Lamisha Serf-Walls

I REFUSE to accept this violence as ‘normal’

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My heart hurts.

My soul is saddened and my mind can’t make sense of the world in which we live where violence and hatred are all over the news at any given moment.

Tears fall as I try desperately to hold onto the little light that I can see as souls from all over the world come together to mourn, love, support, and share their alliance with the LGBT community following the tragic event in Orlando this weekend.

You see, not even 12 hours prior to the deadly massacre, I was walking with my family in the Pride Parade for the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention to raise awareness for the souls who feel suicide is their only choice.

The amount of love, support, appreciation, joy, and community I felt as a lesbian woman walking during that parade is unparalleled.  It’s the same kind of support, joy, and love you feel when you are in a room full of people who honor you for YOU…ALL of you.  And likely the SAME feeling the men and women felt as they entered their safe haven for the evening at Pulse in Orlando.

I have cried puddles of tears in confusion and sadness because I could have been one of the victims of such a heinous act, but beyond that- it could be anyone of us for any reason, difference, or distinction.

I’m ANGRY.

I’m angry that those lives were taken.

I’m angry that I could have been one.

I’m angry that there is so much darkness in the world and that so many amazing souls feel the need to hide their light for fear of persecution and judgement.

I’ve LIVED in the darkness, hiding my truth because I was afraid of what others might think.

I’ve LIED my way through life, going through the motions of what other people wanted me to do and who they wanted me to be until one day I couldn’t do it anymore.

I’ve been FEARFUL of what might happen to me if anyone ever found out the truth and to be honest, there is a part of me that wants to creep slowly back into the closet where it’s “safe” because I don’t want to be a victim.

But there’s a bigger part of me that says FUCK that.

Hiding isn’t what we need right now.  Fear isn’t want we need right now.  Retaliation isn’t what we need right now.

What we need is the courage to stand up in our TRUTH and to HONOR who we are AS we are.

We need LOVE, LIGHT, PEACE, COMMUNITY, and CONNECTION.

We need EACH OTHER.

Despite the darkness,  I DO believe LOVE will always win, but I want it to win NOW, not later.

This incident is but one example of how hatred, separation, and fear are keeping us apart and yet there are SO many other issues that are born from the same hatred and fear.

This isn’t about hate against one community or another, it’s merely an example of a bigger problem we are facing and one that we will NEVER solve with the same thoughts, energy, and focus that created it.

This is about YOU and I.
This is about HUMANITY.
This is about getting back to the spark of the DIVINE that we were ALL born with and that connects us all.

This is about creating a world of LOVE…period.

I REFUSE to allow accept this way of life as “normal”.
I REFUSE to live in FEAR.
I REFUSE to return to the DARKNESS.

Love will win and I will continue to do my part to empower, uplift, and inspire my tribe to speak, honor and LIVE their truth in LOVE.

That’s what this life is all about.

My hope is that you will stand with me.

If you want it…it’s time to COMMIT!

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photo credit: Leap and the Net Will Appear by Wayne Stratz via photopin (license)

I’m not a ‘hustler’.

Never have been.  But, I often feel an urgency pop up when it comes to my work and life purpose.

An urgency to share my message and shout from every roof top about how we ALL have the power to create whatever kind of life we choose and we are NOT bound by our past or present.

Today is one of those days.

As a business owner early on I thought I needed to ‘convince’ people that they needed what I was offering.  I now realize that’s not my mission.  My mission is to be a messenger, a leader, a truth-seeker and teller to help the people who are READY to dive in and live a life of purpose, passion, and flow do so.

I’m not here to convince you to be happier, to hire me or to anything differently than what you are doing now…UNLESS you are already ready.

And the truth is YOU know who you are right?

  • If you already feel the pull to do something MORE and are asking yourself the question of “Is this all there is to life?  Surely there’s something else.”  You may be that person.
  • If you are finding yourself searching through books, blogs, videos, and courses to find the key to happiness, but maybe you have some butterflies in your stomach about taking the leap.  You may be that person.
  • And if you are reading this and you’ve been feeling the pull to step up, play big, and let your light shine in this world, but maybe aren’t completely sure what’s in your way.  You ARE that person.

