Lamisha Serf-Walls

The When/Then Manifesting Pitfall

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When you think of your happiness and what it takes for you to live a happy life, do you find that you mostly feel that way in the present?

Or, do you find yourself falling into what I call the When/Then Manifesting Pitfall.

We all know that when we want to create or manifest a specific thing (be it a career, money, a relationship etc.) it is because we think it will make us feel good.  We search for happiness and want certain things in our lives to feel fulfilled, worthy, and blissful.  But when we are in the process of creating or manifesting those things, we often find ourselves feeling antsy, uncomfortable, and impatient.

We might look around asking “Well where is it?”. 

And if you are like me you might be saying…“When I have the money/car/relationship/career/body I want…THEN I’ll be happy/grateful/fulfilled etc.”

Unfortunately, that’s not how it works.

When you are in manifesting mode, you have to first know that it is coming and enjoy the process.

I have one too many times fallen into the habit of taking score of what I want and how long it takes to get here.  All the while I am missing all of the amazing things around me.  At times in my life I have been a conditional happy person, meaning under certain conditions I would be happy.  (Mostly when things were going really well.)

Falling into the When/Then Pitfall is so easy in our world.  We are constantly on the look out for the next thing to bring about joy that we miss the very thing in front of us that could make us happy now.  And the crazy thing is that in order to manifest what you want, you have to be happy first.

What the career of your dreams? Make peace with the job you have.

What more money? Be grateful for the money you have and enjoy where you are.

What a better relationship? Appreciate the positive aspects your partner brings to the table and simply be happy.

The best thing you can do when you are trying to manifest anything, is start by focusing on what brings you joy in all aspects of your life. 

Find your joy with the in-between time.  As the details are coming together and you haven’t yet reached the ultimate manifestation, know that it is coming and choose joy, happiness, and bliss now.  After all life is to be lived and enjoyed in the present as opposed to some arbitrary moment in the future.

Life is meant to be loved, enjoyed, and appreciated in the moment…always.  Don’t wait for the future to live the life of your dreams…start now with the little moments.

Your action step for the day is to be mindful of all the joy, happiness, and blissful moments you have right in front of you.  Notice them, appreciate them, and welcome them with open arms.  When you do that, I guarantee all those things you have been wanting to manifest will come that much quicker. 🙂

A Few of My Favorite (Planning) Things

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The holiday season is in full swing and many of us are starting to make plans for the new year.

I have to admit, I love this time of year.  The sparkly lights, giving hearts, dreams of new things on the horizon, and the belief that anything is possible….of course I love all of that whether it’s the season or not.

As I begin dreaming of what 2015 holds for me, I want to share with you some of the tools I’ve used in the last year that have changed my life (and year) for the better.  They are things I highly recommend to anyone looking to amp up their planning this year to ensure they have the best year yet.

When it comes to planning and dreaming, I am not your typical goal setter.  In fact, I am going to be writing a post about this for The Huffington Post soon.  I’m not the hard and fast goal setter with a map and strict deadlines to meet.  Those methods just don’t work for me.  I’m way more creative than that and I prefer to set intentions vs goals.

Planning:

For that I use Leonie Dawson’s fabulous workbook.  2014 was the first year I have implemented this amazing workbook and I am so happy I did.  If you are looking for a way to say goodbye to 2014 and welcome in the new with a bit of creativity, flair, and a sacred practice, this is for you.  And if you have a business you want to grow with some amazing new clients, offerings, and new ideas, she has a life & biz workbook for you.

Starting out 2014 with this workbook in my hot little hands was just what I needed to keep focused and it’s something I used the entire year.  Check it out and if it feels right for you, I highly encourage you grabbing one of your own.

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In fact, you can check out all the things it includes here: 2015: Creating Your Shining Year

Inspiration:

I started 2014 with a bang and tons of inspiration as I was reading one of my favorite books of all time and one that I recommend to anyone and everyone when I have the chance to and it is Inspired & Unstoppable: Wildly Succeeding in Your Life’s Work! by Tama Kieves.

