Lamisha Serf-Walls

7 Things I’m Afraid to Tell You…

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photo credit: Elf-8 Non no nej via photopin (license)

 

A few years ago, I came across a blog post by another coach titled “Things I’m Afraid to Tell You”. 

At this point, I can’t remember who that was, but I was intrigued by the concept and shared a few things with my tribe that I too was afraid to share and today I’m doing it again.

It’s always incredibly important to me that I be 100% honest and real with you because after all, I am only human.  You may read some of these and find that I am no longer a coach you want to follow or find that I am exactly the kind of coach you want to be a part of your life.  Either way, I know it’s all for the best.

So, without further ado (and more procrastinating) here we go!

  • I just pulled the plug on the 60-Day Momentum Mastermind.  – You know that new blended program I put together and announced last week that was supposed to begin on Monday?  Yep, I pulled the plug.  The truth is, it was something I have been wanting to do for a long time (create a blended program), but something didn’t feel quite right about it.  So, instead of trying to revive it in some way, I’m pulling the plug.  There is a part of me that is slightly embarrassed, yet also incredibly relieved about it because it frees up a bit more time for me to do something else. (More on that soon.)
  • I’m afraid of what you think of me.  There are times when I really overthink what I want to say to you because my intention is never to offend you or rock the boat.  There are times when I wonder if I’m “selling” too much and creating too many offers and I wonder what you might think of me because of it.  (On a deep level, I guess I just want to be liked.)  But, then I remember why I am in business to begin with.  I love what I do (most of the time) and if I am creating offers (or pulling the plug) there is a very good reason for it and who am I to keep that from YOU, especially if it’s something that could help you?  This is also the reason I was hesitant to share an article I wrote on race that was recently published on ElephantJournal.
  • Sometimes I get bored with my business.  Now let me be clear, I am NEVER bored with the people I work with…ever.  But, there have been times (ahem-recently) when I have felt a bit bored with myself and my business.  I am the type of person that likes to shake things up and get really excited about new things I am offering in general and if it’s feeling a bit stagnant, my inspiration goes down the tubes and I have to regroup and reset myself.  The truth is, I’ve been feeling that way for a bit now and I’m just itching to bring in some fresh new energy to shake things up.  (Again, more on that later.) To be clear, I LOVE what I do, I love who I work with, but sometimes I don’t love the way I do things, so I have a need to switch it up.
  • Sometimes I don’t feel like “enough”.  When my mind-gremlins start kicking up, I get so stuck in my head about things that I start believing the crappy thoughts that come up and I feel like I’m not enough.  Not smart enough, strong enough, clear enough, good enough, blah, blah, blah.  Most recently, I felt like I wasn’t a good enough mother.  I’m human.  Sometimes these are quiet thoughts in the back of my mind and other times they can take me to my knees and make me cry uncle, but I always come out the other side stronger, because I know that this is just another part of the up-leveling process for me.
  • I am a lesbian.  I realize that many of you know this about me already and it shouldn’t even be a “thing”.  I get that, but I’d be lying to you if I told you that even after being ‘out’ for close to 15 years now (plus being married to the woman of my dreams and having a family too) that there isn’t a part of me that worries what other people might think of me because of this fact.  I also realize that for some people, this is an utter and total deal-breaker.  (There is an unsubscribe button at the bottom of this email, should this be a deal-breaker for you.  No hard feelings at all and I wish you all the love in the world.) Moving on…
  • I am a card-carrying (not really) woo-woo coach & intuitive.  All this means is that I am deeply in touch with my intuition (something we all have) and I am able to feel into the circumstances, energy, and “stuff” that clients have going on pretty easily.  It’s my super-power an while it’s not something I try to explain (and to be honest, most of my clients don’t really ask) it’s 100% how I work.  I also often use oracle cards with clients and occasionally will offer to do readings for people if that’s something they are into.  (If that’s something you’re interested in let me know because I LOVE doing them.). The truth is, all of this spiritual and “woo-woo” stuff makes me the coach I am and it helps me, help you.
  • Sometimes, life gets the best of me.  Basically what that means is that there are times when I need to retreat, regroup, rehash, revive, and refresh my mind so I can show up and be the best for you.  It is often accompanied by general shit going on in my personal world (like this past month my wife had surgery, Mercury Retro gave me a run for my money, and I was totally off of my mindset practice.) that takes me off track.  For the most part, I don’t like to share too much of that with you because, well-who likes to talk about that stuff?  I mean, it’s the stuff that makes me relate-able, and human I suppose, but it’s just not fun to share.  That, and part of me doesn’t want you to think less of me because of it.  (I’m also a recovering, perfectionist.)

