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You may not want to hear this…

October 31, 2014 by Lamisha

Over the last few days I’ve been getting tons of emails and comments asking a similar question.

How do you get started with the life of your dreams, when life feels really difficult in the moment?

Maybe your bank account balance is in the negative or your relationship is on the rocks or you can’t see your way out of the job that you hate.

There is a way out and it may not be what you want to hear.

Check out the video below to find out what to do and how to begin.

Give these tips a try and let me know how it goes for you. And if you are still feeling stuck, feel free to schedule a FREE 30-Minute Consultation to find out more about how I can help you take the necessary steps to get you to the life you deserve.

How Words Can Become Blocks…

October 28, 2014 by Lamisha

I first want to say thank you to everyone who read, commented, shared, and responded to my latest article in the Huffington Post titled: 12 Universal Laws That Will Change Your Life for the Better. I am deeply grateful to everyone for your kindness and am looking forward to connecting with each of you either through my blog, on Facebook, Twitter, or by working with you one-on-one.

It’s long been said that words have power and when you think of that phrase you probably think of ‘positive’ or ‘negative’ thoughts. You might think of words that empower us and uplift versus those that tear us down. And while there are words that generally create a positive or negative feel to them, I want to talk about something a bit different.

I want to talk about words like ’email’ or ‘sales’ or ‘newsletter’ or ‘career’ or ‘money’ or ‘abundance’ or other seemingly simple words that might be thought of as neutral.

Even neutral words can be charged with a positive or negative vibe depending on how we feel about them. One word might resonate positively for me, but for you it might feel a bit negative or heavy.

So, why am I talking about words and vibes?

Because many times the words we use (and the vibes attached to those words) hold us back in some way.

I’ll give you an example:

A few months back I was working with a lovely client who is also an entrepreneur. She is incredible at what she does and is very good about making a list and doing what needs to be done except for when it came to her newsletter. (Those of you in the business world know how much emphasis is put on your list and the newsletters you send to your list.)

My dear client was stuck. No matter how many times that newsletter ended up on her to-do list, it never got done. She procrastinated, avoided it, and would do 100 other things before she would think of taking care of the newsletter.

Why?

Because the idea of it was overwhelming. The importance and power that was placed on the dreaded newsletter made her cringe. She wanted it to be perfect and couldn’t bring herself to sit for the amount of time it would take her to get it to perfect.

After some digging we realized it wasn’t the actual newsletter that was sending her running for the hills. It was the vibration and feeling that was attached to it that was.

I suggested that instead of thinking of it as a newsletter she think of it as just an email. She sends emails every day to her clients so what is one more? Changing the word also changed the vibration that was attached to the activity. She no longer needed to fret about sending perfect emails because she emails were easy for her.

Words can become like brick walls, blocking you from being, having, or doing exactly what you need to get to where you are going.

If negatively charged words are your issue (and I assure you we all have something like that), then it can be as simple as shifting the word a bit which also shifts the vibe.

I’ll give you another example.

Just yesterday I had a conversation with another client who was struggling with doing ‘sales pitches’. Every time she got to the sales part of her call, she would freeze up and stumble a bit. She didn’t want to be pushy or sales-y or sleazy about it and desperately needed to find a comfortable way of dealing with sales.

I noticed the negative charge she gave to the word ‘sales’ and we chatted about changing the idea of a ‘sales pitch’ to simply an invitation, because really that’s all it is. The word invitation instantly feels lighter, brighter, and open. She immediately felt the difference and felt better about inviting clients to make life changes.

Sometimes the blocks you are feeling have very simple fixes. Change the word, you change the vibration. Words like ‘money’, ‘abundance’, ‘prosperity’, ‘rich’, etc. also have the potential to have a ton of vibrational baggage that comes along with them.

Are there any words that feel heavy, dark, or do you feel resistance to? Share in the comments below and let’s see if we can do a simple flip to change the vibes. It can make all the difference in how you feel.

P.S. Friday is the last day to sign up for my Coach on Call offer and I only have a few openings left. If you are interested in signing up, but want to chat a bit first to make sure we are a good fit, schedule your 30-Minute Consultation HERE. I look forward to chatting with you!

I’ll be your Coach on Call for November (Exclusive Offer!)