Not only is this book one that I hold near and dear to my heart, but it is one that lit a fire inside me in a way no other book has.  It’s all about paving your own path and letting your inspiration guide you to what is right for you in life & business.  It is such a wonderful book that I am thinking of reading it again.

There is so much good info and best of all it reinforces what I strongly believe in and that is that when you follow your path, your inspiration is truly the guide.  If you are looking for a highly inspiring read, check this one out.

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Money Stuff:

I’ve shared this before, but it’s worth sharing again.  I coach so many women around money and how they think and feel about money in general.  It’s something we all deal with (including me).  As I think about the new year with new income goals and intentions, there is a ton of stuff that comes up regarding money mindset and I promise that your money mindset is far more important than any of the actions you do in regards to money.

You also may know that I love Denise Duffield-Thomas’s work and I think she’s simply fantastic.  Her books, her free audios, her Lucky Bitch program, etc. are all amazing and she has put together a holiday bundle that is to die for!! Not only that, but it’s at a super low rate until December 17th.

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Check out her Lucky Bitch Christmas Bundle that includes: Lucky Bitch Manifesting Course, Meditations, Live Event Recordings, & her audio books.  Crazy high value bundle for just $97.  I have used her amazing meditations, listened to her books, and recordings and it has changed my money mindset in huge ways.

Dreaming, Scheming, & Visualizing 2015

The last thing I wanted to share with you about my planning process is something I am formalizing to do on my own and as an offer to you.  When you think of what you want to accomplish for the new year, so many people think about the regular inside-the-box things like losing weight, saving money, or quitting some unhealthy task and all of those things are fine and good, but I have created a process that digs a bit deeper into a more meaningful and creative way of dreaming big for the year ahead.

It’s a process that I’ve done on my own and one I LOVE doing with other people (especially business owners) because I get to spark some ideas in my clients that they never would have thought about on their own.

This process is what I call Dream 2015.  It’s a journey we take together in a 90-minute call where I ask you a bunch of questions to highlight what is most important to you both in your personal and professional life.  We discuss how you want to feel.  What you want to do.  New things you want to try and I coach you around what is truly important for you.

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For the duration of the call you are asked not to take notes, but instead to immerse yourself in the experience.  To think, feel, imagine, brainstorm, and respond based on what feels best for you and after the call I will deliver an organized PDF of all the things we chatted about include a few next step items to help you get a jump start on your vision for the new year.

If you are a business owner this is especially fun because we will begin brainstorming awesome offers, collaborations, projects, and bring up some things to grow your business that you never thought about.

This offer is good for a limited time, so if you are interested, snag your spot here and let’s help you get dreamy so 2015 is your best year yet!

I want to hear from you.  What are some of your favorite planning tools or practices for ensuring you have the best year yet?  Share in the comments below as others may be looking for more inspiration. 🙂

Trusting the Process

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Manifesting the life of your dreams can seem like a HUGE venture, especially when you are just starting out.  There are so many things you desire and so many beliefs to conquer that it’s hard to know where to begin and to trust that it’s going to happen.  I mean we do live in the ‘real’ world right? (I say that with tons of sarcasm.)

When you don’t trust the process, it makes things a whole lot more difficult than they have to be.  You doubt yourself, the Universe, and the magic-makers in the world telling you that you can have all that you desire.  But when you doubt yourself or the process, you slow things down.

So how do you trust the process?  I answer that question in the video below.

So, what is your little experiment you are going to try?  I’d love to hear in the comments below!

L. E. A. P. Into 2015

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Happy Tuesday Lovelies!!!

I have been hinting at this offer for a few weeks both on Facebook and in my VIP newsletters and I am so happy to finally share this with you.

Ever since I started my business I’ve had this vision of working with a group of women side-by-side to help them take the leap into the life they not only want, but the life they deserve.  As we approach the new year, I thought it would be a great time to create a group program to help you take that leap you’ve always wanted to take.

Before I reveal what it is and how to get signed up, I want you to think about something…

Last year as we moved into the fresh new year of 2014, what dreams and aspirations did you have going into the year?

With a clean slate ahead of you, you probably had a ton of energy and focus to take big action right?