So, I guess that’s it for this round and honestly it wasn’t as bad as I thought it might be.  I expect there may be some people who leave my tribe because of one or more of what I listed above and to you I wish you all the best.

For those of you who are sticking around-I’m so happy for you to be here!  Stay tuned because the next email you receive from me is SO exciting and you don’t want to miss it!!!

P.P.S. If you LOVE being a part of my tribe and you’ve been wanting to work with me 1:1 (and you aren’t currently), hit reply to this email OR sign up for a free 30-minute consultation and I’ll give you the inside scoop on this very-super-secret-squirrel-crazy thing I’m cooking up that I’ll be announcing to the public in a few days.

Why I ditched my gratitude practice…

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photo credit: Black Room Photography Only you via photopin (license)

 

Gratitude is the new black, or so it seems.

No matter what it is that you want to create in your life, it seems like gratitude is the answer.

Do you want to live a happier more fulfilling life? Be grateful.

Do you want to manifest the life of your dreams? Be grateful.

Do you want to create an unshakeable mindset that leads to success for years to come? Be grateful.

Gratitude is no doubt, one of the most powerful practices you can use to transform your life. It’s a practice that has been around for ages and everyone from Oprah to Deepak Chopra recommend developing a regular daily practice to turn what you have into more than enough.

Unfortunately, the whole gratitude thing has never really worked for me (and believe me, it’s not from a lack of trying).

I’m generally a very grateful person and when it comes to gratitude, I’ve done it all. I’ve tried everything from writing 3-5 things I’m grateful for each night in a dedicated gratitude journal to creating a list of 100 things I’m grateful for each day as part of a 30 day challenge. Unfortunately each time I tried, I only managed to keep the practice going for a few days. No matter what I tried, I just couldn’t get the practice to stick and I felt like something was wrong with me.

Read the rest of this post on Huffington Post here…

The day FEAR almost won…

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photo credit: “Fear” in stone via photopin (license)

The day FEAR almost won, happened just last week.

The scenario is one I see my clients struggle with every single day and yet, I had been so far removed from it myself I almost forgot what it felt like…until last week.

Recently I’ve been feeling the call to get back to writing on a regular basis.  To write from the heart and share my message authentically and with purpose.  Over the past few months it hasn’t felt like the right time or the right moment to write and to be honest, I didn’t have a ton of inspiration to do so, yet I made the commitment in my mind and I knew the time would come for me to write again…and it did.

Last week, our world was hit with more violence and protests that brought up a TON of emotion for so many people, myself included.  I had a visceral response to it all and I felt called to write about it, only I was afraid.

You see, this work that I do…it’s more than just a career for me.  It’s my mission.  It’s my calling.  It’s my gift to the world and when I see that the world is crumbling in turmoil and I feel inspired and called to speak, write, or share on the topics, I can’t ignore it.

My business is my platform in a way and from day one I’ve committed to using that platform to promote peace, understanding, compassion, non-judgement, love, and joy in all areas.  But, it also means sometimes I have to do things that are uncomfortable for me to do.  Say things I’m uncomfortable to say, and share a message that may not be popular and last week I did just that.

I wrote an article that came directly from my heart and soul.  The words poured out of my fingers and onto the computer with ease.  There was no question of what needed to come through, but a part of me was afraid to write it.

To be honest, an even bigger part of me was afraid NOT to write it.  So, I continued writing and when I was finished I submitted it for publication.

When I first wrote it, I wasn’t exactly clear on where it would end up.  All I knew was that I needed to write it.  Once it was complete, the next step seemed obvious and after I hit “submit”, the fear set in.

 

“What will people think?”

“It’s so different from what I write! What if people hate it?”

“What if people hate me?”

“What if…”

The FEAR just wouldn’t go away and yet there was a part of me that knew it was all going to be ok.

