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The Love Rant

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It’s not Valentines Day or Sweetest Day, however love is on my mind.

Why?

Because I just got married, like yesterday.

And while I am very much the romantic, swooning, wear my heart on my sleeve kind of gal, I enjoy love in all forms, not just the romantic kind.

I have said this before and I am going to say it again so bear with me while I go on a little love rant.

I have lived the life of just getting by in my work.  Doing a good job, but not really loving what I do.  While it was manageable for several years, I knew there was something bigger and more soul-satisfying out there for me.  When I found coaching, I knew.  Now that I am living my dream, doing work I absolutely freakin’ LOVE, I can’t imagine doing anything else.  Life is amazing. Truly.

I have also lived the life of doing things that others expect of me.  Fitting into a mold, life, and expectation of the world and not allowing myself to take care of my own needs and do more things I love.  Simple things like reading, writing, and spending time in the sun.  Things like taking vacations, going to yoga, or taking a nap when I feel like it.  Now that I am giving myself permission to do more of what I LOVE, life is a lot better.  I’m healthier, happier, and find myself enjoying each moment far more than I have in the past.

The next thing on my love list is kind of a big one.  I have lived the life of judgement.  Judgement of others (which I am certainly not proud of).  Jealousy for what I felt I was missing in my life and a general lack of love for others.  Now don’t get me wrong, I wasn’t a mean person per se, and I didn’t feel this way about all people, but what I realized was my outward judgement for others was really an inward judgement of myself.  I wanted a life that I felt I didn’t have and didn’t have the ability to create for myself.  All that has changed.  I have realized that not only are we all connected, but that love is the most important thing that connects us all.  Instead of comparing where I am and judging myself for not being as far as someone else, I try to remember we are all on our own journey and in celebrating the success of another, I am able to see them as an example of where I can be.

So what is this little love rant all about?  It’s about infusing your life, every part of your life with a little bit more love.  Everything from showing yourself some extra love and care to doing kind things for others.  Allow your soul to sing by doing more of what you love.  Share your gifts with the world.  Smile at strangers and make their day.  Love yourself and each other and by golly if you are spending 40+ hours a week struggling through a job that ‘just isn’t that bad’, take some time to explore what you truly want to do.  Now is the time to do it!

I’ve said it before and this isn’t likely to be the last time (in case you were wondering).  You deserve to do what you love, to have more fun, and live a joyful, amazing, and abundant life.  You don’t have to only pick one thing to make you happy and let the rest go.  YOU have the ability to create an amazing life and but you have to first make the decision to do so.  So what are you waiting for?

Are you ready to take the first step to creating and living the life of your dreams?  Let’s chat about your biggest, boldest, most amazing dreams you have processing. I am opening up several new client consultations for anyone who might be interested now through the end of April, so contact me ASAP to grab your spot.  I am also launching a wonderful group coaching opportunity for those of you that might not be ready for full-on individual coaching.  Sign-up for my VIP list so you don’t miss the special launch info and additional gift for the first 5 sign-ups.

 

Stepping Outside Your Comfort Zone

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Happy Friday Dreamers!

I wanted to share a little bit of insight about stepping outside your comfort zone. Enjoy!

P.S. If you have been thinking about signing up for the Unleash Your Personal Power e-course time is running out.  We will officially close registration for this round on Monday April 14th, so please get signed up soon!  Have a wonderful weekend!

Dream Changer-Featuring Applied Kinesiologist Felicia Giouzelis

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***This week I am so excited to present to you one of the co-creators and teachers of the Unleash Your Personal Power e-course (registration ends April 14th!!!), Felicia Giouzelis.  Felicia is not only a powerhouse of knowledge and experience in muscle-testing and Applied Kinesiology, but she is also a beautiful soul with a passion and spark that you can’t help but feel from her with every interaction.  You will see what I mean when you read her dream changer post below.  I hope you enjoy her story and check out her website for more information about how she changes lives on a daily basis. Take it away Felicia!***

My dream changing moment exploded onto the scene in August 2013. I had spent the past year in a high-profile position within the food service industry zoiresponsible for several departments in several locations for a company that was rapidly growing. I had revamped all processes and procedures within a year, launched a successful software redevelopment project from the ground up and altered the entire direction that this company was taken and yet, I felt empty inside.