October 23, 2014 by Lamisha

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I have traveled the sometimes lonely road that you often travel while chasing your dream. A dream that you aren’t even 100% sure is possible….

Your heart tells you it is, but the reality you see in front of you scoffs at the idea of getting up every day and doing what you love.

Because really? Who gets to do that besides the posh superstars of the world making millions of dollars?

But something keeps you going. Maybe it’s the dream or the whisper of your soul that pushes you forward and reminds you that you must keep going.

When I started down this road, I had NO idea what I was in for. I didn’t know anyone that was kicking reality to the curb in order to dive head first into a life they truly wanted. Hell, I didn’t know many people that even questioned what they wanted let alone were willing to go after it.

Looking back, if I knew then what I know now, I would have jumped at the opportunity to have a coach by my side to help me start and to remind me to keep going when my mind got overwhelmed with reality.

It took me 7 years to figure out what I wanted and another 4 to actually go after it. And now that I am in it, I am surrounded by some of the most amazing, supportive women and coaches that help me stay focused to just keep going when it feels rough.

Action. Accountability. Mindset Magic.

Those are the things I needed & still need on this path & I would venture to guess you need them too.

Whether you are just starting out or are taking your dream life to the next level I’ve got a very special one-time offer for you.

For the month of November, I will be your Coach On Call.

What you get:

2- 45-Minute Minute Coaching sessions via phone or Skype
Unlimited e-mail coaching/support for the month of November
An outline of action steps to keep you focused
Mindset adjustment where you need it most

You get exactly what I needed most when I started. A foundation of support that will pave the way for progress and success as you move forward.

Your investment: $350

This is a one-time offer good until next Friday (October 31st) and because it involves such intensive support (email coaching & 2 sessions) I am limiting it to a select few. I have released it to my VIP list already so if you are interested, snag your spot now (by clicking the image below). I guarantee these spots will go fast.

So what do you say? Are you going to wait another week, month, or year to get started on the amazing life you have always wanted?

Living the Dream…What You Really Want

October 21, 2014 by Lamisha

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One of the first things I ask people about when I am working with them is what they want in life.

Usually I get a list of items, dollar amounts, places they want to travel to, and a whole slew of other ‘stuff’ that comes with their dream life. Whether it’s the career of their dreams, the relationship they have always desired, or their health, there is always ‘stuff’ that they want.

And when I ask them why they want what they want, I am often met with a pause in the conversation.

It’s not about proving that you are worth having the life of your dreams, because you are already worthy enough to have it. Remember you can be, do, or have anything that your heart desires.

The reason I ask why, is because like the blocks that are holding us back, there is something that lies beneath the desire to be, have, or do anything

Take me for example. When I took the leap to live the life of my dreams, I did so with the intention of creating my own business that I loved. I wanted to help people know they too could craft a life they have always wanted and I absolutely adored the work. But, after some insightful questions and a bit of digging from a coach I was working with at the time, I realized it’s something far deeper for me.

Underneath the sparkly dream of owning my own business and helping people are three values that are extremely important to me.

Freedom, family, and service.

I want to feel free in the work I do.

I want to have the flexibility and freedom to support my family from anywhere in the world and since I am a military spouse that is even more important to me.

And I want to be of service to my clients.

I want to help people do the things they never thought possible and live the life they have always wanted.

So, I have set out on a path to design a life that does just that. That is what I am after. Those are things that are important to me. The extra “stuff” is just icing on the cake.

One of my clients has been working with me for several months and in that time we have worked on identifying what it is she truly wants out of life, giving herself permission to live that life, and helping her achieve it. One of her core values is freedom. She wants to have the freedom to choose to live the life of her dreams. To travel, to learn, to grow, and to be who she wants to be, not who others perceive her to be.

In fact, most of my clients have freedom as one of their underlying values in the work we do together. Whether it is freedom to spend their time & money how they want or the freedom to choose to live life on their own terms.

They want freedom.

So, why is knowing your underlying values important when you are creating the life of your dreams?

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It’s simple, because when you let go of the specific outcomes and focus on the values that are important to you, you loosen your grip on how it must happen and allow the energy of the Universe to work on your behalf to deliver all those values with beautiful circumstances wrapped up with a pretty bow. And you realize you just created a life you never thought was possible.