I followed my inspiration and I knew that it would be ok.  I just knew it.

After a few hours or so, I forgot about the fear of ‘what if’ and honestly forgot I had submitted the article completely.  A few hours later, I received an email letting me know my piece was accepted for publishing and that I would be notified once it had been published.

I was shocked. Afraid. Worried. And funny enough I was proud.

I was proud that I had once again followed my intuition and inspiration and I had not let fear win.

I was proud that I was walking my talk and doing the things that scare me, even when I’m unsure of how it will all work out, but even more so, because I listened, I took action, and I let go.

The actual article has yet to be published, but as soon as it is, I’ll update this post for you so you can read it in all it’s glory.

The moral of this story is this:

 

Fear may try to stop you from doing the very thing that will move you closer to your vision.  Don’t let it. Follow your intuition, take that big action and trust that it’s all working out in your favor, even when you can’t see the entire path.

My question for you today: What is it that you are MOST afraid to do, but you know you NEED to do?

My advice…go do that!

 

Mindset is everything, even when it comes to money

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Happy Monday!!!

Let’s just call today Money Monday shall we?

It’s been awhile since I last posted because I’ve been totally blown away by the magic that is happening inside the Free Money Mindset Masterclass that I ran last Thursday!  (If you don’t know what I’m talking about and you’d like to check out the replay, join us here. )

That 90 minute call is total GOLD (if I do say so myself).  There were so many amazing insights that were happening for the participants on the call and I couldn’t be more happy about the shifts that have occurred afterwards.  I keep seeing messages about how the way everyone is thinking about money has completely shifted and they now KNOW that they can create more abundance in their lives.

But, that’s not the best part.  The best part is when I received the email from a participant not even 24 hours AFTER the call saying she had 4 potential clients reach out to her seemingly out of the blue.  I wish I could say I don’t believe it, but I totally do.

These are the kinds of miracles that happen when you shift your mindset around money.  Remember, mindset is everything when it comes to anything so why would money be any different?  It’s not!

Want a quick way to check in with how your money mindset is?  Do these three things.

  • Check in with yourself and see how you FEEL about money.
  • Look at your bank account balances (checking, savings, retirement etc.)
  • Take a look at your total debt balance

Now, if when you check in with yourself and you feel anxious, worried, stressed, overwhelmed, fearful etc., then I HIGHLY recommend you check out the Masterclass.  However, if things feel good and money is flowing to you in buckets, keep doing what you’re doing unless…your debts are high and you are avoiding looking at things.  That’s a sign there is some mindset work to be done as well.

Another great way to check in to see where your money mindset is, is to finish the sentence below and see what comes up.

“Money is….”

If you came up with words like…

  • Scarce
  • Evil
  • Not enough
  • Annoying
  • Stupid
  • A pain in my ass (or something similar)

Then, you may want to check out the Money Mindset Masterclass. 

I’ll be honest, I’ve been having so much fun in that group answering questions and helping the participants get clear about their money beliefs that I didn’t want it to stop there (and honestly neither did they). So, I’m taking this work a bit deeper for those who are interested in joining us!

Money-MindMasterclass

Starting September 5th we will be embarking on an experiential journey into your Money Mindset to create a higher vibration and knock out the money-limiting beliefs that have had you stuck for far too long.  It’s going to be a full 21-days of insights, releasing, high vibrating, magic and wonder and you will experience some truly amazing miracles.

Here are the details:

This is a 21 day intensive program starting September 5th that includes:

$$ 14 Days of exercises to shift and expand your money mindset
$$ Practical tips to open you up to receive and manifest more money
$$ 1 BONUS week for Integration & Support
$$ Private FB group with LIVE coaching/Q & A sessions throughout the entire 21 days
$$ 21 Days of Abundance Expansion & Money Miracles!

I’ll also be creating some added bonuses to use throughout including a money meditation, guided visualization, and journaling prompts to help you further expand your money mindset on an ongoing basis.

Your Investment:

Regular Program: $88

VIP Option (includes a 45-minute session valued at $250): $188

So, if you are ready to manifest some amazing money miracles, unexpected abundance, and mindset shifts that will change your life forever, I invite you to join us!

Got questions?  Post them in the comments below and I’ll be sure to answer them!

Do YOU have a Money Mind???

