It seemed simple enough, but I quickly learned it wasn’t.

I had some road blocks that were popping up all over the place.  For 2 years I was struggling to find the right program at the right price, with the right focus and I was desperate to get on with my plan.

No matter how hard I tried to make this one way work, it didn’t.  The programs were too expensive, not close enough, too long, or just plain off.  And while I was given every indication that this was not the way to do it, I kept pushing.  I kept trying.  I kept forcing it to be that way because it had to be, right?  I mean let’s be honest, google is rarely wrong.

It was the thought that there was only one way to get there that was holding me back.  That’s it.

I couldn’t see another way.  All I could think about was how to get the money, find the program, and get certified already.

What I ignored was my innate talent, knowledge, and expertise that I used every single day.  I was using it with co-workers, friends, and family members.  In fact, I even had my Masters in Psychology and still didn’t believe it was enough.

Once I was willing to see another way and entertain the idea that I hadn’t exhausted all possibilities, my eyes were open and I was ready to leap.  I started my coaching practice within just a few months of this realization and have been working at it ever since.

The same goes for you.

In fact, when you take your hands off the wheel and let go of the one track mind of ‘how’ your dreams will come true, you allow the Universe to work its magic to bring you amazing opportunities you never thought possible.  

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photo credit: carlyhag via photopin cc

And by simply brainstorming other ways you can reach your dream, you put energy out into the world that opens the door to some truly magical experiences.  The things that happen as a result will blow your mind.  They will seem too good to be true, but I promise they aren’t.  They will be the result of you opening your mind and your heart to the infinite possibilities that lie before you.

We are only human and as such, we can only imagine a few ways our dreams can become reality and if you are like most, you are likely looking at the logical or realistic paths to what you desire.

Action Step:  Today I want you to do something a little different.  I want you to grab your journal or a notebook and write your big dream at the top.  Below that I want you to get creative and think of all the amazing ways your dreams can come true.  Try to quiet the logical mind that is sure to try to get in the way.  Write them all down and then lean back a bit and watch the magic occur in your life.  I promise you will be amazed. 

P.S. Are you having a little trouble getting outside of your logical brain?  I know it’s not always that easy for us to do, but lucky for you I am really good at brainstorming and helping clients break free from reality and dive head first into the magical ways you can create the life of your dreams.  In fact, I’ve created a community on Facebook to keep you motivated and inspired so you can Love Your Life.  Join us!  And if you are interested in working with me one-on-one, but aren’t exactly sure what you need, feel free to schedule your 30-Minute Consultation here.  I have a few spots open this week so let’s chat!

How Words Can Become Blocks…

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photo credit: Chris JL via photopin cc

I first want to say thank you to everyone who read, commented, shared, and responded to my latest article in the Huffington Post titled: 12 Universal Laws That Will Change Your Life for the Better.  I am deeply grateful to everyone for your kindness and am looking forward to connecting with each of you either through my blog, on Facebook, Twitter, or by working with you one-on-one.

It’s long been said that words have power and when you think of that phrase you probably think of ‘positive’ or ‘negative’ thoughts.  You might think of words that empower us and uplift versus those that tear us down.  And while there are words that generally create a positive or negative feel to them, I want to talk about something a bit different.

I want to talk about words like ’email’ or ‘sales’ or ‘newsletter’ or ‘career’ or ‘money’ or ‘abundance’ or other seemingly simple words that might be thought of as neutral.

Even neutral words can be charged with a positive or negative vibe depending on how we feel about them.  One word might resonate positively for me, but for you it might feel a bit negative or heavy.

So, why am I talking about words and vibes?

Because many times the words we use (and the vibes attached to those words) hold us back in some way.

I’ll give you an example:

0001-28713102A few months back I was working with a lovely client who is also an entrepreneur.  She is incredible at what she does and is very good about making a list and doing what needs to be done except for when it came to her newsletter.  (Those of you in the business world know how much emphasis is put on your list and the newsletters you send to your list.)

My dear client was stuck.  No matter how many times that newsletter ended up on her to-do list, it never got done.  She procrastinated, avoided it, and would do 100 other things before she would think of taking care of the newsletter.