You see, it’s when we get our hands too far into the mix that we can often make things harder for us to achieve. But when you focus on values like freedom, flexibility, support, service, family, etc. you find that it’s much easier to welcome in the unexpected surprises that make life interesting & exciting. You tend to go with the flow a lot easier and trust that everything you want in life can and will be yours.

So, when you think about the investments you are making into self-growth & expansion, don’t ask yourself if the ‘stuff’ is worth it. Ask yourself if the freedom, flexibility, comfort, peace, etc. is worth it because that is what you are truly after. It’s not about how you get to those feelings that is as important as the feeling itself. Just like it’s not money you are after, it’s the amazing experiences that money allows you to buy that is what you are after.

Today, I invite you to take a look at your values. What lies beneath the external ‘stuff’ you want in life? Are you building the life of your dreams on a foundation of physical things or are you building it on a foundation of experiences and values like family, support, stability, flexibility, and freedom?

Know how you want to feel and what is truly important to you and you open the doors for those feelings to flow to you instantly.

And to take it a step further, what is one thing you can do today that will help you tap into those values. Do it now, not sometime in the future.

I’d love to know what your #1 value is and what you can do today to cultivate that feeling. Share in the comments below to get the energy moving.

P.S. If you haven’t signed up for my VIP list you will want to do that now. Not only do you gain instant access to my Creative Chaos audio and worksheet that will help you out of overwhelm and into action, but you will also be privy to an exclusive offer that I am releasing first to my list tomorrow. It’s a one time offer with limited spots to work with me in November you don’t want to miss.

A Look Into Your Future…

October 17, 2014 by Lamisha

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Where will you be in 2015? I know it’s an odd question for the middle of October 2014, but think about it.

Imagine where you will be. What will you be doing? What doors are opening for you? What dreams are you achieving?

For you, it might look like the unveiling of your new business website or booking your very first client.

Or maybe the book you’ve always wanted to pitch is now being sent to the publishers for a final edit.

Maybe you find yourself booking your flights & accommodations for spending 6 months traveling the world.

Or you see yourself quitting that job you hate and stepping into the career of your dreams with more money, more purpose, and passion than ever before.

Maybe you just signed the lease for the brick & mortar shop of your dreams and are filling it up with all kinds of creative goodies that people will love.

Or you see yourself drawing, painting, writing, and creating amazing pieces that people are just breaking down your door to buy.

Maybe you are doing what you have always dreamed and that is spending time at home with your children while your creative business takes flight.

Or you see yourself putting the finishing touches on your home art studio and getting ready for your very first art showcase.

Maybe your dream is something else. Maybe it’s a bit smaller or much bigger than any of the things I’ve listed above, but the common denominator in all of those examples is that they are all possible. Every single detail. Anything you can imagine for your ideal life is possible.

But, you must first take the leap.

I want you to take a moment today and look at where you are. Not where you have been or what opportunities you have missed in the past. Look at where you are today.

Without the leap you will stay where you are. Where life is ‘ok’ and you settle for what you have. Your heart will push you and your desires will pull you, but without that leap, you stay exactly where you are. Dreaming of…one day, when all the pieces fit together and your dream is delivered magically to your front door.

But it doesn’t happen like that. You have to decide to take the first step. To utilize your freedom of choice to decide to stay where you are where it’s “safe” or leap out of your comfort zone and embrace the life you have always wanted.

I want you to ask yourself this question: What do I want most out of life? What is my vision for the future? Think about it. Paint the picture. Enjoy the feeling of having it already done.

And then ask yourself this: Am I ready? Am I ready to do what needs to be done? To take the leap and trust that the how will be revealed to me? Am I ready?

And if you answered “YES” then I invite you to schedule a 30-minute clarity call to find out how we can make that happen and the options that are available to you for getting started on that amazing dream of yours now. Not when the clocks strikes 12am on December 31st and we enter a new year, but right NOW.

You have the chance to move into 2015 living your dream, but you have to take the first step. I have a few coaching spots open for 2014, so if you are ready to get moving and live the freedom that the life of your dreams will bring, schedule your 30-minute clarity call below.