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I am so excited to spill the beans about this FREE event I’ve been cooking up for you.

As you may know, we just wrapped up the latest round of the Miracle Mindset Immersion Program and I have mindset on the brain big time right now!

In fact, as we were finishing the final few weeks of the program, I realized one thing that holds SO many people back from living the life they desire (and to be honest, it held me back for WAY too long) is something I haven’t ever really talked about.

It’s been such a huge part of my journey and yet, I’ve been pretty hush-hush about it until now.  To be honest, I suspect it’s because I have my own blocks around talking about it openly, even though it is something I work with about 90% of my clients on in some way.

What is it???

$$ MONEY $$

Now, just looking at the word can be enough to give people anxiety and stress.  Money is a word that brings up a multitude of emotions depending on your current relationship with it right?

Do me a favor right now and check in with your own emotions.  When you think about money, what do you feel?

Excited?
Anxious?
Worried?
Curious?
Scared?
Terrified?

I’ve felt all of those emotions and then some!  In fact, for most of my life I struggled to even think about money in any positive way.

To be honest, I didn’t like it, didn’t trust it, I never had enough, and I thought that’s the way it was always going to be.  In my mind it was just a fact of life.

I grew up to believe that money was hard to make, difficult to keep, and believed that if I got a ‘good job’ and worked really hard, I might eventually get ahead, but it wasn’t likely.

Talk about a shitty money mindset!  (It’s no wonder I always lived paycheck-to-paycheck and had a mountain of debt no matter how much money I made.)

Turns out, I was actually CREATING the lack in my life by what I thought.  Back then, I had no idea what mindset work was and never once considered that I had any control over the situation.  Other than working multiple jobs (which I did for many years) of course.

I didn’t know what I didn’t know. 

I wanted more money, but didn’t know how to make it happen.
I craved more adventure, but didn’t have the money to make it happen.
I hated my job, but felt bound by the pittance I was receiving because…hey a girl’s gotta eat!

It wasn’t until I began to really embrace this whole professional development work that I learned I had more control than I realized and it all started with what I THOUGHT.

My money journey has evolved over the years and each year I up-level my belief system around money, my income increases.

I’ve gone from working multiple jobs to (barely) make ends meet, to working in my own business (doing what I love) and doubling my income in the last year.

I’ll be completely honest, I’m not nearly where I’d like to be, but I’m a hell of a lot better off than I was before and it’s all because I up-leveled my money mindset.

Mindset is everything when it comes to anything, money included. 

Money mindset in particular tends to take mindset work to an entire new level.  We tend to have so many stories, truths, beliefs, and blocks weaved into our money experiences that it often requires special focus.  To be honest, it’s why I decided to put together a special FREE Money Mindset Masterclass for YOU.

I know what it’s like to feel limited by your bank balance and to feel completely stuck in creating the life experience you desire and DESERVE.

Money-MindMasterclass

So, if you could use a Money Mindset adjustment to bring in more cash and open yourself to more abundance in your life, mark your calendar for this THURSDAY August 25th @ 8pm EST. 

This Thursday I’ll be hosting a FREE Money Mindset Masterclass to help you shift your beliefs and stories around money so you can increase the flow of abundance into your life.

In this masterclass I’ll be sharing with you:
 

  • The simple TRUTH about MONEY that will change everything for you
  • The single most POWERFUL belief that will transform your money mindset (and bring you more cash)
  • My all time favorite TOOL for clearing out your old limiting beliefs around money & creating new ones that foster amazing wealth
  • PLUS an amazing exercise that has helped many of my clients attract unexpected income within days!!!

Mindset work isn’t magic, but it will certainly FEEL that way once we start shifting beliefs.

Join me on Thursday August 25th at 8pm EST for this fabulously enlightening masterclass that will change how you THINK & ATTRACT money forever.

And I’m doing this Masterclass a bit different.  Instead of doing the typical webinar style class, I’ll be hosting this masterclass in our very own private Facebook Group.  I’ll be going LIVE at 8pm EST on Thursday and I’ll be available to answer all of your questions & give you a bit of coaching leading up to the event.

Want in?  Join the group HERE.

It’s FREE and is guaranteed to shift how you THINK & ATTRACT money now and forever more, why wouldn’t you want in?