That amount of success took approximately 90 hours per week from my life, it robbed me of my exercise routine, my healthy food choices and even my personal goals and aspirations. I watched myself deteriorate into a person that I no longer knew and I had seen this person before. The workaholic die-hard overachiever that got amazing amounts of work done but lost herself in the process. I try very hard to live without regrets, but if I were to regret any choice it would be the times that I had lost sight of myself.

Before I began that position, I was going through a terrible breakup. Looking back on it now, I realize that the job was an escape for me. I didn’t want to deal with any of the feelings associated with the breakup, so I buried myself in a position that was busy enough to help me escape. I used 90 hours a week as an excuse not to deal with any of the feelings associated with the breakup. By no means was I required to work 90 hours a week. My self-proclaimed undying determination was the reason for the extra hours, or so I thought at the time.

In August 2013, at the culmination of burnout… I lost it! I lost the need to continue working crazy hours, the need to put others before myself and the need to find fulfillment through my job. At the height of burnout, I resigned from my position. The day after my last day of employment, I simply collapsed on every level. My physical body finally had a chance to recover from the self-induced overwork of the past year and all I could do for two months was sleep about 16 hours a day – ironically, the same amount of time I was working each day!

Within a week of leaving, I started to think about what the next chapter of my life would entail. At that moment, I was invited to an advanced class in Applied Kinesiology at a school in New Mexico. The call was too loud for me to ignore it and it felt like I already belonged there. I flew out and was right, I felt instantly connected to the course and the people. It was at that moment that my entire life direction changed and I felt the shift very strongly.

I felt like I had come home.

These days a six-hour workday is about all I can muster and referring to it as a ‘workday’ is a comical statement to me. I have so much fun with applied kinesiology, it feels like I haven’t worked a single day. Being of service to others in healing is by far the most fulfilling part of my life.

Today I lovingly and gratefully reflect on my former position as a required step in my path. Without that intense pressure, I don’t think I would have left the position and found my true calling.

 

Headshot(1)Felicia is determined to live in a world where everyone is healthy, thriving and dis-ease free! As an applied kinesiologist, she’s been applauded by her peers and clients for her ability to explain how the body functions, the root cause of imbalances and how to bring it back into balance holistically – in easy to understand terms. When she’s not working with her amazing clients, you can find her pouring over articles and books about epigenetics at the local park.

Her latest e-course — Unleash your personal power — hits the internet on April 1, 2014 (registration ends April 14th!)

Find out how to bring your body into balance at www.zoiwellness.com or you can reach out to her on Facebook, Twitter, or Pinterest.

 

The Ever-Evolving Dream=No Wrong Choices

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It seems the world we live in today involves a ton of black/white issues.

Right vs Wrong

Good vs Bad

Yes vs No

This vs That

There is judgement in every seemingly wrong choice we make and the more we analyze our choices so we won’t make the ‘wrong’ choice, we paralyze ourselves from choosing at all.

Is it just me?

I have lived for far too long trying to make the best choices in all areas of my life that often times result in a ton of stress, strife, and guilt wondering if whatever choice I finally decided on was the right one.

It’s exhausting, draining, and just down right a waste of time.

Lucky for me, I am learning this lesson as I put it more into practice.

The truth of life is there are no wrong choices, in anything.  There are simply choices that will lead you down one path or another.  Forks in the road that may lead to amazing experiences, lessons, and gifts you wouldn’t have experienced otherwise.  Winding roads that may not make for a direct route to your dreams, but will deliver you to other dreams you hadn’t even thought of.

That is life.

And what a beautiful life it is.

You see, as far as your dreams are concerned, there are no wrong choices, bad times, poor actions, or failure.  There are simply choices that will help you and your dreams evolve.  There are paths that may send you into a forest of lessons, magic, miracles, and connections you never thought possible.  Each step you take will move you further along your path and each step will be perfect in its own right.  There are no wrong turns or choices.  There are just turns and choices that will move you along your path.