For those of you who ARE that person, today is the first day of the rest of your life because you are going to do something (provided you take action today) that will forever change the trajectory and energy of your life.

Today, I want you to COMMIT to that new life, higher vision, new reality, expanded possibility, dream, goal, or opportunity you’ve been thinking about.

I want you to DECIDE it’s happening, it’s yours, it’s done, it’s on the way, and without worrying about the ‘how’, I want you to do 1 thing to support that vision.

It might be that you make a phone call, send an email, pitch a story, research new homes, sign up for a dating site, buy a website domain or something else.

Maybe you decide today is the day you finally schedule a consultation to get some support to transform your life.

Whatever you do today, I want you to COMMIT to the outcome and then take ACTION and then I want you to post a comment below with what your commitment is and what you plan on doing.

Don’t wait around for the ‘perfect’ time when all the pieces are in place because honestly, that typically doesn’t happen until you take the first step.

So, what are you waiting for?

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Feeling STUCK? You may be missing these 2 key ingredients

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If you’re NOT where you want to be in LIFE you’re likely missing 1 of 2 things…and maybe even BOTH.

There are 2 KEY ingredients to creating the life you desire and they might not be what you think.

It’s not money…

It’s definitely not luck…

It’s not who you know (though in some cases that doesn’t hurt)…

It’s MINDSET & ACTION…

In the work I do, I find that MOST of the women I work with are missing one of the two and there are quite I few who are missing BOTH.

MINDSET—>

If you can’t fathom your life being any better than it currently is…how can you think it will ever change?

If you can’t see your dreams coming true in the best possible way, how in the world are they supposed to?

Not sure it’s ok, acceptable, and you are worthy of living the life you desire?

Then how the hell are you going to ever make it happen?

You HAVE to be in ALIGNMENT mentally with your vision. You have to BELIEVE..TRUST…HAVE FAITH..and keep going!

And you know what trips most people up beyond anything else—->the HOW.

If you struggle with this remember, that’s not your job.

Your job is to CHOOSE your dreams, your new reality and your new normal and step into your reality daily through your mindset practice and when you do that you are half-way there.

You don’t need a map or a blueprint or a step-by-step outline of what you need to do.  The truth is, that would limit you more than you ever realize!

Get your mindset, SET for success, joy, peace, happiness, abundance, and anything you need and desire.  That is the first step!

ACTION—>

This is the OTHER part people often forget that is far more obvious but without the initial MINDSET work…seems impossible.

You don’t have to know the HOW as I said…that’s not your job.

But you DO have to take INSPIRED ACTION toward your vision and TRUST it. Entirely.

Staying paralyzed because you’re afraid you might not make it or maybe you will.

 

Maybe you will fail or maybe you will succeed beyond your wildest imagination and the thought absolutely terrifies you!

<—- FYI: These thoughts will NOT get you to where you are going. —>

 

Fear is going to be there anyway. Might as well make friends with it and the discomfort of expansion too.

When you step into the new reality you want to live, there will be expansion, discomfort, and stretching yourself to achieve the thing you were put here to do…YOUR PURPOSE.

That’s all there is to it and without these 2 incredible pieces of the puzzle…you won’t get anywhere.

 

So where are you on the spectrum?

Got your mindset work in order?

Taking inspired action toward your vision EVERY day?

If so, congratulations you’ve hacked the code and figured out the big ‘secret’ that has so many scratching their heads.  Also know that your success is inevitable.

 

However, if you are missing one or both of the key components above…it’s time for a great, big, massive overhaul of a change and it starts with the button below.

Now, I’ll be the first to tell you that you most certainly don’t NEED a coach to get to where you want to be in life, however if you want to get there faster, some support is definitely the way to go.

 

Hit the button below and let’s talk.

Remember it’s TIME to live the life your soul craves.

The question is…are you ready?

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Your PAST doesn’t matter…

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photo credit: 148/365 clock watching via photopin (license)

Consider this your TRUTH BOMB for the day—>

Your ‪PAST‬ doesn’t MATTER…unless of course you wish to repeat it!

