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Coach’s Toolkit

October 14, 2014 by Lamisha

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***DISCLAIMER: This post does include affiliate links to programs I have tried and highly recommend. I never suggest any product or service that I don’t have first hand experience with. ***

If you know me personally or have worked with me you know that I am all about personal growth.

I am always looking for ways to learn, expand, and grow not only to provide the best service I can, but also so I can continue to reach to new heights personally.

In the process I have stumbled upon some amazing books, practices, & products that have changed my life. They are things I often suggest to my clients because I like to share the love. It’s that simple.

So, today I share with you a list of things I not only love, but things that have changed my life for the better.

All time favorite book….

Inspired & Unstoppable: Wildly Succeeding in Your Life’s Work! by Tama Kieves
It is the book I go back to over and over again when I need a little reminder to follow my inspiration & intuition. I love it so much I actually ran a giveaway earlier this year to gift a copy to one lucky winner. This book will change how you think of success and it will reinforce what you already know and what I have been sharing with you for as long as I have been writing and that is…Follow Your Heart. Always. If you are just setting out on your journey to freedom and the living the life of your dreams, this is the book for you.

For setting intentions & tracking progress…

I adore Leonie Dawson for her creative brilliance & her authenticity and the moment I found her 2014 Create Your Amazing Year Life & Biz Workbook, I fell in love with it. Everything in that workbook lights me up. It is full of amazing artwork, insightful questions, practical tips, and magical rituals to help you make your year amazing. She is making some upgrades to it for 2015 and I can’t wait for it to be available for purchase. If you are looking for something a bit more creative and fun to use as you plan your year ahead, I highly encourage you to check it out. (I’ll share reminders once the 2015 version is available!)

For money mindset & manifesting…

Another woman I simply adore is Denise Duffield-Thomas. I have been following her for about a year now and when I was ready to learn a bit more about releasing my old worn-out beliefs about money, I jumped right into her Lucky Bitch Money Bootcamp. To say that it changes your life is a gross understatement. It not only changed my relationship with money, but how I think of it altogether. She covers everything from upgrading your life to dealing with past money memories and releasing the money blocks that we all have. I also have to say that the Lucky Bitch community has been amazing! There are so many incredible people who have joined the program that makes this program so special. This has been by far one of the best investments I have made in myself. If you are considering a manifestation course, I highly encourage you to check this out & you can even get a taste of what she teaches in her Money in 24 Hours audio for free.

For clearing & releasing blocks…

This year was the first time I had ever done anything with EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique). I had heard about it for years, but never tried it until early this year. It might seem a little weird to you if you have never tried it, but the results are amazing. I tap just about every day and it has changed my life. I have used it for anxiety, frustration, fear, money mindset junk, and so many other issues I have dealt with in this last year and it instantly shifts how I am feeling. If you are interested in some high vibrational ways to shift from fear to confidence or from lack to abundance, check it out. I’ve included a few of my favorite EFT practitioners and their videos for you to take a look at. Let me know your thoughts.

David Childerley & Brad Yates both have some awesome videos available.

I also want to offer you my free Overwhelm to Action audio to help you get through all the ideas you have so you can gain some clarity on how to start taking action today! Simply sign up here to receive your free audio.

So what are some of the tools you have used to help you grow, evolve, and become all that you want to be? Do you have a favorite book, practice, or program that you just love? Share in the comments below, I’d love to check it out!

Risks & Results

October 10, 2014 by Lamisha

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I have a confession to make.

Over the last few months I realized I have had an underlying fear that I couldn’t quite put my finger on until now…

Being seen in a big way.

Sure, I write, coach, and am pretty active on social media, but I realized I’ve been afraid of putting myself out there in a big way.

And it’s not so much about the being seen as much as it is me being potentially rejected or disappointed by being seen.

You’ve been there right?

Well, it’s time to change all of that.

I’ve decided that October is going to be my best month ever.

This is the month I stop being afraid of stepping out and being seen and as a result, I’m taking risks.

I’m sharing my business with people more and more. Reaching out to women that are stuck and struggling that I know I can be of service to. Leaving my card in local businesses so more people find me. Guest posting like crazy and sharing my thoughts with a wider audience. I also just signed up to attend a women’s empowerment luncheon where I won’t know anyone, but is a great opportunity for me to network and connect with other like-minded women.

I’ll be honest. Doing all of these things is a bit uncomfortable. It stretches me to my max in some cases and brings up a ton of blocks for me to work through…which is great. I’m learning detachment in the face of fear and learning to let go of the worry of disappointment.

As they say, if you don’t ask the answer is always no.

We are about a 1/3 of the way through the month and I’ve already taken more risks with amazing results than I have in the last 6 months.