But after a while, things got back to ‘normal’ and the sparkle of the new year began to fade and some of those big, bold dreams might have been placed on the back burner.

Over time they grew dusty and you might have revisited them a few times only to put them down again because life got in the way or you began to wonder if it is even possible to achieve.

But…

What if instead of starting the year with a big, bold dream alone, you started with a group of like-minded women aiming for their own big dreams? 

What if you had the support of a coach to guide you through the steps to envision, create, and finally live that dream you’ve wanted for so long?

What if you could identify the junk holding you back and you could learn tools to help you clear the beliefs that are no longer serving you.

What if this is the year that you learn the steps that will change your life forever?

You are getting the opportunity to make 2015 the best year yet with the Leap 2015 group program.

This is a program that will not only guide you through the steps to manifest the life of your dreams (and anything else you want), but it will also help you uncover what is holding you back and help you begin to clear the way to take big inspired action.

This program will teach you how to harness the Universal power you’ve always had, but didn’t know how to use.

It’s time to try something a bit different.  To do something you haven’t done before and to reach new heights.

It’s time to LEAP!

Beginning in January 2015, myself and up to 10 other amazing women like you will come together for a 4 week coaching program that will guide, support, and inspire you to make 2015 the best year yet.  We will go on a quest to identify your vision for the year ahead, dig deep into the beliefs that have held you back for too long, get over the ‘how’ hurdle, and step fully into inspired action so your dreams become your reality sooner rather than later.

And the best part is you can use the same manifestation steps you will learn in the program and apply them to anything you desire.

So what do you say? Are you ready to make 2015 THE  year everything changes?

If so, hop on over HERE to get all the details on how you can get signed up for this amazing offer.  I’m limiting the group to 10 women and depending on the response, I may or may not be opening another round.  If you are interested, now is the time to take the plunge. And honestly, this is one of the best values you have ever seen!

I am so excited to start the year with a bang and to help you make 2015 YOUR year.  The question is…Are you ready?

Shift Your Mindset With a “Love List”

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With Thanksgiving coming tomorrow, I’ve been thinking a lot about gratitude, giving, and sharing.  I’m so very grateful for all of you that have read my posts, followed me on Facebook or Twitter and have taken the time to allow me into the sacred space of your inbox.  Before I go any further, I just want you to know I appreciate you.

Today I bring you a tip that I have been offering to many of my clients lately and thought you might find it useful as you move through the rest of your week and the final days of the year.

You may have heard of the Gratitude List to raise your vibration and to shift your mindset to the good things in your life, but I like to do something a bit different.

I make a “Love List”.

It’s a similar concept really, but sometimes it’s easier for people to write an extensive list when they think of all the things they love.  Simply grab a pen and paper and get writing.  As you make your list, you will begin seeing the images of what you love in your mind and immediately feel the shift in your energy and vibration.  You don’t have to have that thing directly in front of you at the moment to feel the shift.  You can simply imagine having it or experiencing it and it works in the same way.

My list often goes like this: I love…naps, rainbows, the smell of rain, fresh cut grass, hot baths, good wine, snuggling with my son, the ocean, coffee… Just doing that now has put me into a state of bliss and boy does it feel good!

Try it out for yourself and see how you feel.

I recommend this exercise to anyone that is having trouble imagining the good or shifting their energy to a more positive state of mind.  Manifestations and creating the life of your dreams require you to be open to all the amazing ideas and next steps that are coming your way.

You have to be in a state of flow in order to allow and receive the things you are wanting to manifest.  Many times that is the only block holding people back. 

Give it a try and let me know how you feel afterwards.  Do you find it easier to make a love list or a gratitude list?

P.S.  If you are in the U.S. and celebrating the holiday tomorrow, Happy Thanksgiving.  If you are one of my lovely followers overseas, Happy Hump day. 🙂

P. P. S. Are you on my VIP List?  If so, have you seen the Super Secret Offer that I sent out earlier this week? If not, check your email (and spam folder) as the offer expires on Sunday.  I want to make sure you get in early if this opportunity resonates with you. And if you aren’t on my list join it today and you too can get the info. ‘Tis the season, ya know.