The mistakes you’ve made, relationships you’ve been in, the money mishaps, crappy careers, and horrific failures you’ve had in the past DON’T FREAKIN’ MATTER…

THOSE things are NOT you. They are merely reflections of the thoughts, beliefs, and emotions you had streaming at the time.

That’s it!

It’s like opening a book and reading one page and thinking the entire book is about what you saw on that one page…that’s now how it works folks.

UNLESS of course you WANT that!

If you want more mistakes, money mishaps, dwindling bank accounts, shitty relationships, crappy careers, then by all means keep ranting, raving, and revisiting the past and telling anyone who will listen about your story of how you’ve been STUCK for so many years. (By the way if you’ve been stuck for that long, it’s time to get some support and I have JUST the program for you. )

The ONLY thing that will get is you is back in the SAME sinking boat with more stories to tell in the future.

BUT…if you want to actual create a new reality and experience your NEW NORMAL then you MUST tell a new story or in the least focus on what you want.

Seems obvious right?

Unfortunately too many of us get stuck in the story of who were were, how we were raised and what has stopped us that we can’t actually SEE that we are in fact perpetuating the same thing over and over again.

If you want to change your ‪reality‬…both current and future…START NOW.

Consider this your action plan:

  • Make a list of ALL the things you LOVE right now.
  • THEN add to that list all the things you WANT in your life as if they have happened.
  • THEN go out into the world and focus on the stuff you enjoy, like, love, etc.

That is how you create ‪‎positive‬ ‪#‎change‬ folks…it’s not by focusing on the problem.

Focus on the problem = more problems.

Focus on what you want and stay in a high vibe ‪mindset‬ and emotional state =creating what you want.

For some it’s easier said than done…believe me, I know.  That’s why I DO this work.

In the past I allowed myself to get so caught up in the bullshit story in my head about why it wasn’t working, what had happened to me, and pointing the finger to everyone and every thing else that I lost my power completely!

I really, truly thought life was happening TO me rather than me LIVING it and thriving.  I thought this was just my luck and when asked, I’d gladly bring up all the old baggage, proof, and evidence that supported my claim.

Many years later, knowing what I know now…I was simply STUCK in the past and repeating it in my future.

Lucky for me, I didn’t wait too long before owning my power and allowing it to work FOR me instead of against me.

The truth is, we are only limited by what we think and choose to believe in our minds and if you desire a different outcome and you no longer wish to revisit, rehash, and regurgitate your past, I sincerely suggest you step up and focus on what you DO want. 

You don’t have to do it alone, but if you choose to, you can totally use the action plan above.

You’re more powerful than you realize and that POWER comes from THIS moment…not rehashing your past.

P.S. If you DO want support and help moving into the right frame of mind to create massive change in your life instantly, schedule a chat with me and let’s make it happen, just hit the link below.

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What to do when no one believes in you…

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I am currently about half way through our Miracle Mindset Immersion program and I have to tell you how amazing it is to watch these participants rocking their mindset work like the rock stars that they are!

Today I had a participant as me an incredibly powerful question that I think we all could learn from and it got me so fired up Facebook actually kicked me off of my live stream!

The question was: What do you do when no one believes in you?

The truth is what people believe or don’t believe to be true about you has nothing to do with YOU.

It has everything to do with THEM and the fear, anger, frustration, disappointment, and any other emotion that lies within them.  What they think and feel about YOU is a direct reflection of what the belief they are capable of doing.

HOWEVER…

It is also a direct reflection of what shifts need to occur within you to get back into alignment.  The truth is if you were 100% on your mindset game and you never once were fearful or worried or wondered if XYZ would work, you wouldn’t be in the same vibration to hear that someone doesn’t believe in what you are doing.  In fact, you’d be vibrating so high that even if they did feel that way, they’d never say anything to you AND they may actually shift their vibration because yours is so strong.

So, what do you do when someone doesn’t believe in you and who should you get help from instead????

Watch my latest LIVE stream on Facebook HERE to find out.

Check it out and let me know what you think!