The results have been amazing!

I’ve been published again in Kind Over Matter with an article on Keeping Your Eyes On Your Own Path, and in The Magic Happens with a letter to the Dreamers of the World . I also wrote a post for Clear Calm Space on The Clutter You Can’t See and just found out my post Stuck? Don’t ‘Try Harder’…Do This Instead was just published on The Huffington Post!

I also have an article in an incredible book that is a #1 best seller called Empowered Women of Social Media: 44 Women found their “Voices” using the Power of Social Networking (Volume 1) that was just released last weekend!

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And I’m not stopping there. I’m looking for new ways to take risks, to be seen, to expand, grow, and reach beyond where I am so I can be of service to more women. To help you amazing ladies make life the absolute best and help you live a life of freedom as you turn your dreams into reality. I’m ready to finish the year off with a bang and I’m inviting you to do the same.

What have you been too scared to do so far this year? Maybe it’s pitching some articles, sharing your business, or starting a new venture. Maybe you have been afraid of taking the leap to ask for help, to hire a coach, or to take that next scary step. Whatever it is, I invite you to make the commitment to take risks and embrace the results.

I’d love to be of support to you as you do this in any way I can and invite you take the leap with hiring a coach. Schedule your 30-Minute Consultation to chat about how I can help you take big action to make your dreams a reality. You deserve to live a life of freedom. So what are you waiting for?

I also want to invite you to join my VIP list. I’m creating a community of life-lovers and a freedom tribe that I would love for you to be a part of, but you must be on the list to join. Stay tuned for the invitation to come your way.

Have a fabulous weekend of risk taking and amazing results!!

Lamisha

Stuck on What you REALLY Want? Try this.

October 7, 2014 by Lamisha

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If you don’t know what you want in life, how the world do you think you are supposed to get it???

The first step to creating an amazing life is knowing what that means to you.

In fact, it’s the first thing I ask every person I work with (and something I’ve been asking friends & coworkers for years) only to find more people have no clue what they want in life.

They are either too stuck in reality to even flex their creative muscles a bit or they don’t really believe they can have what they truly want.

But here’s the thing.

Your dream life isn’t going to just appear out of thin air. You aren’t going to wake up one day to a life you never envisioned, never imagined, and never thought about.

It’s just not how it works.

So let’s figure out what it is you want so you can get moving on making those amazing dreams a reality, shall we?

Know that you can be, have, or do anything you want. This step is paramount! When you know that, you unlock the block in your mind that wants you to play safe and think small.
Think about what you wanted as a child. When you were younger you didn’t know there was this thing called reality that had rules and regulations you had to abide by. You used your imagination effortlessly and came up with some incredible visions, stories, and desires for who you wanted to be when you grew up. Revisit those thoughts and think about what you wanted to be as a child. Write it down.
Create a love list. If you are struggling to figure out what you want in your life as a whole it might be helpful to make separate lists for relationships, family, career, fun, etc. What you are going to do is make a list of all the things you love (or have loved) over the years in each category. For instance, in career you might put something like ‘using my creativity’ or ‘helping people’. Be as specific as possible for each list and see what comes up. Don’t edit or censor what you write down. This is simply a list of all the things you love so just let it flow.
Brainstorm with others. Sometimes talking to someone can help you get clear on what it is you want. The natural flow of a conversation can be helpful as you get feedback from someone else. This is also a great way to bounce ideas around and to simply verbalize some of the things you are thinking. Talking it out is one of the amazing benefits of having a coach. They ask questions you never thought to ask yourself.
Put it all together. Take a look at some of the things you have written or what came up in your conversations, what themes do you see? You might find there is a theme in regards to your career or in the relationship department. Maybe you find ‘freedom’ to be a theme and you want to create your own business. Maybe creativity is a theme and you want to do something with your art or writing. Once you find the theme, the rest of the picture appears almost effortlessly. But, if you still find yourself stuck with what you want in life, take a moment to imagine your perfect day. What are you doing? Who are you with? What do you see? Where are you? How much money are you making? How do you spend your time? Etc.

Once you know what you want to create you can move onto visualizing it and allowing the next step to come to you. Don’t be hard on yourself if after following steps 1-5 you are still confused about how everything fits together to create the dream life for you. Just know that it can and will come together for you.

Are you ready to jump start the process and gain clarity around what you want in your life? If so, schedule your 30-minute consultation and let’s make it happen. There really is no reason for you to continue to wait for the life of your dreams to simply appear. You have to know what you want first. So what are you waiting for?

A Lesson in Leaning Back

October 2, 2014 by Lamisha

I’ll be the first to admit when I want something, I can become hyper-focused on it. (Ok maybe a little obsessed.)