Why?

Because the idea of it was overwhelming.  The importance and power that was placed on the dreaded newsletter made her cringe.  She wanted it to be perfect and couldn’t bring herself to sit for the amount of time it would take her to get it to perfect. 

After some digging we realized it wasn’t the actual newsletter that was sending her running for the hills.  It was the vibration and feeling that was attached to it that was.

I suggested that instead of thinking of it as a newsletter she think of it as just an email.  She sends emails every day to her clients so what is one more?  Changing the word also changed the vibration that was attached to the activity.  She no longer needed to fret about sending perfect emails because she emails were easy for her.

Words can become like brick walls, blocking you from being, having, or doing exactly what you need to get to where you are going.

If negatively charged words are your issue (and I assure you we all have something like that), then it can be as simple as shifting the word a bit which also shifts the vibe.

I’ll give you another example.

Just yesterday I had a conversation with another client who was struggling with doing ‘sales pitches’.  Every time she got to the sales part of her call, she would freeze up and stumble a bit.  She didn’t want to be pushy or sales-y or sleazy about it and desperately needed to find a comfortable way of dealing with sales.

I noticed the negative charge she gave to the word ‘sales’ and we chatted about changing the idea of a ‘sales pitch’ to simply an invitation, because really that’s all it is.  The word invitation instantly feels lighter, brighter, and open.  She immediately felt the difference and felt better about inviting clients to make life changes.

Sometimes the blocks you are feeling have very simple fixes.  Change the word, you change the vibration.  Words like ‘money’, ‘abundance’, ‘prosperity’, ‘rich’, etc. also have the potential to have a ton of vibrational baggage that comes along with them.

Are there any words that feel heavy, dark, or do you feel resistance to?  Share in the comments below and let’s see if we can do a simple flip to change the vibes.  It can make all the difference in how you feel.

 

P.S.  Friday is the last day to sign up for my Coach on Call offer and I only have a few openings left.  If you are interested in signing up, but want to chat a bit first to make sure we are a good fit, schedule your 30-Minute Consultation HERE.  I look forward to chatting with you! 

I’ll be your Coach on Call for November (Exclusive Offer!)

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I have traveled the sometimes lonely road that you often travel while chasing your dream.  A dream that you aren’t even 100% sure is possible….

Your heart tells you it is, but the reality you see in front of you scoffs at the idea of getting up every day and doing what you love.

Because really? Who gets to do that besides the posh superstars of the world making millions of dollars?

But something keeps you going.  Maybe it’s the dream or the whisper of your soul that pushes you forward and reminds you that you must keep going.

When I started down this road, I had NO idea what I was in for.  I didn’t know anyone that was kicking reality to the curb in order to dive head first into a life they truly wanted.  Hell, I didn’t know many people that even questioned what they wanted let alone were willing to go after it.

Looking back, if I knew then what I know now, I would have jumped at the opportunity to have a coach by my side to help me start and to remind me to keep going when my mind got overwhelmed with reality.

It took me 7 years to figure out what I wanted and another 4 to actually go after it.  And now that I am in it, I am surrounded by some of the most amazing, supportive women and coaches that help me stay focused to just keep going when it feels rough.

Action. Accountability. Mindset Magic.

Those are the things I needed & still need on this path & I would venture to guess you need them too.

Whether you are just starting out or are taking your dream life to the next level I’ve got a very special one-time offer for you.

For the month of November, I will be your Coach On Call.

What you get:

  • 2- 45-Minute Minute Coaching sessions via phone or Skype
  • Unlimited e-mail coaching/support for the month of November
  • An outline of action steps to keep you focused
  • Mindset adjustment where you need it most

You get exactly what I needed most when I started. A foundation of support that will pave the way for progress and success as you move forward.

Your investment: $350

This is a one-time offer good until next Friday (October 31st) and because it involves such intensive support (email coaching & 2 sessions) I am limiting it to a select few.  I have released it to my VIP list already so if you are interested, snag your spot now (by clicking the image below).  I guarantee these spots will go fast.

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So what do you say? Are you going to wait another week, month, or year to get started on the amazing life you have always wanted?