I say all of this to remind you that your dreams will grow, evolve, and change shape at times and everything that happens is perfect for YOU.  So sit back, relax, and make choices based on what feels right for you and know that even if it doesn’t bring you the outcome you first desired, that doesn’t mean it’s wrong or bad.  It’ just is what it is…another step, another lesson, another choice point for you in life.

When you take the emotional charge and judgement of right/wrong and good/bad and this/that, things not only feel easier, but your path will unfold in a more beautiful, flowing, and perfect way.

Remember everything is working out for you right here, right now.

Do you find yourself hanging onto right/wrong choices?  If so, what do you feel if you accept every step as perfect in all ways?  I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments below.

 

Investing in Yourself

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Another theme I keep coming across in my own life and the lives of my clients is self-care.  More specifically how difficult it is to invest the time, money, and space to really support ourselves in the way we need.

Is self-care a pain point for you?

Do you often find yourself overly exhausted, worried, frustrated, or saying ‘yes’ to everyone else but yourself?

It’s time to stop all that nonsense and begin investing in yourself.

I know there are a million reasons not to do it and to be honest, the ones I hear the most comes down to money and time.

We all have money stuff.  We either believe there isn’t enough or what we have is all we will ever make, but that’s not true.  There is plenty to go around and investing in yourself is one of the best ways to bring more into your life.  Sounds a bit backwards I know, but when you are stressed, frustrated, angry, and living in a mindset of lack, do you find you are met with even more lack?  It’s likely you are.  But, what if you took some time for yourself to relax a bit.  Get a massage, treat yourself to a manicure, purchase a course that can change your life, or hire a coach to help you reach the next level of your dreams?  Wouldn’t that feel good?

At first the thought of spending money on things that aren’t ‘needs’ can scare the pants off some people and create anxiety especially if money seems to be a bit tighter than usual.  And while I am not a ‘money coach’ per se, I do a lot of work with my clients on their money stuff because it’s a part of the beliefs and blocks that hold us back.  Our relationship with money can be quite stressed depending on how we grew up, what we were taught, and the messages we heard and in turn believed about it.  The same goes for spending money on seemingly frivolous things.

The truth is that investing in yourself is not frivolous or irresponsible.  It is a necessary part of self-care and life in general.  We aren’t here to simply survive and live paycheck to paycheck or to scrimp and save every penny we have.  We are supposed to enjoy life, feel good, and take care of ourselves, but I often find some people just aren’t ready to take the leap.  If that is you, then I invite you to start small.

Treat yourself to coffee every once in a while if that is your thing.  Or go buy a good book that you have been dying to read and know that it’s OK to invest in yourself.  And should you find yourself wondering about hiring a coach or enrolling in a course that is calling to you, do it!

There are always reasons not to invest in yourself and your dreams.  Money is tight, the car might need fixing, the kids college fund needs to be bigger, or you just don’t believe it will make a difference, but I assure you that you will be better off if and when you do.

I am not asking you to dump your responsibilities and quit your job to invest in yourself, but I am asking you to get in touch with what you really want and need right now and allow your intuition to guide you.  I believe wholeheartedly in the powers of the Universe guiding us to the people, articles, books, quotes, tools etc. that we need in the moment so you being here is not a fluke. Listen with your heart and get busy enjoying this amazing gift we have called life!

You know what’s funny?  I get many of the same complaints and excuses when it comes to the time factor too.  There seems to never be enough time to invest in yourself, but the truth is you just haven’t made it a priority.  I invite you to make yourself, your self-care, your growth, and your dreams a priority.  The world needs to see your light shine and you deserve to live a life of excitement, abundance, and joy.

So I ask you, what can you do right now to invest in yourself? 

 

If you have thought about working with a coach and haven’t taken the leap just yet, I would love to chat with you.  I am taking on new clients for April and I want to hear about your dreams and goals.  If I am not a good fit for you, I will help you find a coach that works for you.  I want you to get what you need to make your dreams come alive, it’s as simple as that.  Let’s schedule a 30-minute consultation to chat about what I do and what you want to achieve.  Simple, free, and totally worth the time.  Contact me today to get your consultation scheduled.  I look forward to chatting with you!