I think about it. I visualize it. I analyze it. I talk about it.

I often jump into action mode quickly and can sometimes forget to listen to my heart.

When it comes to my business and my goals, I often lunge forward when what I truly need to do is lean back and trust.

Today I was reminded of the importance of leaning back.

I’ve been working a bit on expansion in my life and in my business and part of that means reaching outside my comfort zone.

I’m taking risks and stepping into the spotlight so much more than I have before. It’s exciting, exhilarating, and honestly it feels so right.

But, in the midst of taking inspired action and clearing my own BS, I sometimes come to a point when I get too focused on the outcome.

I want results and I want them…last week.

The result?

Lots of resistance, disappointment, feelings of lack, and taking forced action as opposed to inspired. (It’s not pretty.)

But, lucky for me I have an amazing support system including my own business coach who reminds me when it’s time to just lean back.

So, what is leaning back really?

To put it simply, it’s trusting the process and staying the course. It’s detaching from the results and knowing that everything is working out perfectly. It also means that you know that whatever it is you are trying to manifest or achieve is already done.

It’s happening now. The money, relationship, career, and clients you want are on the way. When you stay the course and know it is all coming to you now, you don’t have to worry. You can just enjoy the ride.

I’ll give you another example of what happens when you lean back.

A friend of mine was having a few slow weeks in her business. She was doing the work and trying hard to figure things out. She was in action all the time, until one day when she decided she needed a break. Both her mind & body needed a reprieve from all the action so she took a few days off. She lounged around in her comfy clothes and allowed herself some time to just rest. In the middle of her second day of rest, she gets a call from a new client.

Leaning back allows the energy you have put into motion to do the work for you.

No more pushing, prodding, or forcing things to happen.

So if you find yourself feeling anxious and are being busy for the sake of being busy. Try a different approach.

Just lean back. Let go. Let it flow, and remember you have the power to create & enjoy the life of your dreams. Sometimes that means letting go of the reins so the powers of the Universe can work for you.

Do you feel like you are forcing a particular area of your life right now? If so, what is it? Share in the comments below and commit to leaning back for a few days.

P.S. Have you signed up for my VIP list? If not you can do so here. I have some fun giveaways & exclusive offers that I am working on for the next few months that are only accessible to my VIP List so get signed up so you don’t miss out.

Your Dream Life In 3 Simple Steps

September 29, 2014 by Lamisha

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Your dream life is a mere 3 steps away…

Sound too good to be true?

It’s not.

Take a moment and evaluate your life right now. Would you say you are living the life of your dreams or do you feel stuck?

Maybe you are like a lot of people and have the dream floating around in your head as an ‘if only’ thought.

But I’m here to tell you it doesn’t have to be that way. It can be your reality right now.

Here’s how.

Step 1: Know what you want. Do you know what your dream life looks like for you? Have you taken the time to get clear on what you truly want out of life? I’m not talking about what seems realistic or logical. I’m talking about what you really want. What gets you excited about life? What lights your fire? What is it that you want out of life? Is it freedom? A career you are passionate about? Family time? Travel? Writing? What is your dream? Identify that and the rest is easy.

Step 2: Clear the junk. To live the life of your dreams you have to know without a shadow of a doubt it is possible. Any thought or belief that contradicts that fact must be cleared. Any block or barrier in your thoughts about your worthiness or value to live the life you deserve, must be released and getting help identifying your blind spot is more valuable than you know.

Step 3: Listen with your heart and take inspired action. There is no doubt you have to take action to move along your path, but the key is allowing your intuition and inspiration to guide you. This isn’t about setting the most logical plan of action. This is about getting out of your head and into your heart and allowing that to be your guide which isn’t always easy. Following the logical steps or trying to outline your entire journey will result in the blood, sweat, and tears kind of hard work we have been taught. But the heart path feels effortless and almost too easy. It’s fun, inspiring, and will lead to more expansion and growth than you have ever known.

Here’s my challenge to you today. Look at the steps and see where you are, but better yet, what you are going to do about it.

If you aren’t living the life of your dreams it is likely because you are stuck in one of the 3 steps and it really doesn’t matter where you are stuck as much as much as it matters what you are going to do about it.

Don’t know what you want? I can help.

Got some junk to clear? I can help.

Need to learn the inspired way? I can help with that too.

If you are ready to drop the excuses so you can live the amazing life you were made for, do yourself a favor and invest in yourself.

So? What are you going to do?

I have a few spots left in my 3-Month Program and in my Blind Spot Discovery Sessions so if you want in, now is the time!

Not sure you are ready to take the leap? Schedule a 30-Minute Consultation to find out.